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Invest in a great photographer or great photo editing software. You’ll have lots of dates. Many guys unfortunately, have “lists” longer than their arms and the looks of a girl often make or break who gets the date, all other factors being equal.
At the same time, demand a photo of the young man from the shadchan, it would be very interesting to hear why a young man might turn down such a request.
Is it such a big deal to shpritz some mr clean, wipe around and kasher? It may take an extra 6 minutes to prepare your food, but you wont have to use a non kosher microwave.
Why not a version of “Avos Ubanim” for girls? There could be age appropriate type groups with shiurim/lectures on a myriad of topics, or supervised activities, or even a place where the girls can go to do their homework, hear a a story and win a few prizes.
SAC:
Perhaps you missed my point? Poor phone etiquette simply mirrors the middos one displays off the phone as well.
I was using your sentence to make that point. Was not agreeing or disagreeing with anything else.
“As a side point, the OP didnt say anything about Middos, she mentioned phone etiquette”
If you have good middos, you understand how to treat other people on or off the phone.
This may sound obvious and perhaps a bit childish, but please dont answer your phone while in the bathroom, and certainly dont initiate one unless you have sophisticated equipment that blocks out the background noise.
I received a call from someone on Monday night. I answered, said hello, and the person responded “hold one one minute please”. I said absolutely not and hung up.
Most importantly, if you are on the phone with someone, don’t answer the call waiting and leave them hanging there, especially if you initiated the call. It is simply a lack of respect for the person you left hanging.
Better question. Is it music?
“If you have a son to send to Yeshiva you must do what is best for him, and not let him become a Korbon for some larger goal.”
Chanoch L’Naar Al Pi Darko.
As long as they don’t propose a kugel tax.
I cant wait to pick up the newly released DVD of the Diaspora Yeshiva Band Live on Mt. Zion concert (it is a remastered version of the concert with interviews and additional footage according to the advertisement).
I dont remember who discusses this….
In the context of the nedavos brought for the mishkan, the torah mentions zahav, kesef and nechoshes. Clearly items listed in descending order of value. After these three, the torah mentions the avnei shoham. Certainly these stones were more valuable than at least nechoshes (possibly the kesef and even zahav – diamonds are girls best friend, after all), yet are mentioned last. I dont remember who says this…the reason the avnei shoham are mentioned last is because they yidden collected these as they fell from the sky every day with the man. Since they didnt spend any of their own money on it, the torah is not machshiv it.
Still reviewing hilchos chanuksh, but I remember from last year seeing one of the nosei keilim discuss the quesiton if it is more mehudar to use a beautiful but not so expensive menorah, or an expensive, but not so nice looking one. I believe the answer given was the hiddur was determined by the money spent, not necessarily the appearance.
To answer your question. I would say that using an expensive kos to make kiddush would qualify as hiddur. Of course, I have to get “chapter and verse”, until then take it as you want.
I see were still feeding the satan. He’s still hungry. A little more lashon hara about Rav Amsalem, the Rabbanut, Geirim and charedim in general, please.
Try http://www.jewishcontent.org/ and at the bottom left under the “PDA” tab choose the phone you have. Is best to go to the site directly from your phone. You can get a siddur, chumash (with and without Rashi) other sifrei tanach, mishnayos (all or individual masechtos – with and without the Rav) as well as individual masechtos of gemara. Just be sure you download the fontpack.
“So the entire episode is unfortunately rooted in politics, and not in anything to do with halacha. It is a total disgrace.
More later.”
Whatever it is rooted in, the only one who wants more, is the satan. More lashon hara. More sina. More disharmony and disunity.
Buy the landlord a gift before Rosh Hashana and enclose a card wishing him/her well in the coming year.
You leading the uprising in the
Beis Medrash?
Why don’t you pose your questions to R’ Yosef Shlita directly.
Anu mashkimim, vhem mashkimim, anu ratzim, vhem ratzim…..
I was up at 4am, on the way to pick up a few “deals”, I remembered these words, went to learn instead. I’ll get what I need later.
Sitting in shul at maariv tonight I couldnt help but wonder if the men whose bellys were trying really hard to break free from the constraints of the buttons on their bekeshas and jackets got married at that weight, or they put it on after marriage.
Thanksgiving, a day to eat turkey and watch football. Atheists love it.
Why not seforim?
Do you agree you would prefer a nice $70 set of mishne brurah to learn from instead of 3 hard to read $30 sets?
Nobody is suggesting you buy a gift you can’t afford, but let the boy buy what he wants or needs. My son turned 2 mishne brurahs, 2 pnei yehoshuas a ritva and a ketzos into an esrog box and menorah. Go with the gift certificate.
Gracias. Thank you
De nada. Its nothing (used in response to thanks the way one says in english “no problem”).
Agua. Water
Feliz navidad. Happy holiday (you’ll need it next month).
Hola. Hello
Si. Yes.
Buenos dias. Good morning
Buenos noches. Good night
Buenos tardes (tadres?) Good afternoon
Muy bien. Very well (usually goes together with gracias as a response to comas estes (I’m spelling it how I pronounce it, which is probably wrong) how are you, muy bien gracias – very well, thank you.
Please elaborate.
Nisht kiunderstando.
Bar Mitzvah gift most appreciated by my boys (after money) was gift certificate to any seforim/judaica store.
Bat Mitzvah gift recently given to a neice by several uncles and aunts who chipped in. A new MP3/4 player loaded with 7 CDs of new music purchased for her and loaded onto the player.
If you are not concerned about your son staying in a dorm (if the situation requires – I have no idea where you live), look into Mesivta Yesodei Yeshurun in Kew Gardens Hills (Queens), NY.
“when the school hires a rebbe its mentioned when discussing the sallery so its somewhat expected”
They do? Expected by whom?
Both are related because they revolve around the pancreas and what it produces, insulin. After that, the 2 start going their own ways.
Myfriend. Yes, I was at the party. Now please tell me, WHO saw me at this party and thought I was doing an aveira so that there was an issue of Maris Ayin. The answer is NOBODY. You assumed incorrectly, when you jumped in and said “not allowed because of Maris Ayin”. However, you were not aware of all the facts but opened your moputh anyway. Dont assume, because when you do you make an a## out of u and me (mostly out of you).
For the last time. Where is the Maris Ayin in my case.
Can I assume that this is the “Rav Belsky” that you refer to?
If it is, I will ask one more time. In MY situation, where was the Maris Ayin?
Helpful, are you also Myfriend?
I will go back and reread what it is claimed Rav Belsky said to see if it is relevant to my situation.
B”H I am not in a situation where I would need the services debt settlement companies advertise. However, one thing that always struck me as being odd with the business they are in is, if they can negotiate a settlement on your behalf, why cant you negotiate the same settlement yourself? Do you need special training or licensing to offer this service?
Myfriend. For the 3rd time. You insisted again and again that there was an issue of Maris Ayin on my going to the restuarant where the wedding party was held. I ask one more time. WHERE or HOW was this Maris Ayin nothing more, nothing less.
Helpful, Myfriend. Please tell me where the maris ayin is/was in my situation?
The other night someone parked in my driveway (one that I pay to use, and I have seen the permit that states it is 100% legal) with a placard in the front window that claimed the car was on official police business. I called the local precinct and asked if they were aware of any official police business on my block that required someone to block my driveway. They were unaware of any. I was prepared to go into the simcha hall across the street (which this person was likely at) and was going to ask the musician to announce that Grey Oddesey license plate number xxx is about to be towed, but my wife decided the best course of action would be to make it impossible for him/her to pull out. So with the help of a neighbor I parked up on the bumper in the front and he the same in the back and we waited for this person to come back. I told him I already reported his license plate to the local precinct (I didnt) and how he is abusing/misusing this placard which he probably has illegally to begin with, of course he is free to call them back and explain the official police business at the bar mitzvah. He didnt look very happy. Let him sweat a little.
Helpful. When did you proclaim yourself the posek of the CR?
Myfriend and his twin Helpful. Please explain the Maris Ayin in my case. Who saw me enter this restaurant (or who should I have been concerned would have seen me enter this restaurant).
Helpful:
“Participating in a party in a treif restaurant is clearly maris eyin.”
Again, I will ask you to explain the maris ayin in my situation. Please answer this question.
“We have seen on this board all sorts of crazy aveiros being justified by claims of anono rov’s okaying them.”
I can just as easily flip this around on you and state we have seen all sorts of crazy things ossured on this board by anonymous self proclaimed poskim, but I wont. Just answer the question. Please explain the maris ayin in the particular situation I mentioned.
Myfriend. Maris Ayin for who?
My original comment included a line which I then deleted that said I did what I did under the guidance of my Rav. My Rav knows that Taz too, and he still told me it was OK to attend this “simcha”. So, unless you are a posek, please don’t issue blanket psak based on “lo and behold, I found a Taz!”.
Invest in a few Andrei Rieu CDs, no objectionable words and beautiful music.
Maras ayin? Please explain. (Not conceptually, I know what it means. Practically, how or what is tha maris ayin in this case).
I’ve invited non jewish coworkers to my family simchas (bar mitzvahs, so far, and chasunahs besras hashem at the appropriate time) and have attended their “simchas” as well. The feedback was that they enjoyed the food, had a great time by the dancing but were bored stiff during the speeches (they fit in more than they realized). One coworker understood I couldn’t come to the church for his wedding ceremony but was happy I attended the party at the restaurant (they even offered to bring in kosher food, but I declined the offer). Another was grateful I was at the funeral for her father. Was I embarrassed or uncomfortable they were at my simcha, no. Was I embarrassed to be the only yarmulka at a treif restaurant, no. Uncomfortable, a little, but it was 45 minutes and I got over it.
Arthur Fiedler and Boston Pops is truly an enjoyable listen. John Williams is superb. Andre Rieu too.
helpful, if you are towed, the towing company wont care much for your lomdus.
Halachicly he is a muchzak, and you must make a machaa and if beis din finds his chazaka to be invalid park there all you want. The same is true with civil law. If you believe it is an illegal driveway call the city, you have no right to assume it is illegal. I called 311 and asked them and that is what they told me.
There is a Refuah Yeshuah on file as a non profit with an address on Bedford Ave too. I would be wary of an organization that spelled it “yeshua” because that is what missionaries call oso ish and is also how they spell it (no “h” at the end).
It looks like the argument being put forth in favor of blocking a driveway is, he has horrible middos, so its ok if I do to.
Metro. I didn’t work for a criminal enterprise located in a seedy alley. I admit to not explaining in detail the “elevator” (one of the “older models” where you pulled one cord to make it go up, another to make it stop or go down), its operability (it worked when it felt like it), how often it was used (almost never, the city wouldn’t issue a certificate permitting passenger use – only freight) or that the “mystic” placed me in that spot on an earlier visit.
Don’t tick off homeowners by blocking driveways, no matter the justification. They have ways to get back at you. I’ve seen people flag down cops and meter maids and point out expired registration and emissions, broken head or tail lights. I even saw someone with a tape measure showing how a car wasn’t the required distance from a hydrant. Its not about whether the ticket sticks, its about repaying the aggravation you cause by blocking a driveway.
I live in Flatbush, not BP. A neighbor of mine (frum fellow) was sitting on his porch, and watched as someone (frum fellow) parked blocking more than half his driveway making it impossible to pull out. He asked the parker not to block his driveway and the response was “thats what you get for living so close to Ave J”.
It has gotten so that people actually place signs that read. Please do not block driveway, not even a little bit, not even for just 2 minutes.
Another neighbor claims he followed someone who blocked his driveway home, and parked in front of his driveway. When confronted by the homeowner, he asked if he remembered where he was parked for an hour earlier today and said he would be back in an hour.
Another scene I witnessed. Was in a shul, where the Rav lived upstairs and the shul was downstairs. There were (still are) numerous notices not to block the driveway. Someone parallel parked in the driveway anyway (you could not mistake the driveway for a parking spot, ever, unless you wanted to). The Rebbetzin came home and had no place to park. Her husband told her to double park the car and block the blocker. A while later, the blocker came angrily into the shul demanding that the person blocking him, move his car all the while spewing nasty invective about the horrible person who had the chutzpah and temerity to block his car. The Rav replied that he would be out to move his car as soon as he was finished with his chavrusa and refused to discuss the matter further.