(By Yehudit Jessica Singer) Nearly two years ago, I stood in an air-conditioned Mumbai kitchen talking to Rivki Holtzberg. She was serving cholent for the guests in the Chabad House, and I looked around, recalling that Shabbat so many years ago, when I spent my first-ever Shabbat with another Lubavitch couple on Long Island. I was seven years old at the time, and didn’t know mu ch about shabbat. Yet, there I was, many years later, standing on the other side of the world, offering to send Mrs. Holtzberg kosher food packages from my home in Jerusalem. Oh have times changed indeed.
The terrible tragedy in Mumbai has left us all shaken, and I feel the need to share some memories about the couple, since my research colleagues and I had the opportunity to spend Shabbat with them. Before I speak touch upon the Holtzbergs, let us first get a glimpse into environment in which the Holtzberg’s lived.
Most Westerners who travel to Mumbai are probably overwhelmed by the surroundings. Cars, horns, taxis, beggars, physical deformities, auto rickshaws, pollution, stray dogs, tin huts, contaminated water, homeless people sleeping on the streets, and at night, whole families sleeping on the sidewalks…next to the stray dogs.
Not easy sights to stomach by any means.
Paralleled to the poverty is the gorgeous Taj Hotel, luxury apartment buildings, a billion-dollar Bollywood industry, a booming financial district, international tourists, spirituality-seekers, international businesspeople and more.
In an environment with a growing economic polarization and tremendous religious diversity, there is certainly what to intrigue the Western mind. From a Jewish perspective in particular, one of the most fascinating elements of India is that there is (or should I say “has been”) no history of anti-Semitism.
Once we grasp the tolerant atmosphere in which the Jews of India have lived, we can understand more clearly why the horrid tragedy in the Chabad House has shaken the entire world. Yet again, this was an attack on the Western (or Westernizing) world by fanatic Muslim terrorists, and I have no doubt that out of the millions of people who live in Bombay, that the Jews were targeted.
I first heard about the Holtzberg’s from some of the other Jewish community leaders in Mumbai. One man in particular, Rav Yehoshua Kolet, head of the organization Hazon Eli, had told us that he had partnered with Rav Holtzberg—who was a shochet—to deliver kosher meat to the Jewish community in the suburbs of Mumbai. For those who would otherwise not buy kosher chicken (Indian Jews do not typically eat cow meat out of respect for their Hindu neighbors), Rav Kolet and Rav Holtzberg actually set up a home-delivery system to enable families to eat kosher. In addition to teaching Torah classes, supervising a kosher ‘catering’ service for travelers, slaughtering chickens, an d overseeing the emissaries in other parts of India, the 29 year-old rabbi also managed to coordinate this delivery service for Shabbat chicken, and was even comfortable entertaining a diverse range of shabbat guests from around the world.
Rivki, the rabbi’s wife, I met on shabbat after shul. Unlike many other Chabad emissaries around the world, they did not establish their own synagogue, but rather, prayed with the community members and visitors at the local Baghdadi synagogue. We walked from the Knesset Eliyahu synagogue in the neighborhood of Colaba, and joined about 30-40 people for lunch in the Beit Chabad- which then consisted just of the Holtzberg’s apartment in the Nariman House. Keep in mind that 30-40 people for lunch was considered a ‘quaint’ meal for the Holtzbergs! They were used to 70+!
Rav Holtzberg, young and energetic, sat at one of the tables and offered Torah insights. In a crowd mixed with locals from the Bene Israel community, businessmen hailing from Tennessee to Sydney, some young post-army Israeli travelers, and the university researchers, generating a comfortable atmosphere wasn’t exactly the easiest task.
Rivki was mostly in the kitchen, and talked with the female guests, while a caretaker stayed with the baby (Moishe) in a side room. I remember asking Rivki if she needed anything—perhaps I could send them care packages from Israel when I returned. She answered that they had everything they needed, thank you so much for the offer, we’re really fine.
My interaction with them, albeit short, was extremely memorable. They were kind, warm and fulfilled their mission with joy. Now that I think of it, there was something about this sense of joy. It was natural; a feeling of satisfaction and inner peace that comes with the confidence that of fulfilling your prescribed role in life. More than that, Rivki emanated a sense of geniality that only comes with giving something precious to people you care for… For Rivki, that precious gift was herself. She opened her home and provided an inspiring Shabbat experience; the first Shabbat that many of her guests ever experienced. (Note: It is actually miraculous that the attack did not occur on a Friday afternoon or Shabbat, when the amount of victims would have been multiplied exponentially.)
And so like Abraham and Sarah, the traditional husband and wife super team who opened their tent to whoever came their way, Rav Gav riel and Rivki Holtzberg opened their home to whoever came through Mumbai.
The atrocity that these evil terrorists committed defiled and exploited them. This insanity has left two beautiful young boys orphans. The only comforts that I have at this moment is that the undeserving husband and wife died together, and they died in the midst of their service to the Jewish people and to G-d.
This week, as we collectively sit shiva for the loss of six Israelis and mourn the loss of all those killed, I cannot help but wonder what this is all is supposed to mean. What do we do with this palpable sadness?
An acquaintance who runs the ladies’ mikveh in Mumbai relayed that there is talk to take that 5-story Chabad House, and turn it into a 10-story building. Perhaps this is the legacy that legacy of the Holtzbergs.
They were a young, modest, yet super inspiring couple who established a thriving Chabad in Mumbai. They not only lived their mission of education, spirituality and warmth, but they died in the midst of their mission. Now, the community is taking their legacy and building something bigger with it: resilience and growth to the finest degree. This latter part of course, falls upon us, those who remain in their wake. Let us learn, keep growing, never forget, and, in Rivki’s spirit, bring light to all who come your way….
המקום ינחם את כל עם ישראל. אמן.
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We must all surely do whatever possible to help others whenever the opportunity arises whilst remaining strong with our traditions and minhagim.
Reading this article makes the tragedy all the more hurting. I’m sure that there are dozens if not hundreds of people who were touched by the goodness of this holy of holies couple. Among Chabad international sheluchim who are truly selfless people, with one goal and interest in mind, how to help Jews around them in any way, materially or spiritually, these two kedoshim stood out as great sheluchei d’rachmono. Obviously whatever shelichus that Hashem sent them here to do was accomplished. In Hashem’s perfect wisdom they became Korbon Olos, kodshei kodoshim. Hashem should receive their ultimate sacrifice b’rotzon on the part of klal yisroel. The bullet through the Sefer Torah was at the point of the death of Aron Hacohen’s two sons. As Moshe Rabeinu said to Aron, bikrovay akadesh, through my closest people am I sanctified. Ribono Shel Olam – yehi lerotzon korbonos eleh, v’emor l’tzoroseinu dei. Yehei zichrom boruch.
Thank You for more insight into these wonderful people.
may Hashem bring the Geula Shelaima immediately!
I just was wondering if there’s any possibility to email/ fax the families of the kedoshim. As said over and over: we as klal yisroel feel as if we lost family, even if we didn’t know them at all. Most of us won’t be able to be menachem aveil in the physical sense (=to go to the shiva), but I wonder if there’s a way to write them? Please let me know…
Thank you for sharing this with us. Though my heart aches so much every time I read something like this about these special people, it is incumbent on all of us to listen AND learn from people that are so selfless. We should listen and study their plain old Ahavas Yisroel. Loving every jew. Always a good word for and about people. We’re one family & we should learn to behave that way. Consider this a wake up call. And thank you to Rabbi & Mrs. Holzberg A”H for raising the bar. They will be missed.
There were so many pictures going around, of this special young couple. I found a certain spark in their eyes. A love emanating from them, as they shared Hashem’s mitzvos with others less fortunate. May their holy actions be a zchus for us all.
Thank you for this warm, inspiring article. Today marks a week since the horrendous, senseless attacks were perpetrated, and my heart has been aching non-stop –for all the lives lost, but especially for the light that has gone out of this world with the deaths of Rabbi Gavriel and Rivki Holtzberg, the ultimate Ohavei Yisroel and Gamlei Chesed. I keep looking at the pictures of their beautiful little boy and then at my own Moshe, only a few months younger… The pain sometimes gets so strong, it’s hard to find a way out. But this article, filled with memories of the goodness brought to this world by the Holtzbergs, has inspired me to look beyong the pain, beyond the destruction and find the courage and determination to carry on their mission, albeit in a much smaller way. Bli neder, I will work hard -and teach my kids to-perpetuate their memory of loving every Jew, no matter where he comes from, and act on that love in very tangible way. I know it has been said over and over, but we must not revert back to our separate, comfortable, sometimes uncaring lives… We, as Jews, must show our care of one another, every day, in the stores, on the streets, in the workplace, at our Shabbos tables. Let’s make Gabi and Rivki proud of Am Yisroel, and let’s show Moshe-theirs, and mine, and all of yours -that there is far more goodness in this world than evil. Yehei zichrom boruch.
Again the tears are in my eys, they’ve never left my heart. It is Yad Hashem that literally millions of Jewish people who never before knew of either Jewish outreach, Chabad, or about an international phenomenia known as Chabad Houses may know seek out one. That will certainly bring a smile to the Holtzbergs as they watch us from Olam Haba.
thank u for this article.
To #4 and any one else who may wish to be menachem avel to the Holzberg and Rosenberg families, information may be found at the following link.
http://col.org.il/show_news.rtx?artID=43022