ZeesKite

How could you just unfunnyize like that? In times like these?? It’s a bright sunny day today. (somewhere, in the forbidden outside, on top of those gloomy looking clouds!)

Liven up, cheer up a bit!!! You’re alive (I suppose). GREAT!! Something especial to be thankful about these days. וחי בהם, to live life…

SMILE… IT’S (ALSO) CONTAGIOUS. Do it for me. For you. For the world!!!

(good and not so good, old and not so old, zk)

Joseph: “I live in a total state of …”

WOW!! That we have reached this day!!!

Straight out of his mouth (or keyboard). He lives in a state… a state is a Medina, no?

Or me?!?

WOW!!!!

Does EVERYBODY have a job?!? Nobody here for “real” life? How I pity youse all.

Use wifi to connect..

Thanks for that one, too. Actually I’m in to planes, too (I’ve flown a few times), that was one of the reasons for my s/n (unique spelling). But the real reason was the above, it came to me as a flash, two years ago, when someone actually DID call me that (gasp!)

ZABACHUR:

I wanted to leave on a slightly lighter note. I thought you’d chakima brimeeza. Yes, every shtech shtechs. As every kind word soothes, uplifts. I’m aiming for the later, in my new “outside CR” life.

I know that, that’s what’s making it easier (a bit) to leave.

Actually, if I may, there is a reason for standing up for a Kallah too. One is supposed to stand up and give honor to ANYONE on the way to do a Mitzvah. (I think that is why one stands for a chasan going to his chuppa)

Syag, was it me? I don’t recall ever getting into an argument with you. If yes I sincerely apologize.

(..as I wait for someone else’s apology/retraction..)

Oomis, honestly I don’t know about your first statement.

About your second one, again, I’ll just posit that it matters where one finds oneself. In one community it’s just proper to do so, rude not to. In another it’s flirting, an extra word or attention extended to the opposite gender.

If I recall, there’s a woman in the Torah named “Shlomis bas Divri”, I think Chazal say she was accustomed to greeting all (even men) in the street “Shalom alach, Shalom alach”. It didn’t do good for her.

ZD, Kindly don’t besmirch an entire community. I’ve greeted and been greeted to in the past, in BP. (I’m not in BP proper, as I’ve mentioned numerous times). I intend to test you out again, IY”H in a few hours.

The answer is it’s a machlokes haposters

(Perhaps the question should be how many threads were written about this topic in the past)

Actually as I wrote before I’m not mayvining. I truly hope you’re not insinuating another sludge.

Did I really irk you so much with my presence?

42, and to the uneducated, that is…?

Yekke:

I have no idea what those characters mean.

But no, I’ve not been cleared as yet (1 1/2 months later). Pain still here. No apology sent (OBVIOUSLY she knows my email, she had it virtually broadcast here for all, to maximize damage), no retraction from that allegation. So while it’s only an online thing, those terrible stinging and damaging words made a big dent. As I wrote somewhere else, I used to hang out here as my second home (ok, a bit too much), I’d give & get chizuk, pieces laden with feeling, comfort. To make a difference in someone’s else’s life, as well to brighten my own. A cute quip, a smile, a hearty laugh – SUNSHINE. It’s down to a shadow now, I doubt if I’d EVER be able to resume.

I’m aware there were some who were annoyed with my appearance before, I understand why they came to join the Halbanas Panim party, what I can’t understand is the rest of the people here, how they were so easily swayed.

I agree. Totally.

Same here, where one person can be accused, maligned, disgraced, smeared and vilified on the assumption and guess of one “in-the-know”.

And all attempts to reply have all been blocked and trashed.

HaLeiVi: I thought you knew all of Medrash. I think Medrah in Eicha somewhere says it makes a lot of sense.

My take?

I also think the changing table would have been the proper option (though I’ve done it DISCREETLY in the provided cradle). But she was TOTALLY out of line, totally. So it wasn’t your husband’s actions that really set it off, it was her. No. There is no shortage of sonei Yisroel. And your retort, while I really don’t think you’d do that in a calm, peaceful atmosphere, was brought upon by her. OK, it was incorrect, but ??? ??? ???? ?? ??? ????, a person cannot be held accountable for something he does under extreme duress, pain. It was some sort of attempt to deflect from your humiliation, mortification. An attempt to “fight back”. I don’t blame you the least.

Think of this episode as another painful galus wound, another tear bringing our geulah closer.

I have heard that Neshamos up there get very disturbed when their children don’t get along well.

147:

I like what you wrote. I’d just phrase it differently, “Yehudah erred by..”. Remember, he was one of the shevatim. Furthermore, his father commended him (I think) for it

WOW, I haven’t been following your saga for some time. I wish I had the right words to say.

The last paragraph, however, caught me. I cannot fathom the bitter pain you feel, the anguish at which you wrote those words. So let me try to talk my heart.

Firstly. Every discomfort, pain, grief, however minute, is going toward a specific purpose. Nothing is going to waste, nothing is being overlooked in Shamayim, no tears go lost. NOT A ONE. Everything is being measured by HaShem’s direct attention. And though it may seem to you now that the bully is doing great… Remember “..they grind exceeding small”. Sometimes in life we’re not able to wittiness a “hot” nekamah.. sometimes HaShem, for His reasons, sees fit to dish it out cold. But THERE IS JUSTICE in this world.

Secondly. I once heard from Rav Mattisyahu Solomon shlit”a, that one who causes another to stray, that person won’t be allowed into Gan Eden, whereas the one who was led astray, may actually earn it…

May we hear from you Besoros Tovos. Bekarov!

OUCH X 100!!

Don’t know about you. I’ve never read any fancy parenting books, I’d NEVER, EVER, EVER leave a baby crying. Yidden are labeled Rachmanim, how it rubs against me. It should rub against any parent. And we’ve had the run, regulars, colicky. As I noted on a different thread, HaShem deals with a person as s/he does. When picking up a crying (undeserving) baby, say to HaShem, “look, my baby’s crying for no good reason, but I can’t stand to ignore it. You too, take note of our crying..”

Oh, btw, my children, Baruch HaShem, grew up – they don’t cry any more. They’re saturated (spoiled) with feelings of care and love etc., Baruch HaShem.