oomis

You also missed his entire point that it is the Chareidim’s mesiras nefesh in learning untold hours of learning per day that is keeping the people safe *despite* the shmad of the IDF. You also missed his point that Israel and the IDF wish to shmad the chareidim who they get to join the IDF.’

No, I believe it is you who misses the point. Torah learning goes hand in hand with defending E”Y from our sonim.

JF2, I am happy you had a great conclusion to that first date. Somehow, talking about that subject would not be conducive to a first date in my book (though I would probably be interested in such a discussion in the course of getting to know someone over time).

RF – enjoy.

So you were being farhered on the date BY your date?????? I think a nice dinner in a restaurant would have been a good alternative.

(Yes, I know you’ll say “How dare you say that I have to move my mitzvah to some out-of-the-way place? I should be able to do the mitzvah wherever I want.” Tough. There are plenty of other mitzvos that are only appropriate in designated places.)”

I can think of SEVERAL.

oomis- that approach is correct. one should, however, have in mind at the actual naming of the child that the name for someone not frum should not be referring to the grandparent but to some tzadekes with that name. “

Interesting that you mention this. We actually were mekavnim exactly that way when we named our daughter. Though she is named for a specific person, WHEN she was named I had in mind something connected to the meaning of her name,something spiritually significant to klal Yisroel, rather than the person for whom she was named.

An egg found inside a shechted cow is only there if the cow ATE it. In a shechted chicken, however, it IS fleishig.

My children each have two names. We gave a great deal of thought as to what we would name our children. Suppose one wants to name after a Bubby who was not frum, but in all respects, a wondeful person. Isn’t it better to give the child an additional name for someone who WAS frum, but still give kovod to that Bubby? There are no real halachos about naming, rather there are minhagim.

Therapist – (and wouldn’t a true therapist acknowledge that there is not a one size fits all aspect to Judaism?) of course there are different standards for different people. Do we not say “chanoch lanaar al pi darko?”

A smart and intuitive rov knows that not every answer fits to every situation, even when the situation seems identical to another. That’s why the same rov can give the same person two different piskei halacha on the same shailah that occurs more than once. Or gives one p’sak to one person and the opposite p’sak to another ON THE SAME INYAN.

One girl might find it more palatable to wear a skirt that meets the absolute bare minimal requirements for tznius. She is following the halacha. Another girl might be more comfortable wearing a skirt four inches below her knees. She is following the halacha. Another might need it to be a couple of inches longer, in order to feel she is conforming to proper standards. They are EACH following the halacha. Whatever the Rov you mentioned feels personally (and he, too is personalizing our religion by making that statement), there are shivim panim L’Torah, and other halachic viewpoints that are considered valid. And that is why there cannot be a Tznius police type rabbinic enforcement, because there will never be a complete consensus in this hot-button issue. Each rov in his own Shul or Yeshivah has the authority to expect a level that conforms to his hashkafa. But as each rov has his own personal hashkafa, there cannot be, as I said, a one size fits all philosophy. As long as the minimum standard is being met (not saying that is the ideal situation), the girls are being tzniusdig. You may disagree (feel free), but thinking otherwise, is how divisiveness occurs. Right now, I am thinking achdus would be a nice thing in klal Yisroel.

Hannity, Levin, and Aaron Klein. Occasionally Michael Savage, but he turned me off with his commments about aspects of bris milah.

Anything that is multiplied by zero, no matter how many digits it has = zero.

Unless there is a parentheses in there somewhere at the very end, in which case the answer would actually be a real number.

Yekke, I think Mordechai Schmuittdr is one of the funniest people on the planet. It’s a shame you don’t get his sense of humor, because I have often laughed out loud in public places while reading his columns, often maniacally! He is RIGHT on target!!!!!! Read his article about mowing the lawn…His humor is so filled with truth, and THAT’S why it’s so funny. I wish I knew him IRL.

My daughter actually is presently trying the toric contacts that were mentioned. NOT working out…

I’m fine with people ignoring me “

I’m not – whether it is ignoring you OR me. People need to stop being so ill-mannered. That is SURELY not Hashem’s Kavanna, when He gave us SO many Halachos bein adam l’chaveiro. A simple response to good Shabbos is not too much to ask. I was very impressed when a certain Rov passed me in the street and said Good Shabbos as he walked by, though he didn’t look at me really. I recognized him, though he could not have known me personally. THAT is a mensch in my book.

Can we get the lyrics to the Chumrah Song? (way to go!)

“takahmamash – sorry for your loss 🙁 “

Ditto – just saw this.

“oomis: I have the OPPOSITE problem: when I say good Shabbos to women they kind of pretend I don’t exist. It’s disheartening. Aren’t they the ones who are supposed to be modeling proper manners to the rude youth of today?”

Writersoul – how is that different from what I posted? That is the exact point I was making! Perhaps your intention was that you say good Shabbos to people in MY age bracket and WE don’t respond (you are a young woman??)

In that evemt, yes, you have the other side of the coin.

oomis, that reminds me of an interesting converdation I was having on Shabbos about how we’re perhaps overeducating our children and that’s were our downfall lies. “

In what respect do YOU mean, OI( I might even agree with you)?

“oomis- The reason there are more Torah-educated girls today than ever before is because it was assur in previous generations.”

SF – it was also a different hashkafa about the the role of Torah-learning for girls to be able to properly raise children in a Torah-dig home. We no longer live in the Shtetl, and women need to be educated for many reasons, among them, rearing their children with Torah values. Times ARE different now, and those who are naysayers, are wearing blinders. My mother O”H did not go to Yeshivah. She couldn’t test me on my chumash and navi, or read my chiburim and enjoy them. She was a frum woman, who lived her life in a kosher and proper way, but she ALWAYS felt the lack. Women have a geshmak for learning also. It possibly could be a different type of learning, but it is there for so many of us.

Yerushalayim (Journeys) So haunting.

Apropos of Scarborough Fair, “Dror Yikrah” goes great to that tune.

I think that to its credit, this generation has a greater involvement in doing ongoing chessed activities (beyond the giving of tzedaka), and more of the “common man” learning and knowing Torah, than the previous generation did. Certainly more boys are sitting in Yeshivah than ever before, and more girls are Torah-educated than was my parents’ generation.

Meat. (If anyone has any idea what I’m referring to… well, I’d be quite impressed if anyone gets it right.

If Tisha B’av was a nidche, and there is a seudas pidyon haben after the fast?

Boys and girls learn differently and their relationships in terms of how they learn differ. “

So what? What difference does it make if I take a taxi, drive myself, go by train, or walk, if I arrive at the same destination? The fact that girls and boys learn MIGHT have different learning styles (and I am not certain that it is a disadvantage for the girls, as I inferred from your implication), does not mean that the end result, the learning of Torah has not been attained.

If I were you, I would take the female perspective a bit more STRONGLY into account, because we have binah yesirah, and perhaps could even give the OP better advice than a male. Males tend to see issues as “black or white,” but women tend to see more of the subtleties and make assessments based on those shades of gray.

Seriously?????????!!!!!!!!!!????????

I’ll go you one better. I often come to shul to find that there is a man davening S”E in the vestibule (outside the main shul), where I must walk by, in order to get to the ladies’ section. I have also come to shul for a Pirkei Avos class (usually follows mincha by us) only to find men davening IN the ladies’ section, where I have to sit down. If they have not yet begun to daven I will go in and sit down, and if they have anything to say or glare at me, I gently remind them they are intruding on the ezras nashim.

When I sing “Im Eshkacheich,” it makes me cry about the Churban, so that would be a yes.

I am against a child sleeping apart from his bunkmates. That sets him from the beginning as a weirdo and the camp experience will add way more stress to him. If he cannot sleep discreetly with some type of Depends pull up, or medication is not indicated, perhaps he is not ready for camp yet.

Many kids are traumatized by camp when they have NO special issues. This one at age 10 is a biggie. Boys can be really cruel at this age. He should be restricting his liquid intake in thee vening altogether, and the counselor should wake him before he goes to sleep for the night himself, and make sure your son goes to the bathroom again. Other than than there is little that can be done. Hatzlacha.

) Regarding the Halacha of 4 inches, the Rabbonim should come out with a uniform standard, whether it’s 4 or 3 or whatever.”

There IS a standard of halacha already. The skirt should cover the knees, even when the woman is sitting down (presumably this especially includes when she gets in and out of a vehicle or climbs up the stairs). For each woman that may be a different number and also depend on the style of skirt or dress she is wearing.