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Do people not realize that height, build and muscle has much to do with someone’s weight?

The average height for a girl is around 5’4, but there are a lot of girls who are either above this and below this “norm.”

There are plenty of women/girls who can be a size zero without being too skinny or have an eating disorder.

I know some tall girls with bigger sizes who look slim while I also know some short girls with smaller sizer look husky.

There’s a very fit individual who is 5’1/5’2 and usually a size 0 or a loose size 2. She looks fit, not “unhealthy.” So please don’t judge someone on their weight or size. By doing so, you may inadvertently cause eating disorder rumors about the person when in fact they are very healthy.

I find it very acceptable and normal to go out with someone you’ve previously dated, even though at that time it didn’t particularly work out.

Everything happens for a reason. Maybe they weren’t “meant” to be wed just yet. Or perhaps some time has passed, and one or both parties matured since then. There are several explanations for situations such as this.

I have seen this happen many times in the shidduch/dating realm.

aries2756, Thank you for that very heartfelt and informative post. It could not have come at a better time and I very much appreciated what you wrote. I also have a question, (you don’t have to answer if it is too personal); How long had time passed until you weren’t angry anymore, or resentful, and disbelieved in Him?

Never lived long enough to ever know or meet them, but for those of you who have had the privilege of spending time with them, and knowing them, or those who are B’H still with us, please know, you are very blessed, and you shouldn’t take one second with them for granted.

Maybe he got a promotion at the YWN 😉

I’m an AK, but not sure how long the Coffee Room has been around, so I guess I’m a middle ager 🙂

Question is, anyone know who the First posters were?

Facebook I like for it’s ability to help keep us in contact with friends and family. Yes a phone call, a letter, or a knock on the door is best, but many people don’t have that luxury. So until we do, Facebook is a great way to connect.

As for Twitter, I… can’t… stand… it! LOL – Plus, Facebook has a similar feature of which I utilized during the marathon 🙂 Everyone knew where and when I passed each and every mile!

Sometimes when someone is smoking for a long period, it starts becoming a crutch for them. When they are stressed, smoke. When depressed, smoke. When nervous, smoke. When bored, smoke. The list can go on and on. Just like some individuals who are obese, turn to “food” as an outlet.

The point is, when deciding to quick smoking, something has to take the place of the habit, otherwise, like any other “crutch” that falls, so will the person using it. Most importantly, the person must Want to quick before taking any other steps. People don’t realize that “wanting” to quit is the First step to rid themselves of the smoking habit. That “Want” to quit stage is not as easy as it may sound. It’s very hard for some people to get to that stage with positive intentions. Even those who have the “wanting” to quit step behind them, have a very long way to go.

Support, support, support, is very important for someone who’s trying to quit smoking. The more family and friends there are to give their love and support, understanding and uplifting, the better it will be for someone trying to break the habit.

Perhaps we can dedicate this thread to act as a “Support Group.” For those who smoke, want to quit, in the process of quitting, and those who are smoke free. Together, we can share our hardships, and triumphs as smokers and ex-smokers. As well as others to share what ever helpful knowledge they may want to contribute to the cause. Stories, and experiences. What made you start smoking? How did you quit smoking? What advice can we give our children to prevent them from smoking? and etc…

Marathon!

But seriously, running a marathon doesn’t come close to the brave individuals who have to endure such dreadful illnesses. They are the real heros!

Ebay used to be a great selling ground for small time folks to make a little money. Ebay today, has become very large. So big in fact that they don’t care about their “small timers” anymore. Only the customer and “big” time sellers are what matters to them. I have been forced to stop dealing with Ebay because of how terrible I (and many others) have been treated by them.

A seller cannot give negative feedback to a buyer, even if the buyer defaults on the payments.

When a buyer doesn’t pay for the item they bid on and “won,” Ebay does not fully compensate the seller on their loses (listing fees etc).

So now, how can the sellers differentiate between the “bad” buyers from the “good?”

This is just One of the many issues small time sellers have with Ebay.

MaKesher, It has nothing to do with how the individual looks, it comes down to their deteriorating health. Medical Science has proven smoking to hinder your lung capacity, and your lungs play a major role in giving the person the ability to run over 26 miles. (Among all the other damage smoking does to our health)

NY Mom, That is seriously awesome, You are an inspiration.

When someone starts spewing hate towards another person, and if his “freedom of speech,” has the potential to instigate a riot, or other dangers towards others, he has “overstepped” the boundaries of that right.

– That is what I was trying to get across, when I was referring to the act of abusing the Bill of Rights. A “hate speech” has it’s limitations.

Sorry about all the misunderstandings regarding my previous post. I’d like to clarify my objective if I may. “Hate Speech,” as in the manner of a direct violent verbal/visual assault against someone(s), not in a general way of speaking.

It’s possible to be defined as both a right and privilege. It is a right if we respect and uphold the letter of the law, and not look for loopholes. It becomes a privilege when people abuse those rights, and therefore are in danger of having it taken away from them. It is referred to as the Bill of “Rights.” As Americans, we posses the “right,” to perform specific acts, which cannot be fringed upon by our government because we are protected by the Bill of Rights. But, there are various occasions, where the government can take away those rights if they are abused in specific situations.

Smoking is one of those “rights” which can be accosting others. Which is why different parts of the country are banning such acts in specific areas.

I am not claiming to be the most Tzniot individual out there, but I’d like to express my opinion on the matter. Women are intelligent beings, but they are human as well, so you can understand how dressing Tzniot can be a challenge.

The intellectual part of us asks;

Why dress in this specific manner, What are the reasonings to do so, How should one know what is permitted and what isn’t?

Our materialistic instinct suggest;

But this outfit is so cute, If She can dress like that so can I, But this outfit compliments my figure so well.

People need to be educated in something before they can commit to it. There should be Tzniot classes that offer a wider spectrum of “levels.” You can’t have a former Bais Yaakov student learning at the same “speed” as someone who never learned their Aleph Bet. When they hold these Tzniot meetings, most of the women who should be going don’t because they are afraid of the reactions they might get when stepping into a room full of very Tzniot clad women. Most of the women who know the rules and reasons are getting REeducated, while those who don’t attend, don’t even have the step to guide them into Modesty.

(p.s. There are several women from Bais Yaakov backgrounds, who are starting from scratch as well).