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Rabbi Avi Shafran: Momentous Moments


shafran15.jpgThe weeks before a presidential election provide spiritual fodder for the week between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur.

Throughout political campaigns, candidates and their handlers are keenly aware of the great toll a simple gaffe or misjudgment can take.  Four years ago, Howard Dean, the then-governor of Vermont (today Democratic National Committee chairman) was a credible candidate for the Democratic nomination for President.

But he crashed and burned, according to many because of what came to be dubbed his “I Have a Scream” speech.  After an unexpectedly weak showing in the Iowa caucus, Dr. Dean declared his undeterred determination to forge on, in a rousing address that culminated in a vocalization somewhere between a Zulu war cry and a locomotive horn.  That single moment’s decision to let loose in that way at that juncture spelled the end of the doctor’s road to the highest office in the land.

There have been other such moments for presidential candidates: Edmund Muskie’s tears of pain, Gary Hart’s infelicitous mugging for a vacation snapshot, Michael Dukakis’s donning of an ill-fitting combat helmet.  Each unguarded moment, deservedly or not, brought a national campaign to a screeching halt.

Every one of us, too, in our personal lives, comes face to face at times with opportunities of our own that, wrongly handled, can lead to places we don’t want to go.

And we are vying for something infinitely more important than a mere nomination for President.  We’re in the running, after all, for the achievement of avodas Hashem, racing to achieve the purpose of our lives.

In the bustle and haste of everyday existence, it is alarmingly easy to forget that decisions we make, sometimes almost unthinkingly, can be crucial; that seemingly insignificant forks in the roads of our lives can lead either to achievement and holiness, or, chas visholom, to setbacks, even ruin.

Every single decision we make, of course, is important.  Each day of our lives presents occasions for choices, chances to seize meaningful things – a mitzvah, a heartfelt tefilla, an act of chesed – or to forgo them.  Every opportunity to be morose or angry is a chance to hurt others, and ourselves – and likewise a chance to do neither, and achieve something priceless.

But there are also particularly momentous opportunities, when we are presented with roads that diverge in entirely different directions.  The Gemara teaches that “one can acquire his olam” – the one that counts: olam haboh – or “destroy” it “in a single moment.”

Potentially transformative decisions are more common to our lives than we may realize.  When we make a decision about, say, where to live or what shul to attend – not to mention more obviously critical decisions like whom to marry or how to raise and be mechanech our children – we are defining our futures, and others’.  And it is of great importance that we recognize the import of our decisions, and accord them the gravity they are due.

We can even, through sheer determination, create our own critical moments.  Consider the Gemara’s case of the “conditional husband.”

In halacha, of course, a marriage is effected by the proposal of a man to a woman – the declaration of the woman’s kiddushin, or “specialness” to her husband, followed by the acceptance by the woman of a coin or item of worth from her suitor.  If the declaration is made on the condition that an assertion is true, the marriage is valid only if the assertion indeed is.  Thus, if a man betroths a woman on the condition that he owns a car, or still has his own teeth, unless he does, they aren’t married.

What if a man offers a woman a coin or item and makes the kiddushin-declaration “on the condition that I am a tzaddik”?  The Gemara informs us that even if the man in question has no such flawless reputation the marriage must be assumed to be valid (and only a divorce can dissolve it).

Why?  Because, the Gemara explains, the man “may have contemplated teshuva” just before his proposal.

That determined choice of a moment, in other words, if sincere, would have transformed the man completely, placed him on an entirely new life-road.  The lesson is obvious: Each of us can transform himself or herself – at any point we choose – through sheer, sincere will.

This season of the Jewish year, our mesorah teaches, is particularly fertile for making choices, for embarking on new roads.  All we need are the sensitivity and wisdom to be open to crucial opportunities, and the determination to craft some of our own – to make choices that will change our lives and futures for the holier.

© 2008 AM ECHAD RESOURCES

[Rabbi Shafran is director of public affairs for Agudath Israel of America.]



3 Responses

  1. As always Rabbi Shafran has eloquently encapsulated the mood of the season. May we all be blessed with a kesiva vchasima tova tichleh shana vkllsoheaeh tochel shana ubrchoseah

  2. Is this news???
    I have been asking that for many of the stories that this site puts up. If the public wants a speech there are other web sites, if they want news they come here. However, YWN is confused or does not have anything to put up.

    Moderators Response: Thanks for your comment, Mr. “ThinkAndMakeSense”, oops I mean Mr. “Baruck”……… In case you are not aware, this is a weekly E-D-I-T-O-R-I-A-L which is posted. Click on the editorial button in the left side on the YWN homepage for a better understanding. Additionally, these editorials have been posted for two years already.

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