Haifa? I think you missed a word …

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Warehouse worker. Going to school for (business) management.

Of course first and foremost I am an eved Hashem

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I just want to put this out there. Granted that we are supposed to do things so that our neshamos can (finally) rest in shomayim where they belong with all their tasks completed, we are at the same time given the task of living in/with this world. This means that we are supposed to have some level of enjoyment and pleasure from this world. Obviously this does not mean we take self centered pleasure, rather, we take pleasure that will allow us to accomplish that which we need to get accomplished. For example, we need to eat, drink, and sleep. We could technically eat dry bread, drink water, and sleep on an uncomfortable hay mattress. Hey, we are eating, drinking, and sleeping right? No. Unless we are at the level where we need less physical pleasure to live that is not what is right. What the average person nowadays needs to do is have three proper meals a day and sleep on mattresses that help with a good night’s refreshing sleep. This in and of itself is serving Hashem because we are taking care of ourselves for that exact purpose.

Hope this helps

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Welcome her majesty! (Or is that still kapusta’s title?)

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kind of. if you go onto your profile and in the url replace your name with the name of the poster you are looking up (hyphens replace spaces) then you can view their profile. there are however a few details i am missing like if they switched names i don’t know how it works as to under which name the profile will show up

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Mazal tov to my friend EM (coffee addict-you know him) on the birth of a baby girl!

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… elokeichem. shuva yisroel ad Hashem elokecha. Of all my father’s niggunim, the one he put to these words is my favorite.

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i am interested to know how modern orthodox came into play. the op said reform …

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From what you wrote it doesn’t sound like you really understand much either. Go to the search engine (located in the first post under the stickyed thread “searching the CR for old threads”) and type in who is joseph. There should be a few threads to go through hopefully all will help.

Hope that helps

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thank you sister bear for the bracha. i am very touched. right now i can’t think of anything better to say besides ?? ????? ?????. may you be zoche to grow and be able to see the constructiveness of every situation you are placed in.

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Middle path: you know comfortingly enough to me, and hopefully you too, you sound very much like me in regards to social outlet (having/had a rough life, not really having a rabbi to talk to, having one maybe two friends that went through the same or can empathize, etc). Stay strong and bring yourself to a high(er) level of self comfort and confidence (let me forewarn you even though you probably already know this, it is not an easy task. It can be difficult to the extreme at times but in the end it does start to go smoother-not necessarily easier but smoother). I know you said that she told you it has nothing to do with you or your situation yet at the same time using every experience you go through to grow helps get you through the experience.

I mean everything I said in the best possible way. We believe in you middle path. You can do it!

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A little Jewish anecdote

Soon after the drinks have been handed out, he notices that the Jewish guy is smiling, and waves to him, saying, “Thank you.

This infuriates him and in a loud voice, he once again orders drinks for everyone except the Jew. But as before, this does not seem to worry the Jewish guy who continues to smile, and again says, “Thank you.”

So Peter says to the barman, “What’s the matter with that Jew? I’ve ordered two rounds of drinks for everyone in the bar except him, and all he does is smile and thank me. Is he nuts?

nah not the jewish race, just yeshivah bocherim 😛

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I will say only this. I find that it has become a stigma in the jewish world to be working rather than learning and this can negatively affect shidduchim (I am talking from experience here). On the other side I have gone out with girls who say they want a learner when they really don’t. So where is the problem again?

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ames requested that his(?) comments be wiped when they disappeared from the CR. squeak i believe is still around but barely if s/he is (i don’t keep the best track of genders)

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and i know all of them! these are my chevra pretty much from when i first joined until my first (and longest) leave of absence (when i came back most of them were gone)

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Brother: I do my best to only look positively 🙂 I don’t do it just by looking at a face even though I could tell something just from a face, it usually won’t be accurate that way. I need to have a conversation (of any kind) before I analyze.

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Mazel tov to my friend upon becoming an uncle for the first time!

ICOT: Thanks for the welcome back 🙂 (though if you want to know who to thank for convincing me that would be a lurker turned poster by the screen name photogenic)

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mazel tov to my cousin on the birth of twin girls!!!

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yes there is a time limit from when you post within which you can edit your comment.

topics advance to the top via most recent post but there may be enough posts coming in or a post waiting or something. i am not exactly too clear on that myself as you can tell

when you are logged in, for some reason, when you post it registers as two comments and when you log out it goes down to two. i don’t know why it does that though

hope i helped

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Yeah I saw that too. Mazal tov cshapiro on her engagement! May her and her chosson be zoche to build a bayis ne’eman b’yisroel binyan adei ad!

YC: oh great, now you can drive us up a wall … Seriously though, congrats! 🙂

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yes. it is called swiss gear and you can get it in target

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yid4life: may we hear much good news from you

last rebel: mazal tov. may you be zoche to go only higher!

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mw13: very well put!

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To respond to the original question: being that I have been around the block a number of times one would think I would be giving up a lot to be frum. While yes from an outside onlooker it may look like I gave up a lot, in reality I feel not only have I not given up (as I find that which I gave up to be meaningless and empty) but I have gained tremendously (an inner contentment, security in my beliefs, real happiness, being comfortable with who I am and what I am doing, etc) what did it for me? People accepting me for who I was and not focusing on what I was doing and (at least outwardly) not caring about what I was doing and only caring just about me. In other words they would keep tabs on how I was doing, whether I was enjoying school/work/etc and wouldn’t say a word about what I did or didn’t eat (except to find out what I liked :)), did or didn’t do, etc. Of course I did all I could to reciprocate by respecting their rules (if they were makpid on cholov yisroel I would only bring cholov yisroel into their house, only particular hechshers they held of? Same thing, no goyish music? None would be heard, and so on). This allowed me to grow and work on myself (with the help and guidance of these people around me as they were always there for whatever and whenever so as soon as I started becoming more frum they were there to help me with that) to become what I am today. A frum, ehrliche, proper yid.

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