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I am cutting and pasting this Dvar Torah, word for word
DVAR TORAH: Shabbos
I had the extreme pleasure of meeting Rabbi Yitzchok Chinn of McKees Port Pensylvania, when he was a guest speaker at a Chofetz Chaim Yeshiva Convention, where he told the following story:
The Rabbi thought perhaps he heard him wrong.
At this point it was beginning to sound awe inspiring. Certainly difficult to see why any of this could cause one to hate Shabbos.
Edited
For some people wagging the finger and giving a potch works, for others giving a hug works better.
Instead of forcing them not to text, yelling at them, telling their parents rabbis etc , give them a POSITIVE reason not to text, give them something else to do.
You catch more flies with Honey than vinegar
You want to make Shabbos a positive experience not a negative experience (ie A day of NO) You want them to look forward to Shabbos not dread it.
Shabbos is not supposed to be boring and one should have a need to text to give them something to do. If it is, we’re clearly doing something wrong.
Alot of people do feel this way. Activies that are not “Shabbosdick” are strongly discouraged. While it is admirable to learn all day, Not everyone can do this.
There are plenty of people especially in the summer with the long days who just need some activity.
Is it better to play Basketball , hang out with members of the opposite gender or Text on Shabbos. While it might be admirable to say neither and one should learn, Its just not happening for many (Kids are voting with their actions )
I have seen very few real solutions to help teens pass the time on Shabbos that is both fun and meaningful for most.
In Gan Eden, What did Adom HaRishon do wrong?
He told Chava not to TOUCH the Etz or you will die, when Hashem told him not to EAT the fruit.
The snake pushed Chava against the tree and nothing happend.
“Study: 1 in 5 divorces in the U.S. caused by Facebook
21 December 2009 @ 01:20 pm EDT
So 80% of divorces were NOT caused by Facebook, they had another cause . This is an example of tricks via statistics. Why not focus on the 80% of divorces that had another cause.
Sort of like 1 in 5 people will die of Cancer, Well 5 of 5 people will die so this actually means nothing.
You have no proof that large amount of people got divorced because of FB, You just “HEARD” that lots of people got divocred because of FB.
Actually proof as opposed to stories or the occasional truth is better to state.
I clicked on the shiur that was given .
The date of the Shiur was January 1, 2008. From a Shiur given on December 31, 2007. On that date very few people had been on FB and I dont think I had even heard of it then (I am fairly techically savy) I did heard of myspace and had an account, but never really used it (Its not as versatile as FB). It was already condemned before most people had even used it.
The FB page R.I.P. Leiby Kletzky has 57,000 fans
Marriages get ruined for lots of reasons and its possible to meet people in lots of ways. Many of them KOSHER
I know of someone who hired a nanny and eventually divorced his wife and married the Nanny. People meet others in Shul , Offices , Business trips , other business outings like lunches , meetings etc.
To blame FACEBOOK for failed marriages is just ridiculus and trying to assign blame where it doesnt belong. YES there are marriages that ended because of facebook, but its not any greater than other ways to meet a person. and probably less.
It is frustrating that some want to impose their own agenda in a way not as the Kletzky family wished.
Why not follow the Kletzky’s family wishes and remember Leiby in that way.
How Many Marriages WERE ruined from facebook?
I am sure alot less than office romances , perhaps one should give up working because of this problem
By that standard walking the streets of NYC in summer is halachily assue, Almost everyone dresses Untzniut.
remember no one knows who you are…… 🙂
G-d knows who you are.
Alot of times things arent halachily assur, but “frumkite” assur
There is something called Zumba which is very popular now. Perhaps some frum Zumba classes might work
I dont know exactly what is it, but I know its some sort of Aerobics dancing
The #1 tourist spot in the entire US is Times Square
The #5 is the metropolitan Museum of Art
the #7 is the American Museum of Natural History
I had a frum neighbor who decided to move and rent out his house.
Since he moved he has rented to people who Smoke (And I dont Mean tobacco Ciggarettes) and it smells up the entire block. When then do some plain out tobacco cigarrtes they throw the butts on my property. Ive found beer cans , Cigarettes on my property from his tenats. Luckily I havent found any of the other “cigarettes” on my property.
He now lives about 2 blocks away and i have complained to him and they tell me “I was a terrible neighbor” and dont do anything.
With all the negative news out there why not a positive feel good news story
The odds are
365*365*365 = 48 Million
The odds of a person being born on a day are 365 to 1 and the odds of 2 people being born on the same day are 365 * 365 to 1.
Thank you ItcheSrulik, Thats exactly how I felt but didnt know how to say it to get past the moderators
It is wrong to permit the forbidden and wrong to forbid the permitted.
I was once eating some sweet and sour tounge, When one of the Puerto Ricans saw me eat it, asked me what it was and I said Tounge. She said it was disgusting
There was a statement in the Melechal Shabbos thread about a Rabbi who said kids are being taught that Shabbos is a day of NO. I have seen that statement other places as well.
If everything is NO and forbidden, why would anyone want to be frum.
According to some of the posts I have read here I should give up TV, Movies, Facebook, Pizza, Sushi , Newspapers, Magazines all for Leiby.
OP might not have realized there were Coldtones with a Hescher on the store itself
The one by St Johns University is on Union Tpke and Utopia Blvd
The One in Lynbrook is on Broadway and Merrick Road
There is one I think on Central Ave in the 5 times, I would be willing to bet it has a Hescher as well
Some Coldstones have a Hescher ON THE STORE , not just the ice cream
The one in Lynbrook, NY has one and the One by St John University in Jamaica Estates has one
While we all want to do something for Leiby. The Yetzer Harah argument is a red Herring, you can use that for almost anything.
For example why not ban CARS because of the Yetzer Harah, People want a NICE car when the money could go to tzedakah. People look at cars totally UNTZNIUS. Sometimes a nice car will get more looks than an untiznut woman.
Lots of things go on in cars that are assur.
People sometimes even drive as leisure because they like to drive totally bittul torah.
The car has a radio with assur music and all sorts of forbidden stuff on it.
I am not trying to ban cars, but if you subsititute Facebook with cars you can pretty much get the same discussion.
IMO the proper way to remember Leiby is to do something that would relate to him perhaps something positive with children (ie give to a childrens charity, learn with a child, take an orphan somewhere special)
If you want to delete your FB account for whatever reason, that is fine and your decision. However I really doubt Leiby had a FB account and probably never heard of it either.
innocent until proven guilty, the right to a fair trial and competent representation are the price we pay for the right to live in this country.
We may not agree with all the policies all the time, I am sure most agree with most of the policies most of the time.
In Western Europe you need ID to get into the Shuls or arrange in advance to daven there.
Most have Jersey Barriers in front of them with security guards (I saw the guard in London)
I believe frum Yeki’s in Germany did not wear head coverings either.
I am fairly certain in many European countries people do not wear kippot for safety reasons.
I never felt old, but my daughters bat mitzvah is coming up soon as I was looking at some photos from when she was a baby , toddler and younger and for the first time I started to feel old
Going to Italy
What if you gave a Tzedakah a NON-CASH gift like say a computer would that count?
What if you gave the Tzdekah something of value. for example a man died recently and his sister was a nun and he gave the convent where his sister had lived a Honus Wagner T206 Baseball card, It was in poor condition but fetched $262,000 (This baseball card is the holy grail of baseball cards, In mint condtion its worth in the millions)
What if your volunteered time actually caused the Tzedakah to get more money?
Ie Instead of giving the Tzedakah $54 you vounteered at a chinese auction helping to raise money (Finding volunteers for these events can be harder than you think)
I am not and refuse to be a vegatarian, however when it comes to treatment of animals there is a difference nowadays.
Jews do NOT usually raise animals anymore. Most animals are raised by goyim or chicken farms, The animals are then brought to auction where they are bought by meat packers including kosher packers.
They are then schected and processed according to kashurth.
However from the time are born until the time they are sold, Many times they are mistreated. Chicken Coops are overcrowded and hens peck at each other. Bovine(Cattle) are feed bovine parts when Bovines are herbavores (They eat plants) thats how Mad Cow disease got spread.
In previous generations Jews generally bred and raised their own animals
(I am only referring to the United States, I am not sure what is done in Israel)
I live in NYC area (Lakewood counts as NYC area) but I have been many times “out of town” and it is very different.
When you first realize it, it can be quite shocking.
Just for example Daily Minyanim can be difficult to find (especially MIncha and Maariv) Kosher Items are scarcier (Most national companies have several product runs and the ones in the Northeast are Kosher when runs in the South and West are not). Eating out is unheard of.
Taking off early for Friday can be next to impossible. “Secondary” Jewish Holidays like Sukkoth and Shavouth are unheard of. (Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur Chanukah and Peseach are usually well known)
People who can be frum in such areas should have an extra schar for living there and able to stay frum under such environments
frankly Id ignore it. Last week my 11 year old asked me if 2 boys can marry and I asked her where she heard that..
She told me the 1st graders in camp (She goes to a pretty heimish day camp) told that to her.
I frankly did not answer the question and brought up another subject.
The local Rabbanim in my neighborhood took makus on themselves for not doing enough about abuse.
I will admit I do not belive in any conncection between a former congressman’s twittering and his death. I seriously doubt Leiby ever heard of him or twitter.
The truth is we do NOT know the reason he died and dont belive anyone when they say they do know the reason.
A broken clock is correct twice a day
When you go to the Nuteri karta website there is an option to view the website in Arabic. Makes you wonder where their monetary support is coming from.
After reading a few posts and other threads, I am not sure if ED is the only issue here.
Refuah Shelmah to those who really need it and please seek help ASAP.
Do your parents know you have an eating disorder from before?
I am not a doctor, but I do know people who have suffered from this.
I do know ED’s are like Alcholism, it never really goes away no matter how old you get 🙁
We suffered through that and may have just suffered through that in the last few weeks (We are not sure..and frankly I dont want to know)
But the first time as soon as she was able to, we worked on getting a kid again and it worked. There was really no consoling my wife over it until she got pregnant again.
Many women did go up to her and told them it hnappend to them too (Probably most women as it seemed like almost everyone we knew
Do NOT fast on Tisha B’Av. Of course ask a rabbi, but there is certainly Many who say you SHOULDNT fast
Happiest – I dont know if you are a teenager, but truthfully teenage years are tough on most people. It does get better
Before Sarah Schenirer founded Bais Yaakov the idea of education for girls was very controversial and many communities in Europe (especially Hungary) were opposed to Bais Yaakov.
Triskaidekaphobia – Fear of the number 13 and yes it has 13 letters in that word
“I ate a ton and wish I would’ve fasted…”
blabla,
I belive the Halacha is one who is REQURIRED to eat gets credit for the fast every time they eat
It is extremely hard to get over and really once a person has it, it never completely leaves them. It is a known fact that once a person has had an ed, their chances of them getting it again are VERY high.
That is why Rav David Goldwasser forbids anyone with this from fasting ever