yummy cupcake

poster should specify when seeking advice “i need advice” or something of the like

helping yisroel, i’m in west rogers.

cjp- chicago is very established in the frum world (established enuf at least to have our own section in the yated’s “across the fruited plains” lol)

no one should look down on you for who you date. it is none of their business (unless they know of a potential problem that would be reason to consider breaking off, but even then you gotta be careful). it is you building a home with ur spouse, not anyone else.

gotta go to bed. i’m tired. more tomorrow IY”H.

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why don’t you ask your rav? it sounds like you would need the guidance of a higher authority, rather than a bunch of ppl who will all give you different answers based on their (humble) opinions.

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oh man! 🙂

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whoa, whoa, whoa! stop right there! ya know there are ppl on this site from chicago (i’m one of them and i’m proud of it!). lets back track. first of all: if you live out of chicago, then chicago is out of town. just like to us here in chicago NY is out of town- believe it or not! to us NY is out of town! (sorry, are you feeling a little put down? didn’t mean to cause you NYers any undue shame)

second of all, with this nerdy bit- watch what you say. hilchos lashon hara- even if its a joke, and even if its not about a specific person, but rather a group of ppl, its lashon hara.

i would like to say that FL613 is right (thank you, FL!) chicagoans are very warm and friendly ppl full of chesed at all times. we are open minded, welcoming ppl with a true love of torah, and as a side point we’re not (for the most part- i cant say this about every single person, but u’ll find it anywhere) we are NOT pressured to be like everyone else. there is less competition to try to be better than the next person and there is less of needing every new stupid thing that comes out. like i said, it’s not everyone, but most. I LOVE CHICAGO! my friends from OOT know that i never stop talking about how much i love chicago. its a really nice place! if you haven’t been here yet, you gotta come!

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i’m with onegoal – shwekey all the way!!!

dovid stein comes in second.

but i doubt my budget will handle either one.

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wow, i didn’t know it was THIS common!

i have the same problem!!!!!!! and i know how gross it looks to other ppl because i’ve seen others do it but it doesnt stop me!!!!!!!! i like eclipse’s other suggestions tho! i’ll try anything! (well, almost)

maybe, or a difference in personality and comfort level. to each his own, different strokes, for different folks, that’s what makes us unique!

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i didn’t say ur furious, just have the wrong attitude. ur right that no one has the right to make u feel guilty about not babysitting. of course- ppl shouldn’t “rely” on you, to the point where if you can’t come (which not all of the time will you be able to) they should make you feel the way you do.

one thing i do agree with is that if someone is looking for a babysitter for an event that they know is coming up, book in advance, ppl don’t like to be called last minute. that i’ll give you.

it was more the “not coming into the house unexpected” that struck me as too much.

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gosh,health is right about the ME generation. what’s with, rezdy (and others who feel the same)? if you don’t wanna babysit, no one is forcing you. i don’t mean to sound rude, but sounds like you have the wrong attitude. if you are going “just for the money” then DON’T GO! (i’m sure)ppl don’t appreciate babysitters who come just for the money, they would rather give the money to someone who is willing (happily)to babysit, and will enjoy their home. i happen to love babysitting, and in the summers i’ve babysat for hours (the most being thirteen hours straight at one family!), but they keep taking me back because they know that i love the kids, i’m patient…(that was not said to sound boastful, btw)the kids love me…. and that i like to be at their house. i doubt they would pay someone who had such complaints as you (because more often than not, i think even if the babysitter is trying to look nice and happy…, you could tell what’s going on inside)

and second, i agree with everyone, that you are not doing them a favor (especially with the attitude). they are paying you. if anything, its equal.

and, why would you do something that you would not want someone to see anyway? when i babysit, i keep in mind, it’s their home, they can come in and out as they want. how do you know if someone didn’t forget something at home, or they need something they didn’t realize they would, or something came up suddenly… you don’t know what’s going on in their lives, and they have no achrayus to call you when they walk into THEIR OWN HOUSE!

how will you feel when you IY”H have kids, and when they are at home with a babysitter, you have to call every time you are gonna walk in the door. ur asking permission, in essence, to come into ur own home. at least, that’s the way i see it.

it’s all about attitude. the attitude that it’s not all about you.

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i guess i’ll just havta wait. thanks! i need to work on this savlanus situation- i suppose nows a good time!

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I only have selected times where I do subtitles. sorry. It is completely random. As I said, i will not be doing another one of these offers this week, sorry.

“Eighty-Eight”

in that case, thanks to candy too!

yossi z- i am older. (wtvr, just in case you were wondering)

i agree with onegoal. but for the second situation (because the child may be young,) set certain terms/rules. actually its prob not a bad idea for any teenager who justs wants one but really doesn’t NEED it.

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sorry! i’m right here! yes i’m a girl (well, a young lady, so says my grandmother- i guess almost twenty isn’t girl anymore!) yossi z i like ur idea! and whoever asked if you could just call me yummy or cupcake- gladly!

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i still didn’t get one?????????????? should i ask really really nicely? PRETTY PLEASE WITH SPRINKLES ON TOP!!!!!!!!

how about this: ywn is the best website in the whole wide world and i’m sure everyone agrees, and i love this website and i hope to use it to find out what’s going on in the world ad bias goel hamashiach…. and thanks mods (ESPECIALLY 88) who are always so on top of everything….

now can i have one?:)

i agree here with real brisker and derech hamelech (although i can’t say its the MOST despicable, but i hear what they are saying)! why couldn’t the owner think up some other name rather than subway? it just doesn’t seem right that we need to name a place just like the goyim in order to attract attention and sound cute. i think its totally wrong. now, i don’t consider eating a fake cheeseburger as an aveira, altho i wouldn’t do it myself, i have nothing against anyone who does- you make the decisions in ur life, i make the decisions in mine, i would just feel like its a total deviation of the pasuk kedoshim t’hiyu- the point is we are NOT supposed to act like the goyim.

and, mikehall, come on! you know what he meant. there is nothing wrong with chocolate or coffee or whatever it was. the issue with cheeseburgers is that we are specifically told not to eat milk and meat together. to do so even with fake cheese just looks wrong IMHO.

real brisker and DhM- I’M ROOTIN’ FOR YA!

i agree with what aries is saying. hands down. i think its just so wrong.

yeah, i’m sweet cookie, but i changed my name, this is my new one. anyway, sac, please see my post above, which has my old username.

aaaaawwwww! thanks!