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SjS- I asked them why, they told me because the first time I bought it, I already used time and service from them, so I can’t use this credit for cheap items.

It doesn’t make too much sense to me. I even offered to add a few dollars to my purchase for the “previous service”(if any!) I got from them! But they didn’t let.

Here’s a story:

I bought a little boy tshirt for $20(quite expensive)in a local Jewish store. A few hours later I went to return it because I decided that I have enough tshirts and really shldn’t have spent that money now.

The store refused to take it. No refund AND NO STORE CREDIT because it was a sale item.

Our stores are BEGGING us to shop in non jewish dept stores. We get much better service there, besides the better prices.

Why in the world should I ever shop here again if they have such crazy policies?

Tzippi, if that’s the case, then five years is beautiful. Let’s stop counting years. Let’s rather talk about working with children. It’s VERY hard to work with two. -ive done it. It’s pure mesiras nefesh.

But once you have three children, it’s almost impossible to stay a calm mother, manage suppers and all, plus work.THAT’S where people fool themselves.

Men should definitely learn as long as they’re able to. But not on the expense of their wife and kids.

Aries- BOY is that common!!

Mothers belong at home. If you can handle work besides your home, then kol hakovod. But every young woman must be HONEST with herself.

Your home and kids should be first priority. If not, then stop working. It’s not a mitzvah.

Bas Melech, I don’t want to disappoint you, but 5 years is not so hard because the family doesn’t get too large in 5 years, meaning less expenses and less work from the woman’s side.

My husband also learned approximately that long and then it was still simple.

The very big nisoyon comes around when one has 3 or more children.

Every girl has to make this decision. If she’s ready to work past that or if she’s only ready to work and give up on extra expenses as long as it’s not very difficult.

I find, that girls today “WANT” learning husbands, but they’re missing the real understanding of what that means. Once it gets harder than just “not easy”, they kvetch around all day to their friends until their husband finds a job.

Don’t fool yourself!

Some people never mature.

Some people act like kids when they’re 80.

Sms007- this is exactly the problem.

You’re saying if there’s no money the husband can get a job.

The problem is that when a family starts making bar mitzvahs and wedding, they need extra thousands SUDDENLY. It’s much too late then for a man to get a job and start with a $600 weekly income.

We need to plan now for our future. we can’t rely on miracles. People don’t have extra money to give when poor people come collecting at their door for marrying off their daughter.

This is not to discourage kollel. It’s great when the husband can learn a little. But each couple has to decide when it’s time for work. And many couples live in denial…

Dr Pepper you are so right.

Sitting and learning isn’t so simple. Life is very expensive and the couple needs to earn money somewhere.

No family exists on the wife’s teaching paycheck. Impossible.

Must be they get a side income somewhere.

Does she REALLY want a learning husband and she’s really ready to work hard? Or is she trying to convince herself that this is what she wants?

Anyone knows what happened to Hereorthere? We didn’t hear from him in a while…

Of course we face judgement. The question is whether it’s wrong to spend excess money(assuming that you have extra money). Does Hashem want us to spend on things that make us happy or we should give away every last penny for mitzvos?

my husband- that he picked me!!!!!

(Hhhmmm…think he did that as an act of chesed?!)

To all ya’ coffeeroom fellas- enjoy ur kneidlach!!

This should be the biggest argument we have with our spouse!!

Sure, no problem!

Here it goes:

No, No more cries

The Tzaros will leave us(I think. It’s quite unclear).

Home will we go,

Yerushalayim, well build a home.

Second chorus is the same, only second line is changed to-

You will go around with a smile.

Beautiful and inspiring song whether one understands the lyrics or not.

Hope I was sort clear enough!!

Derech hamelech- why are you saying that specifically on kneidlach? Is there anything about this food that I don’t know about or do you just like kneidlach?!

Wow that’s nice!

We should start a ladies’ thread too! We should all try to daven a little more!

Yoosi, it’s hard. When I was in that Parsha, I waited for the first call to come- and then I asked my mother if the boy matches all my (important) requirements.

Then I went through with her what I wanted in a shidduch for myself. This way, any furthur suggestions were judged accordingly.

Hatzlacha!

Important thing that will matter to you in 20 years from now must match. But other little stuff you’ll work out as you go along in the marriage.

each to their own!

Hello kitty thank you. But it is a bit far. I really wanted something closer. Up to an hours traveling from brooklyn.

Any ideas still?

I rather wanted something RELAXING than fun!

There were MANY jews who dies in the WTC center attacks.

And more than 2 very Heimishe Yidden too.

Any ideas where a couple can spend the DAY. Just from morning till late afternoon. I’m looking for a good outing, something relaxing in or not far from Brooklyn.

No museums please!

Something like boating would be great but I don’t know of anything in the vicinity.

It is not just modern orthodox. Many Chassidish people do it too!(Surprise surprise!!)

Not everyone feels comfortable with it, but it aint assur. Sorry! I don’t do things that are assur!