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SJSinNYC, some Rabbonim in our community spoke publicly about keeping the tzedakah within the area. Their discretionary funds are running on empty, and people need their help. I haven’t donated a penny to a kollel in years, and that likely won’t change.
By the way, I ran into your husband yesterday while dropping off my kids 🙂
I used to work at a day camp in Brooklyn. I once played a joke on the camp director a month before camp started. I called him up and pretended to be from the Parks Department. I said that their permit for the local park would be denied this summer because neighbors complained that the kids made a huge mess, and dumped their garbage all over the street by the park. He didn’t deny it, he just said, “They’re kids, what do you expect?”
The yeshivos are not teaching kids to have respect for non-Jews. They just say “We’re better than them.” and nothing more. Yes, Jews are better, but that doesn’t mean you can treat them like dirt! Derech Eretz kodma l’Torah. It’s time to teach our kids to respect everyone, whether they’re like you or not.
Mods, can I get my subtitle changed to “Modern Orthodox and proud of it”?
Bezalel: no, it’s simple math. If one parent is a carrier, then about 50% of their kids should be carriers also. Since DY will weed out cases where both parents are carriers, only 2/3 of couples will have a parent who is a carrier (assuming a 50/50 split at first of carriers). Half of the children from these couples will be carriers. 1/2 of 2/3 is 1/3. For the 1/3 of couples where neither parent is a carrier, all their kids won’t be carriers. Therefore, one generation in, you go from 50% carriers to 33% carriers.
Depending on what the carrier rate is, DY can decrease it. At some point, as was pointed out, the decrease would be so minimal it wouldn’t be noticeable. Here’s the math. Let’s start out assuming it’s a 50/50 split between carriers and non-carriers. Now, there are 4 possible couples, with Y for carrier, N for non-carrier: YY, YN, NY, NN. YY would be rejected by DY. Therefore, 1/3 of couples would have no carriers, while 2/3 would have 1 carrier. Their children should be 50/50 between carriers and non-carriers. That gives us 1/3 of the next generation as carriers, and 2/3 as non-carriers.
Now, do the same math over again, but only 1/3 starting off as carriers instead of 1/2. The percentage of carriers will drop every generation. For the next generation, the percentage of carriers drops from 33% to 25%. The next generation drops to 20%.
I spoke my grandmother last week. A cousin of mine had just had a baby. My grandmother told me that this is now K”H the 42nd grandchild/great-grandchild that she has. She said, “I was the only one of my siblings to survive the war. Imagine if all 7 of us had survived, how large our family would be!”
She also told me once that when she went to visit Yad Vashem, although it was hard for her, she did enjoy one aspect of it. It was known that the Nazis kept meticulous records of everything they did to the Jews. Why? Because Hitler had a dream of building a museum to showcase what the Jews were before he’d wiped them out. My grandmother said, “I went to the museum which showed the Holocaust. It’s run by Jews who are alive and well – and the Third Reich exists only in museums now!”
My wife is not from the US, and she’d never had the Dor Yesharim blood test taken. We liked each other and thought it was headed towards marriage, but didn’t know if we should wait for her to get tested.
Her father (in Israel) went and asked R’ Chaim Kanievsky if we should wait. He replied “I didn’t have a Dor Yesharim test either”. My father in law said, “True, but now that there is an option, should they wait?”
R’ Chaim said “No, and I give a brocha that all their children should be healthy.”
I love when they played Chaim Dovid’s niggun. By my brother’s wedding, they started the dance with the slow part. All the guys sat on the floor like a kumzitz singing along. Then BOOM, the fast part starts, and everyone is up and dancing.
Most shuls/halls will not allow homemade food to be brought in because of kashrus. If you’re making a kiddush in your home, and serving food that others brought, that’s a different thing.
I made a kiddush for my daughter in my home. It was significantly cheaper than doing it in shul (over $500 less) and honestly, the caterer my shul uses doesn’t make such great food. Did some people bring over things? Yes. I also know that they’ve hosted many people in the community for Shabbos meals, so people trust them.
Depends what you need it for. Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you need it for car pooling at all? How much money are you looking to spend?
fine-meshiga: How dare you insult R’ Soloveitchik zt”l, one of the greatest gedolim ever in America! You should go to his kever and beg for forgiveness. There is nothing wrong with writing about him. On the contrary, more people should read about this amazing gadol, who did more for Judaism in America than almost anyone.
oomis, like I said, Paul Fredrick often has sales where they give free monogramming on their shirts. You can get a very nice, 100% cotton dress shirt for under $20. The shirts are great quality, and will last a long time. That’s not expensive!
I happen to love Paul Fredrick shirts. They’re great quality, comfortable, and they fit me perfectly. When they have a sale, you can get shirts for a very reasonable price. However, monograms can usually add 5-6 dollars per shirt. When they have a free monogram offer I get it, but I never pay for it.
The Chazon Ish said that nittel doesn’t apply anymore, and is just bittul Torah.
If a Muslim was convicted of spying for Saudi Arabia (also a US ally), would you demand life in prison for him?
I was told by R’ Matisyahu Salomon that if a person really did commit the crime, there is no mitzvah of pidyon shevuyim. Pollard did commit the crime.
As for his plea deal, the government did not follow it because neither did Pollard. Part of the deal was that he wasn’t allowed to speak to anyone about the case whatsoever. Shortly after, (before the sentencing,) he granted an interview. He actually violated the deal first.
I know a woman who was redt a shidduch, and got married. The husband was physically abusive, and regularly beat her. They got divorced.
A few years later, she met a widower. They dated for a while, got married, and now have 7 or 8 children. She says if not for her first, horrible marriage, she would not have considered going out with her current husband. She had to go through hell to get to her husband – but she says it was worth it!
I was once in Pizza Palace on Ave. M and E. 29th on a Friday, about 1:00 or so. I was waiting on line, and as is often the case on a Friday, the line was pretty long.
Some guy comes running in, and calls out to the guy behind the counter (who he was obviously friends with), “Yankel (not real name), can you quickly give me 2 slices? I parked illegally, and don’t want to get a ticket!”
I turned around and gave it to the guy over the head. “Do you know that what you’re trying to do is stealing? You’re taking my time. You have to ask permission from every person on line. I’m telling you now that I don’t give you permission. I drove around the block twice to find a legal parking spot. Are you too good to do that? Too bad. Don’t have pizza. Be like everyone else, and find a legal parking spot. Coming in and making requests like that creates a huge chillul Hashem. Who do you think you are? Go park legally, like everyone else, and then wait on line, again, like everyone else.”
He looked at the owner for a minute, who said, “Sorry, you heard him.” He then walked out.
LCD. I’ve heard that plasmas don’t transition as quickly, so for fast moving things, like sports, you’ll sometimes see some ghosting in the image. LCDs don’t have that issue.
Of course, this is based on things I’ve heard, not actually seen or researched.
SJSinNYC: Whichever road it is, make sure you bring a towel, and DON’T PANIC!
I’m almost at my 4 year anniversary. I joined January 11th, 2007.
Sam I Am, what do you think about gay illegals in the military?
This was one of my favorites at the time: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/should-pro-freikeit-commentors-be-given-a-voice
I was called a pro-freikeit poster.
There is a Gemara that says a woman once gave her daughter in law an oil that smelled good and was also extremely flammable. She told her to anoint herself and smell good for her husband. After she had done so, she asked her to go light all the lamps in the home. The daughter-in-law did so, caught on fire, and died.
No, I’m sure it wasn’t garlic oil drops. The doctor would take a clove of garlic, cut it down if necessary to fit, and put it in the ear. I Googled it, and found this method mentioned online in a few places.
For those who actually do it, either they don’t realize it, or they don’t care.
I’ve heard from many Rabbonim that to be considered frum a person needs to be an honest person, and keep Shabbos, Kosher, and Taharas Hamishpacha.
Trying my best, I wouldn’t say it’s been moving towards greater Torah observance. I’d say “more stringent observance”. Most of the things which have been accepted by large groups are chumros, not halachah.
fabie: thanks, I think. I don’t see why you’d think modern people would be in favor of gay marriage.
Sandy Koufax. He was one of the best pitchers ever. From 1963-1966, he went 97-27, with an ERA of 1.86 over 1,192.2 innings pitched. He had 1,228 strikeouts over those 4 years.
I heard from a pediatrician that a good alternative method to clear up ear infections is using garlic. There are a few different methods you can find by using Google. She said to just put a clove of garlic into the ear and leave it there for a few hours. My wife said that her mother did it when she and her siblings were young, and it worked wonders.
That’s not what we have to worry about.
Throughout history, there were many great civilizations that collapsed. One thing they had in common was acceptance of gay marriage. By the dor hamabul, it says the final straw was marriage contracts between the same gender. In Rome, in Greece – they also became accepting of it.
In America, it is still under dispute. Gays are fighting for it, and many people back them up, in teh name of “human rights”. I fear that if it becomes fully legal, the US will collapse shortly. Let us hope that Hashem takes into account the fact that many are fighting against it, and that every vote that was put to the full population has so far come against gay marriage – even if the courts sometimes overturn it, as is the case now in California. May Hashem take it into account, and not punish this medinah shel chessed, which has enabled Jews to practice our religion without fear.
I’ve been there a few times. I went to the BioDome, which was nice. For restaurants, I remember going to a Chinese place that’s inside a strip mall. I also once went to a shawarma place there, but I don’t remember the name. There are also a few pizza shops. I remember the one I went to is named Pizza Pita. The pizza there is different than NYC style pizza – smaller slices, with a slightly different taste to the sauce. I think it was a lot sweeter.
Sam I Am, I agree about the marriage, not about the military.
All people have urges to do things they’re not supposed to. There is nothing wrong with having the urge for the same gender, the problem is acting on it. Legalizing gay marriage would say the ACTIONS are ok, which is wrong. Allowing them in the military doesn’t say anything about the actions.
I do it. Just take some raw eggs, and stick them into your cholent pot. Make sure the cholent is already hot when you put them in. I think they come out very good.
Trying my best, when it comes to chillul Hashem, we are not innocent until proven guilty. Read what I posted earlier in the thread about not entering into a situation where someone can conceivably cause someone to mistakenly think badly.
I once read (I believe it was in the Living the Parshah sefer by R’ Shimon Finkelman) that we need to prevent an appearance of chillul Hashem, even when we do nothing wrong. He gives the following example:
A man is in the grocery store, waiting on line. The line is somewhat long, and he has a full cart. The express lane (10 items or less) next to him is empty, and the cashier there says to him, “I’m empty, even though you have a full cart, come to my register and I’ll check you out.”
The man goes to the lane. A minute later, someone with 2 items comes over, and now has to wait in line for someone with a full cart at the express lane. Did the man do anything wrong? No, he was following the instructions of the employee. However, it creates an appearance of something wrong, and can cause a chillul Hashem, which is wrong. R’ Finkelman suggests that the person should have turned to the guy with 2 items, apologized, and explained what happened, to avoid the chillul Hashem.
Going on the TV show can easily create an appearance of a chillul Hashem. Whether they’re right or wrong, whether they lied or not, doesn’t matter. Going on the show created a chillul Hashem.
We know who is really macho:
Azehu gibor? Kol hakovesh es yitzro!
I was visiting some family last night for a Chanukah party, and I showed the video to my brother in law and his wife. He immediately said “Oh my God! I know them! They used to be our neighbors, but recently moved to Brooklyn!”
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What does the last line mean exactly?
I don’t think it’s anything we can truly comprehend. Where are they? Do they exist on a physical level, or only on a spiritual level? After all, it’s not your body that goes there, it’s your soul, which isn’t physical. However, there are places that mention a physical part to them (such as the Gemara which mentions the hole in the ground where a thread dipped in was singed and Korach’s children could be heard saying Moshe Emes v’Toraso emes).
I’ve heard various things about both places. Imagine the best things in this world. When something good happens, you get a great feeling. Everything seems right. Imagine that feeling multiplied a billion times, and lasting for your entire life. It still doesn’t come close to one second of Gan Eden.
Now imagine the worst things. Times when you feel bad, when things are going wrong. If it were multiplied a billion times for your entire life, it wouldn’t compare to one second in Gehenim.
Can someone post the original lyrics? My yiddish isn’t great, and there are a few words I was never able to make out.
This isn’t my work, I saw it online:
A child of mine, He said,
For you to love while he lives,
It may be four or five years
Or twenty two or three,
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for Me?
And should his stay be brief,
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there,
I want this child to learn.
In my search for teachers true,
I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love,
Not think the labor vain,
Nor shun Me when I come to call
And take him back again?
I fancied that I heard them say,
God, Your will be done,
For all the joy Your child will bring,
Forever grateful stay.
But should God call for him
Much sooner than we planned,
And try to understand.
How big is considered BIG? I once won a pair of diamond earrings for my wife at a chinese auction. They’re worth well over $1,000.
When Sarah Shenirer started teaching, she wasn’t married (she was divorced). She remarried while already teaching.
DVD Shrink. It will also shrink a DVD to fit onto a 4.7 GB DVD. YIt will save the DVD as an .iso file, which you can then burn using any DVD-burning software.
There are already a few threads about this.
Also, please get a spell-checker. Some people here are bad, but you’re at a whole new level.
Bagels are not boiled long enough to actually cook them through – it’s probably not even the minimum shiur of being done a third of the way. Because of that, it would probably not be allowed.
In any case, if you use a tureen to serve the soup, it’s a non-issue, because the bowl is either a kli shlishi or revi’i (depending on the status of the ladle).
If you are not 100% sure you want to marry someone, then don’t do it! Marriage is not something to fool around about.