The Toldos Aaron Rebbe Shlita has implemented a new takanah pertaining to shidduchim, putting an end to shidduchim involving young couples. According a BaKehilla report the rebbe has become aware that over recent years younger couple that got married would hide the fact, sometimes for a number of years. He wishes to put and end to this trend, not permitting shidduchim for chassidim under 18.
The takanon refers to one’s “second year in yeshiva gedola”, instructing parents not to accept any shidduch calls prior to that time. Even in one’s second year, the shidduch year begins after Chanukah and may ‘close’ the shidduch Tu B’Shevat. This formula is conditional upon the fact the chosson is 18 by Tu B’Shevat. For the younger members of shiur 2, they must wait until reaching their 18th birthday prior to accepting shidduchim. Regarding girls, they must be a minimum of 17.
For those who do not wish to comply, there are consequences. Anyone making a shidduch below the minimum age will not be permitted to visit with the rebbe before the chasnah for a bracha and direction for the young couple. In addition, whereas the rebbe usually attends chasnahs of chassidim, he will not attend these weddings.
And finally, the chassidus’ large gemach that assists young couples will not assist a shidduch that is not in compliance with the takanah.
(YWN – Israel Desk, Jerusalem)
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way to go!
It is higly doubtful that “over recent years younger couple that got married would hide the fact, sometimes for a number of years.” More likely they kept the fact that they were secretely ENGAGED for a couple of years before announcing the engagement and then getting married.
I love Toldos Ahron; it’s a very functional chassidus.
Good but even this is young.
Chusen, I guess you’re suggesting that you’re smarter than Pirkei Avos?
What a great step in the right direction. let’s not focus on how due this was..
#4, the chiyuv for a man to get married starts at 17.
Is this connected to the new Israeli law, passed by the Knesset, barring marriage to those under 18?
It is highly likely this is not being reported accurately.
Couples got married and hid the fact for several years?
Did they elope? Get married Vegas style? Swear the guests to secrecy upon the punishment of death? Did the young man not put on a talis or the young lady not cover her hair or go to the mikveh? Was there a sudden spike in out of wedlock pregnancies?
Whatever shortcoming the Rebbe Shlita perceived in his kehilla he has addressed with this takanna, need it be publicised to the world? Now that it has been publicised, at least do so accurately.
voos- Pirkei Avos also says not to start learning Talmud until 15. It seems that the ages set forth in Pirkei Avos are not rules set in stone.