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  • in reply to: Walk the girl to the door #736118
    popa_bar_abba
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    iyhbyu:

    There is no production. You simply double park, get out, walk to the door, and say, “good night”. Or good day, if it is day. Or, good shabbos, if it is friday afternoon. Or Merry edited

    Also, you avoid the whole tznius problem of watching her walk to the door- which some of the usually right wing posters seem to not care about.

    in reply to: Good Morning Mr./Mrs. ….! #733116
    popa_bar_abba
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    Smartcookie:

    Actually, I really am the rightful Duke of Westminster, and am really 78th in line to the throne.

    in reply to: saying hello #733195
    popa_bar_abba
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    Re classmates:

    I think it depends who they are. If you are in a completely secular school, you probably will be viewed as pretty rude if you ignore the other gender. Of course, you can be selective in who you invite over for a homework party.

    in reply to: buki in the cr #733205
    popa_bar_abba
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    you can search. The easiest way is to go the dvar torah thread which is stickied, and find a post by “chofetz chaim”. If you click on his name, it brings you to a search page.

    I know that is odd. But you do some odd things also.

    in reply to: #733090
    popa_bar_abba
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    Part of the teshuva process can be publicizing your aveiros. And sometimes it is appropriate to work on things with other people’s help.

    in reply to: what do YOU drink on a date? #733173
    popa_bar_abba
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    normal drink??

    You mean alcohol.

    in reply to: Good Morning Mr./Mrs. ….! #733110
    popa_bar_abba
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    Actually, it is an American thing to call regular people by honorifics which were reserved for the English nobility. That is why we call men “gentlemen”, and women “ladies”.

    I like it.

    in reply to: Walk the girl to the door #736110
    popa_bar_abba
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    I think it is not tznius to stay in the car.

    If you walk her to the door, you walk beside her, like you have been doing the entire night.

    If you stay in the car, you sit and watch her walk to the house.

    in reply to: Walk the girl to the door #736103
    popa_bar_abba
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    chayav: you don’t need to walk behind her to the door. You can just walk her to the door.

    in reply to: Walk the girl to the door #736101
    popa_bar_abba
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    I always did. I walked to the door and waited for her to open it, then said good night. I even got out of the car if we were breaking up.

    in reply to: Why should a first date be 3 hours long? #733329
    popa_bar_abba
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    I agree with dunno. It is ridiculous to spend half an hour getting dressed.

    in reply to: Chemistry in Dating? #734108
    popa_bar_abba
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    There is nothing wrong with Nitrogen and nothing wrong with Glycerin, but if you put them together they explode.

    in reply to: broken engagements #732689
    popa_bar_abba
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    Too much speaking and spending time together during the engagement

    I can’t argue with that. After all, if you never talk, you’ll never have a reason to break it.

    Of course if you never get married, you could never get divorced.

    in reply to: curly???!! #734689
    popa_bar_abba
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    Itche:

    Why not? Was she fat?

    in reply to: WHAT'S THE RUSH?!?!? #769550
    popa_bar_abba
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    There seems to be a new trend amongst girls and boys to get engaged in 2-3 weeks (5-6 dates).

    I also think people do it because it is trendy. Like wearing sleeveless shirt over a shell.

    in reply to: Jewish DrudgeReport? #732628
    popa_bar_abba
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    I don’t know why the Drudge Report would insinuate sleaze to you, and exposes are a good thing.

    You can see the perfectly kosher Drudge Report here:

    http://www.drudgereport.com/

    in reply to: posting pictures on onlysimchas? #735698
    popa_bar_abba
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    A husband and wife are not allowed to show chiba in public. That would presumably exclude holding hands in public. Posting pictures online sounds like public.

    Just because someone doesn’t keep one halacha, I don’t know if I would call them “not frum”.

    However, the issue of holding hands at the wedding is more complicated. Actually, many chassidim have a minhag that the chosson and kalla specifically do hold hands coming from the chuppaedited.

    So it seems that if you do it, you at least have who to rely on- even if following your background you really should not be relying on those opinions.

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1227497
    popa_bar_abba
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    in reply to: parents and the girl #732029
    popa_bar_abba
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    Oh. I see. I was misreading it.

    in reply to: parents and the girl #732027
    popa_bar_abba
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    I understand. I am wondering why you would want to marry a boy’s parents.

    Firstly, they are often married to each other.

    Secondly, only one of them is a man.

    Thirdly, he might be much older than you.

    in reply to: parents and the girl #732025
    popa_bar_abba
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    Why are you asking about what the boy’s parents want, and what the girls want?

    Shouldn’t you ask about what the boy wants?

    in reply to: Please List All The Nightmares You Could Bring On Yourself #736511
    popa_bar_abba
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    Mike Hallowitz

    And I am Popa Abbowitz.

    in reply to: Beshert #1058734
    popa_bar_abba
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    Thanks truthbetold

    in reply to: It Musta Fallen Behind The Couch! #731807
    popa_bar_abba
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    There is a “red light speeder upper”. Some emergency vehicles have them, and you can buy one also.

    Last I heard, they were trying to figure out how to outlaw them.

    in reply to: The Palestine Papers #731965
    popa_bar_abba
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    Seriously, I would totally give back the entire Yerushalayim if I thought it would bring peace.

    I don’t think it would- we have never gotten peace out of giving them anything.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732189
    popa_bar_abba
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    So the case apusheteyid is citing shows that NY considers criminal negligence to be recklessness, which requires consciously ignoring the risk. It is a pretty high standard, and I don’t imagine it can be easily used for texting.

    I am guessing the states attorney is trying to see whether the courts will allow it and is using this as a test case.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732186
    popa_bar_abba
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    Do you need a conscious adverting to a substantial and unjustifiable risk?

    Because I would never do that.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732180
    popa_bar_abba
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    Hmm. I didn’t read the statute. What does it say?

    Also, are all vehicular cases limited to those two categories, or can you do criminally negligent homicide in a car also?

    in reply to: texting while driving #732177
    popa_bar_abba
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    Ok. I have no idea. I just pulled up the homicide code and copied everything from the lowest level to just before second degree murder.

    If I had to guess, it would have to go into a vehicular manslaughter one, but I don’t know how those work.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732174
    popa_bar_abba
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    on a residential street at 4:50AM

    Don’t you value your sleep?

    Who wasn’t sleeping?

    in reply to: texting while driving #732172
    popa_bar_abba
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    sorry sac. Which part?

    in reply to: height in shidduchim #1034049
    popa_bar_abba
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    Like I said in a previous post, I dated a guy who was the same height as me and I was not comfortable w that, do you think I would be comfortable w someone shorter?!

    That makes no sense. We only know you are not ok with someone being the same height. Being taller or being shorter are equally different from being the same height.

    You have previously stated that you would be ok with someone taller. Therefore, it stands to reason that you would be ok with someone who was shorter.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732168
    popa_bar_abba
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    chayav: I have only gotten one ticket ever, and it was for failure to signal while making a right turn on a residential street at 4:50AM. (To be fair, I think I ran the stop sign, but the cop apparently only noticed the signaling.)

    Sac: I would not tell that to them. I would probably be a real mess if I killed someone because I was texting.

    Sac and apushutyid:

    The NY statutes that might be applicable are:

    Baruchbohm: I’ll decide what I value.

    in reply to: why did eclipse leave? #731640
    popa_bar_abba
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    Yes, the link for any profile is:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/profile/%5Busername%5D

    spaces become dashes

    in reply to: nursing school #731687
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    nolashonhara:

    What are you asking? Maybe be specific.

    Are you talking about who your friends will be in school?

    in reply to: rich zivug #731581
    popa_bar_abba
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    “He’s not engaged in a rich shul or any kind of shul”

    -Pinchis (The Golden Coins)

    in reply to: texting while driving #732160
    popa_bar_abba
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    Oh, and if any of you are wondering (like maybe all you law students who need to know this), the law of per se negligence is that if you are doing something which is illegal and is outlawed for safety reasons, then you are presumed to have been negligent if you injure someone.

    in reply to: texting while driving #732157
    popa_bar_abba
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    Thank you RB.

    I did mean to make that point.

    But, I really did go through the thought process I describe.

    I used to text and speed, and talk on the phone, and roll stop signs. One day, I heard about the law of per se negligence, and realized that I should not text, since the legislature had clearly decided that it was negligent. But then I remembered that I also speed, which showed me that I do not recognize the legislature’s definition of negligence. So I took out my phone and texted.

    If you see some guy in a green civic with a SHMUZ magnet texting away at the wheel while speeding and rolling stop signs, it is me. Better get out of the way, because I can’t see you.

    I’m sorry if this makes anyone upset. But really, you are going to get mad at me? Do you get mad at all your friends if you see them talking on the phone or speeding? (when you are not in the car.)

    in reply to: Mental illness in the frum community- take 2 #732482
    popa_bar_abba
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    Well, If they sell themselves once, I have no reason to think they don’t sell themselves twice.

    in reply to: nursing school #731660
    popa_bar_abba
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    Health:

    That is not a very nice thing to say.

    in reply to: Mental illness in the frum community- take 2 #732480
    popa_bar_abba
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    Yes, it is part of my theory, which is why I said “probably”.

    You seem to agree with my theory, since you concede that homosexuality was removed due to lobbying.

    in reply to: nursing school #731658
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Is nursing school like nursery school?

    in reply to: Did you go Seminary in Eretz Yisroel? What did you gain from it? #730845
    popa_bar_abba
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    good.jew:

    Is this facebook?

    in reply to: Did you go Seminary in Eretz Yisroel? What did you gain from it? #730841
    popa_bar_abba
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    From Wikipedia:

    A finishing school (or charm school) is “a private school for girls that emphasises training in cultural and social activities.”[1][2] The name reflects that it follows an ordinary school and is intended to complete the educational experience, with classes primarily on etiquette. It may consist of an intensive course, or a one-year programme.

    The term finishing school is occasionally used in American parlance to refer to certain small women’s colleges, primarily on the East Coast, that were known for serving to prepare their female students for marriage. Since the 1960s, many of these schools have become defunct as a result of financial difficulties stemming from parents’ decreased interest in paying for such an education for their daughters, and changing societal norms making it easier for daughters to pursue academic and professional paths not open to previous generations.

    Sounds like seminary to me.

    in reply to: Did you go Seminary in Eretz Yisroel? What did you gain from it? #730839
    popa_bar_abba
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    Is seminary kind of like a finishing school?

    in reply to: How tznius are todays sheitels? #731089
    popa_bar_abba
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    rabbi of berlin:

    I disagree with what you are saying, assuming I understand you correctly.

    I don’t believe the proper way to paskin is to look at who you are allowed to argue with and then just take sides as you see fit. It is true that one is not an apikores if he argues with a rishon, but he is a fool.

    If Rav Moshe occasionally took sides in a machlokes that was hundreds of years old, I am sure it was with a healthy respect for the hundreds of years worth of commentary which came in between.

    I contrast this to a perception I have among some, which is to validate any opinion based on finding a random rishon on which to hang one’s hat. I don’t think that is what any real posek has ever done.

    If that is not what we are discussing, then we agree.

    (And thank you for the original compliment)

    in reply to: How tznius are todays sheitels? #731087
    popa_bar_abba
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    Rabbi of Berlin:

    A. I think you misunderstand my comment about d’oraisah and d’rabonon. I am well aware of the ramifications of something being d’rabonon. I was only criticizing an attitude I perceived of not caring about things which are “only” d’rabonon.

    B. That is not the way poskim paskin. They look at the most recent and most accepted opinions. An opinion which is brought by the acharonim carries far more weight than one which is not.

    in reply to: socializing #731972
    popa_bar_abba
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    in reply to: texting while driving #732142
    popa_bar_abba
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    For a summary of all my good points, see:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/profile/popa_bar_abba

    in reply to: socializing #731968
    popa_bar_abba
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    Just because this is a jewish website does that make it mutar to talk to the opposite gender??

    No, of course not. It is only because it is a frum website.

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