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Boys have lists to choose from. As far as I know, girls don’t. It’s a flawed system, but it does work for many people, but not all. There are too many singles out there and people feel forced to marry by a certain age, even when they are not ready.
takahmamash: Agudah has lots of Yekkish minhagim.
There have been some of the lost tribes found already. Sheivet Dan , for example. There is an organization in Israel that works on discovering them and has had some success that Rabbonim have agreed with their finds.
takahmamash: Best question yet!!
Users, Baltimore has 2 shuls that are Yekkish. Glen Avenue and Agudah.
takahmamash is right, you belong in Israel.
John, I remember the same thing, except, that the Chofetz Chaim said that after part 2 (WWII), there would be a different type of war unlike anything we’ve ever seen. The war on terror seems to qualify.
Go back and explain the situation to the second Rabbi. He should have no problem being your Rov, since the first one obviously dropped you. His attitude towards you is proof that you made the right decision in switching.
There are some great lease deals available on new cars, for under $200/month. You may need a cosigner depending on credit.
It is far from the most densely populated place. That’s just propaganda. They have room to demand an airport and sea port. You need room for that, right?
Anyway, they have more room now, but we should have given them even more space.
awaitingdawn: writersoul is right. The bottom line is, that Israel is safe. Things happen everywhere and you have to be diligent no matter where you are.
Hopefully, your seminary will educate you as to the proper behaviors. While I won’t go into Arab communities, I have to drive through an Arab business district. B”H, we have not had any problems. This is our Country, Hashem is with us. Be wise in what you do, but have no fear of coming here.
I bought a “BLU” 5.0 screen on amazon for $139. It’s unlocked and works great.
Francorachel3: I have seen children who were molested and you can tell there is a problem. Their whole demeanor is different.
I know the family involved and I know the lawyer. She recommends often that the wife make that accusation. It was hardly the first time. Also, in private, the wife admitted as such. She couldn’t recant because she made the accusation under oath and could be charged with perjury.
This woman lawyer went through a nasty divorce herself and plays very dirty. It’s common knowledge among many people in that community. People are falsely accused all the time. I have no sympathy for molesters. They should be locked up and the key thrown away.
The whole smartphone issue is a bunch of nonsense. Those same people have computers with internet access. A smartphone or computer can be used constructively or abused. The same can be said about anything. Maybe people should poke their eyes out to avoid seeing anything improper?
Some Bochur once wrote about a girl not being tznius because she wore a seatbelt. Things just get so absurd. Look at the entire person and see if she is right for you. The smartphone is a non-issue proposed by maniacs, like this supposed Rov in Bnai Brak holding exorcisms for smartphones. You posted here, so you have a computer with internet access. Why is a smartphone worse than your computer?
Satmar just wants to blame Zionists for everything. In 1933, Zionists were working with Germany to try to get Jews to go to Palestine. The American Jewish Congress presumably led a boycott because of anti-Jewish sentiments and activities within Germany.
In general, a man withholding a Get is wrong and is hurting himself too. Who would want to marry such a person?
I do know of a case where the wife’s lawyer advised her to claim the husband molested his children, so she gets full custody. The man lost his job status over it, yet the claim was false.
He withheld the Get insisting the wife recants the false statement, so he can get his life back. This situation, it seems to me, is one of the few situations where not giving the Get has some merit.
Midos, hashkafah and compatibility are most important. Looks are in the eye of the beholder and can and will change. Marry for money and you’ll live to regret it. Besides, money doesn’t always last either.
From my perspective, if she were my daughter, I would caution her about marrying you. You said that she had other problems with your Rebbe, aside from not feeling comfortable with him. She explained it to you, but you seem to lack concern for her feelings.
Keep in mind, no one, not even your Rebbe is perfect. I have seen some Rabbonim give very poor advice in interpersonal relationship issues. Your Rebbe may be just fine in the Halachic area, but it doesn’t mean he is suitable in every other way.
I don’t feel that you’re mature enough to make that decision now. Speak to your parents about it. I’d bet the girl has a very valid point and has insight that you don’t.
If you can’t consider your wife’s feelings about this, you will probably have that attitude about other things as well. If you want a successful, happy marriage (no matter who you marry), you need to think things through better and mature a little more. In real life, those absolute gender roles are never absolute. A successful marriage is a partnership.