Lightitup: yeah things are ok, just I am currently going through some rough patches and there are times where it gets to me. The only reason I am not being more clear as to what is going on is … No not due to shidduchim 😛 rather due to the fact that I revealed who I was and I don’t want to needlessly worry people.

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I am grateful for apushetayid’s poem.

I am grateful for the existence of babies (so innocent, pure, edible (no I don’t actually eat babies! Lol) …)

I am grateful that I was able to land a decent paying job (for my current station in life) that I love.

I could list on and on but most of all I am grateful to be an only child of Hashem and have that special close connection with Him and as wolf said so well I am grateful for the capacity to be so.

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I still have yet to find out if I am alive …

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I could use some thought organization as to what is happening and what to do. Going through multiple rough periods simultaneously doesn’t help one think clearly and in an organized fashion to be able to work out that which needs working out.

Poppa: there, I didn’t use clarity, happy? 🙂

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Tums?

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I know why some left and I personally have become more of a lurker than anything else

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Lemonysnicket: first off welcome to the cr, I don’t believe I have seen you around before. Second, yes!!! I take it you watched the truman show then? Good morning! and if I don’t see you, a good afternoon, good evening, and good night (something along those lines. I don’t remember exactly as I haven’t seen it in a while)

I am happy just going/being in israel. To me a vacation is a few days without work or any real responsibilities spent happily spending time with family whom I am very close with. Now ‘family time’ could be a cousin out in nevada just saying I am not against traveling around …

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I had a question? The question mark was because I was unsure whether intriguing was the correct term.

Though I am still managing to smile 🙂

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Onegoal: hrm looks like my post was blocked guess I am not supposed/allowed to say …

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Sort of. My family (or at least my parents) kinda just stopped traveling around. My grandfather and his wife do come at least once a year typically succos time.

My memory may be slightly fuzzy as I think we stopped going when I was on the younger side (before my bar mitzvah) so I don’t know/remember exactly 5WH (who what where when why how) we stopped going

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‘Tis my name.

Yogi: there is a movie called yogibooboo?

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I have been lurking the whole time, I just thought I would actually poke my nose in once every while. Thank you for making me not feel off (awkward?) Anymore 🙂

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I havta re-learn to just listen to music for the joy of it (I have been music analyzing for waaay too long) before I can answer this question …

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Hi guys! Just poking my nose back in here to let y’all know I am still here hanging around keeping an eye out.

Welcome to princesseagle and sweettooth!!

Good luck rebbetzin! As someone posted earlier, keep us posted 🙂

Keep the good work up (the support and warmth I can tangibly feel in here too). I feel slightly off that this is all I can really say …

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My older brother gave permission to the brother in between me and him. At first when I asked what would happen if something came up for me he said no/we will see when the time comes. When the first shadchan called, I spoke with him and we discussed it coming to the conclusion that if the powers that be (rabeim, parents, etc) feel that I could/should be getting married then he is not going to stop me and on the contrary he encouraged me.

Do I have reluctance? Yes. Would I be much happier if he were to get engaged/married before me? Yes.

But if the time is here and he is not only giving permission but encouraging me, then I am not going to not go out/get engaged/get married.

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I have work tomorrow, friday, and monday. I am lead to believe that the only reason we even have purim off is because it is on a sunday.

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*wryly* apparently a lot more people know who I am then I thought/expected. I just wish they would personally, be it in here or in person, let me know that they are the ones who know me. If in here all I want at most is a shout out they hey I know who you are and that will be it. If in person, just let me know that you are here and no need to give a screen name. I mentioned in another thread that someone let me know that there were a few people that knew me and that is really what got my curiosity going. I don’t want to know who you are just that you are. There are already around three members here who have done one or the other.

Sorry for the rant. I am tired and preoccupied. Even though it may not have been the brightest idea to essentially in a way ask for people to speak up, I still would like to know how many people I do know here even if I don’t know who they are (be it their screen name or real name)

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Mazel tov mazel tov to my cousin on his marriage tonight!!!!

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!Nuf si erus ti tub si ti sey

(: !namrebuz (:

I can’t really put my two cents in here as I have a foot in both “camps.” My uncle, you see, is the sephardi chacham of Massachusetts (yes I used spell check to spell the state I was brought up in) so I am quite comfortable with the sephardic ways (besides having sephardim around and eating by them quite often)

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Mazel tov mazel tov! May they be zoche to build a binyan adei ad dorei yesharim umevorach! Much nachas!

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Humidifier usually helps a cold.

I am very thankful to Hashem for all that He does for me.

I am very thankful to my parents for all they have done for me

I am very thankful to my sister for all she does for me.

I am very thankful to all you fellow CR members for everything you do

I am very thankful to the anonymous members here who know me in person (I heard from a reliable source that some of the members here apparently know me in person and mentioned some nice things about me)

For anyone I missed, don’t worry I am very thankful for/to you too

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I forget her hebrew name but Mrs. (Robin) meyerowitz from providence RI is a top notch shadchanis (I don’t know pay rates though)

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ert1: whenever my grandfather was asked a two ended question such as the one you asked, he would just say yes essentially leaving you answer less. It is lots of fun. Of course you then have to figure out a way to phrase the question to get a proper answer out. 🙂

Zeeskite: you said “I hope we all do, regularly” so I asked “because mommy said so or it is the right thing to do”

By the way, I shower once a day

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I wouldn’t call that a rant, I would call that good sound advice. Kapusta if I may add a little to what you said.

A way I have found to use the talking to Hashem technique in a most effective way, is to talk as if having a real conversation (which in essence you really are but you just can’t/don’t hear the response) and “respond to yourself” with constructive, solution oriented (am I being complicated here?) Answers/comments. This will force you to break down the issue(s) into manageable parts allowing you to at least work out what the root issue(s) is/are, in turn enabling you to (with help!) Work on solutions.

As mentioned a few posts up, rough patches (especially during the teenage years) enable one to grow (if guided properly and approached with the right attitude). May I suggest that you take this opportunity, look at the situation you are in, and try to figure out what can you gain from it

Oh and one last thing (which was also mentioned albeit in passing) there doesn’t need to C”V be something wrong for you to talk to Hashem. Saying thank you if even just for the beauty of creation helps to keep a connection/closeness which in turn gives you courage, confidence, and security in knowing that you are being watched over and cared for at all times.

I know I said one last thing but may I offer a suggestion to pick a teffilah and make it (or a part of it) your own. What I mean by this is for example take the first three brachos of shmone esrai and that will be your time for complete focus and attention on davening and strengthening/keeping in touch with your connection to Hakadosh Baruch Hu. This will also allow you to ‘tap in’ to that pecial feeling of closeness, security, etc

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