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david1999:
Actually, you are incorrect.
The type of barrier is irrelevant to this discussion.
When you say the list has been superseded, do you mean we found new rishonim?
When you say we paskin like the meikilim, that is correct. But, it is still a kula. Many poskim will tell you it is better to not rely on it if you don’t have to.
Of course it makes a difference if it is a sincere need. But in many cases, I still think it would not be tznius.
Men are not exempt from chessed, but chessed is only a mitzva when it is what G-d wants.
The only end in Judaism is ratzon Hashem.
I agree with the Rebbi, and think it is not tznius.
Women often flirt with men by asking them to do things which are “manly”. Like carrying heavy things, reaching high things, etc.
Even if you did not mean to flirt, and I believe you, there is still that tension.
I would not have parked for you.
Kapusta:
If you put out mint, you might want to make sure first that it is not going to scare away your rat also.
When I was younger, I remember someone asking the Rav of our shul if he can salt his porch, steps, and sidewalk on Shabbos (there was no eruv). The Rav said not only is it allowed, it’s REQUIRED!
I don’t believe that story. You are not allowed to do something dangerous (walk on ice) in order to claim pikuach nefesh. If it is pikuach nefesh, you should not go outside.
Mod 105: Rabbi Bodner’s muktza book says that Rav Moshe held snow is muktza. The shemiras shabbos quotes Rav Shlomo Zalman that it is not muktza.
I didn’t look them up, I saw it on some blog.
Well, maybe the person did not know how dangerous it was. You apparently misjudged the danger also, or you would not have walked across it.
I’m sorry you got hurt.
From my google search, it seems shoveling snow on shabbos is controversial when there is an eruv, and obviously assur when there is no eruv.
Do you live in Brooklyn?
Why don’t you just drive?
And babies! I’ve seen babies eat just about anything.
Get Bats!!!! Bats also eat mice.
Ain ohd:
I’m sorry, but that is not on the list of “cons” I posted.
80: So you are agreeing?
Get rats for the office.
Well, here is an article I found about my idea:
Should You Get a Rat for a Pet?
I’m probably not the right person to answer this question, since I am, after all, a bit prejudiced. But I’ll try to be as unbiased in answering this question as I can!
If you are considering getting a rodent for a pet, please don’t rule out rats (or buy rats) until you’ve thoroughly investigated them. Check books, web sites and online FAQs and talk to rat owners. What you find out just may surprise you. They do have an awful reputation, which is very undeserved. Rats are much more social than mice or hamsters and a lot less jumpy than gerbils. In fact, they are about as intelligent and just as good pets as dogs – just smaller.
Here are some pros and cons about rats that I think you should be aware of. Remember, though, one person’s pro just might be another person’s con and vice versa!
Pros:
Rats are loving, adaptable, friendly animals who form very close bonds to their human companions.
Rats don’t require a whole lot of space or a yard or fancy equipment. Cages and toys can be homemade – they’re not fussy!
Rats are fairly inexpensive to keep happily fed and housed. Cages need to be cleaned every 4-5 days.
Rats usually sleep during the day when most people are away at work or school, but can adapt to any sort of sleeping schedule that their owners have.
Rats are social animals and love human attention and interaction. They are lots of fun to play with. Most are good traveling companions.
Rats can be litter-box trained, but it does take lots of persistence.
Rats are generally good with children and very patient, but they can’t take too much rough handling. Supervision around small children who might accidentally drop, squeeze, sit or step on them is a must!
Cons:
Rats do need a lot of attention – if you don’t have an hour or two to spend with them a day, get mice instead! They also need a same-sex cage mate to keep them company for the times you can’t be with them.
Rats will chew on almost anything – usually power cords that are connected to expensive equipment, your favorite furniture, important papers, etc. They will also hoard everything they can carry such as batteries, small toys, pens, coins, rolls of paper towels, etc. They need a safe, rat-proof place to socialize and live.
Rats can’t stand temperatures above 80F. This means that in the hot summer, they need an air-conditioning or an alternative, such as ice bottles placed in their cages, cool air from fans, a cool basement to live in, etc.
You’re a good brother. I would say go ahead and offer.
I grew up in such a home, with uncles and aunts who were not religious, and we were always very close with them.
Yes, I have never seen maris ayin discussed in terms of milk after meat.
And on that topic:
My brother was at a wedding, and when desert was brought out, there was coffee and creamer.
The fellow sitting near him asked if the milk was pareve.
My brother said, “mistama”.
Fellow: Mistama? Mistama?
Brother (to himself): You ate the fish, you ate the meat. Mistama this is also kosher.
I think they should be ok on shabbos, since it is not refuah, it is just entertainment.
Get rats.
Agree with Charlie.
We hope you’ll come back and visit.
If you are babysitting, and they say to take drinks, does that include the whiskey?
Too late. kevan sh’higid.
Maybe by “dishwashers” he means “women”.
I would say a 40 year old from trinindad.
What do they need popa? A cage?
I think parents are more likely to over-supervise than to under-supervise. So I would say the parents need the cage.
I don’t think teens need supervision.
I will point out that Rav Salomon spoke about it to his yeshiva, not to the general public.
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I think there was a major technology boom that began to affect us in the late 80s, when personal computers came out.
I feel as if my father and I basically grew up in the same world. There were cars, trucks, airplanes. They all ran on gasoline. There were telephones and tape recorders. There were refrigerators and gas ovens. There was heating. (Maybe he didn’t have AC).
But since I was a child, the world has changed radically. We still put gasoline in our cars, but that is about where the similarity ends.
So it is hard to feel very exotic for remembering 10 cent milk, when people 30 years younger remember no computers or cell phones.
What happened to this thread?
I didn’t think it was bad, but if it was, why wasn’t it just closed?
I remember when couples who got married knew they were old/mature enough to take care of themselves and ready to pay their own bills as rent, tuition,groceries and not be forever dependent on parents.
I also remember when tuition for 4 at Bais Yaakov of Williamsburg was $36 a month.
Well, maybe that’s why.
To take this a step further;
Would it be ok for a single guy to pretend to be a single girl?
Or a married woman to pretend to be single?
Or for a bubby to pretend to be a bochur?
Does that impact the tznius question?
Sorry pops, you don’t know your addition.
Perhaps not. But being bad at math is not very culpable.
Your indignation is misplaced.
I am not advocating anything, nor making any judgments. I am simply adding up the sum of the previous posts.
It was posited that a problem in sholom bayis is men looking at other women, which is caused by said other women dressing inappropriately.
Implicit was the suggestion that men are more likely to find a woman attractive is she is dressed inappropriately.
I just added up that if so, the woman who dresses appropriately, while helping her neighbor, will be hurting herself.
Of course, that is not a justification.
And it may not even be true, as you are all now saying.
smartcookie and shlishi:
I don’t know. I am just following the conversation, which was arguing that the problem is that men look at other women who are dressed inappropriately.
There are two sites that do it. My brother taught me how; he has been annoying people on a different site with it for a while.
They are:
Remember to use the function which changes it into a tinyurl, since otherwise the reader knows what to expect.
If I understand this conversation correctly, the problem is the other frum women who are not dressing appropriately.
If we follow this, then if a woman decides to dress appropriately, her marriage will suffer, but her neighbor’s marriage will improve.
If I was in that situation, I know what I would do.
Depends. How much do they need it? How much can you afford it?
I think I understand. These are the stories from the old glory days. It makes more sense now.
Mods: Will you take down the post that began this.
I’m sorry I dis you all the time. I’ll try to pay more attention to it.
Do you want the post taken down?
Some of your shidduch stories imply that you are ok touching your date. That is what made me think you were not yeshivish. I don’t think that is YU frum.
Am I wrong in thinking that?
CS: can I have some back up here? Am I totally reading you wrong?
Was that rude? I wasn’t trying to be rude. Have I been rude to cshapiro before?
It didn’t seem rude to me. I have no problem with how someone wants to live. I can comment on what someone is doing without criticizing, can’t I?
cshapiro, am I insulting you? I’ll ask the mods to take it down if I am.
Actually, every city eruv relies on a serious kula, and if you can you should not use them.
The mishna berura brings 25 rishonim on the issue of whether a street of 16 amos is a rshus harabim without having 600k people. The split is 13-12; effectively even. Since it is a d’oraisa, it is entirely appropriate to be machmir.
Now lets talk about how to be a good host.
For starters, stop being upset about all the things listed in this thread. Really, are you inviting me to do me a favor or do to yourself a favor?
Re: the maaris ayin issue.
At catered events which have pareve coffee creamer or ice cream, there is often a sign telling that all milk products are pareve. In restaurants, the menu often mentions it. In either of these scenarios, there would be no problem.
Sis:
That is shachris. Most guys do daven shachris in shul.
Mincha is completely dependent on whether you have a minyan at your work or school, and is really not part of this discussion.
The only issue is maariv. I don’t go back out. I think most people who have a real schedule do not. And I think it is fine.
Itche: I don’t think my June is open, but I would totally go backpacking with you.
I’d like to make this more fun, by proposing that what Real Brisker is suggesting is almost apikorsus.
The Maharshal, quoted in Shach YD 89:17 http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=9145&st=&pgnum=398 discusses the issue of waiting after eating cheese before eating meat.
The maharshal says that it is “k’mo minus”. The idea seems to be that it is almost apikorsus to suggest that things are assur, which are not.
RB: What you are doing is putting your own reasons into the mitzvos and extending them arbitrarily.
Look, I don’t doubt there are people who are always there for every minyan.
Firstly, they obviously have access to a mincha at work or school.
Secondly, their day is probably not very long.
My day is 6:45 to usually 8:00. I daven shachris at shul, and there is sometimes a mincha in my building. I am not going back out for maariv at 10. I am going to sleep.
My situation is, I believe, more typical. Take a poll, ask guys who are working at real jobs (not 9-5). I just don’t buy it.
When you say good middos, you want someone who is working on themselves, or someone who just naturally is more mild?