with this name…a couple of weeks.

with my old one…few months

TBT- thats not what im saying. what im saying is its as if ur settling right away with guy number one. when someone never spoke to a guy how does she know what she is doing? so therefore she settles with the first guy.

heres what i dont understand. you take two people who never spoke to the opposite gender before you have them go out, and then they get enagaged. they were each their firsts. how do they know thats what they want? maybe there was someone better..etc. my husband and i spoke on the phone for a week before we went out had 4 dates btu also spoke a lot in between. thats how we built up our relationship. then u have these boys and girls who do everything thru a shadchan and dont really shmooze with each other unless they are together for 3 hours on a date. again how is that any different. if they would allow the girls and boys to shmooze and get to know each other even on the phone that would be good. Also…what’s the rush you ask? here is a one word answer:PRESSURE!!! pressure from rav, parents, friends and more.

my husband and I knew in the middle of the FIRST date that we wanted to marry each other. we shmoozed on the phone A LOT before we met and then fianlly went out. after 4 dates we got engaged. b”H we are very happy. of course u learn new things about each other every day but that only happens after living with someone. you wont know what they are really like till u r married to them because again until u live with them u never really know!

seriously if it was such an issue the rabbanim would ban it!

ppl told me i might have it hard bec of my family situation. but i looked passed it and said there is bound to be someone who wont care and will marry me regardless. i davened and lo and behold i met my amazing husband who actually loves my family(despite wat others said!!!!!!) b”H they all get along great! so its never right or fair to judge a person based on their family or past!

yogibooboo,yogibooboo, chayav,chayav(except now im going to bed so i cant get out cuz that wouldnt be fair!)

Aside from gaining weight, i really gained a lot out of my two years. I got to be in the Holiest Land, near the kotel! but besides that i gained a lot of knowledge from chumash mainly. (because of what i learned i can give you an indepth analysis of the inyan of yaakov and eisav and yitzchak and rivkah! i can also tell you what i had to learn by being a roomate and it helps with getting married.

I went to Sharfman’s and Neve Yerushalyaim. There were many girls who did the same. in sharfmans i taught myself to cook which was awesome and in neve i was able to go to any type of classes i wanted which was great. i also had a chavrusa with a teacher which i gained a lot from. For certain levels in Neve you get a tutor which i made a great kesher with!

I grew up that it was respectful that my aunts and uncles are to be called aunt and uncle. as we got older we’ll say their first names but thats a rare thing. That’s how it always was in my family and thats how it will be with my kids iy”h. I myself do not have siblings but my husband does so his siblings will be aunt and uncle. yet, we have friends and since it is not respect for them to call them by their first names they will be known as aunt and uncle(since they are close with us).

It’s all about respect. the problem with first name basis is that you loose the fact that people are older and that you need to have respect for them and not be chummy chummy(if you know what i mean)