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Try Kensington or even better Ditmas Park. It’s like a suburb in NY and still close to everything. So peaceful.. such nice people!

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I wish people would exercise bechira without having to be so public about it. If the lifestyle is not for you, drop it, leave it, abandon it. But why publicly bury a system and life which provides so greatly for so many? Thew divorce rate among chassidim is of the lowest in any civilized nation. It works tremendously for those who are part of the system. Don’t like it? Leave! But don’t try to take the system with you!

Almost anyone will be angelic in comparison wit those companies?

To reiterate, why give Jew murderers one cent if there are other options?

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Most hold that Germany is amalek……. same type of gezairos and hatred leading to extermination.. it’s not simple anti-semitism. Arch enemy, hatred withour logic, not for purpose of shmad.. jsut to kill. That was haman, amalek, and germany. Buy from them?

Is the Bosch made in Germany??

If it is, do you feel comfortable making Challos for Shabbos Kodesh in a machine made there? Over 30 percent of the country are still nazi sympathizers….do we need to support them?

I recall years ago that frum people were buying a gagenau oven from A&B appliances and put on a different name plate to hide the fact that it was german. I am appalled that people who have a bit of a neshama would still feel OK to eat chicken, challos and kugel baked in a GERMAN MADE OVEN!!! APPALLING!! I wonder on who and how they perfected their technology… have we no pride?????

Look at Rabbi Greenwalds article in Mishopacha entitled “could this be a parents wish” of 3 weeks ago and the special letters to the editor in the ensuing weeks. It is only the tip of the feelingberg.

The shidduch crisis is a litvish- Yeshivish problem, no a chassidishe one.

Maybe in kaf hakeleh…… it is worse

AC- The story is with Rav Akiva Eiger zt”l. he told a recalcitrant husband that there are 2 ways acc. to the Mishna to free a woman. Get (divorce) will you? he said , NO! I won’t! The second is misas habaal, death of the husband. he dropped dead on the spot!

Why not?? It decreases the things the young coupe has to get used to and it increases Hashkafic compatibility!

Too open to slander……….

It’s great if you like it….

Where is Mr. Friedman today?

Peter Abelow… he writes in the OU publications. amazing fellow

I wonder if he is ready to borrow it to pay back in 25 years. That should be a litmus test of his real attitude towards learning!

I’ve seen it done without revealing futures or “prophesies” I’ve done it with a few neighbors children. Gedolim have witnessed it and agreed that it is real, but one must know how and when and for what to use it. Rabbi Wachtfogels family has used it with his son.

A Yeshva in Eretz Yisroel uses it to teach and to learn with adults who are autistic.

A Gadol once directed me to ask parents in this situation to clarify to themselves and in in their hearts and Tefillos. Do I want a child because I want or because I want to be zoche to partner with Hashem in raising a child to live a life of Kiddush Hashem.

Which is more likely to be answered in the affirmative?

Squeak. Thanks for reading. its always nice to know someone out there cares.

Rebbis salary is about 50, take off 11G for health (Gruss foundation pays 8 for us)

take off 1g for 1 mil term life (chiyuv!! wish I could do more)

take off 22 G for tuition. yes Rebbi rate is about 75% of full tuition and I don’t have 8 kids in school

take off 19 G a year for mortgage, 5 G for utilities and of course I need to work nights and summers. food an clothing, car and ins. etc….

But I also need to be “involved and immersed in learning” otherwise I cannot be a good in class Rebbi or out of class example. It is tough to balance finances, and own family needs. I enjoy every waking and sleeping moment (the 4 hours I actually get each night) and I would not trade it for any other job. but in this world the financial pix is hard, we are deep in debt that one day, hopefully can be covered by the sale of my house, and I still would pick this over anything.

At the same time, I wonder what would be if indeed we were paid a living wage commensurate with our training and the hours per day and days per week.What wopuld be if I didn’;t have to be calling gmachs each month to cover for another delayed paycheck. What would be if living frugally with no vacations, I was able to match expenses to income. I would imagine I could be a better, more patient, better prepared Rebbi. I imagine I would learn more and know more and give over more to our children. I imagine I would have the koach to invite Talmidim for Shabbos and Motazai Shabbos programs more regularly. I imagine there would be less stress to deal with at home and therefore more yisuv hadaas in all areas of life. I could even dream about “learning in a kollel” for the summer since the 70 days of summer are really all my Sundays and holidays of the year piled up minus Chol Hamoed, plus normal vacation allowance. How special that would be for me and for all who look to mechanchim to teach, lecture, consult and inspire.

I will dream on. Happily.

One final feeliong. Don’t reject my daughter in shiduchim because she comes form a home with no extra resources.

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1-If I have school on Sunday I cannot go to My bio childs play on Sunday. I muct be in my own class

2- A therapist earns 100+G a year, A Rebbi less than half

3- A therapist can add or subtract hours, a Rebbi cannot

4- there are no medical benefits or pensions so a Rebbi must work extra just to make ends come close

5- A therapist gets paid for every outside lecture, speech, workshop. A Rebbi is expected to speak at simchos, give shiurim in shule, speak at various learning programs and other venues and is expected to fill the Chazal of just like I taught for free you should too. And I will. I feel it is a calling….. a mission But you should not take advantage of my calling.

5- I am not complaining. I would not change professions for any offer.

We must also be mindful of the Kashrus status of medicines, especially liquids. Many are sweetened with glycerin, treif flavors to make it desirable. That is a major problem especially if it is not life threatening issues. There is not blanket “heter” that if it is medicine it is OK

1- Sometimes there is another brand or non brand which accomplishes the same which is not problematic. The one is absolutely obligated to use the better one.

2- Sometimes it is absolutely necessary and we need to take away the pleasurable taste.

Ask before swallowing!!

When we daven for the right shidduch we daven that Hashem should send us the right one and we should recognize and feel it. If it isn’t the right one we should be protected form making the wrong decision.

Please Hashem put the feeling in my heart, please bring us together if it is the right one and protect me form falling for the wrong one.

If we really say it and mean it, then when we get a “not for now” reply we are grateful for the Hashgacaha pratis of Hashem that protected me.

Briskers say a Kal Vachomer. If working while learning is good to help fight the yetzer hora, for sure learning alone can do it. ” I created the yetzer hora and I created Torah as the tavlin for it)

Where can one get recordings?

1- Want kesher with grandparents and it could be infrequent if far away

2- could be costly. airlines wanna be paid for tix. I have a friend who as the family grew saw his family less and less because it was too expensive to fly everyone out

4- Could be significant hashkafa differences

3- Small family from one side wants to be near family

Many good reasons…….

5- can’t stand someone with good midos…………

If the net ban is Ratzon Chachamim it is right. If we violate, they have Shamayim to back it up. Not a good matchup.