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  • in reply to: Could a Holocaust ever happen is the USA? #1083132
    yytz
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    Anything can happen, but it’s extremely unlikely that a Nazi-type party would ever take power in the US.

    However, a holocaust could still occur. All it takes is one nuclear bomb or missile from North Korean or Iran or ISIS, to kill millions of Jews in NYC. The US has a strong military but sometimes defenses fail and snafus happen.

    If a nuclear missile was being shot at NYC or Israel, or a bomb was being sneaked into a NYC harbor, then perhaps the US and Israeli militaries would have a roughly equal chance of stopping it before it explodes.

    However, Israel might have a slight edge in this regard, since they have had more experience with wars and missles on their turf and are more effective at thwarting real terrorist attacks.

    in reply to: Having a hard time concentrating during Shemonei Esray? #1076456
    yytz
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    An extremely common problem, with many different possible solutions. The important thing is to keep trying new ways to improve. There’s a whole book about this subject, Kavanah by R’ Seth Kadish. Also, there are many long Mi Yodea answers about this subject.

    Slowing down, adding petitions in your own words, closing your eyes, pausing in between each phrase to focus your attention on Hashem (or fill yourself with awe or love or yearning for Him), concentrating on the translating and saying it with feeling and expression and even hand gestures as if you’re really meaning what you’re saying, pray for a few minutes each day in your own words for Hashem to have mercy on you and help you to improve your kavanah (any time, but right before davening is a good time), etc.

    That’s just a few ideas — there are many more. Try them all. Something will work.

    in reply to: Why is the Left pro Islam? #1076877
    yytz
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    The (far) left is not totally pro-Islam, in that they do not actually promote the teachings of the religion or its extremist groups like Al Qaeda. However, they tend to play down the Islamist terrorist threat (which is understandable to a degree because fortunately there really isn’t much terrorism in the US, and starting random wars as in Iraq actually increased terrorism), and much worse, support Palestinian terror groups.

    They do this because in the current left-wing mindset, a group perceived as an underdog cannot really be wrong. Any criticism of any underdog is seen as “blaming the victim.” Violent minorities must always be right, or at least deserving of sympathy and excuse-making, while those seen as the upper-dog, the US or Israel (which they see as a European colonial project) are always critiqued harshly.

    Even though most of the Palestinian propoganda is lies, and can be proven is such, the far left is not interested in listening to debunkers. They uncritically accept basically all anti-Israel rhetoric, because it goes along with their bizarre upside-down narrative of the Palestians as innocent underdogs who just want to live normal lives and the Israelis as the worst, most bloodthirsty European colonialists ever.

    in reply to: dating someone your height #1073563
    yytz
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    There’s no problem with it. There’s even no problem with a girl marrying a man shorter than her. It does happen sometimes. As long as the girl is still attracted to him and he is secure enough to feel OK about it, there is no problem with getting married. 90% of the time the husband is taller than the wife, but there are always exceptions, and they probably work out fine most of the time.

    in reply to: Suffering Due to Previous Gilgul #1117308
    yytz
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    Ramban mentions gilgulim in this context, as a way to explain suffering that is otherwise difficult to explain.

    The Arizal was known to tell people whose neshama they had, and to explain the reasons for their present gilgul.

    However, since there are so many different possible reasons for any suffering, we should not assume it is for a particular reason in any particular case.

    Of course, if there is any way we can relieve or prevent someone’s suffering, then we should do so. We should never say, “Oh well they had it coming to them so we shouldn’t do anything to help.” Perhaps concerns about this tendency were one of the reasons why kabbalistic teachings about gilgulim were concealed until the time of the publication of the Zohar.

    in reply to: Practicality on the Palestinians #1094229
    yytz
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    Unemployment is low, the growth rate is high, start-ups are everywhere. Wages are not as high as in the US, but day school tuition in the US would wipe out any pay increase you’d get from emigrating from Israel.

    in reply to: Practicality on the Palestinians #1094226
    yytz
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    The vast majority of those who have died in the Arab-Israeli conflict died decades ago.

    And this numbers is very small compared to the hundreds of thousands, probably millions, of Jews and their descendents lost to assimilation in North America. 90% or more or Jews in Israel marry other Jews and have Jewish children.

    By contrast, in North America, the vast majority of Jews for the last two or three generations have married non-Jews. If they had all moved to Israel, a tiny percentage would have died in war or through terrorism, but at least their families would not have been lost to the Jewish people.

    Also keep in mind that the traffic fatality rate is much higher in the US than in Israel. Life expectancy is higher in Israel, and the murder and suicide rates are lower. So while Israelis may be of greater risk of death from terror they are safer from other threats.

    Overall, due to the dramatically decreased threat from assimilation, the fulfillment of the mitzvah of the settling of the land, and the greater observance level of even many secular Israelis (most chilonim fast on Yom Kippur, for example), Israel has been a great benefit to the Jewish people.

    The status quo is not ideal, but the world’s preferred alternative (a two-state solution) would be worse, and the time is not right yet for a one-state solution. So we have to wait it out until a time for a proper solution comes. Puerto Ricans and Indians on reservations were under US control for decades before they had citizenship, and they still have no real voting rights in the congress or presidential elections.

    Israel is a strong and successful country, with a great economy, a resilient, well-educated and increasingly religious population, and a bright future. The world’s lack of understanding of its predicament, and their irrational hatred, can’t change that. With Hashem’s help Israel is doing well. As Dovid HaMelech expressed so many times in Tehillim, everything may seem chaotic, with haters surrounding him, but he trusts in Hashem and He saves him.

    in reply to: Practicality on the Palestinians #1094215
    yytz
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    Status quo, but Israel should prevent Palestinians from glorifying terrorism or teaching anti-Semitism. Freedom of speech is appropriate for most times and places, but not where an entire population is fed constant racist lies that incite everyday people to random terrorist murders on a weekly basis. Palestinians need to be deradicalized, just like Southerners during Reconstruction (which pretty much failed) or Germans after WWII (which succeeded very easily somehow).

    Ideally, the territories would be annexed. Palestinians would be able to apply for citizenship but most either wouldn’t apply, or would be rejected for terrorist involvement. Even if all applied and were accepted, Israel would have a Jewish majority of over 2/3rds. (This is all explained in detail in Caroline Glick’s recent book.)

    Demography is on our side, since Palestinians (like everyone else in the world except Jews) will keep having fewer babies as they become richer, and the charedim will keep having large families no matter what. Even if lots of people go off the derech or become dati leumi or moderate “new charedim” or whatever, the birth rate will still stay incredibly high.

    Jordan is 80% Palestinians but they are disenfranchised there, due to discrimination and gerrymandering. It’s already a Palestinian state. All they need is a government of the people and by the people. It will happen eventually.

    Israel can’t create a Palestinian state, when it will just mean more Iranian-funded terror (rockets), permanent ethnic cleansing of Jews from a large swath of our historic homeland, and an unstable banana republic on our doorstep.

    in reply to: Foot Reflexology #1071338
    yytz
    Participant

    Not sure. There is a lot of evidence that Chinese medicine (acupuncture, acupressure) is effective for many ailments. But reflexology originates elsewhere, I think.

    in reply to: New Indiana Law #1070185
    yytz
    Participant

    Let’s say a Catholic priest walks in a Jewish bakery and asks them to make “Communion” wafers. Should they have to comply?

    What if an Orthodox rabbi hires himself out to conduct Jewish weddings, and a toeiva couple asks him to officiate? Should he be able to decline? (Something similar, involving Xians, already might be happening in Idaho of all places.)

    Should a police officer be required to participate in a gay rights rally (not protect people there, but rather participate in the event)? This has already happened, in Utah. Yes, Utah. A police officer was fired for not wanting to attend the rally. (He was willing to do his job there, to provide security or whatever, but that’s not what he was asked to do.)

    The Indiana law is just like similar laws throughout the rest of the country, which allow little things like Muslim prisoners to grow bears contrary to prison regulations, and things like that. The only difference in Indiana is that corporations also can ask for a religious exemption, and that it can be raised as a defense in a civil suit. The law doesn’t guarantee religious exemptions, it just gives them a day in court.

    in reply to: Smoke Alarms. #1066109
    yytz
    Participant

    One thing to keep in mind is there are different types of products people use for this purpose. A “hot plate” in my mind is something meant for cooking (which can get really hot), while a “warming tray” is only meant to warm something up or keep something warm. I had one of the latter, which never got above 200 degrees, and it seemed really safe (we used it for three day yom tov with no problem), but they don’t make it anymore. Some things sold for Shabbos use actually get extremely hot, and for that reason alone can be dangerous.

    in reply to: High quality safe Warm plates? #1065685
    yytz
    Participant

    A lot of people say that “UL listed” products are considered safe, but I haven’t yet figured out what that means.

    It’s hard to understand how one of these things can cause a fire.

    Here are some options: 1) it was left on the hottest setting and it is meant for cooking and not just warming, so it gets so hot it catches fire itself; 2) it is on a hot setting and the food in the pot burns a bit, enough to catch fire and send sparks up, which catch fire to other parts of the house; 3) things like oven mits or rags that are near or touching the warmer/hotplate get hot and catch fire, which spreads elsewhere; 4) there’s an electrical problem and the thing just catches fire for no apparent reason (even though it’s not on an extremely high setting for a long period.)

    in reply to: High quality safe Warm plates? #1065684
    yytz
    Participant

    Good question. And does anyone know what brand was involved in the fire? I had one that seemed really safe, that never got about 200 degrees, but they don’t make it anymore.

    in reply to: My issue with the Israeli Chareidi parties #1066376
    yytz
    Participant

    I think Yesh Atid et al changed the law so that lack of army service does not qualify you from employment. This was mentioned on Cross Currents, for example.

    in reply to: My issue with the Israeli Chareidi parties #1066373
    yytz
    Participant

    I just looked up the raw election data on the Israeli government’s site. In Bnei Brak, Yesh Atid got 503 votes, just less than the amount (533) that voted for Israel Beiteinu. 129 voted for the marijuana legalization party, and 36 voted for the Na Nach party. 30 voted for the new women’s charedi party.

    in reply to: Prime Minister-elect Isaac Herzog #1065303
    yytz
    Participant

    Akuperma: UTJ will join a Netanyahu coalition, as long as it doesn’t include Yesh Atid and he promises them more favorable policies. There won’t be any mass arrests or other draconian policies (unless Netanyahu somehow makes a coalition without UTJ and Yachad, in which case it’s possible).

    in reply to: Prime Minister-elect Isaac Herzog #1065298
    yytz
    Participant

    Of the three charedi parties, two of them, Shas and Yachad prefer a Netanyahu government. UTJ may be upset about the draft but they will still join a Netanyahu government, as long as Yesh Atid is not in it. So they will say yes to joining Netanyahu — otherwise Netanyahu will probably have to ask Yesh Atid to join the coalition in their place!

    in reply to: Prime Minister-elect Isaac Herzog #1065297
    yytz
    Participant

    Akuperma: A grand-coalition government between Labor and Likud would only exist if Netanyahu were prime minister. This is because if Netanyahu would not join such a government, then Labor would not be able to form a government at all.

    In my opinion, either Netanyahu gets a right-leaning government including (among others) Bayit HaYehudi and the three charedi parties (Yachad, Shas and UTJ), or Netanyahu leads a centrist coalition including Yesh Atid and Labor-Livni. I don’t think the latter is very likely but some talking heads are saying there’s a 50/50 chance of a grand coalition.

    You seem to be suggesting Bayit haYehudi would join a left government just to stick it to the charedim. I don’t think that’s possible, since their main issue is working against the two-state solution, which Labor is much more likely to implement. Kahlon would join the left under the right conditions, but not because he’s against charedim.

    The only way Herzog could be PM is if they do better than expected in the polls, and Shas, Kahlon and Israel Beiteinu all somehow decide to join a Labor coalition.

    Anyway, we’ll see what happens…

    in reply to: Prime Minister-elect Isaac Herzog #1065295
    yytz
    Participant

    Herzog will not be Prime Minister. It’s extremely unlikely. No one would even be considering this seriously if he hadn’t merged with Livni’s party, artifically making his party the biggest. It’s thus absurd to talk about Netanyahu “losing” the election just because his party gets a less seats than Labor-Livni.

    The real question is whether Netanyahu will form a right-wing coalition or a centrist coalition with Labor-Livni, shutting out the right-wing and religious parties. I think he’d rather do the former, and given current polling, he’ll be able to. It seems his big priority now is security issues, and the right-wing parties are his natural allies for that. He’ll have to take UTJ on board, though, so don’t expect to see more laws targeting the charedim.

    in reply to: do i get an aveirah if i don't do shnayim mikra? #1064218
    yytz
    Participant

    What about shanayim mikra of the haftorah? I think I’ve heard that mentioned as a rabbinic obligation, but I’m not sure if it’s widely considered as an obligation, and I’m not sure if that many people do it…

    in reply to: How to avoid hangovers? #1063328
    yytz
    Participant

    Eat a lot of food, especially oily or high-calorie food, before drinking and before going to bed. Drink mainly clear liquors like vodka or gin, which have less congeners (non-alcohol impurities that are a main cause of hangovers). Especially avoid the highest-congener drinks, such as bourbon and brandy (and even wine unless you’re used to it and it doesn’t bother you.) Don’t drink too much. Drink a ton of water while you’re drinking and before going to bed. Take a multivitamin before going to bed (alcohol depletes the body of many vitamins and this might be one of the causes of hangovers). Get enough sleep. Eat a big breakfast in the morning after davening. Take some ibuprofen too, unless it’s counterindicated given your medical condition or personal experience. Hatzlacha!

    in reply to: Any heter to not get drunk on Purim? #1219949
    yytz
    Participant

    It is not good to have a posek who is incommunicado. He doesn’t even have a phone number or an email address? We are taught that we should acquire for ourselves a teacher. So in the meantime you need to have another rav you can ask.

    Many, many poskim say that the obligation is to drink just somewhat more than one does otherwise. The Steipler reportedly got drunk one year but never did again, because he realized it was not good for him. Just ask another Rav.

    in reply to: Is smoking marijuana assur? #1062015
    yytz
    Participant

    Rav Moshe had several reasons to hold that pot was assur. Search on Mi Yodea and you’ll find detailed description and a link to his teshuvah.

    I’m not aware of any Rav who has said it’s permissible.

    Regardless, one shouldn’t smoke marijuana. For one thing, it’s a big risk, because a large proportion of people experience negative side effects like paranoia and panic attacks, even people who never realized they were predisposed to such mental disorders. And these things (like panic attacks) can persist after one has stopped using the drugs as well. Also, there’s growing evidence marijuana makes certain people come down with major, permanent, life-changing psychiatric diseases like psychosis and schitzophrenia.

    in reply to: Does becoming MO make you rich? #1061432
    yytz
    Participant

    Not all MO send their kids to MO schools…some send them to charedi schools, Chabad schools, community schools that are mainly non-frum, even public schools.

    Such choices may make it more likely that they will become not-MO when they grow up, but when they’re still kids and living with their MO parents, they’re still MO.

    Anyway, a lot of people have no choice, because many MO live in a place with no MO school, because there’s not enough MO to have their own separate school.

    in reply to: Does becoming MO make you rich? #1061428
    yytz
    Participant

    MO Jews tend to be pretty well-off because they choose high-paying professions. They tend to choose high paying professions because they know tuition and housing are expensive. Becoming MO won’t make you wealthy if you’ve already chosen your profession.

    It’s supposed to be a lot easier to be MO is Israel, because tuition is so much less. But there are fairly affordable MO areas in the US outside of the big ones — I think Cleveland, Buffalo, Detroit and Memphis might be examples.

    in reply to: What to do if ur boss is openly hostile #1060280
    yytz
    Participant

    It sounds like he’s not really discriminating against you in the sense of treating your poorly, not giving your raises, etc. If that were the case I would simply try to find another job.

    In the meantime the best you can do is be a kiddush Hashem. He thinks frum Jews are backwards. But if your attitude and behavior is better than his, then perhaps he will rethink his hostility, and he will be open to taking on more observance (and even perhaps realizing the error of his heterodox ways).

    So do a great job, be super respectful to everyone, refrain from expressing any conservative political opinions (which will probably just make him hate you and stereotype frum Jews more), etc. Pray to Hashem in your own words that you can be a kiddush Hashem, and that he changes his attitudes. Hatzlacha!

    in reply to: Vitamins #1058440
    yytz
    Participant

    flatbusher: Most Vitamin D supplements are D3. The other kind is D2, but it doesn’t absorb as well, so it’s not as widely used.

    in reply to: Vitamins #1058425
    yytz
    Participant

    Goq, I recommend doing some research on Vitamin E. Last time I checked it was controversial — some studies showed it increased the rate of death, perhaps by increasing the likelihood of a heart attack (I don’t remember exactly).

    Vitamin D is one of the most important ones. Everyone should take several times the recommended daily dosage. (Especially people who live in the North and/or don’t spend much time outdoors). There’s also a lot of evidence it reduces the risk of major cancers, and various other diseases as well.

    A daily baby aspiring also has been shown to prevent many cancers, as well as reducing the risk of a heart attack, so it’s probably a good idea as long as you don’t have any counterindiciations, like stomach bleeding problems. (That said ask your doctor…)

    in reply to: Homemade Hummus Help #1056151
    yytz
    Participant

    Two cans of ready-to-eat chickpeas, two to four tablespoons of tahini (or even more if you like tahini), some salt, a little water, two or three lemons worth of lemon juice, some extra virgin olive oil. Blend and taste. If it needs more lemon or salt, add it and blend again. If it’s too thick, add more water, and if it’s not creamy enough, add more tahini or olive oil. Add any spices that you like, if desired. Cumin and paprika are good choices. You could also add some red bell pepper if you want some extra vitamins, color, and flavor.

    in reply to: Mezonos or Hamotzi #1053037
    yytz
    Participant

    Yeah, but if you’re going to eat something like crackers or cake that are breadlike but normally mezanos, you still need to wash and say hamotzi if you are going to be eating a lot of it, to fill you up, as a meal.

    in reply to: OO Shul's Kashrus Standards #1054420
    yytz
    Participant

    I don’t understand why OO is in the title of this thread. But now that we’re on the topic…

    Panda licorice is from Finland and the box just has a plain “K.” The company has a document indicating that it is under supervision from the Finland’s chief rabbi, who is a YCT grad. I’m not on the OO boat in general, but I think this hechsher is good enough, since it’s a very simple product (with just four ingredients, all vegan and non-grape), and I doubt this humble product is fit for a king’s table.

    in reply to: Liberalism #1051378
    yytz
    Participant

    What is left and right is very different by country and time. It’s not so simple that one can say that liberalism led to extremism in France. We are more liberal than them in some ways (affirmative action, etc.)

    The Muslim immigrants are simply very different there. They let in the impoverished Muslim masses from their former colonies, while we (the US) let in the college-educated elite Muslims. We also have some extremism and terror attacks here too — Nidal Hassan killed 13, the Boston Bombers killed 3, the DC Snipers killed 10 (it’s unclear but they definitely seem to have been influenced by jihadi ideology), etc.

    in reply to: NEED chizuk and Ideas ASAP!!!!!!!!! #1051364
    yytz
    Participant

    Here’s an idea: Make a list of the things you want to grow on (brachos, meat/milk, etc.) and resolve to improve in these areas. I think you can improve in these areas mainly by prayer and teshuvah, but also by giving yourself reminders.

    First, spend a few minutes each day in personal prayer to Hashem in your own words. Many sources, not just chassidic but also Ramchal and the Chofetz Chaim, have emphasized the importance of such a practice. Start by thanking and praising Hashem for all he has done for you. Then do teshuvah in your own words, identifying what you did wrong (forgetting to say brachos, etc), feeling sorry, resolving to do better, asking for forgiveness. And then pray in your own words for several minutes, asking Hashem for help in these areas. You might want to start with just one specific area, like brachos. Then end with thanks and praise.

    In addition, give yourself a little reminder. Put a string around your finger or something to remind you to say a bracha before eating, for example.

    It will also help to study at least a little bit of practical halacha each day, like the Kitzur or Shaarei Halacha, and a little bit from whatever mussar seforim (from R’ Zelig Pliskin to Reishis Chochma to Chasidus) you are drawn to.

    By the way, it’s wonderful to hear you talk about how you love Hashem so much — this is very important and a lot of people neglect the importance of loving Hashem. (I was just looking at an interesting book called Jewish Spiritual Practices that talks about this at great length, citing many rabbis with practical advice on such things.) It might also help to remind yourself that the way you put loving Hashem into practice is through studying Torah and fulfilling mitzvos (as well as working on middos, which you’re already doing!).

    in reply to: Gender neutral he/she #1051185
    yytz
    Participant

    Just say they, whether or not you convert it to plural. There’s a long history in English of doing this.

    in reply to: r meir kahane #1049236
    yytz
    Participant

    His rhetoric was so militant that he literally inspired Jews to become terrorists in several instance (such as the JDL and Baruch Goldstein), not an easy thing to do to our morally-sensitive people. How this be good? The proof is in the pudding.

    As R’ Hirsch, Rav Kook and others have written, Jewish nationalism should not be like non-Jewish militant nationalism (“vainglorious nationalism” as R’ Hirsch is translated), about puffing yourself up and putting others down, as a justification for injustice and war. But that’s what Kahanism is.

    We can ultimately achieve more or less the same thing (incorporate the territories into Israel (a one-state solution) while maintaining a comfortable Jewish majority) though more moderate, compassionate rhetoric and means. If Jewish Home (in its current fairly moderate version) or the right-wing of Likud were to get in power, I believe that is what they would do.

    There are religious settlers who believe strongly in what they are doing, yet who get along well with the local Arabs and strive to live in peace with them and use gentle language in pacifying them and improving their lives practically. That, plus getting rid of the terrorists and stopping the pro-terror incitement within Arab society, will work better than far-right nationalist grandstanding.

    in reply to: Not all feminists are the same. #1049229
    yytz
    Participant

    There is not one “normal” meaning, but a number of meanings that people use. People need to understand that when using the term, and interpreting its use among other people.

    A gender wage gap exists, even for the same exact jobs. One study estimates that women doing the exact same work as men (same job, same hours) get 90% of the salary. May not seem like much but it adds up to a lot.

    in reply to: Not all feminists are the same. #1049223
    yytz
    Participant

    Feminism is just a word, which people can define however they want.

    There are hijab-wearing Muslim feminists (who just want to change some unnecessary restrictions based on custom but still follow traditional Islamic law), there are Jewish feminists who are doing the same thing (some call themselves feminists, some don’t), and there are (mainly non-Orthodox) Jewish feminists who want to get rid of halacha whenever it offends them.

    And there are traditional religious women who work toward improving the lot of women (more careers, education, happiness, community engagement, etc.) without calling themselves feminists. There are also even traditional religous women who are 100% for the status quo without any changes, who claim to be feminists too. It all depends on their preference and community norms.

    People shouldn’t use vague words to critique people. What if Sarah Schneier had been shouted down by people calling her a feminist for wanting to educate girls? If you have a problem with what someone is doing, criticize what they’re doing substantively, not by name calling.

    Popa, there is not equal pay. There is a real gender pay gap. Not in every single job, but on average.

    in reply to: Frum and Fit #1050456
    yytz
    Participant

    I think a pretty large number of frum people are into exercising. We should be even more so, since lack of exercise and a sedentary lifestyle (and obesity) is unhealthy, lowers your mood, causes disease, takes years off your life, and is a general chillul Hashem.

    Even so, it’s not necessary to use a gym, as there are tons of good fitness videos online, which can use for free.

    Just doing a few pushups and situps or burpees or whatever, taking 10 minutes out of your day, can make a big difference in your mood and fitness level. It takes a bit of effort the first time you do it, but once you’re used to it it’s not hard at all.

    Aerobics exercise, whether from jogging or aerobic workout videos, is also very important (studies show it stimulates the brain even better than caffeine).

    in reply to: texting a rav #1047255
    yytz
    Participant

    Good question. Well, you can take a look at his website and see the kinds of responses he gives.

    in reply to: texting a rav #1047252
    yytz
    Participant

    Barlev: R’ Shlomo Aviner reportedly answers hundreds of text message shailas a day, and also answers email shailas (through this assistant). I assume most of the texters are from Israel, since he’s an Israeli rabbi.

    in reply to: A real debate about women #1049694
    yytz
    Participant

    The Israeli charedi parties represent the right-wing of charedim. The “new charedim,” more moderate charedim, the “left-wing yeshivish,” American-olim who are charedim, etc., probably have a somewhat more open attitude toward women’s occupations and public positions.

    There are quite a few charedi women who are doctors, lawyers, professors, etc. in America, and at least some in Israel. There are certainly charedi women in both countries who write books and articles and give public shiurim (to women); some even produce and direct their own films (for women only).

    Something else to keep in mind that, according to some Torah teachings, everything a man accomplishes he owes to his wife’s merits. So perhaps there’s no specific need, in people’s minds, of women MKs, since women MK’s wives are ultimately responsible for all the good the MKs are able to do (either directly, through conversation, or in some mysterious spiritual way).

    However, I agree with you that there is no real fundamental reason why women, including charedi women, couldn’t run for office. I think they will eventually, but perhaps not as part of one of the current charedi parties (because they wouldn’t want to do anything to offend the community’s kannoim), but instead through Likud or as an independent or something.

    Some people would see the tsnius issue as being in the limelight where everyone can see you, as opposed to behind the scenes. But not everyone would agree with that interpretation of tsnius. Nowadays charedi publications don’t publish pictures of women, but that’s no reason not to elect them; they can just run stories in their newspapers about the women politicians without pictures.

    Do any American Orthodox women hold political office? Just wondering.

    in reply to: Is Being Right More Important than getting along? #1053064
    yytz
    Participant

    You’re welcome, Goq!

    The thanking-Hashem-for-your-troubles thing I’ve seen in a few places, I think, but it’s really emphasized in R’ Arush’s book, the Garden of Gratitude.

    in reply to: Is Being Right More Important than getting along? #1053061
    yytz
    Participant

    My two zuzim: just forget about it and do your job.

    For all you know the boss has had private conversations with your coworker reprimanding him. Perhaps that is all he deserves.

    Regardless, as a worker you do not have the right to ensure that fellow employees who break the rules should be punished. Deciding on when and how to discipline is the boss’s job. Punishment is not always the answer.

    In addition, keep in min that he will get what’s coming to him eventually, whether at work or in the Heavenly beis din.

    If you do your job right and stay out of others’ business, you’re also more likely to be promoted or receive a raise.

    I would only complain if your co-worker is paid more than you for doing the same job less well.

    It is considered very important in Yiddishkeit to allow “your soul to be silent to those who curse you” (that is, don’t respond or get upset even when other people are mean to you) and accept all your suffering with love as a way Hashem is, in His hidden way, bestowing His kindness upon you (by cleansing you of your aveiros, for example).

    So try not to worry about it. Even thank Hashem for your troubles. Gamzu l’tovah.

    in reply to: A State of Torah. Utopia or Dystopia? #1046115
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    Participant

    “I also have heard in the name of the Chazon Ish (I read it in Oz Vehadar levusha by R falk in the name of the CH”I as well) that a woman appearing in public in a state run according to Torah law would be stoned.”

    This makes no sense, and must be a mistake. Even Rambam, who is the most restrictive on the issue of women outside the home, says women can leave the home once a month (and this must have been affected by his social context of being in a medieval anti-Semitic Muslim country).

    in reply to: A State of Torah. Utopia or Dystopia? #1046106
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    Participant

    I believe according to some views in the Gemara, some of the punishments were never carried out at all.

    yytz
    Participant

    Don’t make this kind of decision based on what people here post. But if she has personal reasons, they might be worth considering — perhaps she thinks he treated her poorly or someone she knew? It is not good to accept someone as your Rov if you know they have poor middos.

    in reply to: What's with left wingers and geirus #1045668
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    Participant

    The gerus bill would decentralize gerus, allowing local batei din (outside of the Rabbanut) to process gerim. This is how it used to be anyway, so it’s not like it’s a fundamental change. It would also benefit chassidim and other groups who prefer to use their own rabbis instead of going through the bureaucratic channels of the Rabbanut.

    The left likes to make changes that would make gerus less hard because of 1) universalism — those on the left are more likely to see Yiddishkeit as something of more universal appeal to all of humanity, rather than the teachings of an insular minority that doesn’t care about the world, 2) sympathy for left-wing religious rulings (such as those of R’ Uziel and others) that allow gerus to be completed even without the ger becoming completely observant, 3) a desire to make life easier for Russian immigrants who aren’t halachically Jewish but have Jewish ancestry and a Jewish identity and served in the IDF, 4) a desire to undercut the increasing control of the Rabbanut (and thus Israeli society, in some respects) by the charedim.

    in reply to: Teaching Emunah and Connection #1047038
    yytz
    Participant

    A wonderful article relevant to this topic just came out today: “Rekindling the Flame: Neo-Chassidus Brings the Inner Light of Torah to Modern Orthodoxy.”

    in reply to: Teaching Emunah and Connection #1047036
    yytz
    Participant

    Totally agree, but the problem is it’s hard to teach, and there are many different viewpoints, and teachers don’t want to attract controversy.

    Or teachers may not know what to say, since this is very personal. For example, someone wrote an article about how R’ Yosef Ber Soloveitchik was a very spiritual person and felt the presence of Hashem, but he rarely talked about that kind of thing publicly.

    Ideally, people should be taught about how to cultivate spirituality, from talking to Hashem in your own words (especially associated with Breslov, traditional Jewish women’s prayer) to meditation (Chabad, kabbalah, Meam Loez) to always reminding yourself of Hashem’s presence and trying to feel it in your life (Bilvavi — a sefer you can read for free in English online, by the way). There’s an encyclopedic book on this subject, Jewish Spiritual Practices. But I personally have gained a lot from the R’ Arush books.

    Yes, we need a balanced education — Gemara, but also halacha, hashkafa, mussar, chassidus, history, etc. People need to understand that many people will not be happy and fulfilled in their Avodas Hashem until they find something that really works for them or inspires them. It doesn’t have to mean changing one’s community affiliation or anything — there are certainly Litvishers who learn chassidus and sephardim who learn Litvish kabbalistic seforim and so on.

    in reply to: A State of Torah. Utopia or Dystopia? #1046099
    yytz
    Participant

    It is true that eventually, the Orthodox will be a majority. However, that will be a couple generations from now, and it is hard to tell what will happen.

    Charedim are growing the most quickly, but the attitudes of charedim are changing — some are becoming more moderate (“the new charedim”), and some are becoming more extreme (Bet Shemesh, the renegade Burka women, etc.). So they will probably be quite a diverse group themselves by 2050 or whatever.

    The dati leumi, which range from LWMO to chardali in their hashkafa, are also growing quickly. They will not be the most numerous Orthodox group, but they will be a large block. And of course they fight in the army, they have guns, they believe in their way of life, and seriously, they would rather die than be ruled Iran-style by a council of charedi gedolim.

    Chilonim and sephardim may not grow as fast but they will still comprise a significant part of the population, as will Arabs (unless something happens, like a big war or, c”v’s, a Palestinian state). They, along with the dati leumi and many of the charedim, will not allow democracy and civil law to be replaced by an authoritarian Torah state.

    So we will likely have some combination of traditional Torah law and civil law, in a democratic framework. Only with Moshiach will it likely be possible to institute pure Torah law (and democracy will probably still play some role, if necessary — will Moshiach even decide when the local parks will close, for example?)

    Most Orthodox rabbis today, not just Chabad and other kiruv people, understand that forcing people to obey Torah will just turn them off, and make them hate everything Yiddishkeit stands for. We need to encourage people to make teshuvah through reasoned arguments, and most of all through kiddush Hashem, the power of a good example.

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