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While I agree that men should be very clear with their wives as to what is acceptable and what is not, the excuse that the husband wants her to look good is not an excuse for her to dress inappropriately and it cannot, therefore, shift the blame to the husband if they both know better.
In other words, if both know very well that it is wrong to behave and dress like a zona, then she can still dress differently at home than in public. But in public (and in private, too, for that matter), her obligation is to dress like a bas melech whose kavod is reflected from within, no matter what anyone else thinks or feels about it.
HaKatanParticipantNo, they should not be made at a loss, and I did not suggest they be produced in such a manner.
My point, however, remains they are making these vaccines as part of a for-profit enterprise, and therefore the allegedly lower margins (especially given the higher volume sold) are not a reason to trust the vaccine makers that any vaccine is therefore safe and appropriate for all. Regulatory agencies must do their job and one should consult with a reliable doctor regarding the best course of action/schedule.
HaKatanParticipant“Finally, profit margins are incredibly low for vaccine manufacturers, who are basically distributing the vaccine out of their desire to be good corporate citizens. They would make a lot more money by investing their resources elsewhere.”
I find that assertion very difficult to believe. Any alleged lower profit margin must certainly be made up for by the sheer volume of vaccines they sell.
As this is a capitalist society and these are public corporations who are accountable to their share-holders, I have no doubt the vaccine manufacturers are in this business for money, not kindness, and therefore must be subject to the same scrutiny as any health-care business should be, and not be automatically trusted due to their alleged goodwill.
Essentially, everyone relies on governmental regulatory agencies to ensure these vaccines are in fact, safe and appropriate.
May Hashem watch over and protect His children.
HaKatanParticipantThe achdus and chesed is nice (and is in abundance in both Eretz Yisrael and, lihavdil, in Chutz LaAretz), but if you’re at the stage of raising children, then you have to know the chinuch options of the place you choose to live in.
And unless you’re independently wealthy, you and/or your spouse will likely need a job wherever you choose to live.
Hatzlacha Rabba in your decision.
HaKatanParticipantDisclaimer: I disclaim any and all responsibility for anything and everything in this post.
It’s been a while since I started wearing lenses, and I’ll assume you’re referring to soft contacts, as opposed to Rigid/Gas-Permeable lenses, which are different.
Basically, wash your hands with soap and then rinse your hands, carefully, with a special emphasis on the fingertips. Then, put plenty of saline solution on your fingers. Take the lens and rinse it with a little saline. Then, put a drop or three of saline into the lens, if you can swing it (this will lubricate it as it goes on to your eyes, rather than the lens immediately sucking moisture from your eyes, though it depends how dry or moist your eyes usually are).
Now that the lens is ready (the edges should NOT flare outward, by the way; if they do, the lens is probably inside out), place it on to your index fingertip and bring it close to the eye it will be applied to. When it’s within range but before you’ve batted it away with your eyelashes, look up while lightly pulling your lower eye-lid to expose the lower “white” part of that eye. Place the lens on that white area, then release your eyelid as you slowly look down. This will move the lens on to the center of your eye, where it belongs.
Once the lens is in place, blinking is essential to keeping your eyes and lenses moist; you may, anyways, need to carry rewetting drops, which are much more expensive than saline solution, though saline works just as well.
HaKatanParticipantI believe my Rov does not point to the sefer with his pinky nor with any other finger.
HaKatanParticipant646, as recently as 100 years ago in Europe, people commonly married at age 12. From that perspective, marrying off a 9 year old of the times past who was equivalent (or better) in every way to our 19 year olds, seems much more reasonable.
The implication that the Torah would condone a marriage that is detrimental to either party, is an abhorrent one, at best.
HaKatanParticipantrabbiofberlin, I’m still curious where you got your semicha from.
Your responses to this post-seminary young woman seem, to me, misleading.
Music has a powerful effect on the Neshama; that is not debatable. Your point about how the gedolim must be wrong because so many people became religious through R’ Shlomo Carlebach Z”L is fallacious; IF, and (since I do not know either way) I emphasize, IF he was incorrect in his methods and his music was deemed by the rabbanim to be inappropriate to listen to, THEN no amount of good that comes out of it makes it worth listening to it.
Since you seem to have the same false notions about Zionism, I’ll bring Zionism as an example. The Torah greats came out almost uniformly and quite vehemently against Zionism and its state, and with the benefit of hindsight and history we see clearly (if we choose not to pull the wool over our own eyes) just how correct they were that Zionism was and is a massive disaster for the Jewish people, on many levels, despite the “silver linings in the cloud” (and, if history and facts are your guide, that’s really all they are, at best).
Put briefly, a mitzva HaBaah BaAveirah, is….an Aveirah.
As far as the girls coming out to greet the young men on Tu BiAv and Yom Kippur, it wasn’t a singles bar scene, I can assure you. Practically speaking, our personalities, interests and hakpados are so much more complex today than they were then, that a gathering like that described in the mishna would seem to be a waste of time and, instead, serve to provoke taava, CH”V, rather than promote marriage.
I happen to agree that rather than running after kol koreis, one should follow Pirkei Avos, “Asei licha Rav”, and direct one’s inquiries to that Rav.
Ksiva VaChasima Tova to all of Klal Yisrael.
HaKatanParticipantI think the writer’s points are excellent, though he is obviously not talking to everyone. If you know you are going to be in chinuch, and you won’t need a degree of any sort AND your rebbi tells you to sit and learn all day, that’s one thing.
But if you’re simply going to Yeshiva, do not have a plan to go into avodas hakodesh, and have no clue how you’ll support your family after you get married, you are probably very well advised, with the personal advice of your rebbi, to obtain at leaat a bachelor’s degree, or do a BTL/masters in whatever, as this is a basic hishtadlus (though only Hashem can guarantee) in being able to support a family, BE”H.
July 21, 2008 5:28 am at 5:28 am in reply to: The greatest financial supporter of Torah Jewry in the world #634029HaKatanParticipantPashuteh Yid, Nobody in this forum (or elsewhere, as far as I’ve seen) ever said the Israeli goverment wanted to blow up shuls and yeshivas, though if you speak to the administrators there (and listen to the ones who come to collect here), the government seems to be doing whatever it can, financially, to shutter those mekomos hakedoshim.
But that was not really why I labeled Zionists “Macharivei Torah”. A few select reasons might be the following: The early Zionists directly and intentionally stripped their newly acquired citizens of as much Yahadus as they possibly could, using various wicked means. ViRabbim Od KaHeinah ViKaheinah. Those early citizens’ children and grandchildren are so far removed from Judaism, all the while being born and bred in a nominal Jewish State. Is that not enough of a tragedy? Was there not enough of a loss of Torah from that alone?
In any event, a good Zionist was quoted as having said that “Anti-Semitism will become our friend…a useful tool”, meaning, he would hope for Anti-Semitism so he could use the EXPECTED SYMPATHY GAINED AFTER THE SHEDDING OF INNOCENT JEWISH BLOOD, G-D FORBID, to use in creating their State. Another Zionist said, “One cow in Palestine is worth more than all the Jews of Europe.” Yet another prominent Zionist said during WW II, “If I had a choice of saving all the Jews [from the Nazi death camps] and bringing them to another country and saving only half and bringing them to Eretz Israel, I would undoubtedly choose the latter.” That was then, a matter of historical record. And now? The whole suicidal “peace process”, a folly unparalleled in recorded history? And the brutalization and expulsion of its citizens in Gaza, who are still homeless, depressed, jobless and struggling with other assorted related issues years later? Much of that is on YouTube, so you don’t even need to study history to learn about the modern-day atrocities. Does the above not make those responsible for that, “Machrivei Torah”, CH”V?
If, after understanding the above (and more), you’re still able to wax poetic about how the medina is so concerned with each yachid (really? when, as widely reported, it let a Druze soldier guarding Kever Yosef bleed to death on the battlefield when they suddenly and cowardly withdrew and allowed the Arabs to deface and disgrace that holy site) and feel that Israel’s great advances in technology, science and other fields are more important than the above and that the existence of the many Yeshivos and shuls is somehow a great credit to Zionism as opposed to them having their own motivations, then I suppose we are dealing with different morals, or maybe just different ground rules, so to speak.
Of course, as you correctly imply, Jews are free to be religious Jews in Israel, and the Israeli government is certainly not like the communists who outright denied the Jews the opportunity to worship, nor like the others you mentioned that persecuted Jews just because of their religion. Nor does the government love its religious Jews, either, of course. But, again, there is much, much more to the story, so a comparison based on that alone would lie somewhere between simplistic and false.
With all due respect, it is not I who has been force-fed a diet of anything (unless you consider basic historical knowledge and an open mind, to be “force-feeding”). You, however, Pashuteh Yid, as an Israeli, cannot seem to see past whatever lifestyle you maintain there, to the many wrongs that were perpetrated there on our fellow Jews by their fellow Jews, in a nominal Jewish State.
Incidentally, that your fellow citizens are, for the most part, happy, like you claim (despite half of their children living below the poverty line, and in such an advanced country, to boot) is a testament to the gadlus of the Am HaNivchar, not to their Zionist rulers. Since you live there, I am not denying your reason to be makir tov to the Zionists under whose protection you live. But, again, in the balance of things, I would place them, overall, far to the opposing side of machzikei Torah. And nowhere have I called it sinah, and as I mentioned above, it is certainly not for chinam. That’s to set the record straight.
As to your question: aren’t there lots of shuls and yeshivos there? Yes. Does the Israeli government deserve any special credit for that? I don’t think they have done anything particularly praiseworthy, and I do think that the ever-increasing lack of funding is one that raises questions, to say the least.
While, in light of the above and more (like the gedolim’s almost unanimous call against the State’s establishment), I would, therefore, certainly disagree that this “gift” is one worth dancing for joy over (since doing so would be, at best delusional, despite the silver linings in the cloud that undeniably exist), however, I do join with you in hoping that all of our people come together in serving Hashem and bringing the redemption speedily in our time.
July 16, 2008 3:02 am at 3:02 am in reply to: The greatest financial supporter of Torah Jewry in the world #634027HaKatanParticipantWe could also (but most of us would not have the courage to) add Medinas Yisrael as one of the greatest Macharivei Torah in recent history and in the present. ViKal Lihavin, despite the welfare state that is gradually disappearing in there.
Those who live in Israel and benefit from them do owe them hakaras hatov for that; but let’s be quite clear: An American Jew owes hakaras HaTov, gratitude, to the United States of America, under whose protection, and on whose land, that Jew lives. That same America Jew owes NOTHING to the State of Israel, the Palestinian Authority, Turkey, or any other foreign sovereignty, unless that person has benefited from that State.
HaKatanParticipantThe comparison to food is a bit incongruous. Smoking, unlike eating, when performed as directed, is deadly. Eating is healthy and, in fact, vital, when performed as directed.
That doesn’t mean that over-eating is healthy or justifiable. But since, unlike food, even the first cigarette is unhealthy, smoking is, therefore, the clear “bad guy” of the two.
Also, flatulence aside, what you eat will have no effect on anyone else. What you smoke, however, will have an effect, and can even cause physical harm to someone else, aside for making them uncomfortable.
I don’t know what office those girls worked in, but I think the proper reaction is to ask him to stop, and, if he doesn’t, to avoid the steady second-hand smoke exposure by quitting on health grounds (and get unemployment, BTW, presumably, though I am simply guessing since I do not know the laws).
For all the guys who think they’ll stop when they date, once the fantasy wears off and/or any pressures kick in, the smoking will be extremely tempting, and I know of people who try (laughably unsuccessfully, of course) to hide their smoking from their wives, and others whose wives simply have to put up with it (with all the discomfort and dangers to themselves and their kids therein) because their addicted husbands won’t help themselves.
Hashem Yishmor.
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