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Because what’s to discuss? A terrible tragedy happened. If someone wants to start a Mishnayos initiative for the Niftarim, then gezunteh heit!
snowbunny3318: Did you look into other seminaries that may be more accommodating, or is your decision made? I believe Nevei has a lot of experience dealing with girls from all sorts of backgrounds, both financial and educational.
Whatever your decision is, I wish you all the best!
Kanoi: Of course more Yidden died in Israel since 1948 than the 100 years before. There were more Yidden in Eretz Yisroel!
What everyone is trying to say is that the myth that Jews and Arabs got along hunky dorey before the evil Zionists came along is just that, a myth. It’s generally perpetuated by sonei Yisroel to “prove” how the Jews are the cause of their own suffering. Needless to say, have you ever noticed how the original neighborhoods of Meah Shearim and Geula look like forts? There’s a reason for that. Arab marauders were fairly common when they were built and nobody had any fantasies about them leaving the Yidden alone.
As a kid I’ve always hated sports. Still don’t play. I regret nothing, but it sure is a lot of fun and good health if you aren’t lousy like me!
Mobe613: If you think that whatever problems people are having with Facebook involves people from other walks of life, you are severely naive.
haifagirl: I feel like I’ve started a fight on something that I don’t really understand.
Health: Thanks a lot. I guess I didn’t realize how prevalent the issue is. Still, I believe that if a person wanted to do an aveira 15 years ago, he didn’t need the Internet. It’s possible that it’s common to use Facebook as a heichi timtza, but I doubt that the divorce rates are any higher because of it.
The problem with the shidduch/dating world is our attempt to apply a “best fit” practice to something that nothing will really fit.
In an ideal world, dating won’t really exist. Everyones’ parents and rebbeim will know them nearly perfectly. Dates will be determined via parents speaking with the other set of parents. The guy and girl will meet for an hour, or so, and the shidduch is decided.
In close knit Chassidish communities, criticize them as you may, this actually works out very well as the people in those communities are generally more products of the community than your average Yeshiva Bachur or Bais Yaakov girl. Meaning, that once a Chassidishe boy or girl is adequately described, you can get a good enough sense of what type of person they are and what type of person they would be good for. In most communities, though, this is far from the case as there is much more variation in what people are doing and want to do with their lives along with variations on Hashkafa.
Unfortunately, due to that high amount of variation, it’s not always so obvious what a guy/girl needs and what they want to do with their lives. This requires a ridiculous amount of investigation and interview which often goes way further than required leading to the problems we face today.
(On a side note, I’ve rarely heard of the legendary boy who wants a Barbie doll in a Bais Yaakov uniform. They don’t really exist as much as people allege they do in most Yeshivas. The mother who wants a Barbie doll as a daughter-in-law is a whole nother ball game)
Health: So people on Facebook do what exactly that leads them to divorce?
Mayonnaise, lemon juice and a single garlic cube.
Can someone explain to me, as if I were a 80 year old Luddite, why Facebook causes divorce?
I consider myself rather tech and Internet savvy. I work in computers, and spend an unhealthy amount of time on the Internet. I can fully understand how looking at and reading inappropriate material can lead a person to very unrealistic expectations in a spouse. (This is not limited to men and pornography. It has been shown that women have similar sorts of expectations that come from certain kinds of “romantic” fiction.) But I just cannot figure out what the deal is with Facebook. I am near-completely ignorant of “Facebook culture” and “Facebook social circles”.
I have a Facebook account, which I check maybe once day. Most of my friends are pretty boring, so I’m not exactly one to talk. But I just cannot understand what people see in Facebook that makes them so unhappy with their lives. You see pictures of your friends going to Israel, new babies, Channukah pictures, you’re chatting with old classmates. I’m not trying to criticize the idea, I’m just trying to understand it.
Bottled water.
I’m looking at you, my wife whom I love and respect very much.
WorldWideJew: That’s the same shayloh of how can you turn on a faucet to begin with, as the water pumps are running on Shabbos.
Quick! Chinese Auction quiz! Just from reading their 2010 tzedaka mailing, what do the following groups do? Name specific events, schools and programs. (I picked 2010, because this year Oorah made the controversial decision to publish a Chinese Auction booklet
Menucha
YACHAD
Oorah
Aish
Ohel
NOT VLASTIC!
I personally like Batampte and Gus’s. The Batampte pickled tomatoes and garlic pickles are especially yummy.
Torah613Torah: All I’m hearing from you is “Look at me! I’m from Brooklyn and we have more Torah than you!” You make me certain that had I known you as a kid, I would have been oiver on several levels of sinas chinam.
Perhaps if your Rov would also have checked into the situation to figure out if there are actually any copepods in the water your answer would be different. Several Rabbonim in our town dealt very closely with the inyan, were me’ayin into the sugyos and spoke with Rav Belsky, Rav Dovid Cohen along with the municipal water company. Turns out, NYC is pretty much alone in the copepod problem due to them having a different filtration system than most other major US cities, which may or may not be on the East Coast.
I have friends in every spectrum of law school (including Harvard) who got in on a BTL and LSAT alone.
No, because I am one of those rare people who don’t live in New York.
Funny unrelated story: In Camp Kol Torah which is located on Telshe Cleveland grounds, one year a boy surprised Rav Gifter by jumping in front of him and taking a picture. The next day the kid dropped his camera, exposing all of the film. The following year, several friends and I lined up outside his apartment when he comes home from Mincha to shake his hand and take his picture. We nervously looked at him and the Rebbetzin who smiled and told us that she wanted to see the pictures later. He looked up, smiled and said “Well, it looks like a lot of people want their cameras to break!” We all took pictures and spoke with him for a few seconds. He asked me why I came to him now, two weeks into camp. I stammered out that I didn’t see him before (accidentally saying “you” instead of the honorific “the Rosh HaYeshiva”) which wasn’t quite true. To which he replied in his usual jovial manner that it’s impossible I haven’t seen him before. Big zechus.
Mitoch SheLoh Lishma, Bo Lishma. Hopefully this person can come to be following the 10th dibbur too.
I don’t dislike grammar due to it’s difficulty. I dislike grammar because in school it was the most boring subject out there. Math made sense. Spelling was important. Grammar was simply arbitrary and had tons of nonsensical rules and exceptions with complicated names for everything. My favorite game to play when someone was asking grammar questions was to ask them to use a participial as a dangling modifier in a sentence. Maybe one out of twenty even knew what that meant. Not to mention the fact that my grammar teachers were just plain awful. I remember Mr. G. from eighth grade who used to make us sit down with our grammar books for an hour straight every week and just “do the work”. Never learned a thing from that class (except for the fact that Mr. G. has high blood pressure and is prone to outbursts when he finds out that everyone who wasn’t Yitzi L. basically just shmoozed the entire hour every week for months in a row and that Rabbi Yaakov Horowitz of Project YES is actually a very kind and understanding person and will actually be able to convince the class to apologize to the teacher even when it’s obvious how wrong he was)
Because there are weird topics that get discussed on here that can explode into “controversial” subjects and lashon hora. The moderators don’t want to have that in here.
I hate Mishloach Manos. It becomes a time when you are forced to decide who your “real” friends are based on who gives you a box drink and wafer.
just my hapence:
Torah is Le’Maaloh min HaShemesh.
There is no 19th floor, there is no Mrs. Zarves.
Agav, according to the Satmar Rebbe Hashem didn’t create miracles to protect the Yidden in Eretz Yisroel. He allowed the Suttan to give a koach to the State of Israel due to the aveiros of Kl’al Yisroel.
My in-laws have a frum family next door with an angry little chihuahua that they used to keep off the leash and unfenced. So far my only interaction with these people has been angrily shouting at them from with inside my car as the little animal attempts to kill my sedan. My in laws were always too nervous to say anything as they didn’t really speak much and wanted to have good relations with them.
I was always wondering what Chassidim whose minhag is to do a Mitzvah Tantz do by a chupas niddah where it will be glaringly obvious to everyone sitting there.
Approximately every 19 years, but it’s often off by a day in either direction due to leap years.
Unless those 19 years encompass 1582, because then it will be off by 9 days.
A story I always repeat when I hear about how (can we not beat around the bush?) a girl with oodles of dough is an advantage shidduch wise.
I know a guy who felt that way. He grew up in a modest household where both of his parents worked and just managed to pay for their childrens’ Torah education. He knew that there was no way he would survive in an American kollel and he ended up with a wonderful girl whose father was willing to support them for several years.
Well, it turns out that not all of the fathers money was Glatt Yosher and not even two months after the chasuna, all support was pulled out and the parents fled the country. The couple had to take on some serious debt and work multiple jobs to break even.
They are happily married now with several children, but I always think about how much more time he would have had to learn had he just decided before hand to plan things out a little and not just rely on his wifes’ familys’ support.
I don’t think it’s so much an issue of drafting B’nei Torah as it is an issue of Kollel Yungerlite not working. In theory, if instead of a draft/kollel option there would be an option for anyone over 30 to leave kollel and get a job, a lot more Chareidim would be working and a lot less non-Frum would be angry at them.
The problem is that it seems to me that any attempt by anyone to institute a tertiary option is met with ridiculous cries of “destroying the oilom haTorah”. Can’t everyone just agree that there can possibly be something other than “soul destroying army duty for a treifa medina” and “learn in kollel on government handouts and whatever you can schnor no matter how much of a masmid you aren’t”?
Is it the Diaspora Yeshiva Band song Hafachta? It starts with:
You brought me up when I was down,
Oh yes you did.
I’m not sure about posting YouTube links, but searching for Diaspora Yeshiva and Hafachta brought up the song.
snowbunny: Don’t bet on it being more “chilled”. Har Nof is only about a quarter Anglo. And the Anglos are often more sincere in their Chareidishkeit then the Sabras.
My mother used to make it from time to time. She preferred cholent (my parents have a mixed marriage, my father’s Yekkish and my mother’s Ungarisch). There are two types, ground and whole. I always preferred whole, prepared like a cholent in a crock pot with maybe some cut up sausage for taste.
Health: I’m sorry, was Sanhedrin re-instated when I wasn’t looking? Have you been declared a Navi? Because you seem to understand how exactly Israel is protected from violence very well. How else do you know that Hashem will send thousands of blood crazed Hamasniks into B’nei Brak the minute someone leaves the Bais Medrash to get a job!?
I’m sick of hearing about how the Chareidim “protect” the Medina. Nobody knows that and nobody has reshus to say that. Do you think that Jews in America are less protected by Hashem because there is a smaller percentage of people learning in Kollel? Don’t be ridiculous.
I’m sorry, but the main issue with the Israeli Chareidim is their refusal to go to work. If there never had been an IDF draft, there would be no Chareidi society like there is today. They go to Yeshiva not to protect Israel but to avoid the draft. And while ???? ??? ???? ?? ???? you still can’t argue that they should not get jobs if, in theory, the draft would cease to exist.
Maybe you should get a “real” Rav to speak with him as to how it’s not b’kavodik do wear a kapoteh or give shiurim.
Health: Which is where the issue stems from. The Chareidi lifestyle wouldn’t survive a day if it weren’t for the vast amounts of economic aid the Medina provides them. Since they by and large don’t make enough money to support themselves, they rely on that aid. Since the non-Chareidi sector by and large do support themselves plus pay taxes that end up in Yeshivas, there is a lot of animosity against them.
Depends what you want to do with it and what year you are living in. If this were 2005 I would tell you to get a BlackBerry. Otherwise I’d tell you to get a Galaxy as it’s probably cheaper than an iPhone.
crazybrit:
Please stahp. Please stahp naow.
Not just Chassidim. Yerushalmi women also shave their heads.
I firmly believe that if the Chareidim would be in the workforce in equal numbers of non-Chareidim, there wouldn’t be such an outcry to force them into the army.
Posting on Internet forums and have random strangers acknowledge my opinions.
For only $180.00 a minyan of talmiday chachamim will get drunk for you on purim. They are calling the organization Kupat HaBeer
What sechuyos do they guarantee? I won’t donate money to any tzedaka that doesn’t at least promise an end to all suffering.
What do you mean by harassing? If you mean a comment that does nothing but demean another poster, then adamant no. If something else, then please explain.
If your only comment on a post is a comment on the grammar, then you obviously have nothing to contribute to the conversation.
Still, proper speling, and grammer should at the very least be encouraged.
OneOfMany and 42: A lot cleaner than Hitchikers Guide. Except that one book with that one song about a hedgehog. And there is a metric ton of innuendo, especially the witches and Wee Free Men series.
There’s also quite a bit of apikorsos in there, but it’s presented in a fantasy oifen. (One book, for instance, deals with the god of evolution who happens to be an Atheist.) And, as I always say, if you think that reading a book is going to change you beliefs in HaKadhosh Baruch Hu, you have many more problems to worry about.
All in all the books are hilariously funny.
Did she just start going out? Then bad bad bad bad bad idea. Has she been going out for 3+ years? Then maybe.
What snew? I didn’t see no snew. Don’t live in New Yawk or Joisey or Bahstan.
IANAL (I am not a lawyer) but I do believe that there is something called “Contempt of Court” which is punishable by law.
What does the hapences have in his pocketses?
Maybe you need to find an outlet. I don’t know, scrapbooking, or learning TANACH or playing violent video games. Attach a ridiculous amount of importance to that outlet and maybe you’ll stop seeing your job as something that requires perfection.
That’s my 2 cents, it’s what I’d do in your situation. But for yourself, I would highly suggest you speak with a competent professional, like a Rov or a guidance counselor.
The man (or woman) who least wants the job. Because he/she is the only one capable of doing it.