yummy cupcake

yeah, very awesome! now will you provide for us a coffee roomers anonymous?

it would be a great idea. here is the one reason i don’t think it will work. this happens at tznius speeches all the time (maybe you will have noticed something different, but this is as far as my experience goes). why do we have tznius speeches? because there are so many girls and women out there dressing improperly. these women fall into two categories. 1) women who are mostly tznius and didn’t realize that something they are wearing is a breach of tznius- for this group, the speeches would work. and i am not denying, that for whoever changes, it is a big zechus and can really make a difference. the second category of women and girls are those who just dress in stylish/fashionable way because that is very important, and tznius just falls to the way side and they don’t even pay attention to it anymore. this is the bigger group, and it is obvious as soon as you step out into the street. but this group will be harder to get thru to because most of them don’t want to hear about tznius anymore and don’t wanna change because they are very happy with the way they look, the compliments they get, and the heads they turn. (again, this is not all, but most of all the women in this group. yes there are some women who would wake up and say maybe i should really try to improve…and they get major zchus too, of course!) my point is, most of the people who would benefit from this, are the ones that aren’t interested in hearing it! (and believe me, i’ve seen it happen. i know girls who have had to sit thru speeches in skool, and you see them a year or two or three later (single and married) wearing the most odd looking and definitely non tznius outfits. it is so sad 🙁

mine are totty and mommy/ ta and ma!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with yossi z, totally. as for a female, i really don’t know what i would call one. i guess married would be “young married woman/lady/girl” (to shorten, could be ymw/yml/ymg [not as in yaakov mordechai gerstner])

i wonder what ppl say when they refer to me? probably girl. (which is a good description, being that i am a female, so its a good start)

depends what you mean. when it comes to important things, no (but i’m not yet a mother, so maybe b’ezrat Hashem i’ll learn one day)

when it comes to talking on the phone listening to music and chatting on gmail and texting, well i can do that very well!

totally in agreement with aries!

mazal tov to my cousin who just got engaged!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! b’h their have been many simchos in my extended family very recently. THANK YOU HASHEM! KEEP THEM COMING,PLEASE!

another friend engaged, another friend had a baby!!!!!!!!!! B”H for simchos!!!!!!! mazal tov to everyone who posted simchos!!!!!!!

oh yeah, and my sis graduated hs!!!!!!

mazal tov! one of my best friends is in middle of her chasuna as i write!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

just for you!!!!!!!!!! don’t worry coffee addict!!!!!!! you are an important member of the cr. don’t ever forget that! (and it does not depend on the amount of replies you get- i do this all the time. i look thru threads but i’m too lazy to log in. that may just be the case.)

no one knows me, figured its ok, i guess ur right tho. i probably would not like it if someone else posted it! what was i thinking?????? it was in the heat of the moment, i was eating cake (a yummy one, actually!) so i cannot be blamed. blame the cake!

~{]*YC*[}~

actually, i think my family does have royal lineage (it’s all in the name, but THAT is a deep dark secret!)

that’s why i get first dibs on prince harry!

um, is he out of the freezer yet?

do what are you doing in the cr? if ur worried,get on a treadmill!!!!!!!!!

no one answered my question, what type of place is rochester?

as a girl in the parsha, i’ve been wondering the same thing! e/v question here is one that i have thought of. 1) why is the support the girls parents responsibility?

2) who do kids think they are to ask this,no, EXPECT THIS, from her parents?

3) when the couple starts marrying off kids, who’s gonna pay? is the new phrase gonna be “zaidy and bubby are supporting” or “elte zaidy and elte bubby are supporting” it’ll hit hard when there isn’t an elte zaidy and bubby, or a zaidy and bubby to support anymore. then what happens?

so personally (not that anyone cares or should care) but i will b’ezrat HaShem be working, my husband will hopefully be learning and working, and the rest is up to HaShem. but i would never demand or expect money from my parents. it would be bread of shame. and it wouldn’t be fair to my parents.

imho, i am NUMBER ONE! but for this threads sake, i’ll be number two. now ur really not supposed to count ppl tho, so i’ll add in:

NOT TWO

mazal tov!!! that’s so exciting!!!!! btw- do i know you from a diff website, cuz i used to go on another one and someone had almost the same name as ur screen name here. just wondering.

so, any tips for those of us in the parsha? (without getting too personal, i’m just asking for tips)

may you and your chassan know of only happiness, health, shefa bracha and hatzlacha, may you be zoche to build a bayis ne’eman b’yisrael with many healthy and happy children, and may H-Shem grant you both the strength to do whats right, may He grant you a sense of direction and clarity of thought, and may you both be zoche to to welcome moshiach b’mheira v’yameinu!!!!

~{]*YC*[}~

i don’t know if romance is the right word to use here. the way the world/society has made it, romance seems like such a goyish concept. yes the boy can be sweet,giving,…u’ll smile at each other sweetly on a date… but don’t put the word romance/romantic there! i feel like it takes away all the kedusha of the concept.

u don’t marry a boy who after having a romantic date, you marry him if his personality, hashkafos… were compatible with yours.

take romance out of the equation.

ps, you might feel really good and excited and happy after a date, but get the word romance out of here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

don’t mean to sound holier than thou in any way shape or form, i really respect everyone on here, just by the fact that we are all part of one whole, but just like everyone else is entitled, i’m giving my humble opinion

i just listened to that speech by rabbi keleman. i don’t know what to say. it was totally inspiring, amazing, so much hashgacha in every little detail, can you imagine what was going on in the minds of the parents, and everyone involved, while this was all happening.I can’t even imagine. this story is unbelievable!!!!!!!!everyone must listen to this speech!

i know a family where both the parents are only children. works fine. they are an awesome family, and B”H they have tunz of extended family that they are very close with- i mean like 3rd and 4th cousins. so many other ppl i know don’t even know some of their second cousins so well.

i never sleep with them in! a girl in my class once left hers in all nite, fell asleep in them, came to skool her eyes were all blown up and puffy, it was gross, and she couldn’t be in a room with lite cuz it bothered her eyes, so we had to learn with the lights off!

my friend actually told me that she read an article (in binah i think) that although, yes, in shidduchim the hashkafos have to agree with each other and the personalities are something to take into consideration, one important part of shidduchim is emotional needs. i didn’t read the article myself, so it’s a little harder for me to explain what she was telling me, but basically the author of the article said there are four types of emotional needs. the first one is someone who needs to be shown love and appreciation (ex: with a gift from spouse, would like a meaningful note to come with it). the second is someone who has a very giving nature, the person who shows the appreciation, but does not feel a great need to be shown appreciation. third is someone in between the two (likes to be shown appreciation, and is very giving and appreciative of others). fourth is someone who has very few emotional needs, someone who is more practical minded (will say “ok this is what happened and this is what needs to be done” without emotion getting in the way)

you have to read the article, but what i’m trying to say is, the personalities won’t necessarily be the same, as long as they meet each other’s emotional needs.

i read about this in the yated. i sort of didn’t know what to think when i read it. they aren’t gonna get anything out of just learning the gemara without learning all the meforshim. so they will probably get wrong messages and ideas.

still dunno what to think.

but that’s not unusual.