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Joseph – excellent question. Many beit yaakovs won’t let you apply listing a non-kosher number. Even if you explain that you need a non-kosher phone for work purposes and even if the phone is fully filtered. Often they have no actual problem knowing that you have such an alternative phone, they literally just want a kosher number on file with the school whether you use it or not.
Are you asking in the US or Israel? I’ve got a Galaxy J7 Prime, I believe I paid around 1,600 shekels for it. In theory it works well, however I bought it so that so that I could use both my kosher and non-kosher lines on it. However they had to put some special operating system on it that enables the kosher sim card to work and it’s messed up my phone a lot. I’ve had to take it back to the shop multiple times to have it redone until I finally told them to get rid of it completely which they tried but once they install this operating system you can never fully get it back to factory settings, however the problems are manageable.
I started off with a Galaxy S4 and loved it but when it broke I went for a “M’ushar” LG phone. The M’ushar setup was way too restrictive with app options, and things like GPS didn’t work on it. I’m much happier with a regular phone and just slapping Netspark on it for filtering. I also didn’t like the LG as a phone in and of itself as well so I jumped back to Galaxy. I’m a pretty big fan of galaxy phones in general, however I had to replace my wife’s galaxy a few months back and bought her a Xiaomi A2 which works just as well as any Galaxy (although it takes a bit of getting used to as the setup is slightly different). I saw them selling a Xiaomi 6 I believe it was in the store the other day for 550 shekels and if I was in the market for a new phone I would just save a ton of money and buy that.
What do you need the phone for though? Are there certain apps you need or physical capabilities? (i.e. good camera or a lot of memory)
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A) K9
B) NetsparkI would go visit Rebbe Nachman face to face and ask for eitza.
Other than that… assassinate baby hitler maybe?
yid18 – in the back of the M’tok M’dvash on the Zohar it says there is a segula from the author to say perek 13, 13 times a day for 13 days in a row and every day after you finish the set of 13 to daven for whatever you want.
There are a thousand and one things I would like to say about this question but I’m just going to limit it to this – before I went to Uman I always thought Rosh Hashana was about yom hadin and davening for the best possible upcoming year.
While that is all still true and good and well, spending Rosh Hashana in Uman taught me that’s all just the tofel – the ikar of Rosh Hashana is actually about crowning Hashem as the king.
I’ve ordered multiple pairs of glasses from therm and they are just as good quality as any store bought pair I’ve owned. Just make sure you are putting an accurate prescription in. The only problem is since you can’t try the frames on beforehand they may not always look as nice on you as you would have thought, however the price is so cheap that you can afford to be hit or miss to a certain extent. When my boss finds a pair from them he likes he orders about 10 and keeps them in a bowl in his house in case he loses a pair he’ll have lots of backups.
I’ve heard that since the time of the Baal Shem Tov, for the most part kishuf and similar things have for the most part ceased to exist
Ironically enough I was just at the iriyah earlier today to speak to someone about different options for school signup. All our children are currently in chinuch atzmai schools and one of the ladies there told me in a hushed breath to be very careful about what school we move our son to as our daughter’s beit yaakov will do regular checks and if they don’t like the new place we send her brother to they may want to kick her out, even though she’s been there 3 years already and is an exemplary student. She wasn’t saying it as a “vadai” but just a potential scenario to be aware of.
Why not annex Yehuda an the shomron, grant civil protections to all non-Jewish citizens (i.e. you can’t rob or injure a goy, they have the same protection via police/ambulance/fire services as a Jew) but without voting rights or the ability to run for office? Isn’t that roughly what the Rambam says we should do anyway?
From what I understand it’s a general symbol in the middle east mean to ward off ayin hara. That’s why there is often the shape of an eyeball in the middle of it. My Moroccan mother in law often says “chamsa chamsa” as an alternative to “bli ayin hara” or “pu pu pu”
I would imagine Lebanon to be dangerous as if they catch on you are a Jewish foreigner there may be a high chance of kidnapping God forbid. However kever Zevulun is supposed to be in the town of Sidon. It’s a dream of mine to make it there – if you get any information about it could you please post?
If the Rebbe declared himself to be mashiach, could we entertain the fact he made a mistake? Even Rebbe Akiva who had a mistaken hava amina that Bar Kochba was the mashiach? Rebbe Nachman zt”l spoke about how even the biggest tzadikim can make mistakes. He himself told one of chassidim who was wearing a certain coat that he would greet the mashiach in that coat. At a later date he said mashiach’s arrival wouldn’t take place for at least another 100 years. That same chassid asked, “But Rebbe – you told me I would greet mashiach in this coat!” Rebbe Nachman replied, “That’s what I said then, this is what I’m saying now”.
Maybe the Rebbe will have techiat hametim and be mashiach, but until that point in time comes the fact remains that up until now he hasn’t fulfilled the requirements the Rambam listed to qualify as mashiach so why does that make him any better a candidate than any other niftar tzadik? If I remember correctly, when the gemara speaks about the possibility of mashiach being from among those already dead it says if it is so then it would be Daniel hanavi. So if we want to talk about candidates from among the dead shouldn’t we give preference to the one the gemara itself listed?
All the above is assuming the Lubavitcher Rebbe did indeed proclaim himself to be the mashiach. I’ve heard a lot of spiritual algebra that he said so (the nasi hador is the mashiach and the rebbe was nasi hador so x+y = z) however are there any sources the pro Rebbe is mashiach camp can provide us where he straight up said it (i.e. a mamar written somewhere or a video recording of him saying so). Like not just people singing it and him smiling at them but he himself actually saying it b’ferush?
Never heard of this feud before… the idea of it sounds like a bit of a joke. Rebbe Nachman and the Alter Rebbe of Chabad were close friends and supporters of each other. When Napoleon invaded Russia all the Chassidishe rebbes came out in support of him while Rebbe Nachman and the Alter Rebbe were the only two Rebbes to side with the Litvaks on the side of the czar. This came in handy after the invasion was unsuccessful and the czar wanted to exile all chassidim – they were able to show that some chassidim had stayed politically loyal to him.
The Alter Rebbe once told Rebbe Nachman, “You are the Baal Shem Tov’s physical great grandson – I’m his spiritual one” As another poster mentioned the Alter Rebbe defended Rebbe Nachman against his detractors and conversely the Tanya was among the sefarim that Rebbe Nachman encouraged his chassidim to learn.
Fun side note – in Ramot there is a chabad minyan on shabbat that is at least 30-50% Breslovers and there’s a Chabad minyan with their own huge tent in Uman on Rosh Hashana.
LB – I think what RebYidd23 may be referring to, though I could be wrong, is that much of chassidim and chassidus today has differed from the movement the Baal Shem Tov originally started. The Besh”t had an intense focus on the everyday common person and the greatness of their simple emunah and seemingly insignificant devotions, showing how in truth they were quite beloved in heaven. Whereas today chassidus can often be somewhat elitist and insular (not all the time but definitely not rare).
I have an english biography on Reb Yoilish, and it quotes him as saying that the light of the Baal Shem Tov was only meant to last for like 200 years or something like that, implying that chassidus today is just a shell of what it used to be but no longer has the inner light it did at the beginning. I’ve also heard that he supposedly said none of the chassidus’s around today still have the essence of the Baal Shem Tov except for Chabad and Breslov (little known fact, he actually helped fund one of if not the very first printing of tikkun haklali in America, but told them not to publicize it so that people wouldn’t assume the tikkun haklali was just a Satmar thing and not read it).
ROC – from what I’m aware the majority today are either dati or masorti with a small percentage who are charedi. However I believe the masorti ones tend to be very masorti, they can still lein Torah with the temani pronunciation and such. My father in law is temani and it’s interesting to watch how they conduct the tefila in shul.
There may be a handful that are mamish chiloni and anti, but if so they are probably only the younger ones. Just like the majority of other sefardim, they were spiritually decimated when they came to Israel but even the most fargone ones are usually much more connected and traditional than their ashkenazi counterparts.
Avi K, the way you’re speaking about chassidus I don’t think you’ve had a real taste of it. The line you’re quoting is from Lekutei Moharan, and it’s one of only 3 mitzvot that the Rebbe described as a “mitzvah gedola” so it’s not just something stam, there’s something very deep behind it.
Besides? What’s the problem with singing and dancing? Tehillim says “ivdu et Hashem b’simcha, bo lefanav birnana” Do you know better than David HaMelech? I know somebody who thought they did – his wife Michal. She criticized him for singing and dancing to serve Hashem and the pasukim tell us she never had another child (though I believe some hold she had one more child which she died in birth).
It’s funny you compare emotional joy to a dog. It also says in tehillim 73 וַאֲנִי בַעַר וְלֹא אֵדָע בְּהֵמוֹת הָיִיתִי עִמָּךְ
David HaMelech compares his service and level to a beast. Rashi says that even so he still he didn’t budge from Yirat Shemayim.It’s fine if you don’t feel connected to chassidus – but it’s really sad that whatever aspect of Torah you do feel connected to is so weak that you feel ok denigrating those who do.
“So far as the OP’s question, just as there is no free lunch there is no free day care. Someone has to pay.”
EXACTLY!!! Calling it “Free” is a misnomer – childcare professionals, a location, food, ect. doesn’t just fall out of the sky like the mann. All these have an associated cost which requires to be paid for. Normally the parents sending their kids to the daycare are the ones flipping the bill, however if they don’t that doesn’t magically make those costs go away. Somebody else has to pay for it instead – so for those in favor of such a thing who do you propose should be paying for it in place of the parents?
Lesschumras – I haven’t gone over the sugiya in a while but from what I recall when a goy does an abortion it’s considered murder but when a Jew does it, it’s not so cut and dry.
Looking at it from a non-halachik vantage point think of it this way: there is a small human being inside that womb, often with a brain and heartbeat, working ears that can hear what is going on outside and is starting to develop certain language recognition functions. It has started developing an emotional bond to it’s mother’s heartbeat. Again, I can’t post on YWN the actual things they do in the process of terminating this life, but take that little life form I’ve just described and then imagine it being killed in an extremely painful and gruesome way.
“For example, if the government made sure all poor young men had access to decent jobs, the marriage rate would go way up.”
First of all do you have any evidence of that or is that just your conjecture?
Secondly, how exactly is the government supposed to make sure poor young men or group of people have access to decent jobs? By holding a gun to employers’ heads and forcing them to hire these people? Is that legal or just? Neither the government nor anyone else has the right to tell some business owner who has poured his blood sweat and tears into building a successful business who they should be hiring.Should the government give financial incentives to business hiring poor young men? Doesn’t that then create an unfair disadvantage to other groups? (like poor young women)
Should the government take more tax money to pay for education for poor young men? Because I gotta tell you that I got a double bachelors and it’s done very little for me by way of finding employment. I have multiple friends with MBA’s who cant find decent jobs. I have a relative with a masters degree who couldn’t land a flight attendant job. So unless all these poor young men are going to be getting something highly practical like a computer engineering or something, access to education doesn’t magically equal better job opportunities in today’s job market.
The best to get jobs for poor young men, and everyone for that matter, is to cut back on government instead of expand it, cut back on overbearing regulations and government interference and one of the highest corporate tax rates in the entire WORLD so that there is more profit margin and therefore more money available to pay salaries and the free market will most often take care of itself.
The fact that social conservatives seem to have no interest in even exploring the use of safety net programs to prevent abortions is frustrating to me, hence the OP.
If you are talking about government efforts towards better education that leads to better family planning decisions, that is something I would be interested in hearing more about (though going through public school as a child I know that the drug and alcohol prevention education they gave us was a total waste of time and money). As far as throwing money at people after the fact just because they are not making responsible life choices is a double edged sword because many will just hear the message “I can do whatever I want because the government will always be there to support me”. That type of thinking is first of all morally wrong and second of all not even true – in the event of some crisis where government money dries up, those living on the dole will be the first ones to have quite a rude awakening.
Perhaps my mashal of somebody going around killing people is a bit “apples to oranges”. Let’s say like this – pretend we lived in a world where it was legal to kill somebody you owed money to if you couldn’t afford to pay them back (that’s probably a more apt comparison to killing a baby you can’t afford to support). Would the best course of action be to focus on changing the law so that type of thing would no longer be legal as well as focusing on teaching people how to better manage their finances, or would you prefer to focus on spending more taxpayer dollars on giving free grants to the people who can’t pay their debts so that they will be less tempted to kill their creditors?
RebYidd23 – seriously??
Killing millions of Jews in gas chambers was perfectly legal according to German law at the time of WW2 so do you want to tell me they weren’t murdered?
Murder is murder, I don’t care what some deranged secular legal system has to say about it. And guess what – neither does GOD.
Apparently the process of how they go about actually performing the abortion on the child is not appropriate to post here on YWN which should tell you something in and of itself. If you are interested in the truth and have the stomach for it, I guess you can do some google searching to find out what horrific things they actually do to these poor little souls.
My proof threshold is high because anytime you are speaking about taking peoples’ money away from them, you better have a pretty high threshold of justification for that. Hashem gave us free will so that we can decide what to do with the money He blesses us with, and if hopefully to be charitable with it then which charitable causes it should go to. I have so many pet causes and people in need I wish I just had an unlimited supply of money I could give to because I really care about them and I think a load of cash could really help them out.
For the government or anyone else to tell me I should have less resources to give those those people and causes I care about solely because they think they know how to dole it out better than I do is absurd.
I have no problem with government assistance from the aspect of giving to those in need, even if some or many of the recipients may not actually deserve it. My problem with it is that the money has to come from somewhere, and the place it comes from is taxpayers who don’t have very much say in how the money taken out of their wallets gets spent.
Yes, in a hypothetical world where you could prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that increased government assistance results in fewer or no abortions I would be in favor of that.
In general I am in favor of less government assistance and the taxpayers keeping more of their salary for themselves. However in the hypothetical situation we would be discussing, I would have to imagine the sanctity of human live takes precedent.
DaasYochid – if you could show direct proof that more social welfare would prevent abortions maybe you would have an argument but as I mentioned that is probably impossible or practically impossible to prove.
But what I’m really trying to get at is we shouldn’t be approaching the subject from the vantage point of “maybe if we give out more money abortion rates will go down”. We should be approaching it from the point of “Abortion is murder and therefore should not be allowed because murder is wrong and evil”
The main problem is that people think it’s ok to murder an innocent human being in an extremely barbaric way. Just because they don’t have enough money does not make that ok. If somebody is on rough times does that justify going around killing people? So then how would it justify killing a child?
If people can’t wrap their heads around this concept then it will take a lot more than just government assistance to improve things.
WTP – I think the mesirus nefesh factor is no longer a part of it, which is why that this has not solved the shidduch cirsis.
I heard this beferush from Rav Meir Brenner. He said when he was young it was next to impossible to find the tziun – it was in the middle of the forest with no path and just an arrow carved into a tree or a rock every now and then. He said a person could maybe spend a couple of days in the area looking for it and still not find it. Because it was such a challenge, for the people who were zoche to find it they saw many more miracles whereas nowadays you don’t see every a miracle story for everyone who goes because it’s so much more accessible.
I doubt you could draw any direct correlation between more government benefits and a reduction in abortions.
Either way the essential issue is just what is abortion? Things like the term “pro-choice” are semantics, when discussing abortion, especially elective abortions due to no risk of the mothers health i.e. they just don’t want the kid (which apparently make up at least 90% of abortions in the US) we are talking straight up MURDER.
I understand the terror that may be gripping an young unprepared mother to be who has no means whatsoever to support her upcoming child but does that give her license to kill it? Think of it this way – does a mother of a 1 year old with no means of supporting that child have justification to kill it? The difference between the 1 year old and the fetus is a slight age difference and the fact she hasn’t gotten to know the child yet. That’s why abortion groups are so adamantly against legislation mandating mothers need to see an ultrasound before having an abortion. It forces them to realize the thing in their womb they are having a doctor rip to shreds limb from limb is not just a lump of tissue but an actual living human being.
So when you phrase the question as should we have more social welfare spending because otherwise people might be tempted to murder their children you see the conversation in a slightly different light.
My favorite Jewish band is a folksy Israeli group called Alma. They’re frum but have more of an earthsy hilltop vibe. They only have two albums that I know of, “M’al Sh’Ma Anachnu” and their 2nd one “Sha’ar”
The lead singer’s voice is hauntingly beautiful.
As a side note, I often struggle with sticking to strictly Jewish music as I grew up non-religious during the golden age of “grunge” Most frum music I’ve heard seems to be very upbeat and happy which is great and definetly the ikar, but sometimes when suffering from feelings of lonliness, struggle, not fitting in, not measuring up, it’s too hard to just try and cheer it away. Sometimes when you feel like the furthest thing from a ben melech, it doesn’t help to just listen to lyrics about how being a ben melech is the happiest thing in the world. Sometimes when going through those feelings you just want to hear from somebody who has the same feelings and take solace in knowing you’re not the only one.
I’m by no way endorsing listening to goyishe music as I know the sefarim hakedoshim bring down how it can be metameh a neshama, but l’maise the type of music I’m talking about doesn’t seem to have any alternative in the frum world which is something I personally struggle with and I don’t know the answer to.
LU – do you realize the tone of your comment echos one of the main underlying principles of communism? That people in society with the most amount of money don’t really deserve that money and most likely got it an unfair wait which directly harms those who don’t have a lot of money. The conclusion is that the money must be forcefully taken from the rich and redistributed to those who are not rich.
Let’s ignore the fact that basically every country that tried communism and didn’t end up switching to a free market or incorporating some form of capitalism into it ended up becoming bottomless pits of human suffering and oppressive authoritarianism.
Pretending for a minute that a communist system didn’t lead to mass hunger and gulags, think about these people you are citing as your example – actors and athletes. Did their receiving millions to kick a ball or read some lines in front of a camera lead to the local teacher getting paid less money. If they weren’t given those millions of dollars to kick the ball or perform in front of the camera would those millions have then gone to the teacher instead?
Also keep in mind all that money wouldn’t be going to one teacher in need – it would be distributed. So let’s say you took 1 million dollars away from a professional athlete and distributed it amongst 100,000 teachers (the ratio of teachers to athletes and actors is actually much higher than that but just for argument’s sake…) so you made each of those teachers a cool $10 richer. And you had to take a million dollars away from somebody to do it – is that worth taking that much money from somebody?
You may argue that people with that much money won’t miss it or don’t need all of it. Perhaps, but let’s say that you found a way to suddenly make enough money that you could live the way you want, help your friends or family financially, and donate to all the tzedaka organizations you ever cared about. Now let’s say somebody comes along and wants to take a chunk of this money away (and in effect hamper your ability to do those desirable/praiseworthy goals). How would you feel about that? Would you be happy to give them your resources that you would rather divert to things you care about just because they claim they know how to spend the money better than you do?
You can make the argument that it’s not fair that we live in a world where such people who do mundane things like act or kick a ball make such ridiculously larger salaries than people who do noble things like teach and you could very well be right. But we also live in a world where it’s not fair that people die of cancer (lo aleinu) etc.
Furthermore, Hashem has all the money in the world. If He withholds it from somebody He has His cheshbonot as to why. I think it’s a fundamental lack of betachon in Hashem if not possible heresy to think that the only way He can provide for somebody is if He takes it away from somebody else.
Other than korbanot there is a lot more that is going to change when mashiach comes – tumah and tahara issues for example. I came up with a great business idea a few years ago for when tzarat on houses could be an issue again. Basically it’s a combination of short term storage and renovations and they move your entire apartment into storage before the cohen comes to check out the place. If he declares it tamei then an expert team can do a rush job of knocking out the tzarat part of the walls and cementing/plastering new sections in. Also can find cheap local hotels. Basically instead of you having to coordinate all the pertinent issues it’s a one stop shop that does it all for you.
Joseph – you didn’t read my post clearly enough – I said “Unless you’re living in a patriarchal society” i.e. like a Muslim society. With the exception of Iran, how many Jews live in muslim countries anymore? Probably a few dozen in each (I remember over a decade ago hearing a news report there were only like 8 Jews left in Baghdad) I’m talking recognizable Jews – not halachik Jews living as muslims such as girls kidnapped and forced into muslim marriages or descendants of such cases. I could be mistaken – maybe there are kehilot in places like Tunisia or Morocco still but even in those cases is it even more than 100 people?
Anyway back to my original point – unless you are still in a country like that which virtually no Jews live since a generation ago, polygamous marriages just aren’t shyach.
Even in societies were it was acceptable and practiced among yiddin do you have proof that any such marriages were actually successful? The Gemara itself says that ideally a person shouldn’t marry more than one wife. If you want to be a smart alec that’s fine but if we’re being honest it’s an idea that would never work in real life and in 90 percent of cases lead to shalom bayit nightmares.
Joseph are you married? If so just ask Rebbetzin Joseph how she would feel if you took on another wife. Then come back to us and tell us how good an idea it is.
As, b’derech klal, we don’t do polygamy these days, by virtue of the fact the men are married they are by definition removed from the dating pool.
Unless you’re living in a patriarchal society I don’t understand how multiple wives wouldn’t be a constant shalom bayis meltdown. Let’s say you live in modern day Israel. Now back in the day each wife would have her own tent she lived in but in our time would each wife need her own apartment? It’s impossible for a lot of families to afford even one! Would they all have to be next to each other in different neighborhoods or even cities?
Would all the families get together in one house for kiddush or would the husband have to go from dirah to dirah making kiddush for each? Or would he just do an entire seuda in once house and rotate? Imagine the jealousy and arguments that could arise from whose turn it is to have tatte for the kiddush or seuda? We are just one husband and wife and can’t go one seuda without the kids arguing over who gets to sit in which chair.
Imagine the arguments if the family spent more on the bar mitzvah/wedding/etc. of one wife’s kids than on the other wife’s. If the husband gets in an argument with one wife what is his incentive to try and make up with her when he has another wife he can just go spend time with and forget about the one he was fighting with.
These are just a few potential conflicts off the top of my head – if you really want to get into it I’m sure there are dozens more. B’kitzur it’s opening up a pandora’s box of problems. Even if polygamy could help the shidduch crisis (and who said it even could) I think it would make a much larger crisis of broken families, broken hearts and messed up kids.
If they seem friendly and start conversations with you, yet you need advice how to ask for their number to be their friend I think you may need to work on your self confidence. I totally don’t mean that to be insulting – just giving honest advice.
Despite the OP having the name reb I’m assuming they are a girl. If you are a guy why are you looking to be “friends” with frum girls? If you are interested to date them either tell them so and ask them if you can take them out on date or if you want to use an intermediary give them the person’s number and say you would like to date them but want to go through somebody and if they are interested they can call that person.
If you aren’t looking for a date then again, why would you just want to hang out with frum girls? That could lead to a range of innapropriate situations.
If you are indeed a girl and looking for new friends just be straight up and say, “We should hang out/get together sometime – what’s your number?” You’ll find that often in life being up front and honest is the best way to communicate with people. Nothing to be embarrassed about by wanting to be their friend – it’s a compliment to them.
I’m not familiar with this particular company but I’ve worked at very large FX companies for the better part of a decade and judging from how you described your situation I have to warn you PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT invest with ANY FX company!!
Did you know that the average trader will lose 70% of his money trading forex? And that is with reputable companies – never mind the crooks. And believe me – even among the supposedly more kosher firms out there, there is often still a lot of funny business going on. I just checked out this particular company’s website and found at least 1 typo within 60 seconds as well as the way they phrase things suggest to me they are davka targeting people who are not familiar with the industry.
If you only have 20k your best bet is probably to keep it in a bank account or stuffed inside a bed mattress. If you don’t have trading experience please do not start investing your life savings – ESPECIALLY not in FX. Only the most skilled traders consistently make a profit trading FX, often using complicated trading strategies or algorithms and again that is only when they are using a trustworthy FX firm to do their trading with.
I’m really sorry to say this but 99% of get rich quick schemes are just going to lose any money you put into them. Keep that 20k for a rainy day and at night pick up some tutoring jobs or learn how to do plumbing or fix peoples computers or something. Even a night janitor for a few hours – something that will give you some extra money for spending/security and allow you time during the day to learn.
Also just daven a lot that you will have enough to cover your needs and try any parnassa segulas you can. But you need to accept that at the end of the day money does generally come quick and easy – if it did everyone would be rich. It would really break my heart to see a yungerman lose out on his savings because of something like this.