TikkunHatzot

Yoyo, I’m really proud of you for telling them. I think that was a big step.

At least you got that out of the way, but do you feel any better about the rest of the situation?

Well, here is a comment from a guy…since I am a guy.

First, (I’m not looking to get married at the moment, but) when I was in the military, I was engaged (but it got broken off due to issues of, well, being in the military) to a girl that was 5’8″ 180lbs. I’m 5’11 & was 165lbs at the time. So, don’t assume that EVERY guy is looking for a skinny gal.

Different guys are attracted to different girls; average guys look for average girls & since you mentioned you have good middos, then you probably weren’t looking for an average guy in the first place. So who cares what average girls look like since they only attract average guys to begin with.

Second, this post has helped me to have a little more faith in finding someone. My situation is like this: I’ve been told that I’m good-looking, strong & have a great character and women usually tend to fall in love me right off the bat…until they find out that I do NOT have MILLIONS of dollars and/or that I have no golden lineage that is full of rabbis that date straight back to the time of Rashi….it seems that many of the woman that I’ve met(apparently not the ones on this board, though), don’t put the same amount of appreciation on a person that agonizes to serve their Creator versus someone that agonizes at work to make an extra $50,000 a year.

Third, have you thought of keeping a journal? What I mean is that let’s say this time next year you are married. You’ll probably be going about your life without thinking back to how you agonized over this situation in the CR.

BUT if you kept a journal, then maybe you could look back to it & maybe write a small book for the women that will be going through these tough times. You could describe the emotions & thoughts that you had before & after. And this could be a great way to help those women in the future to have more faith. Just a thought.

“The grass may be greener…but you still got to mow it”

“If we aren’t supposed to eat animals, then why are they made of meat?”

“Whatever doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. And since not lifting weights doesn’t kill us. Therefore not lifting weights makes us stronger.””

“When is Math going to grow up & start solving his own problems?”

“I’m a Vegatarian. Not because I LOVE animals. But because I HATE plants!” ~Some bumper sticker I read.

“Guns don’t kill people…the bullets however…”

If you still can’t sleep & are tired at work, you may want to try this: wait til the next night & crawl into bed, but imagine that it’s STILL noon & that you’re STILL at work & that you STILL have a lot of things to do & that you STILL just reaaaally want to take a nap. This has worked for me before.

I was actually looking for the bathroom, but opened the wrong door.

This story was a letdown for me because when I read “I’m surrounded by weirdoes and I’m starving!” I thought the story was going to get really good, really quick……but apparently, you didn’t eat them.

@ronsr, there is actually a category called “everything else” that ebay offers. It’s usually were you find the strange auctions & I believe that ebay uses it as a good way to bring people onto their site.