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Bpt- I respectfully disagree with you. Our school is very safe,our guards are not rent a cops,they are the real thing. They are also young,not in their 50s. They are all armed and they know who belongs to the school and who doesn’t. There were 2 incidents this year of outsiders trying to get in the building,they were promptly grabbed and thrown on the floor and cuffed. And the police dept came and arrested them to boot. Our school,as well as our shuls are very well taken care of. The guards know who is part of the community and who isn’t. They stand on the corner of the street,not inside,and they see the comings and goings of the whole street. I am actually very surprised that people aren’t taking this subject seriously. It’s something I always think about when I am in other schools that are not my childrens,as I wrote about in my earlier post.
I agree with you totally. My kids school has about 6 or 8 security guards posted in front of as well as inside the entrance of the school. They know all the kids as well as the parents. They can spot in a second someone who is a new face, like a new teacher/substitute,or as demonstrated recently,someone who has evil intentions,and they take care of the situation before the person is IN the building.
In contrast to my school,I substitute in a couple of girls schools in flat bush and I have to say the lack of security is very obvious. In one school they have glass doors that require you to be buzzed in after the person at the front desk looks at you,but that person is a very sweet older lady who has to be in her high 70s or low 80s! She is no match c”vs for an armed person who can get thru the glass doors in a second. When I go there for work I always think of the difference in security. The second school has one much older man,who I don’t think is armed manning the front desk. Any quick and fast criminal can take him down in no time as he is heavy and obviously walks slowly due to a bad leg. And his English is no good either.
Oh,I should mention that in my kids school the guards ARE armed. The families all have to pay like 500$ every school year for security,in addition to tuition and registration and book fees. But I don’t think anyone minds the extra expense.
It’s kind if the same dilemma like when you are with someone at a restaurant and they get something stuck in their teeth! Would you tell them or not? I would want to be told if it were me,but I would,I admit,have difficulty telling that to someone else!
heres something somewhat related to the topic,but not so much cuz its spring-snow is like a MIL. it comes for a half hour but causes trouble for 2 weeks after!
cute,no? and soooo true.
choc-ummmm wats a url?
I have nothing against ya,knish,but,like I said before,you gotta stop screaming at us with all these caps on….can’t you just talk without shouting? Other then that,I don’t really have an oppinion about your posts……
Sorry,should read NAAH,not nash,this iPad is very into self correcting whatever I write!
Nash, I’ve got better things to be doing at 4am!
Um,if you find that out,let me know too!
What’s up,knish? Why are you screaming??
IMHO, there is no such thing as a cheap vacation. You get what you pay for. Im not saying you need thousands to have a nice stay,but if it sounds too good to be true,it probably is,and you really dont need that when you are far from home. My reccomendation would be to try and find a “reasonable” vacation,but not a “cheap” one.
Maybe tell us what your budget is and we can try and brainstorm together on this!
Good luck!
Jolly- not necessarily.
Sac-bravo! Well said!
It’s funny you should ask….years ago when I was more idealistic,a shidduchim was redt to me and after inquiring,I found out that this boy wore a blue shirt under his suit on shabbos. So I rejected the idea. But you see,fate works in funny ways,because then I got the same exact suggestion from someone else,a real chashuv man. When I told him I already checked and this guy was not for me,he said that I should go out and try it because this person is very ehrlich and a good catch. I really was not so into this whole idea….but it’s good I listened,because he is my husband and although he wears a colored shirt,he is a very decent,upstanding,frummer then many “white shirts” and lots of other nice things that I don’t need to publicize!
So,no,colored shirts shouldn’t matter.
But I know that unfortunately,some do judge by the clothes a person wears.
Oomis-i have a close relative that has a child with celiac. In answer to quest. 1-no. A person with celiac cannot have any amount of gluten. Even if they won’t necessarily feel the effects,as in this person being asymptomatic,the gluten still damages the lining of the intestine.
And for your second question,gluten won’t cause the same type of airborne reaction,however,you do need to be careful of cross contamination,I.e. The serving spoons,and the stuff on the plates,use separate serving pieces for anything with gluten. It goes without saying that the celiac sufferer cannot have just the soup from the matzah ball soup,as this is cross contaminated.
Hope that helped.
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In my circle/community,the bigger the wedding the better. Weddings by us cost upwards of a hundred thousand dollars. This is the norm. The hall by itself that is the ” in” place is at least 50G for the most basic package.
There is no way DH and I can afford to do that for our daughters,who are young still,but I am still thinking about it.
I proposed an idea to DH and my family,only to get yelled at from all sides. Simply put,I would make the wedding at the “in” place,but on a Sunday afternoon,and serve only desserts. My thinking is why should I put myself in debt so that “the people” can eat steak,and lamb chops and whatnot.
Husband and in laws,and family said to me to stop taking like that,because lest the word come out that I don’t want to do a wedding,my girls will not get “good” suitors,
I’m still not falling for it. My girls ate great,they will get what is good for them. No??
Husband says not true,he knows many,many stories in which guys were told about a particular nice girl and were all gung-ho to go out with her,but when the prospective father in law told the young man about his making a scaled down wedding,the young men,ALL said no and wouldn’t even meet the girl. DH said he knows f at least 3 guys this happened with.
So what are young families to do?? We hold back on things when they are young so we can save up for thier wedding,so that the guests can et a good meal and they can get a groom.
Makes perfect sense,right???
I’m willing to do the dessert thing,even at a different ” not in” place.but my community unfortunately won’t hear of it.
We thought my little son (3yrs) might have nodules because he was also very hoarse sounding. I kept thinking he had strep,we did a lot of cultures on him,like one every few weeks since i kept taking him to the pediatrician and that’s what Drs do when you bring in a kid that has a hoarse voice. Needless to say,the cultures were always negative(this went on from the end of the summer,till around early nov. When I finally had enough and took him to an ent. He looked with his very strong light that was strapped to his forehead and he said that my sons throat was coated in white as were his tonsils and there was no way a pediatrician could see that far down with just the Popsicle stick and his little light. He gave him strong antibiotics for 2 weeks and said we should see an improvement. We didn’t right away,but after day 8 or so,he was not so hoarse,then it went away totally. So maybe,you have a bad throat infection?
Also the ent had told me if he didn’t respond to the antibiotics,it’s probably a nodule and he would send him to a speech therapist who would teach him how to breathe and speak properly without straining his voice and vocal chords. But first he would have to scope him to make sure. I’m happy BH he got better without all this. But maybe you should check if it really is nodules.
A lot of my friends send thier little ones to Sophia Dabbah. She is around a thousand $ for the summer,I think from 9-3,shorter day on fri. She is located on east 10 bet ave o and n or o and p. I don’t know her # but you can probably google her. If you have trouble finding her,post again and I’ll ask my friend for her #. Everyone loves her.
Moshy-smooth,very smooth and subtle.
I should learn….. ( ;
I know,right?
AHEM…….cough,cough……aaaahhhhheeeeemmmmmmmmm……..hmmmmm,how about a mayorette??
I’m just sayin,you know……
Thanks so much! I’m so happy with the good service! Quick and reliable! Yay!
Thanks mods,I love it, but could you just get rid of the extra s in queens?
I’ve been asking since forever…. I want one too!!
I have another question about gum. I know a lot of people in my circle allow themselves and their families to chew unkosher gum,like wrigleys,trident etc. Not the Israeli ones,the ones made here in America,and their reasoning is that it is not being eaten,so it is ok to chew. My father never allowed that,so I am stringent with myself and my kids and do not allow them to chew this unkosher gum. What do you all think about that? Who is right? Can we be makel or should we be machmir? Please don’t tell me to ask my rabbi,as I dont feel I have to,as this gum doesn’t interest me,and my kids are fine with the kosher stuff. I was just asking just to ask…..
I had to comment on this. I tried to refrain,but I’m sorry,I couldn’t.
Where is the trust you all have,in yourselves,and in your h.s.kids?
Must you block yourselves out of your own ” toy “? Then don’t buy the toy to begin with. My kids are all not h.s. Age,and each one has thier own computer and cell phone. They are all unblocked. But I TRUST THEM. and they know that if they mess up,they will lose my trust,and it will take very long to get it back,not to mention,to get back the device that I would take away if they mess up with it.
People,have faith in the kids you are raising,and in yourselves. It’s not good to totally shelter yourselves and kids. Allow freedom,within reason. It’s a known fact that if you stifle and ” choke” your kids,then it is much easier for them to rebel.
Let’s just be normal!
The Bikur Cholim of Brooklyn is NOT on McDonald ave and avr r or s. It is actually on McDonald ave bet kings hwy and Quentin rd. Right across the street from the plumbing supply. Let me just tell you that this particular place doesn’t give away your used things to needy people. This location is a thrift store so anyone off the street can walk in and purchase for very cheap,your things. The money raised is used to aid the needy in the Sephardic Bikur Holims many programs.
Hey….am I late?? Can I get one too?? Pretty please with a cherry on top….
its way too early in the morning for me(and my stomach)to be reading this….
Health-yes,I’ve had not one,but two bad experiences personally with Maimonides. I agree withHomeowner totally,I wouldn’t bring my dog there. Suffice it to say that I am lucky to be alive after what the butcher in Maimonides did to me and I had to have 2surgeries to undo the damage he caused. Even till today the situation is not perfect,but BH manageable. This is not motzei Shem ra,this is veahavta leraiacha komocha,in warning my sisters and brothers to stay far away from Maimonides.
I’ve had excellent experiences in Columbia. It’s clean,the Drs.are amazing-knowledgeable,smart,great bedside manner,excellent in relating with the patient and family,well versed with the Jewish laws,kind and understanding. We should never need a hospital,but this this one I wouldn’t mind going to if needed.
Health-I don’t know anything about queens gen,kingsbrook,or Winthrop,but I can sure tell you that coney island stinks,even hatzolla won’t take someone there even if they are dying,and Maimonides isn’t any better. They are conveniently located which is probably why so many Jewish people use them,but they are known not to be courteous,not very knowledgeable,and in general,just butchers. They are filthy and the nurses are very overworked and overly rude. Don’t go there if you value your life. City hospitals are much better,
I had 2 endoscopies done on my son,one when he was 5 months and another one when he was 10 months. He is now 4 so I dont remember exactly how the fasting was, I think he couldn’t eat or drink after 2 or 3 in the morning because he was scheduled for his test to be around 9.
He didn’t exhibit any symptoms of anything going wrong after the test.he ate and drank a bottle like regular when we cake home. I did this in a city hospital and felt like we were in good hands. They did want to see him be able to drink before we left the hosp.
happiest, you sound like you are on the road to recovery. You may have a bit of work ahead of you,but you are going in the right direction. The way you are open about things that are so sensitive shows that. Keep up the good work and good luck!
Health-yes that was pretty much what i was thinking…
Wolf im loving your last 2 posts! Excellently said!
happiest-never despair. Ive had some tragedy in my life-cant get too specific at the risk of being recognized-but I also at one point thought that same way. I didnt have a mental illness,so to speak,but after what I went thru I did become depressed. I saw an amazing therapist, for around 5 years and she really helped me. If I can get married and raise a family, you sure can. The important thing is to have a good therapist/Dr. that you can connect with. If you dont click with one,go out and find one that you do click with. It is so important to be on the same page with your therapist. And find a support system, someone that you can vent to and cry to every so often,when you are in between sessions.
I would also put off dating until YOU feel ready to get started. It doesnt matter that now you are at the age to start. You need to feel it from within. Dont get forced into meeting someone if you are not ready. Its ok. We all have our own personal timetables. Just because your friends and your sisters etc. started dating at this age,doesnt mean that you do do too. I learned in my life that you need to do what is good for you when its good for you. We dont live for others.
Good luck!
Smartcookie- I am echoing you exactly! Ironing and laundry is what I hate!
Can someone please invent self- folding laundry?!
Love the ” oh klalah”!
I agree with you Happiest. I wanted to know what everyone thinks about kids withADHD, is that counted as a mental issue? Or is it more behavioral? Anyway,what do you think about medicating children? Do it and hopefully the child gets a second chance at success,or don’t do it because of fears that the medicine is “dangerous” and also because of the stigma that a person in the family is on medicine and risk this child falling trough the cracks and not finding success in life,but at least we can tell the shadchanim that we are a perfect family?!