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zahavasdadParticipant
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March 22, 2019 7:32 pm at 7:32 pm in reply to: Lakewood’s economy revolves on local construction #1699972zahavasdadParticipantBrookyln is not Monsey or Lakewood, It can handle higher density housing
The issue with the other population is why people move to the Suburbs and what they want there. Non-Frum people want lower density housing, they want yards, they want driveways, they want backyards, they want good public schools , good libraries and nice parks. They also want a seperation between housing and non-housing edifices (Like Schools and shuls) on streets. meaning they dont want places of worship on residential streets, they want them on main streets.
Frum people want higher density housing (but less dense than Brooklyn) they dont care about public schools or libraries and dont want to pay for them. Frum people want parks with playgrounds rather than parks with ballfields (Ballfield parks take up more space), so you can see where there is conflict, there really isnt a middle ground
zahavasdadParticipantJust like one should adopt Satmar minhagim if you move to Kiryat Joel, If you move to a REAL Sephardic comminty like Tunisia, Yemen or maybe Morrocco then you can adopt Sephardic customs (Im not sure any other real independent Sephardic communities exist anymore)
March 19, 2019 6:46 pm at 6:46 pm in reply to: Lakewood’s economy revolves on local construction #1698759zahavasdadParticipantYou cant have uncontrolled building, You need roads, Sewers and other services to be able to take the population. What good is it if 1 Million yidden live in lakewood and all the roads are a giant parking lot and nobody can get anywhere
zahavasdadParticipantYU dates from 1886, and JTS from about the same time (I know JTS is not orhtodxo, but it was different then)
Torah vodass is from 1917 (I belive the original torah Vodaas split into 2)
zahavasdadParticipantBut many other Gedolim DID move to israel after the second world war
Before 1948 it was difficult to move there except between about 1920-1935 when it was possible, but life was hard
zahavasdadParticipantThe Lubavicher Rebbe did not just re-build in the US, Chabad Houses are (almost) everywhere, if you are stuck in China, you know there is a chabad there
zahavasdadParticipantI am not chabad nor do I agree with everything they do. However The Lubavicher Rebbe’s Shiluchus and Chabad houses all over the world probably make him the most important frum jew of the second half of the 20th Century. While building yeshivas in the US and Israel after the war were important and Igros moshe was also very important, to a certain extent those are much easier than telling people to go into the jewish wilderness without much money and build a commuinity and provide services (Like food) all at great personal cost like no schools for your kids and lack of kosher food for yourself. Anyone can make a Minyan in Lakewood, try to make a minyan in hickstown, Nebraska. Chabad will do it
zahavasdadParticipantLovely thoughts, but not justified. Do you care if a person follows the reform or conservative movement? Or if they follow j for j?
I do, because it is anto-Torah, and much of what some of the lubavichers on this forum have said is also anti-Torah.
I cant belive someone compared Chabad to reform or christianity
zahavasdadParticipantMove to Syria, You can then be Sephardic
zahavasdadParticipantPeople always here what they want to hear and from my experience it seems the meshaiacs are more loud than the non-meshaics
I am not a chabnick, so I am commenting as an outsider and certainly I think messianism is wrong and I do not agree with chabad houses opening up in certain communtiies where it seems they are made to bring people to chabadism rather than yiddishkeit (Lakewood is the best example of this)
zahavasdadParticipantAccording to many Lubavichers, he did.
Just because according to many chabadnicks think he did, doesnt mean he said he did. Unfortunatly too many times people think a gadol said or did something and really didnt
zahavasdadParticipantThe Lubavich Rebbe never delcared himself the Moshiach, others did.
Leaning Tanya is not my thing, but if someone wants to learn it, Gezen Deh Heh, not everyone can learn gemoral of Shulhan Aruch all the time
zahavasdadParticipantMove to Lakewood Ir HaKodesh
March 13, 2019 4:52 pm at 4:52 pm in reply to: Confessing to your Spanish speaking friend that you are actually cheese #1695377zahavasdadParticipantMucho personas en la Habitciones de Cafe hablas espanol
zahavasdadParticipantThere are about 100,000 Jews in Brazil (The Amazon)
Addis Abbaba had a large population of jews until around 1990 and still has around 4000 (Number is debateable because of the Falash Mura)
zahavasdadParticipantIf someone moved to Amsterdam they very well could take up the Minhag of 1 hour between meat and Milk
March 11, 2019 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1693018zahavasdadParticipantAnd What about a Ger? Would you not allow your children to marry a Ger because the Hashghafa is differnet?
March 11, 2019 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1692982zahavasdadParticipantdo ashkenazim and sefardim have different hashkafos?
the 2 biggest ones are Kitnyot and Selichot
March 11, 2019 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1692933zahavasdadParticipantPersonally, I would never agree to a shidduch for my children with someone whose hashkofas are totally the opposite of my own.
So I guess you would not let your children marry a Sefard (Or an Ashlenaz if you are a Sefard)
zahavasdadParticipantNeutrei Karta is worse, they meet with sonei Yisroel like Ahmadinejad, who has the power to destroy Israel.
WOW would go away if everyone ignored them
March 10, 2019 9:04 am at 9:04 am in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1692012zahavasdadParticipantThe main thing in marriage – they both have to start on the same page. Two different Hashkofos at the beginning is Not a very good idea.
I know quite a few “Mixed Marriages” between Sephardim and Ashkenazim and its actually quite common in Israel and its not so rare in the US either (Would be more common if there were more Sephardim), Seems to work fine for them.
March 10, 2019 1:22 am at 1:22 am in reply to: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not? #1691932zahavasdadParticipantAs well as the OP knows or thinks they know the people, You never really know what they are really thinking. Does the Girl want to become more yeshivish or does the boy want to become more modern, you really dont know that. If there is something there compromises can be made.
As far as the wife taking the husbands minhagim, Not all Minghagim are worth fighting over, I mean is it really worth fighting over the exact amount of a Kezayis (Ive seen arguments over this) . Many couples do make compromises on this as well especially if the husband is closer to the wife’s family
zahavasdadParticipantMost languages have a regulating body except for one (English) , Mostly because languages are fluid and new words come in and old words go out. Because most of the innovations come from Anglo countries (especially the US) most new words come from english. People will just use the english word and over time the language becomes english.
If you listen to YIVO Yiddish and Chassidic yiddish you will easily notice this, YIVO Yiddish sounds like a distinct language, Chassidic yiddish is more yinglish and over time it will become more and more english. The YIVO at least tried to make yiddish distinct (but is failing because nobody speaks yivo yiddish, they only speak chassidic yiddish)
zahavasdadParticipantIm with the OP, its a waste, I drove home in my car from my wedding. What better way to start a new life than drive your new Kallah home
zahavasdadParticipantI dont know what you are talking about, but there certainly is something to allow a little “freedom” once in a while. I am not saying anything against the torah (Like driving to McDonalds on Shabbos) . I mean things like playing ball, wearing different clothes. Its healthy and normal and will charge up your batteries for stronger learning
zahavasdadParticipantTeach the Kinderlach in the Rosh Yeshiva’s houses in order to save on the building
zahavasdadParticipantI know a few people Id give Durian to
zahavasdadParticipantCombing schools would save money as there would be less need for adminstration. It wont happend because “I DONT WANT MY KID TO LEARN THAT HASHGHAFA” and “I DONT WANT MY KID TO BE FRIENDS WITH THAT KID”
There are also issues that R’Y might not want to share their yeshivas even if thats the best policy
zahavasdadParticipantI have a tin can and some string
zahavasdadParticipantIm not sure the jews ever spoke Loshon Kodesh. During Baying Sheni I think the vernacular was Aramaic
zahavasdadParticipantGo try to find a discount in Health care or Housing (Short of moving to a cheaper location , a smaller place or getting health insurance that is less than satisfactory) I know of a few people who tried to “save on insurance” and then something happend and it costed them more
Of course you could save money on going to the bungalos (Ive never gone) but for many families that is their only chance to leave the city and get some fresh air. Save on Camps? What do you want the kids to be around the house all summer long ?
zahavasdadParticipantI just didnt want to go there, I totally understood
There are advantages to having a late model car. Older cars break down and if there are alot of kids you do worry about safety if the car breaks down where it isnt supposed to.
Most areas are gray areas, there are really very few cut and dry cases. Is eating meat 3 times a week a luxury? How about eating Pizza once a week at the Pizza store so Mom can relax and not cook. I can think of lots of things along those lines.
zahavasdadParticipantIt wasnt my Zadie, It was an Alter Zadie whom I never met. My grandmother told me they used to speak “Goyish” so they wouldnt understand. She just didnt know what Goyish was. They were from what is today Ukraine, but was Poland after World War 1 , so its really hard to know if it was Polish or Ukranian (Jews did speak those languages)
zahavasdadParticipantThe truth of the matter is, I mostly understand it , if Yiddish is spoken slowly, I know people who speak the alter heim yiddish and I know people who speak Charedi yiddish. It is not the same yiddish. Charedi Yiddish is much easier to understand as its more of a hodgepodge of Yinglish
zahavasdadParticipantI never said yiddish is dying. I am well aware where it is spoken. However I do frequent Lakewood and am actually there quite often. People there do not usually speak it. I know its spoken in Chassidic Communities.
The only time Ive ever heard Yiddish spoken in lakewood is when the R’Y is around
zahavasdadParticipantIt’s about time you let it go. How about you use your Free Market economic theories here?
If you are going to use free market economies, then Yiddish loses. More jews speak English or Hebrew than Yiddish and before you even bring up Frie jews, Sephardim have a say in the matter and they speak english or Hebrew today.
I have also heard stories that my Alter Bubbies and Zadies spoke either Ukranian or Polish (The ones who told me the story just called it Goyish and I dont think they knew which one it was)
zahavasdadParticipantFDR is not the worst president, He turned the US into a super power
zahavasdadParticipantby prioritizing other expenses before the child’s education
There are expenses before tuition, like Housing and Food for example
zahavasdadParticipantYou’re a yeshiva administrator and parents say they can’t pay. However, they have a child applying for seminary in Israel. Do you let their other children’s tuition go unpaid or demand they be paid, not the seminary?
Bad example as I dont think this is so common, Most people who cant pay really cant pay. If what if the following happens, A Parent says they cant pay and then get a Newer (To them car) does buying a newer car mean you shouldnt pay?
Maybe someone like to eat takeout (Like meal mart) for shabbos, Should Yeshivas tell the parents they need to eat cheaper
And what about if the parents just want to get away for a few days, Should a weekend upstate mean all sholoships be revoked?
zahavasdadParticipantActually the worse was Warren G Harding who during his admisntration was the Tea Dome scandal
The second worse was Hoover who did notthing when the depression started
zahavasdadParticipantI am a realist and I realize the problem is much greater than people realize and I personally dont think its solveable. Everyone here is coming with “Ideas” and you can poke massive holes in any one of them (unfortunatly)
And even if somehow vouchers becomes legal (probably the best solution and thats where the most money is) the government would then have the right to dictate to a certain extent what is taugh
zahavasdadParticipantIf you cant pay food rent or electricity there are government programs for that like Food Stamps, Section 8 or HEAP
There is no such programs for yeshivas, there isnt a donor base big enough to help pay for those who cant pay
zahavasdadParticipantA Yeshivas goals are not the same as other places. If a yeshiva was properly run, then students who cannot pay would be kicked out
zahavasdadParticipantI think you guys should stop harping about this, whether it’s true or not. At this point it’s irrelevant and no one confuses Chasidim with Polish nobility.
No they confuse them with Amish instead
zahavasdadParticipantSince none of us is a Navi, we dont know when Moshiach is coming, so you can contiue to pay the yeshiva tuition until then or move to a place where the government pays and wait there.
I have a sneaky suspicion Moshiach will be announced in both London and NY
zahavasdadParticipantThe only real answer is move to Europe or Israel where the government pays the tution (Im not 100% sure, but I think the government in Quebec also pays, but not in Toronto) but again Im not 100% sure of that
zahavasdadParticipantMost Orthodox shul do not have the space for classes, Only Conservative and Reform have the space because they are usually bigger buildings and many have classrooms from the days when they had Hebrew Schools
zahavasdadParticipantMany yeshivas in NY and NJ already get some indirect subsidies like School Bussing , School Lunch programs, Money for Security and other indirect expenses
Unfortuantly some abused these subsidies like there was a subsidy for Computer equipment that was used for other purposes (The money was specifically for computers and technology , nothing else)
zahavasdadParticipantThe “communal tax” is an idea that has been floated around, of course there are lots of hole in it besides someones ability to pay , Would satmar be required to fund more modern Zionistic schools (and vice versa). What about conservative or reform jews in the same neighborhood, how do you get them to pay if they think yeshiva education is a waste (Some conservative and reform jews go to Orthodox synagogues).
The merger idea sounds good on paper, however the classes are already too large so you cannot merge the classes , You probably have to keep multiple buildings (no reductions on mortgage , utility costs and other adminstrative costs) and lastly there is the problem “Whose yeshiva is it” there are people who like to be in charge, Things like Hashghfa (some might seem minor hashghfic differenes but can be made into major issues)
I think when the idea of every jewish kid getting a jewish education first came out, they never thought of how to pay for it for the masses. Orhtodoxy was teetering so only the most dedicated went , there were smaller families so it was easier to pay. You will start seeing more dropouts (You already see some already) as families get poorer (THe high cost of real estate in NYC area doesnt help either), people will have to decdide to pay for expensive housing or yeshiva tuition) the problem is getting worse , not better
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