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There are no longer safari tickets. The safari is inside the theme park.
Just saying, for the long term, a great idea is to go with NCSY on Sukkos and then to upgrade for a minimal amount to season tickets for the next year. My family (along with many, many other frum families) did this and it’s one of the smartest things we ever did.
Swiss fruit candy. I also provoke strange looks by bringing it to camp. (Unfortunately, the only time I ever got it in a mishloach manos was from a friend who was doing a monkey theme…)
Also, whenever anyone gives us a chocolate babka, I’m up there with the best of ’em.
In a community where it is acceptable to break up via shadchan at that stage, then that would have been a much, much better choice, with all respect to this rav. A text message has the air of a quick, emotionless check-this-off-the-to-do-list. It removes the responsibility from the guy- he doesn’t need to explain himself, he doesn’t need to face the consequences of his words and actions…
At least the shadchan would ask for an explanation.
What’s blue and smells like red paint?
Blue paint.
What’s green and invisible?
This cabbage.
All of the nonposters are on the nineteenth story of the Wayside School with Ms Zarves.
I respect the chayalim (including my friend’s brother) who are quite literally (and, in my friend’s brother’s case, voluntarily as an American) willing to give up their lives to ensure the safety of their brothers and sisters in Eretz Yisrael and, really everywhere else as well.
I respect the bnei yeshiva (including my cousins) who are staying in their yeshivos in Eretz Yisrael and learning and amassing zechuyos for all of us, especially the soldiers out on the front.
I respect the people of Eretz Yisrael, on every side of every major conflict or petty tiff, who have ignored all of these barriers in this eis tzarah and are standing together.
As a girl in the US, I’m currently on none of these sides, so according to the technical rules of this thread I can respect all :).
-: Now that this thread was revived, I was going to bring up the xkcd guidelines for age-appropriate and noncreepy dating.
For reference: the Standard Creepiness Rule states that one should not date someone under (age/2)+7.
This is my family’s joke. None of us are in shidduchim yet, but the joke is that I and my ilk (short girls) can’t marry tall guys because there won’t be any left for my sister (5’9.5″). Tall girls don’t have the easiest time, either…
Then again, talking about attraction and height differences, I know a tall woman who (fudging details here) always told herself that she’d only ever marry a guy who was taller than her, British (she’s British), and in klei kodesh. She’s happily married to a shorter Israeli doctor with a bunch of kids. Ya never know.
Huh? I was just there last week.
AWESOME Belgian hot chocolate.
Did it vanish since last Tuesday? (Haven’t been there since.)
Special needs: Friendship Circle, Yedei Chesed. (Dunno if Hamaspik uses volunteers…)
Hospitals: Chesed 24/7, Bikur Cholim
or maybe Good Sam could use volunteers, dunno
Nursing homes/rehab: Northern Metropolitan, Friedwald, Fountainview (dunno how volunteering works here either…)
Kiruv: Oorah ChillZone during the school year, JEP, babysitting at Ohr Somayach (dunno if that’s kiruv but they tend to need people)
Chai Lifeline (contact them for people in need in Monsey)
These are just things that friends of mine have done. (If you’re not a [teenage] girl some of them may or may not be open to you.) I’m sure there are many, many, more, especially if you look at your friends and family and see what voids you can fill (which is how I found my high school chessed job, which is NOT on this list). The opportunities are endless.
If you are looking for ideas, if you know any Monsey high school chessed coordinators…
Get a Shuffle at the Apple store at the new Nanuet Mall (59 and Middletown).
Or Amazon, I guess. I’m sure Auction Mart will have but it’ll probably be more expensive, unless you don’t care about the brand.
Yes, in my case, millions of dollars are very literally NOT flushed down the toilet, PBA.
There’s a reason my family’s plumber drives a Lamborghini.
Sternberg has a Jet Ski.
🙂
Anyway, there definitely is in Lake George, but I’m sure there’s someplace closer… my cousins went but I’m not sure where.
Maybe even try the Poconos…
In an unrelated inquiry, anyone know where there’s kayaking near Monsey? Preferably in a nice, wooded, countryish area? Unfortunately Bear Mountain only has rowboats and paddleboats.
Tailors for marine biologists are always in demand- WATERPROOF LAB COATS!
Aha, rebyidd, that puts a whole new spin on things.
Perhaps objects in nonbeing have their atoms king of vacuumed up into everything else….
(That actually kind of sounds awesome- if I’m wrong don’t tell me.)
That’s why you’re not in Ravenclaw.
Or a Transfiguration professor.
dial: I have met too many people who think that copious amounts of deodorant can substitute for showers.
I have also met too many people who are like, what the hey, how bad can it be if I forget to put on deodorant one day, it’s too annoying to get it out.
Unfortunately, on a Venn diagram, there would be a disturbingly large overlap.
Where Vanished objects go.
TBONTB: Maybe I’m missing some mystical koan here or something, but my computer is a something, and my lunch is a something, but my computer is not my lunch. (It would need salt.)
What about the Ir David water tunnels? My family had a lot of fun with that, though it’s not for the claustrophobic…
We also did this great scenic water hike that was geared for kids (VERY wet, basically walking in rivers) but I have no idea what it was called or anything besides for that it was near Teveria. If that rings a bell to anyone…
Risingsun: In school it’s preachy and one-sided; here, it’s a give-and-take.
Same with internet/technology speeches.
Whaddaya mean? It’s WinGARdium LeviOsa, not LevioSA….
…whoops….
…forget it.
Well, I’ll be honest, the exact details I discovered from Wikipedia. But I was confirming what I heard from his great-granddaughter in conversation. (Foggy details, etc.)
He was a rosh yeshiva there for a very short time.
Bookworm: TextWord is astonishingly good, and they have a really great selection of short works and poetry in their high school literature textbook- I used it in eighth grade and literally read it for pleasure. I was actually really impressed.
I don’t know if they censor novels, though. (The only time my high school tried to seriously censor a book, it was an utter fiasco. We still all laugh about it- it’s a lot easier to just decide what you’re trying to achieve and what your values are and pick books accordingly.)
gefen: My classmate had this exact problem when she was performing that monologue in front of the school- I think she just said “darn” or something and while it’s obviously not THAT different, I guess there is a cathartic value to saying the real thing?….
“Torah is a way of life, not a profession.
Yet many are of the belief that one should be uber holy at the expense of the parent’s paycheck.”
Yes, I know this is an old thread, but I just felt the need to comment-
Torah is a way of life. The way of life of every frum Jew, not just the ones in kollel.
I’ve heard too many lectures about how I should only marry a guy who will learn for a few years “to give my family a foundation of Torah.”
No, sorry, my home will have a very clear foundation of Torah whether my husband learns in kollel first or not. IMHO, every frum home NEEDS a foundation of Torah, no? What else is it founded on, Greek philosophy? Nicholas Sparks novels? If the only way for a family to have a foundation of Torah is for the husband/father to learn in kollel, then all those families whose husbands/fathers did not must be worshipping idols or something. I don’t think that that’s the case, at least with my dad. But I must not know.
My goal, when I’m married, is that my family will be built on Torah because everything we do will be filtered through that lens- whether it happens to be that my husband will be learning in kollel or not. Anything else, obviously, is fake.
Sorry, but as a (nearly ex-) twelfth grader, I’ve been hearing too much about “the kollel mystique” and how it’s necessary for this “Torah foundation” and it’s getting me mad. I call hooey. Perhaps kollel’s good for a certain kind of life (in fact, I’m sure it is) but don’t be overly simple and exclusionary about defining what a “Torah foundation” is.
“The secular Israelis, the Hareidim, i.e. the Satmar Rebbe, and most of the world attribute the Israeli victories to having better trained, better led and better armed soldiers.”
What, so a miracle can’t be a neis nistar? It has to be in-your-face, rabim-beyad-me’atim in order for it to be with siyata dishmaya? How can anyone go through life without understanding that the Hand of Hashem is in everything, even if it seems to be merely teva? Or can something only be from Hashem if the right people think it’s the right thing…
Do you think that the Holocaust was somehow against the will of Hashem as well? (The outcomes, IMHO, of the two events could not be more different for the Jews- however, I wanted to pick something unequivocally negative for comparison.)
Just because an outcome may not be what you consider that Hashem wanted doesn’t mean that He was not in control- as, indeed, He is of everything. Saying that something happened merely because of good soldiers, etc completely undermines the constant awareness every Jew should have that indeed, Hashem is the (often invisible) Hand running every aspect of our existence.
I hope you’re not talking about me, jfem02… have mercy, I’m new :).
Anyway, I live in Monsey and while I’ve been in places with worse drivers, I absolutely am terrified of driving (even during the day, let alone at night) on these busy streets (306, 59, etc) with people walking right on the side, jaywalking, etc. Motzaei Shabbos in main Monsey is the worst- chassidim coming back from their later maariv minyanim, still wearing their black Shabbos clothing, crossing streets, without reflectors. (This has nothing to do with their being chassidim besides for being less likely to drive and more likely to daven later maariv, just BTW.) The extreme lack of streetlights also helps make night driving around here a kind of hair-raising experience.
DY: “OK, so let me rephrase my post: Charlie, I predicted that the Rangers would beat the other team to get to the championship. According to your logic, that proves that I have more hockey expertise than anyone who predicted that the other team would win.
In other words, It still doesn’t prove anything.”
It proves that if I want to know about who’s going to win a hockey game, I should ask you and not necessarily my rav, unless he has much more hockey knowledge than I think he does.
Bigger than a breadbox.
(…A lot bigger. Widthwise.)
Chemdas seminary
Why do you ask?
If they’re going out, there’s not much that any CR respondents can say that can change anything…
…but that’s never stopped all of us commenters before, so full speed ahead :).
Genetics wise, as people have said, there is definitely increased likelihood of recessive Jewish genetic diseases (Dor Yeshorim is about ten times as important, but that still doesn’t catch everything). I do know/know of people who have done it (including my great grandparents) and had happy marriages, but I have no idea how it worked out healthwise.
Otherwise, it’s societal norms- but bear in mind that if the shidduch doesn’t work out, family Chanukah parties may get a shtickel awkward.
If you’re getting college credits (through Touro, YU, TTI, etc): study abroad.
If you aren’t: gap year.
You’re going to the Middle East to learn about your religion and culture.
(This is basically rock-bottom, so feel free to build up.)
Please do that, ultimateskier :).
Sorry, what does your friend have to do with your brother’s shidduchim?
When my grade got the speech about Dor Yeshorim, we were told that shidduchim get nixed for much stupider reasons than being matches for recessive genetic diseases. This is, IMHO, definitely (DEFINITELY) one of them.
writersoul: pronounced AWE-some TI-red TEEN. (Everything beyond that is window dressing.)
When Rivky woke up, she could smell a steaming cup of Starbucks coffee sitting next to her.
I’m going to camp and seminary, which makes me wonder why I’m bothering to type these words at all.
I would, however, also like to escape to the coolest part of the multiverse, so Bookworm, how are you getting there? Can I hitch a ride? I don’t have a job yet for second half, so I’ve got the whole August free…
PBA: Oh, yes, they do. If the parents have the money, they send their son. If the parents do not have the money, they do not send their son. And if the parents DO have the money, then they have veto power over where their son goes.
(I’m in the sem parsha right now and it works much the same way.)
pixelate: a) Considering you quoted nearly the exact phraseology of a riddle in The Hobbit… b) Why are you posting the answers to your riddles before people try to guess? It takes half the fun out.
I saw Dumbledore in a salon having his beard braided.
pixelate: once we’re doing the mountain one….
What have I got in my pocket?
(“What has she got in her pocketses…”)
Oh, and the answer to the last riddle is a tortoise.
My family and I highly recommend YUTorah.
I’m in Monsey and I just got a great milkshake from Dunkin Donuts.
I don’t know if PBA’s joking or whatever, but we don’t have a Krispy Kreme here.
Carvel closed down. (We’re all still in shock. It actually happened.)
Chalav yisrael I don’t really know- maybe check Yoffee or Yogenfruz and see…maybe Bubbas?
(Yes, this whole thing is probably a bit too late for the life or death situation, but let this hereby be the Official Coffee Room Monsey Milk Shake Information Gemach.)
They make multicolored stacked garnished salmon and Chilean sea bass gefilte fish.
Just like Bubby used to make.
(And imply that they’d let a roll of FROZEN gefilte fish in their house and it’s them who will be calling off the shidduch…)
Gamanit: You do not want to know how mortified I feel right now…
I’ll leave it at that :).
Thanks!
I think I’ll bow out.
If you say “pretty please” I can make like it never happened . . .
Little Froggie: I used to have a neighbor with a bulldog who did not know what the word pooper-scooper meant. Luckily he moved away, and we can keep our eyes off the sidewalk.
But trust me- the geese in the park are worse…
I keep Shabbos less than 2% of the time…
I can’t judge anyone who does not keep the Torah. I know three siblings who survived the Holocaust together- one stayed frum completely, one went completely off the derech, and one initially went off but later came back and raised his family in a Torah lifestyle. From very similar experiences each derived completely different points of view and very dissimilar reactions. Each made their decisions based on themselves, and as I have no window into the thought process of another person, I therefore cannot judge to know WHY and therefore to condemn, as condemnation can come only from my context.
That said, as has been mentioned, the words “superior” and “inferior” really have no place in this discussion. The word “superior” as applied to oneself, especially when associated with the word “inferior” when it’s applied to others, is really against the whole idea of anavah and not trusting oneself until the day of one’s death. I think that a much better way of looking at it is by seeing if you feel like you are doing ratzon Hashem. If you feel good about doing Hashem’s will then you will feel good about the fact that you do so and, thus, about yourself. However, you, in relation to a nonobservant Jew, are not inherently superior in the traditional meaning of the word for a whole slew of reasons- among them being that nobody is judged in comparison to others. It seems more appropriate to wish that the other person had the same sense of hana’ah and fulfillment from doing ratzon Hashem as you have- the idea behind kiruv. It’s like the difference between kinas sofrim and regular kinah- one is constructive and one only destroys.
In summation, I don’t think anyone can look down on a nonobservant Jew as inferior (as in, oh, I should cut you in line because I’m just a better person). Luckier, perhaps, but not necessarily better. Not until 120 will we find out how Hashem does his din v’cheshbon.
Just because one rav has an opinion on sports doesn’t mean that his talmidim have to share it.
I (lehavdil, if you’d like) personally hate sports. It’s easy to catch me incredulously trying to figure out why my dad and sister follow football and enjoy it. But I accept that there is SOMETHING, even if I am incapable of understanding it or even find that something to be wrong for whatever reason.
With all due respect to these mechanchim, I find it hard to believe that the best way to get students to buy their opinion is to specifically NOT validate their students’ desires and interests. If my teacher told me to stop watching movies, I’d consider her words if she told me that there are problems with shemiras einayim or it was time I could use for other things. If she told me that it’s stupid to want to blow my time watching fake stuff, I’d know that she’s not thinking about how to help ME at all- she’s thinking of how to transmit HER personal opinion to anyone who would listen. She’s not even TRYING to understand why I might possibly want to watch stupid fake stuff, just applying her blanket philosophy to everyone without thought about their individual feelings.
The story about the soccer game simply uses soccer as a mashal and, in fact, validates the student’s love of the game, in fact in a way equating it to ameilus baTorah in a way that the student could appreciate. Calling a baseball game stupid may have been the practice of a rosh yeshiva who sincerely believed it (and honestly, I can’t blame him…) but it’s not a way to really take his talmidim and their individual personalities into account and it won’t really convince anyone who doesn’t want to be convinced.
Back to the original topic- I’ve been to about five baseball games (Mets) and a couple more basketball games (back when the Nets were in the Meadowlands) and I don’t think it’s a problem. My family probably wouldn’t consider going on chol hamoed, though. Like people said, it’s not really the spirit of yom tov.
Absolutely no advice, but mazal tov!