By Rabbi Yair Hoffman for 5tjt.com

There is a hidden secret in the day of Tu B’Av – a day that comes six days after Tisha b’Av.  Not too many people know what the essence of the day is all about.  Even fewer people know its hidden secret.

WHAT OCCURRED?

Traditionally, it was a day when single young ladies would wear special gowns of white in order to woo a groom. The white indicated that they were free from sin. The Braisah in Taanis (31a) states that the custom was for everyone to borrow white clothing from others so that the poorer girls who, in truth, lacked the financial means to clothe themselves properly, would not be embarrassed that they did not have something to wear. Indeed, even the king’s daughter and the Kohain Gadol’s daughter exchanged clothing.

So now we know what occurred on this day. But why was it established initially, and what is its hidden secret?

THE REASONS

The Gemorah in Bava Basra (121a,b) provides a number of different reasons for it:

1. Rav Yehuda in the name of Shmuel: A law existed while we were in the desert on account of the Bnos Tzlafchad. This law banned the Shvatim from marrying one another where it would cause changes in an inheritance. This law was rescinded in the 40th year on the 15th of Av. The joy inherent in rescinding this law caused the day to become very special and joyous.

2. Rabba Bar Bar Chana in the name of Rav Yochanan: The Tribe of Binyomin was allowed to remarry into K’hal Yisroel after the incident of Pilegesh B’Givah (see Shoftim 19-21). This occurred on the 15th and signified once again the unity of Israel.

3. Rav Dimi Bar Yosef in the name of Rav Nachman: The people in the Midbar stopped dying on this day.

4. Ullah: It was the day that Hoshea Ben Ellah undid the orchards that Yeravam placed to block passage of those who wished to visit the Beis HaMikdash. Yeravam had blocked them because he was concerned that seeing the real kings of Israel would undermine his legitimacy. Undoing the blockage contributed to Jewish unity.

5. Rav Masna: It was the day that the Romans allowed the victims of Beitar to be buried and it was revealed that their bodies had miraculously shown no de-composure.

6. It was the day that the cutting of the wood for the main altar in the Bais HaMikdash was finished because sunset was now earlier and the woods could no longer dry– so we celebrated the fact that this day now allowed them to learn.

QUESTION ON FIFTH REASON

There is a serious historical question, however, with reason number five – proposed by Rav Masna.

The sources quoted in the Gemorah indicate that Tu B’Av was observed during the time of the Bais HaMikdash. This is borne out from the Braisah having mentioned above that the king’s daughter and the Kohain Gadol’s daughter also partook in the exchange of clothing.

But Beitar only fell after the Hadrian came to power!

This was many years after the Bais HaMikdash was destroyed. Hadrian was emperor from 117 CE to 138 CE. The Bais HaMikdash was destroyed in 70 CE. How could Rav Masna explain the reason for its establishment after it was observed?

TWO POSSIBLE ANSWERS

One possible answer may be that each of these opinions listed subscribes to a multiplicity of reasons why Tu B’Av was actually observed. Perhaps they actually do not argue with each other, and all these reasons existed. Indeed, this is what the Rashbam on 121a (“Yom Shehutar”) seems to imply.

Another possible response to this problem is found in the Gvuras Ari (Taanis 31a). He seems to disagree with the aforementioned Rashbam and writes that the Braisah in Taanis only actually refers to Yom Kippur and not to Tu B’Av [See statement of Rabbi Shimon Ben Gamliel in the Mishna in Taanis (26b): Israel never had grander days than Yom Kippur and Tu B’Av.]

There are difficulties, however, with both answers. Rav Masna seems to say that the reason it was established was because of his reason – while he may agree that the other things happened on that day – that was not the reason it was established in his view. The Rashbam’s answer would thus require some further understanding.

The Gvuras Ari’s response is difficult to say as well because the authorial intent of the Braisah in Taanis seems to be applying the idea to Tu B’Av as well. While one could say that it is lav davka, that it does not mean what the words imply – this is difficult to propose. There is no symmetry that is generally associated with an answer of lav davka.

NEW POSSIBLE RESOLUTION

Perhaps a different answer might be that the Simcha – the joy of Tu B’Av was initiated in two separate stages. Stage one was prior to the destruction of Beitar. Tu B’Av was instituted during the time of the Bais HaMikdash as a special day of Chesed for Shidduchim. It did not have a particularly joyous significance – rather – it was a propitious time to get people married. This “Shidduch Day” was replete with Chessed. But it’s primary purpose was not to commemorate any of the other incidents.

Much later, it also happened to be that on this day, the fallen of Beitar were allowed to be buried.

Coincidence?

No, not at all. There is no coincidence from the Torah’s perspective. According to Rav Masna, the Rabbis re-evaluated the days mentioned in Megilas Taanis, and knew that something extraordinary happened here.

The special Chessed of that day – allowed for and enabled another chessed – that the fallen of Beitar could be buried, and to the delight of their brethren – their bodies did not decompose. A recognition of this chessed caused a renewal in the 15th of Av.

It would be filled with renewed purpose.

This was stage two of Tu B’Av.

When did this happen chronologically? The Yerushalmi (Taanis 4:5) states that 52 years after the destruction of the Bais HaMikdash, Beitar was destroyed.

The Gemorah in Gittin 57a gives us the background. The people of Beitar had the custom of planting a tree upon the birth of each child. Upon the engagement of two Beitar children, they would cut down the trees that were planted and would build a Chupah. One time the Roman emperor’s daughter passed by Beitar and her chariot broke down. Her servants cut down a tree that a Beitar resident had planted for his son’s wedding.

The people of Beiter beat up the emperor’s daughter’s servants. The emperor was furious and commanded that they be wiped out. The Yerushalmi indicates that it ended when the next Emperor took over. It is not clear, however, whether the Bavli agrees to the dates of the Yerushalmi.

But getting back to this new approach in understanding Rav Masna – that Tu B’Av had two stages: the first a “Chessed Day” during the time of the Bais HaMikdash and the second stage – a time when this day was enacted by later Chazal as a remarkable Yom Tov- is there a lesson that can be learned?

It would seem that when Chessed is done on a particular day, it creates Kochos and forces within the day itself that will have positive repercussions on that day ever onward. We find this idea in the Michtav M’Eliyahu as well, that time travels in a circle and not straight down. The chessed and Mitzvos imbued on a particular day, change that day forever afterward. Let us keep this in mind for Yahrtzeits, Yomim Tovim, etc. The chessed done on that day has ramifications for that day – forever onward.

We find a similar notion in the end of Parshas Dvarim. The posuk says that Moshe was afraid of Og. Why was Moshe afraid of him?

Rashi explains, in fact, that he wasn’t. Rather, Moshe was concerned that the merit that Og had in assisting Avrohom may have created a significant zchus for Og in battle. This is strange because Og assisted Avrohom in telling him that his nephew Lot was taken captive. Og did so because he wanted Avrohom killed so that he could take his wife Sara after Avrohom Avinu’s demise.

What kind of zchus would such a lowly Mitzvah possibly have?

We see from here the incredible potency of the Mitzvah of Chessed. Even if done with rotten intentions – it has remarkable zchusim. How much more so – when done with proper intentions. We should learn from here never to avoid doing a Chessed for others. You never know, where it can assist you.

THE HIDDEN MESSAGE

Okay, but what is the hidden message of Tu B’Av?

It is found in that very first Braisah cited in Taanis 31a.  Now that we have established the fact that Tu B’Av was a day of chessed in and of itself – there is a very valuable lesson in Chessed.  Whenever you are about to embark upon a chessed – you should have one very important Go To Question.

Will perfrming this chessed possibly embarrass someone – particularly a recipient?  If so, then retool it.  Figure out a way in which this chessed can be performed without embarrassing that person.  This is the hidden message of Tu B’Av.  Tisha B’AV happened because we were not concerned about each other.  Tu B’Av embodies the very opposite ideas – a day of Chessed, but so that the Chessed would not be a selfish act – we have that very very important element of making sure that it doesn’t embarrass anyone.

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