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you know i meant no harm. gimme my power’s back i’ll only do good with them.
(btw there really WASN’T anything wrong with what i wrote. even in hebrew. your move)
was waiting for someone to write that, good twist with the hebrew.
I actually thought about deleting it but hoped it would go unmentioned. Now that you went and mentioned it, you have been strike with the curse of the edit – 29
I can’t judge that but I would understand it
Sorry I wasn’t clear. It just means if the shoel doesn’t have emunah, then there won’t be a ruach in answering for him. Just good ol flesh and blood. If the rabbi gives the wrong answer it is noones fault but his own.
wolf- good haarah.
I’m curious whos paying for these ads. They’re plastered in every frum place possible to place an ad, from papers to forums.
Lior- America has a strict policy not to negotiate with terrorists. If terrorists see that we’ll do what they want for the right price, it opens up a lot of doors for them.
Maran (pronounced Muchun) Hagaon Harav Chaim Kanievsky Shlita, has a whole (small) chapter in Orchos Yosher called “Ruach Hakodesh”. He writes, as others have said, that there are different levels. I can’t go thru it all now, i’ll try to put it up soon.
He says the navuah that’s batul till moshiach comes is referring to real bona fide navuah. However, today we’re still left with some sort of ruach hokodesh.
Even though i hope to put up a better “quote” (hehe), i’ll mention something he says at the end which to me seems like a big reason for him writing the whole chapter in the first place. Also it sounds like people here need to hear this. There is a ruach hakodesh that can rest on a Talmid Chochom when someone asks him a shaalah. If i recall correctly, it’s possible that this whole ruach hakodesh comes from the one asking the question’s strong emunah in chachamim. Meaning even if one person asks Rabbi Ploni something and gets an answer with ruach hakodesh, that may not be the case when someone else asks Rabbi Ploni.
to be continued…
just Ruach Lehafuach
Mods didnt let my original post thru. R Moshe was being mesader once and the ring was from her/his mother and it said “mamzer” on it. He paskend aid echad isnt neeman and on with the show.
yaya, just joshing
r baruch ber said that just like there’s bitul torah in quantity, there’s bittul torah in quality. (take that PAA!)
I brought up kibudav because amaaretz used it as a reason to stay, of course if parents are paying for it there’s no practical choice.
amaaretz
I happen to be learning in an American Yeshiva now, but if the same situation I (hope) would listen to them. And even if for some reason there was no “Chiyuv”, it would still be the right thing to do.
the right thing to do would be to listen to the shulchan aruch
lior
I was only responding to the narrow abstract point about when Kibud IS applicable whether it can be put aside for Limud Torah purposes.
i’m not sure if you’re calling me narrow minded or not, but if you are- that’s nuts and we know what has the same gmatriah as nuts
Now for the chiluk between girls and boys, where boys have a chiyuv as opposed to girls. I do hear the difference but it could be it doesnt make a difference. Expecially if girls have kiyumis. And even if there isn’t kiyumis, I think the girl herself feels she will end up doing more mitzvos and have more yiras shamayim if she goes. I’m not sure that it’s so simple to say this isnt a mitzva. Agian, practically the only bearing of what im saying would be to cancel out the pro of staying for the sake of kibud av and its shmirah.
TM, we get it, you feel you dont need to care about anything else since you live in israel, the biggest mitzvah
I can’t find it right now but R Chaim Kanievsky talks about it in Orchos Yosher
Zahavasdad im pretty sure someone with ruach hakodesh knows what he’s doing
Mazel Tov !
A. While I hear why u might wanna go about dating without emotions, you can’t really expect a female to do that (ayin other threads about girls not able to learn I’m guessing)
B. I don’t think you shud get your hopes up to marry him when he changes his mind next year. U shud get over the break up, dust yourself off, and pick up those high heels once more.
C. No matter how it happened and who broke it of it’s always hard for both sides. Once I dropped a girl after 6 and after I pulled away I pulled over and just started screaming like a madman ($&?!). Time heals wounds, dw theres light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll get over soon, for now theres ice cream.
That’s nice but Kibud Av falls away if you feel your ruchniyus will be better if you go to seminary. (I actually heard this from an adam gadol about learning in a certain yeshiva even though parents dont want him to due to fear of war and the like. He gave me a mkor but i can’t remember it)
True. But i dont think you wanna disagree with the likes of the Chofetz Chaim (not saying you are) which say that we are in Ikvisa. We dont know how close, but were definitely close.
“He had been in a wheelchair, unable to speak, and now B”H he’s walking and talking again!”
I heard in the beginning he was miraculously much better but after a few weeks the treatment stopped working. Can anyone confirm one way or the other?
Regardless, there’s light at the end of the tunnel. Baruch Haborei Refuos.
I think getting in a fight about this wud be counterproductive so im just gonna say i think youre jumping the gun
It’s crazy but that’s the way it is. Take it into account when you wanna fife the system.
smoked a couple of cigs right before i quit.
you wud think they wud at least have rotev pizza.
also i thinks its hysterical that popa suddenly wakes up by the pizza discussion.
I would hope that frum people’s smart phones are 24/6 at worst
ya, i was testing you. (really, you failed)
DY- HA! and thanks for the backup
k
only in brooklyn… wait what?
(bow and exit stage left)
Gamanit- do you believe there is no possible way to say you want to invite one without getting her insulted? Personally i think it should be done, just it’s a minefield.
Another case of closed-minded open-mindedness. Is there really no difference between a computer and a smart phone? I really dont wanna go thru a whole internet shmooze here but ya
1. smartphones are 24/7
2. they’re a little more private
Back to the OPs question, who obviously was coming from a position that it ISN’T so simple. It is more common among girls to have a smartphone, ie a female version of a guy that doesnt have a smartphone might have one. Depending on how yeshivish/frum you are a girl shud or shud not have one. Probably find out from your friends that you consider on your “level”.
True, i don’t know divorcees. I guess you do and i’ll follow your advice. If youre wrong, me making a fool of them is on your shoulders.
For example, he once told me to have more concentration on certain parts of davening.
I hear. I think i’d go to someone like this bishas hadchak.
I was always afraid since “Loy Chotzif Inish”. Did it anyways eventually and that just lowered my moral bar.
wow, interesting stuff. im maskim its not sucha big deal nowadays but i think its partially cuz we got bigger deals to deal with. and besides, a significantly larger number of (frum) teens own phones than before. society must be put into the equation.
That is not hyperbole or rhetoric; it is the sober opinion of many leading poskim.
names?
and although what youre saying about fake mekubalim is true, i still think theres problem going to real mekubalim. i think you think so too.
depends in which circles.
Interesting point. I’m tired so i wont be as concise and i may ramble a bit but im pretty sure the answer to your questions in here somewhere.
We know theres something called hishtadlus- going thru the motions of doing what you can. Noones says you shouldnt daven for shidduch “help”. In fact, many people think doing every segulah in the book (that book wud make a killing) and running to every man with a beard for a bracha is also nuts. Just be a good jew, pray, have bitachon, do your hishtadlus and let hashem take care of everything.
SOMEONE PLEASE CORRECT ME IF IM WRONG- Hishtadlus means doing something reasonable al pi tevah. We have our gedolim with our mesorah and they feel that mekubalim aren’t our way. There are a couple of stories of gedoylim that cudve been saved by mekubalim and disregarded that. If it is your mesorah then enjoy.
Now fixing the shidduch “crisis” is an obligation on us for a hishtadlus reasons. Rechnitz isnt using shaimos of the tzitz and toads. All al pi tevah.
DISCLAIMER: i just reread this and it’s terribly confusing but im to tired to do abetter job sorry. frown face.
Syag, I’ll never give birth and id like to try understand what you mean.
It’s like a distraction type of thing? whats your position on delayed gratification?
Am i being crazy by harping on this delayed gratification? i just cant split the two.
I don’t think the outside chance of receiving a negative response is a legitimate excuse to not offer an invitation.
it isn’t the negative response people care about as much as what the negative response means–they were offended.
Again let me reiterate, what i’m trying to do is help you look at these people in a positive light. I understand that you really do believe people are good and are just venting but it sounds hateful and i dont like when someone starts hating on my people.
Talk about silly… that’s one of the silliest comparisons I’ve seen on this board.
wolf, im honored. seriously.
First, of course, is the fact that I know what color tie I’m wearing because I chose it.
with your eyes closed? try it, tons more fun. (btw my original post was about undergarments but i think the mods werent so happy.)
But, second, and far more important, is that most people have more an emotional investment in a baby than in what tie they’re wearing.
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notasheep- I don’t call it delayed gratification, because the feeling I get after giving birth and seeing whether it’s a boy or a girl is just amazing.
What i think both of you are saying is, regardless whether or not you believe delayed gratification makes sense, on a scale as large as this one its worth it. And my point is that either you believe delayed gratification is nonsense or you dont.
I beleive it is nonsense and Wolf doesnt.
I’m not disagreeing with you, just want to point something out for the sake of being dan lkaf zchus.
Many people are afraid to reach out to people in need (be it divorcee or any other need lo alainu) because although their assistance can be a great help, if done slightly wrong they’ll do more damage than good. Helping others requires tact. Recipients are usually very sensitive and can be easily hurt.
Did you ever try to help an older person with their packages, only to be shouted at, “im not THAT old!”? People have pride and dont like to feel helpless, offering help to the wrong person can be very offensive.
(oh no, not CBT again)
not sure if u mean cow or not
In that case I rescind my previous attempt at humor and instead i shall scrawl some more:
You’re in the 1990’s and should check into cell phones.
I dont get it. Plenny of guys will be there that arent mature enough to be getting married. What about their olam habah? Same with girls.
And ya, the world is a sicker place.
i hate when you pour milk and after the pouring is done you realize besides for filling up your kashi bran, it dribbled down the side of the bottle all over the table