bein_hasdorim

Sound interesting, I’ll B”H check it out!

Shulem Aleichem 105! I still havent figured out the sequence…….

don’t worry though we have our best, on the job.

Welcome to the CR! Can I offer you virtual doughnuts, & a cup of coffee?

Gamliel

even though there is a famous rov & mekubal in EY,

it still is very uncommon.

then there is Odam,

Sheim Chom, Yofes, Enosh, Cain, Hevel, Lemech,

Zurich, Gimpel, Zlateh,

Eisav, Elifaz, Lavan, Besuel, Oig, Golias,

Women, there’s

Zeresh, Vashti, Machsheifa, and……..Shviger

a combination of Shvi as in “to sit” Gur as in “to live”

Cuz she bazetzes herself wherever she wants, as if she owns the place.

Then, she marks her territory and you could forget about her leaving,

If anybody is leaving, it’s you!

coming up this thursday again acording to some.

You have to understand, some people are very machmir when it comes to this Minhag.

aj_briskdude: Yidden who smoke in public around other people are

Choteh Umachti Es Horabim, be it Beratzon or Beshoygeig!!!

Any young Shnook who started smoking in the past 15 years is

(unless living in a bubble) was well aware of

1) its dangers to health (which makes it an Issur D’oraisah)

2) I’ts addictive nature. If almost every scientist and doctor says that if one

drinks a cup of bleach or ammonia they are putting their life in danger,

just because an idiot doesn’t believe them, that doesn’t make his choice to start

smoking muttar even if his friend are doing it.

(It doesn’t make him an Oines in my opinion either) rather a Shoiteh!

Al tifoish min hatzibbur is not said when the tzibbur is being oiver Isurim.

The diiference is only they dont immediately see the slow process of death

for it is slow, that still makes them Shoitim.

If the doctor told most of these boys they had one week left to live

you would see how many would kick the habit, even the most addicted.

This is different than those older people who are already dying

and refuse to stop smoking. that is a choice they make not to lose

the enjoyment they get cause they’re anyway on death’s doorstep.

I apologize to any who feel I’m speaking to harshly, but I feel

this is Sakanos Nefashos and a WAKE UP call is in order.

By holding your hand and telling you it’s ok.. I understand….

it will not help you get out of this miserable quicksand you stepped into.

May HB”H give Sechel to all those nebach who need it, and help them

see the light!!!

LOL! I make typos, but their not that off! 😉

which joseph? the real one? the imposter? I don’t even remember anymore.

I guess I’m middle aged too!

There are so many songs, Yedid Nefesh, IDK who sings it it’s an older one,

though the other two are also very hartzig,

Machnisei Rachamim,

A Fried, Aleh katan Sheli,

MBD, Neshomoleh.

1)Im Yirtzeh Hashem Baaah Deeeer uooooof Simchas, Bekuuuriv Maaamish!!!

2)Den you give a Big Vink Wit Di Eye,

If to di opposite gender, den skip part 2.

Shidduch Solution; “College” i’m sorry too haifagirl.

To Cheerful; I sincerely feel for you in the situation you’re in.

I knew a girl with a similar situation. She didn’t communicate

with her parents till it was too late.

I have an idea that might help you convey your feelings to your parents

in a subtle way. Tell them you had a conversation with a friend of yours.

Tell them your friend has a friend that poured out her heart to her in cofidence.

Tell them she said that her parents, siblings and friends are expecting her to

marry a learning boy. She however is not looking for that type of boy,

her parents and friends are clueless to this fact.

Tell them her parents are not really the understanding type, and she has never told them for fear of them not understanding or being shunned.

She is a little older now and she fears she will never get married for her parents expect her to marry what they want. Tell your parents that you are at a loss for words

what kind of advice would they suggest you tell your friend.

This will plant the seed in their mind about the possiblity of such a situation.

Then you can also see their real opinion on the matter, without them feeling threatened or being biased.

Do this Cheerful, in your own words of course, in a way that they are sure you

are talking about a real story, about someone ELSE!

a wee or so later you can do one of three things,

1)Either start hinting to your (mother) or father rather, men are more rational, and wont be ruled by emotion, which will make your message easier to sink in.

2)Confide in a rational, reasonable, aunt, uncle,mentor, or teacher, that will help you approach your parents with the reality

of the situation.

3)Tell them flat out, one time in front of both of them, and when they start protesting tell them that they’re contraditing their own advice regarding that fictitious girl (really you).

This last approach is bold and is like pulling off a bandage stuck with hair off

in one shot. don’t try it unless your ready for a shouting match,

and if your parents are really unreasonable, pack a bag with clothes,

and stay by a friend for a few days. A single one of course,

wouldn’t want to start a whole other thread in CR with backlash on this comment.

Hatzlocha Raboh!!! Remember the CR has your back!

Yes telegrok; I bought a new tie L’kovod the L’chaim IY”H.

positiveaynayim; Nobody will argue with you about the importance of verbal

encouragement, proper chinuch, and letting the kids know there is more to

yiddishkeit then all this the prizes and rewards, however, speaking from experience with kids, i can tell you that a prize/reward sweetens the deal, and kids

always appreciate it if done in a proper way.

1) working hard, 2)getting rewarded, 3)feeling the prize was deserved.

It seem to me that you are not talking about prizes, rather about people who

don’t know how to be proper mechanchim. Just like discipline is very necessary

tool in Chinuch, however done the wrong way can be catastrophic.

We need to educate our Teachers. A freilichin Chanukah!

Es Shat Nisht far Di Kinderlach to look forward to Chanukah,

as they do Purim, and Pesach for the afikoimen.

Midoich sheloy lishmah boh Lishmah.

oomis1105; You know him TOO?!!!

haifagirl; Thanks, I tried to make a valid point though! 🙂

ronrsr; Neither! His cousin once removed originally from the U.S. he made an aliyah

to be more adventurous, for the book of course!

APPLE SAUCE?!! ewww! I eat em plain or with some heinz ketchup.

Shikur; if your going thru the trouble of making applesauce,

why not add two tablespoon of bourbon?

not for kids though, unless…. it’s past their bed time! 😉

I’ve heard my opinions discussed by chasunas, bein_hasdorim claims that

it is a din in the Gavrah. I almost choked, sprayed my soda across the table,

then after getting weird looks from everyone at the table, I said what?

That is ridiculous! everyone knows it is a din in the Cheftza! 😉

hilary18;

This is a very complicated matter. There are many factors to consider.

Firstly though, if the boy wants a picture of the girl, he should provide

a picture of himself too. If not, too bad! The girls is to get a preview

just as much as the boy is. He has no right over her.

Now, having said that, the main reason for this picture phenomenon,

originally, is for boy who has to travel out of town for a girl.

Which is an inconvenience, if it turns out that her looks aren’t to his satisfaction. This could’ve been avoided simply by looking at a picture of her.

Problem

1)

There are some people who are not photogenic.

They may have a major Chein, that just doesn’t register in a photo.

2)There are also those who photograph well, though the friend redting the shidduch

may have a bad photo of the girl. like eating salad, her mouth half open,

which she thinks is cute, but you don’t. or a pic taking when she was yawning or blinking, which may make her look insane, though she isn’t.

3)It could also be of when she was in high school and wasn’t so into her hair etc..

Though now, a year later, she looks like a different person.

So you really generally, can’t judge by a picture!!!

I am an expert at getting a good idea of a person physically, from a picture,

I even once told the shadchan that the girl was too tall based

on a photo of her sitting down alone. Though he promised she wasn’t over

5’10, I ended up being right, as I later found. On the date It was like deja vu.

Then I remembered my visit to the safari and i calmed down.

Though I must admit, there were times I was pleasantly surprised,

even after seeing a photo and being very doubtful.

So I suggest,(with serious experience in this matter) to anybody in the parsha,

if you want to see a photo, use it just to get a general idea,

and decide to give them a chance in person, no matter what.

Except for instance if you are slim looking for a slim mate,

and the photo reveals that the person is totally the opposite of that,

then it is fair to say, it is not what you are looking for.

Or vice versa.

A simple Happy Holidays, should suffice.

Shulem Aleichem!! Muderaitur 77! S’iz Gut Az du hust der numer 77.

Dos Iz Azoi viy der mittel fun der yuhr 5/77/0.

It is also the gematriah of “Az”, as in Hevei Az Kanamer.

Hatzlocha Raboh!

I think the lack of security was due to the man presently residing there.

They have companies that have a hechsher for use on Shabbos. I remember seeing the advertisements. However please check into the Rabannim who are matir,

if they are reputable, for this seems to reek of a business venture, rather than

a serious restructuring of a product, to create a new worry free, L’katchiloh,

Super Wipe, that manages to miraculously contain moisture yet avoid any possibility

of Chillul Shabbos.

Chas V’shalom To even consider that Yaakov Avinu married Rachel for her looks.

The Torah merely tells us that Rachel Imeinu was not only beautiful on the inside,

but on the outside as well. Rachel was his Zivug, as indicated when Yosef was born,

Yaakov was ready to leave Lavan. (please see Rashi Z”L for more details)

That is also why he made for Yosef the Kesones Pasim. Yosef is reffered to by Chazal

as Tzaddik. Also elaborated in Sifrei Chassidus.

If the girl you like, based on her middos, personality, etc.. happens to be pretty,

Kol Hakavod! If not, So what? The middos and personality will be a factor in building a Bayis Ne’man, not her looks. Though I cannot stress enough, the importance of liking the general appearance of your future spouse. That’s it though.

Any more delving in ridiculous shtusim as if a size 5 or 6 makes the girl a better mother for your children, or that if she went to seminary plonit instead of Plonis, makes her unacceptable, C’mon people! Wake up! When your still single at 40, I think

you’ll have plenty of time to ponder where you went wrong with your over-analyzing

petty, Gaivah’dige ways. Would you want your real basherteh to over-analyze you when you get redt to her, turning you down cause you do not measure up to her high standards? Leave the Cheshboinois To HB”H. If the Shidduch sound like they have good middos, a warm family. I dont mean middos, as in dress size, and i dont mean warm as in hefty bank account. Then you’ll find your Basherteh much faster.