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Whats the reason that some ppl have a “boot” on the side of their face?
I thought yankdownunder was referring to havdalah in general-not just the 9 days.
Why is it really that bad?
My little cousin calls me this and it sort of stuck…
We do it too-my father has in mind he is being yotzei the child and the child has it in mind it too.
Reminds me of a student i had who was a selective mute. It was really a nebach. I won’t go into details on how he was in class-but it was pretty bad. In short, he didn’t write a thing(e/t he was able to), didn’t do his homework…Anyway the Rebbi and the main teacher were so amazing. They showered him with encouragement, attention, humor….and the students caught on too, they would also encourage him -“c’mon you can do it!”…by the end of the year he wrote beautifully, did his hmwk, did school projects, by recess his desk was crowded by classmates, and he was the kid e/o wrote down to be in his class for next year. His popularity shot up. No he doesn’t talk (and believe me we tried) but this kid won’t be a nobody all because of his caring mentors.
Nice story!
sms-I enjoy reading your post. Just proves that there is nothing to difficult for Hashem to do. As long as you put in your hishtadlus, Hashem fills in the rest even if it doesn’t make sense to us.
shev-maybe try precious elegance im BP, they have nice gowns for extremely low prices. Good luck, and Mazal tov!
oommis-I don’t understand why you are so against my teacher. All she did was mention that college, support…is not e/t in life for everyone. For every person different measures work best. For her, she is able to support her family while her husband learns. Good for her. She is NOT encouraging us to do the same, she is just showing that Baruch Hashem, it works for her nicely and no, she is not one of the paupers in town. There is no set rule for everyone. If it works for you kol hakovod, and if it doesn’t kol hakavod too.
Maybe s/o should just clarify what all the types of ppl mean-or else we are gonna have a million threads!
p.s when s/o asks me what type I am i just say “Jewish”, you can’t go wrong.
sms-Wow! Its really amazing that you can live like that. just shows that $ isn’t e/t…
Dr pepper and oomis.My teacher was not pushing us to marry learning boys-she was just trying to prove that it is possible to have a husband learning in kollel even though she is not being supported. This is really where emunah comes in.
“No family exists on the wife’s teaching paycheck.Impossible.”
Obviously her extra source of income is all orchestrated from Hashem, because she is doing her hishtadlus. I firmly beleive that if a person wants it very badly and they know they might have to sacrifice things here or there, but generally live a normal life than definitly go ahead. And i don’t think it was wrong of the teacher to say this bec. she was not pushing down a/o who are not like this-she was just trying to prove a point.
We asked a sheila regarding underwear and shells, and its not a problem for us.
aries-Don’t be so quick to judge the boy, it sounds as if the mother has to grow up a little bit after all she is the one who “turned her nose up”-not him.
If you would have asked me this question a couple of years ago, I would have answered she should just give up her dream of having a learning boy and be realistic. But i had a very inspiring teacher who told us that she really wanted a learning boy and her parents could not support. Her family thought she was crazy when she married her husband-who is learning full time. She “supports” her (large) family by being a teacher. She said its amazing how she sees that parnassah is from Hashem. She said if thats what you truly want and you do your hishtadlus than the rest is up to Hashem. So my answer-if this is what you deep down want than go for it.
myfriend, no matter wich way you slice it when someone gets married they are going to be out in the “big bad world.” Its impossible to be sheltered your whole life, unless you coop yourself up the whole day and night in your house. You have to learn techniques to live out there and s/o thats been there already obviously has more of a certain sense of maturity to s/o thats fresh out of seminary. Im not saying not to get married at 18, im just pointing out that above 18 is (more than) fine too.
myfriend-just to be clear, 18 might be ideal but if a person does not get married at 18, there is nothing wrong with them. Many ppl mature when they are older-especially when they are out in the “big ” world and not just coming fresh out of their sheltered school.
I imagine a person will face judgement if he could have used his extra money for tzeddaka and instead used it on elaborate things. Also if his weddings, house, cars…caused ayin hara, chilul Hashem…that might also be wrong. But if not kal hakovod i guess.
yossi-there are no set requirements. Everyone is different and ones requirement may not be yours. As long as you are stable and mature to go into marriage thats fine.Im Yirtzeh Hashem the right one will come for you. Wishing you lots of Hatzlacha.
I am sure you are thinking that while you are eating it:) Maybe I should say i eat eggsalad for that reason.
myfriend many of the youngsters witted moronic, sophomoric…..requirements are really a reflection of what their parents want.
lol! I guess the immature youngsters should get advice from their wise parents and the mature young adults should not listen to their immature parents “advice.”
“And parents probably have a better idea what is right that an 18 year old shnook.” Unfortunately, i have to disagree somewhat with you. Nowadays what i hear what some parents “want” for their child is immature and childish. Im not saying this as a generall thing-there are many wise parents out there(like mine:)) who know these matters and are great to get advice from, but definitely the boy/girl should have a massive say after all they are the ones getting married!
It was right before one of my siblings wedding and there were so many things to take care of-appointments, fittings…and one of my brothers-in-law came with his car and offered to be our chaueffer for the day-it was a massive chessed for us.
I notice many of such boys are the ones that block entrances to vorts and weddings while smoking and staring at e/o who comes in-which make it impossible for ladies to come in and out without having any physical contact with them. Its a shame.
got you:) but i still beleive in the second part of my response.
I don’t know which kinus you went to that the rebbitzens were dresses like “clowns…” it sounds like you are insinuating that these are the rebbitzens today-which are most definitley not! But whatever the case is i don’t agree its their fault. The blame is on us alone. There is so much talk about tzniyus there is definitly a massive awareness on this subject, its just that ppl DON’T CARE! I definitely agree that there is a “fire raging in our neighborhoods!”
Also books that are about survivors personal experiences during the holocaust really inspire me-the’re emunah even in the hardest of times are amazing.
I guess being Jewish does have its advantages when you are in called for jury. I heard this funny story from a lady that her husband was chosen to serve in a jury-I think its called “sequested?” or something-that means that you can’t go home until the trial ends and they provide you with accomidations and food because they don’t want you to have any outside influence. Anyway he wanted to get himself out of it bec, he had no interest spending a couple of weeks cooped up in some hotel, so he told the judge, “ok if you want me here im gonna need kosher food, I have to be allowed to pray 3 times a day in a synagogue, keep shabbos….” The judge just looked at him and told him to GO HOME! pretty easy, no?
Gross!!!!
msseeker-I disagree with point #3. Unfortunalety nowadays even some chassidim are not dressing tzniyus You can’t even tell if they are litvish/chassidish-at least where I live. And believe me rabbonim have come out regarding tzniyus-ppl are just not willing to accept it.
SJ-I couldn’t agree more. I like the way you phrased the last line.
I don’t believe it is intentional that ppl are not giving-there are just so many organizations out there.
Ok this was a great way to start off my day of work. I had reopened this thread last week to get a recipe and look how the topic changed dramatically. Thanks guys-I just had my morning laugh:)
Kasha- Lets say the Jewish store owner dosn’t sell pritzus clothing-fine, ppl will find a goyish store to shop in to get what they want anyway. All i’m trying to say its e/o’s bechira whether they dress tzniyus or not- not any one elses. As for the husbands, i do agree that they have an achrayus on what their wife wears-but nevertheless again, its SHE who is the who bought it-she should know better.
This thread makes me laugh. It seems here that everyone is trying to shift the blame onto e/o but themselves. It is NOT the storeowners, designers, or the husbands fault. Everyone is responsible for themselves! the storowner can sell any clothing she likes-not necessarily for her jewish clientele (you’d be surprised that somme goyim shop there)And if she does sell s/t innapropriate WALK AWAY! no one is asking you to buy it!. Buy buying it you are showing that your yetzer hara rules over you-that you have to give in to your taavos. Its scary! The same is for the designers. And by the way whoever is under the assumption that only designer clothes makes a woman feel well dressed-is not true. There are many nice, tzniyus clothing out there that do not have that fancy logo on them. Just open your eyes. As for the husbands-true they should have a say in what their wives/kids wear-but if they still wear it there is no one to blame but them unless their husband bedavka says wear it. (which unfortunately may happen) Other than that its e/o’s own choice what they wear. Furthermore there are plenty of awareness on tzniyus out there-whether its books, speeches.. You just have to be willing to accept it.
I would like to add that if your child is NOT ready, don’t push them up! I had an experience in a bungalow colony where one mother decided to push her son into the older bunk e/t he was not ready (it was really for her pride) and the kid was miserable, he was tagging along w/ the big boys, and his counselor got yelled at…it was very unpleasant.
As an October baby, my mother said to definitely keep me in the grade and not keep me back. A very smart move on her part. I was mature enough for school and there was no reason to have me wait another year to start. Its interesting because in school I wasn’t even considered the youngest- there were at least ten classmates who were younger than me. I guess if you see if your child is ready-definitely send them.
“At the very least the store owner should feel a responsibility to make sure that anyone who tries on clothing in her store should be allowed to buy it only if it conforms to the her own standards of tzniyus. How can I sell you something that goes against my own principles?”
DerechHamelech firstly, its not the store owners responsibility, and secondly everyone has their own level of tzniyus-it does not make any sense to force shoppers to conform to the owners personal opinion on whether something is tzniyus or not-its the shoppers. They will have their own din vecheshbon after 120-it has nothing to do with the owner.
I would like to add that many stores have a sign in the dressing room that say Halachos of tzniyus, as well as a mirror and a chair for that purpose.
I find it interesting that ppl are bashing Jewish stores for selling “pritzus” clothing and thats whats causing the problems. I think its safe to say that majority of shoppers shop in goyish malls where they do not necessarily cater to tzniyus needs. (Not saying that we shouldn’t shop there-we just have to be careful.)
I just heard this crazy story that the mother of the boy wanted to know if the girl went to a certain seminary-which she did not, so the mother imediately said no. When asked “But what if your son won’t mind?” -she said thats what she is afraid of-that they will like each other and marry and she won’t end up getting her______seminary girl!!
As far as i’m concerned the boy is marrying the girl-not the mother-no?
I didnt read all the jokes yet so I don’t know if it was said yet. If it was well its funny enough to hear again..
In an Israeli hospital three fathers wait anxiously in the waiting room while their wives are giving birth. A doctor comes out and goes to the first father and says “mazel tov your wife just gave birth to quadruplets!” The man said, “that is so funny because i live in kiryas arbeh!” The doctor goes to the 2nd father and says, “Mazel tov your wife gabe birth to 7 babies!” And the father said,”that cute bec. i live in be’er sheva!” suddenly the 3rd father, pale, runs out of the room. The doctor looking puzzled asked “whats the matter with him, doesn’t he want too hear how many kids he has?” one of the fathers answered “well he lives in me’ah she’arim….”
I always substitite seltzer for water and it came out hard-ill try the baking soda next time though-thanx.
LAer very good! Did you know the riddle beforehand or you just guessed it?
Does anyone have a good recipe to make them fluffy? I switched to whole wheat matzah meal and the consistancy is much thicker than regular and they are coming out hard.
So George comes out of a bar at night, goes to the house, goes up to the top floor, closes the lights and goes to bed. The next morning he looks out the window and he jumps out to his death. Something he saw caused him to commit suicide-what did see??
Then i guess the “sheker” that i posted is “sheker” just proves what this thread is about:)
Bp Totty this quiz is pretty “sheker”
1) How long did the Hundred Years War last? 116 years
2) Which country makes Panama hats? Ecuador
3) From which animal do we get cat gut? Sheep and Horses
4) In which month do Russians celebrate the October Revolution? November
5) What is a camel’s hair brush made of? Squirrel fur
6) The Canary Islands in the Pacific are named after what animal? Dogs
7) What was King George VI’s first name? Albert
8) What color is a purple finch? Crimson
9) Where are Chinese gooseberries from? New Zealand
10) What is the color of the black box in a commercial airplane? International Orange (of course)