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Yes! I care very much and feel very bad that a police man who supposed to help people killed George Floyd. I am very angry that a police officer thinks he can use his authority power to do whatever he wants and couldn’t careless if he killed someone or not. The video shows the police officer killed him on purpose as he held his knee on George for a very long time even after the guy said he repeatedly that he couldn’t breath and bystanders were telling him to remove his knee as well but didn’t listen to anyone or even care about what they were saying. The same kind of thing happened a few years ago to Eric Garner in Staten Island when a police man put him in a choke hold even when the guy said he couldn’t breath. No police man should ever become so violent with peoeople unless the person is clearly violent and it doesn’t look like George did anything violent.
Making Pesach at home for the first time for a family of 4 or 5 can easily cost a minimum of $1000. This includes, round shmura matza, some pots, cooking utensils such as mixing bowls, spoons, heaters, peelers, food processor etc. Pesach food is very expensive as well, especially take out food. Then you need paper goods as well. Additionally most people will spend quite a bit of money on cleaning help. This is why it’s very hard for people if they have to cancel their hotel program and start making Pesach now, since they have to start from scratch.
Gadolhadorah you are so right that all Pesach hotels should cancel their programs. However, many programs will not cancel because they don’t want to lose all that money. Instead they are now advertising that they will disinfect all the rooms kitchens, and common areas where lots of people gather, give out hand sanitizers to all guest, put out hand sanitizers throughout the hotel.
chesedpro: If you really would like to create a new chesed organization, (I could try to help you if you’d like) you should create an organization where there are frum women hired to help out young mothers who are physically disabled or sick, take care of their children. I’m sure there are many many women out there (including myself)who have some kind of physical disability or sickness which makes it very difficult to take care of their young children without any or much help.
As of now the only way for a young sick mother to receive childcare help is through getting family support, or paying a private nanny, Additionally, as a last resort if they have no family help, or can’t afford a private nanny, they can go through the government to get a free homemaker who is most of the time a non Jew. (edited slightly)
always runs with scissors fast: As a mother of 3yr old and 1yr old I can understand how frustrating it is when children get into things they shouldn’t and make big messes. I just finished taking a parenting course from Simi Yellen who was AMAZING!!! So I’ll offer you some suggestions I learned from the course which I hope can help you a little. Firstly, you should always put away or lock up anything you do not want your kids getting into. That means getting cabinet locks for your kitchen, bathroom, etc. You can also see about locking up the kitchen for the night as I do, and maybe even the bathroom too. Secondly, you should teach your child that what she did was not right, and she should apologize to you for it. She should also help you clean up the mess to teach her that messes need to be cleaned up. You can try to make it fun by making it fun, either with a race against you, or the timer. You sing her a song, be silly with her while cleaning up etc. If she is not willing to help you clean up, then you need to give her a consequence by taking something away from her that she really likes. You should also teach her not to bother the baby, and give her consequences if she does.
Another suggestion is try to have more positive experiences with your children, by constantly finding things to elaborately praise them for. Spending quality time with each child every day (at least 10min) I know this can be very difficult if you are a single mom.) Do something with them just because you love them etc.
Lastly, I know this costs money, and I know you are financially tight right now, but I think it will be very worth while for you and your kids to take a 6 week parenting course for ages 2-5 by Simi Yellen. The next course is starting in early July.
Hatzlocho Rabba with everything. I hope you get some household help, and I hope your situation with your children improves very quickly.
I am available. I can contact you by email upon the moderator’s permission, but I don’t know how to go about getting their permission.
try the OU or the Agudah. They might be able to help you for free.
Hatzlacha!
To ilavhashem: What kind of back surgery are you having? I have a very bad case of scoliosis. Was actually born with it. I’ve had 3 surgeries for it, and had to wear a back brace for about 10 yrs. The 3rd and last surgery was almost 16yrs ago, when I was 11. It was a 10hr surgery where they put harrington rods into my back. Baruch Hashem I healed pretty quickly. Though I do still have some numbness in my back, I have no back pain.
Also, I’m currently married with a child, and another due any day. The only pregnancy complication from the last surgery is that some doctors might not feel comfortable giving you an epidural or spinal block if needed, and the epidural might not work so well.
Hatzlacha, and I hope the surgery and recovery goes smoothly for you.
cooljude: I strongly recommend that you start going to ohr naava, especially on Wed nights, and make an appt to speak with R Zecharia Wallerstein, or even R Skaist or R Miller. These are all great people who would give you their time, and very beneficial advice. Hatzlacha Rabbah!!
I have experience with both sides of the spectrum. I was a part time preschool teacher last year while my husband was in kollel. It was pretty challenging to be a Mommy and a teacher too. This year, I’m a stay at home mom, while my husband works full time, and no I am not bored, even though I send my 2 yr old to a half day playgroup. There are always errands to run, and things to take care of in the house.
However, because I am not a teacher this year, I don’t have the daily pressure to prepare lessons for the next day. If I go back to work, I might want to work part time in an office, so the work is done when the day is done. I don’t think I will work full time until my child is much older, when he is more independent.
To on the ball, just curious what kind of home based internet business do you run.
I think real jewelry has much better quality and will last forever, while fake jewelry can get all rusty and black, especially silver plated jewelry. Real jewelry can be polished. I’m not sure if fake jewelry can be polished.
I’m wondering if the husband’s who work full time while their wives stay home with the kids, help out at night with household duties and/or the kids, or do they relax most of the time since they are tired from working a whole day? I’m a stay at home mom, and I do almost everything in my house during the week myself, (making supper, washing dishes, laundry, taking care of my son etc) because my husband is usually very tired when he comes home from work, so he doesn’t feel like helping out, and I feel bad to ask him to help, since I understand that he is tired.
I think it’s very smart to do dor yesharim in highschool. This way it’s over with, and you don’t have to worry about it when you’re in shidduchim. Also, don’t worry about it so much. It’s just a regular bloodtest like the doctor does for your yearly physical. Hatzlacha.
To Imaofthree: Can you please tell me which books and videos you found in the library for potty training? Maybe I can read them to my 2 yr old to introduce him to the potty.
To golden mom. I don’t know where you are getting your info from about schools being overhwhelmed, cuz the schools that I called at least in Queens, told me they either don’t do p3 or have their own p3 teachers so they don’t need anymore. Also I never heard that yeled vyalda or omni deals with p3. I know that omni for sure deals with shadows.
Rosesharon there are a number of ways on how you can become a p3 tutor. 1)you can call the agudah office at 2127979000 and speak to ext 326-p3 department, to put your name on their list for where you want to work. 2)you can call the schools in your area or where you want to work and ask the if they need a p3 provider for in school or afterschool hours. 3)you can advertise like on luach.com and on fivetownsshul or kgh shul yahoo group that you are looking to be a p3 tutor, and you can also check there periodically to see if someone is looking for a p3 tutor. I know the brooklyn section on luach.com has a lot of p3 postings. Hope you find this information helpful in finding a p3 case, and keep in mind you might not find any p3 case til after sukkos as that is when more p3 cases start becoming available.
I’m ashkenaz and I married a guy from sephardic background. I see “what always runs with scissors fast”, is saying about dealing with the children. I am (ashkenaz) is a more soft and loving mother to my toddler while my husband (a sephardic background) is a more strict no playing games type to him. I don’t really like it so I’m trying in a nice way to get him to soften up a bit.
Just because someone is on foodstamps doesnt mean they werent rich once upon a time. It could be the lady with the 1.5 carat diamond ring got it a long time ago when she had lots of money, (or it could have been an engagement ring) and now for some reason they are out of money either due job loss, or big business loss.
Let me tell you, I just moved from Florida to Queens thinking that I and my husband would have jobs right when we got here, but unfortunately those job opportunities fell through. So now we both have no income so we got onto foodstamps to help us buy food. However, we still have 2 laptops not because we are cheating the government in order to get foodstamps, but because we bought the laptops when we had money. Im sure due to the economy there are many people out there who were once rich, but lost a lot of their money. That doesnt mean that they had to get rid of all their fancy things that they bought when they were rich.
popa_bar_abba-If a woman is in her later thirties, and unmarried, is it ok for her to have children without getting married?
You can do it without violating any issurim, at a fertility clinic.
I actually thought of this idea too a few yrs ago when I was still in shidduchim, (Baruch Hashem I am married now and have a 21mo son.)but I never thought of what the ramifications would be for the child, YW Moderator-42 points out.
according to a cnn poll more than 90,000 people chose donald
I highly recommend Augenbraun’s rental bridal shop on Coney Island ave bet ave K and L. They have gorgeous gowns for the kallah and immediate relatives, with excellent customer service! I have used them twice already! Good Luck and Mazel Tov!
I totally agree that R Wallerstein is one of the best speakers I know! Before I got married, and lived in NY, I used to go listen to him every wed night in Ohr Naava. Also, thanks to apusheta yid for giving me the inspiration to start listening to his shiurim again by downloading it to my mp3 player from torahanytime. Now I can listen to his shiurim in the car while driving to and from work.
Baruch Hashem for the much needed weeklong winter vacation! I am a first year pre-k teacher that works very very hard teaching 9 4 yr olds. 6 boys and 3 girls. Let me tell u- these kids can really make u so tired out that all u wanna do when u get home is to just put your feet up and relax a bit. I don’t know what I would do without the much needed winter break! The winter break will hopefully give me some relaxation, and rejuvenate me to continue teaching these kids for the rest of the year, and just btw I do not get any paid personal days, nor will I get paid for the summer.
I have very bad scoliosis so I actually had 2 spinal fusions, and finally I had a 10 hour surgery about 14 1/2 yrs ago where Dr. Ohenba Boachie who is tops in his field inserted rods into my back in Hospital for Special Surgery that’s located next to Cornell University in uptown manhattan on the east side. Baruch Hashem everything went well and I recovered pretty quickly! But these surgeries are no easy picknick and there is always a risk for paralysis because the spinal cord is right there. So make sure that your doctor knows what he is doing. Get many brachos, daven and say lots of tehillim that everything should should go well, and imyh it will!