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I’d also like to address the fact that some of the people mentioned in this forum in a negative aspect, DO go on YW and read the articles and forums. Just something to think about the next time you talk about “modern” Jews, the “Tznius” issue, etc…
I notice this story only points out that the man was a nazi, where does it say the woman was one as well? Just to assume the spouse is something because of one picture doesn’t really tell us much, he may have married her in the states, not telling her his dark side, unless im missing part of the story… I think the message in this story is that things happen for a reason, but if this God forbid happens to someone else, they shouldn’t automatically “assume” that the victim was a bad person. Tragedies happen, and people are always looking at “a way out” and others to put the blame on. It’s time for people to take responsibility of their actions.
Not to burst anyones bubble, but parents in Israel let their children surf the web alone as well. This isn’t just a USA thing. It goes on everywhere. The worst part is not that they let their kids on the web without supervision, it’s that some parents allow their children to have computers in their bedrooms with free access to the internet whenever they want. This isn’t only a religious issue, this is a matter of the safety for our children’s well being, and the harm it can cause in many ways I shouldn’t have to elaborate on. The thing you should know is most websites have age restrictions, but that age is from 12 and under. So 13 year olds have a lot of freedom on the web even when they are following the “rules.” To the parents who think everything is nice and dandy for their kids to be online alone because they have limited access or password protected internets, are extremely naive. Kids are a lot craftier then you think, they can break those passwords, and safety walls easier and faster then you think. I’m not one that is against the internet I love the news, email, being in contact with friends and family who live far away, YW :), and the endless amount of educational information ( I also need it for my job), but if there are adults who can’t control themselves or young children with free reign without supervision, then there should not be a computer in their reach unsupervised at any time.
Hey I think the “coffee room” is a great way for us to connect. Many of us have questions, complaints, stories, etc. of which we like to share and get feedback on, and hear opinions & views of Jews from all over. Some of the topics do get very heated at times, and people say such hurtful things to each other. You can’t “know” someone solely from their comments here on YW, so we shouldn’t judge so harshly & jump to what could be false conclusions of one another. It’s ok to disagree with someone’s comments, but do it in a polite, non badgering fashion. The Aveiros you are getting from the Loshon Harah, Embarrassment & Hurting one’s feelings is not worth it. Peace, Love & Harmony people!
We may have the “potential” to be the best, but unfortunately some do not achieve it.
Why don’t you keep your eyes in the sidder instead of people’s feet? But, if you would like one reason to make you “happy” crocs were the only shoes i could wear when i had foot surgery, i was wearing them for several months.
Every Jewish person visiting this website has their own personal perspectives on several topics of discussions here on YW. They have the right to post their opinions & to be heard, even if you don’t approve or agree with what they say & how they express themselves. If you are completely offended by what another person has posted then don’t continue reading & responding if you feel too uncomfortable or angered, you may only further a “hate” type of discussion that will only lead to fights and negative thoughts toward one another. There is so much judgement being thrown around on this forum. By having Jews from all walks of life voice their opinions, we have a greater insight of who everyone is, and maybe in turn pass a little less judgement, once knowing where they are coming from.
draykup – The most legitimate and most recognized online courses are through your local community college. Plus they offer great financial aid and government grants if need be.
Continuing education is very important. Learning is infinite.
There are women and men that dress certain ways because they are PROUD of how they look, if you can only see it as self esteem issue maybe you need to look at yourself and work on your own ego. Things aren’t always in black and white…
I’d like to agree and elaborate on the topic of men commenting on women’s “dress code.” Just by talking about it on this forum forces a man to think about it. So, maybe the men should stop talking about it already, you are only amplifying this aveira you say women are “forcing” you to commit. If you really have a problem with it, then speak to your Rav, and talk to your wife and daughters about it. It is extremely inappropriate to be discussing how a woman is dressing, and being so descriptive about it, Yikes!
Awesome post Aleen1! – as a plus i live a block from where they were doing the fireworks in Lakewood, it was pretty cool & funny watching people scrambling to find parking spots all over our block.
I see this happening all the time. There is no excuse to be talking & driving at the same time. You know the law, or at this point you SHOULD know it. It clearly states in the drivers manual that as a driver it is your responsibility to know the rules of the road.
As for being distracted, I have to say that the worst incident i have witnessed was on a major highway, suddenly we started hearing honking, people were slamming of their brakes swerving. we didn’t know what was happening till we were behind a car going 30-35 miles TOPS, (in a 65 mph zone) he was swerving all over from lane to lane, As we passed him we saw that he had a huge newspaper on his steering wheel and he was reading it while driving! We called the cops, and they told us that they have been getting tons of calls about this driver, and they were sending a car out to look for him. How Crazy is that??
You have to understand that some of the people spreading their “hate” posts are bigoted & ignorant. They love getting a rise out of you. They annoy me as well, but I know that by answering them, that they LOVE the confrontation. Think about it, why are they posting these comments on an online forum? because these people are afraid to do ANYTHING in person, they feel powerful when they are fighting with people in the safety of their home.
The sites themselves are not necessarily anti-semitic, they just hold by “freedom of speech” So people can go on there spewing just about anything, unless they get a few complaints about the comment, then they take it down.
Check the BP, I see numerous job offers there all the time. If you’re getting paid well, (or at least enough to pay some bills), getting medical insurance, or you like the people who work there and the job it self, then it probably wouldn’t be that easy to quit. I used to work for a boss who mentally abused his workers, but most of us couldn’t leave because we needed the money to pay our bills, so they stuck around, while i bounced (i didn’t want to be arrested due to the fact that i knew if he blew one more fuse in my head that i would send him to the er… YIKES). I switched jobs, got paid a little less, but my bosses were amazing to me, the people there were incredible, i enjoyed that job immensely. Don’t feel too bad about your vacation days, my hubby doesn’t get off for jewish holidays so all of his vacation/personal days have to be taken then, and yes 8 days a year he gets legal holidays off, but the work load he has the day after is exhausting (because half the office call out “sick.” I’m always seeing job fairs, maybe spread the word and make a jewish version of it. I know what you’re going through, I feel your pain and frustration, because it is a tough market out there. People should know, that yes you may get turned down for a job once, twice, or more, but you have to be adamant, and not give up looking. Keep your head up high. Good Luck to All Seeking Employment!
Bas Torah – I just hope you thanked these people for inviting you into their home before complaining about them on a public forum…
The cost of a wedding and stressing over planning one is enough they should go through, They shouldn’t have to worry over their guests not having the cash to come. In my experience, whenever there wasn’t a bus providing free transportation, My friends and I would hitch a ride with someone else going, and if that wasn’t possible, then I just wouldn’t go and send my mazal tovs through a phone call. So if the family making the wedding, has the money, and the koyach to rent a bus, and find rides for everyone who rsvp’s then power to them. For the bochurim, and any other individuals who don’t have the means to get to the wedding hall, don’t be upset or hurt when there isn’t free transportation, there is a lot going on when making a wedding, and it costs a lot of money to rent a bus service. Believe me I know, when I got married it was very hectic, and the wedding costs sure do put a dent in our bank accounts.
Tell my brother Adam I say hi! He lives upstate & anyone who lives there or visits there knows him. He’s a cool guy. Good Shabbos!
I think it’s an excellent idea to single out and reward these kids. They worked hard, they deserve every recognition, and rewards they get. Let the parents and grandparents have & enjoy this nachas they get from this occasion.
As for jealousy part of it, well that shows lack of self esteem and selfishness. Maybe those kids should seek counseling for their emotional and mental health. Yes everyone gets a little jealous here and there, but if it’s to the point where you can’t be HAPPY and PROUD of a friend who receives awards for their accomplishments, then there is a definite problem with this person, or perhaps the kid thinks that he was more suited for an award someone else got.
Jealousy goes a lot further then high school graduation. You have people jealous of other’s family size. You have people who are jealous of good looking, slim people. You have people who are jealous of other’s wealth & health. You have people who are jealous of other’s happiness, this list can go on and on, so this jealousy thing does not stop at the end of high school. If there is a kid that can’t deal with the happiness and the rewards of others, then maybe they should look deep inside themselves, & see if it’s them that’s the problem and not the high achievers.
I for one am not someone who got “special” rewards from graduation, but me and my friends were happy for those who did, because we were happy with our accomplishments and the diplomas we received in front of all our families to see and to be proud of. Be comfortable & happy with your self and abilities. Take your strengths and pursue them, Take you weaknesses and work on them. You will be a much happier person, and if nothing works, then maybe a counselor is what you need.
p.s. my nephew just graduated, and I’m so proud of him, Mazal Tov!
I believe we are discussing tznious here, and smoking is a major lack of tznious. you say smoking is a “bigger” issue here, yet you say talmidei chachomim are smoking, and just because they are smoking does not make it right, and the fact that “highly respected” yidden are doing such things while people look the other way shows how much people DON”T think it’s a big deal.
For those of you who are ignorant to the facts of smoking, I pulled this up from a government website:
Cigarette smoking causes 87 percent of lung cancer deaths and is responsible for most cancers of the larynx, oral cavity and pharynx, esophagus, and bladder.
Secondhand smoke is responsible for an estimated 3,000 lung cancer deaths among U.S. nonsmokers each year
Tobacco smoke contains thousands of chemical agents, including over 60 substances that are known to cause cancer.
And for those of you who do not view it as a tznious issue, Let me put it in to perspective for you, Just like you’re saying that women are looking like non jews, the way they are dressing, and making men uncomfortable, and do aveiros not only do smokers look non jewish and make not just women, but everyone around you uncomfortable, and have bad thoughts about you, when you smoke, you look trashy and low class to people of all faiths.
“just me” you are right on the the mark, took the words right out of my mouth. although the bochors don’t hide when they smoke, I see them on the streets, outside of shuls, and yeshivas smoking. Smoking is a sakana, and it’s a fact that’s been proven by the fda that it causes cancer and other health problems, even if they just do it for “a little while.” People are saying that the way the women are dressing causes men to do an aveira, but how about the smokers who are giving everyone around them second hand smoke, and their children, and wives third hand smoke by touching them with their cigarette infested fingers. So what’s the bigger issue here? a skirt a little over the knees, or killing innocent bystanders and well as themselves. And on the topic of tznius, smoking is a huge lack of tznius, and a huge chilul Hashem as well.
mdlevine- what you wrote made me nauseous. stop ogling these women. The excuse that they are the ones making you do an aveira is getting old. how about this:
-when you’re in the supermarket keep your eyes on the shopping list your wife gave you
-when driving or walking keep your eyes on the road, you may crash or get hit by a car.
I’ve got one word for you here: Scammer!
Why is anyone under the age of 21 having access to liquor anyways? It is against the law, the adults can get arrested, and this should not be news to any of us. The Adults should know better then to leave a table of whiskey, vodka and wine out for all to take. Why do the adults need such hard liquor, and such an abundance of wine for a kiddush? The children practice what is being preached to them, when they see their parents, older siblings, and rabbis, getting drunk. Where are the responsible adults in situations like this? Take away the alcohol, and tell the drunks to skedaddle! Don’t be another herd statistic, by just standing around witnessing this but not doing a thing, and thinking someone else will handle it.