#Sketch and barlev, Very true!

And I also want to add that, sometimes, when children see their parents fighting the whole time, and they aren’t divorced, that can set the tone for their own unsuccessful marriages.

#healthzrazy, not to turn this into a music thread, But I will humbly suggest that true, it does show something on a girl if she listens to non-jewish music, but there is a difference between Tri-state area girls, and out-of-town girls… Being an in-towner, you have so many more options. You walk into your groceries and clothing stores and hear only Jewish music, Whereas we don’t, and we go to schools that cater to much wider ranges of Judaism…exposing us quicker, and making us more aware, and open-minded.

And, I’m not saying that one way is better than the other

Just something to keep in mind.

#Take away the time-wasting from it, Meaning, take a lesson out of it, and then it’s not only news, it’s a way of forging a connection with Hashem.

That’s what news is, things Hashem does… and He’s doing it for a reason.. try to figure out the lesson and apply it to yourself…

For example, about 2 weeks ago there was this guy in New Jersey that got killed… How?

He was talking to his friend near a construction sight, and a worker 50 stories above, dropped his tape-measure, and it landed on this guy’s head, killing him instantly..

I probably used this example in every class I gave since…

What are the odds???

There’s no such thing as odds… When someone’s time is up, it’s up!

There’s no running away from it…

It makes you stop and think, “do I know when my time is?”

“will I have something to show for myself after my time is up?”

and so on….

Telling you to stop looking at the news, is a very hard thing to say…

And, human nature is, wanting to be in the know…

try deriving lessons from it… thereby causing growth=not a waste of time..:)

B’hatzlacha!

# and you can continue on that thread the power of someone’s tears..

Sharei dimaos lo ninalu….

How when we cry down here hashem cries up there..

Hashem collects very tear…

#Perek ??-??

When Eisav heard his father’s words, he wailed a most loud and bitter cry, and he said to his father, “belss me, too, my father”

when discussing Eisav’s reaction to the news that his brother had tricked him and had received the blessing of the first-born instead of him. the medrash states the following. “one cry yaakov elicited from Eisav. When was the retribution? in the city of shushan.”

The medrash is short and cryptic; as a result of yaakov avinu’s actions- the fact that he made his brother cry- his descendants were punished thousands of years later with the awful decree of haman ” to destroy, to kill and eradicate all the jews.”

If you think about it, It’s incredible! Yaakov avinu was fullfilling the command of his mother rivka, and even more than that, was rightfully entitled to receive the blessings. Yet, on account that he caused a wicked man to cry, the jews were nearly wiped off the map and needed the miracle of purim to save the day!

R’ reuven Grozovsky explains that chazal are teaching us how far-reaching is the act of causing another human being pain, even when that human is a a non-jew or even a wicked rasha! one who causes another person to suffer, even if they deserve to suffer, is considered as he personally lifted a sword and plunged it into the victim. It is so terrible to be the instrument that is used to effect infliction on other human beings.

we see that even a righteous tzaddik like yaakov avinu was held accountable for causing his brother pain, and over a thousand years later, the jews nearly saw their own extinction, in the stroy of haman and his wicked plans.

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Eisav said, is he not rightly called yaakov, he has deceived me twice

there’s a mashal that says….

A poor man needed to raise money to support his family. With no other choice, he went to rabbanim and asked for a letter of support so that people will give him. He got honorable letters to take along to the big cities to meet some rich guys and cousins.

On the way he met a pauper who was headed the same way, and the two started talking about their plights. The first man told his friend his intentions. That night, the 2nd man went and stole the first guy’s letters and snuck out in middle of the night with them. He traveled alone to the relatives of the first man and passed himself off as their unfortunate relative, and got quite a bit of sympathy and cash.

The next day the two paupers met again. The first man realized what had been done to him and was inconsolable. “How could you do such a low down thing to me, I trusted you, I confided in you…

“What’s the big deal” asked the second man. “Here, take the papers and go back to them, talk to your relatives, they are so nice, I’m sure they’ll take care of you.

The first man looked at him as if he was from outer space. “What good will that do me now? Had you not used my name, I could still go and talk to my relatives, and they would help me. But now that they think that you are really me, there’s nothing left to give to the real me.!”

The Dubner Maggid, R’ Yaakov Krantz ZTL, explains…

Eisav cried because he felt that yaakov stole his brachos. Had he gone in using the correct name- Yaakov- he would’ve never received the special brachos which were intended for eisav. But now that he used the name Eisav and took the blessings, there was nothing left for the real Eisav. thus, Eisav told his father, but you named him Yaakov- Let him use his own name!

#Thank you little froggie!

#I’ve overcome missing out on having a father, and focusing on my father in heaven…..

I think about it a lot in shidduchim, because people always want to know how much support one will give. My daddy in heaven has the power to support me in the most lavish ways… No worries!

#cozimjewish, May you keep Shteiging

#BUMP

I need short tefilla stories…

THanks!

#Emes

#It really depends on the girl and the situation. And on how much it bothers you… Will it affect the kedusha level of your home?

You are in a tough situation..

Find someone you trust…

Ask a rebbi of yours or ask a shaila

Hatzlacha rabbah!

And may you be zoche to build a bayis ne’eman really soon!

#written by Dina Storch

#In sem we wanted to take a taxi to the kosel, so we hitched a cab, and we saw other girls from out sem also taking a taxi for 40 shekel. When we got in we asked how much it would be.So the driver asked us how much the other driver charged our friends. For a fleeting moment we were deciding if we sld say 35 but then decided against it.

So he was going to charge us 40.

At the next red light, our driver caught up to the other driver and asked him how much he was charging them!

P.s. after getting out we noticed that it was an Arab cab.

#Mods- Please put Beh-beh-beh as cozimjewish subtitle…

Todah Loadah!

#This is not my first item on my imaginary list, but, ultimately I would love to someone musical, that plays an instruments and sings. Before you critics start on me, I’ll have you know, I have never asked that about a boy before I went out with him.

#I think there should be a mediator for all girls like myself, who want guys like the ones who wrote to this thread. We girls who want working ben torahs, and those working ben torahs are not second class. I once dated someone who was in college, and when telling a friend about it, she yelled at me for “selling myself short” meaning I should go with a learner. It really bothered me, so I spoke to my Rav about it, and he said there is no such thing. There are yissochers and Zevuluns, it’s the way of the world.

And a woman has a right to be at home with her children. I honestly fail to see the beauty of those young girls with three bitty children slaving away with two jobs and running a house with bleary eyes so their husband can learn. It’s been taken out of context, Girls should not be maids!

yes, men should learn, but they also promise at the chuppah to support financially, so please do so!

#me too!

Because I’m only human…

#rebyidd23, Who’s your owner?

And do you train for treats?

#take it easy…:)