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JosephParticipant
If the goy you rent your storefront bases the rent on a percentage of sales, and the rental terms demand the store be open seven days a week, you’ll keep the store open on Shabbos by hiring a non-Jewish worker for Saturday?
If the psak is you can’t keep your Amazon store open on Shabbos, how’s that different than the storefront with the non-Jewish Saturday worker?
JosephParticipantGoogle can.
JosephParticipantLilmod: car service, taxi, Uber, bus, subway. The Americans can do the same as the Eretz Yisroel’dika.
JosephParticipantAmerican yeshivish bochorim, by and large, do not have their own cars. They usually borrow their father’s car or rent a car for the date. So the fact that the Eretz Yisroel yeshivish bochorim don’t drive their dates is a deliberate decision. They could’ve also borrowed a parents or relatives car or rented one. But they b’davka do not.
JosephParticipantSam2: The easiest example (of many) is when the wife requests a divorce due to a desire to marry someone else she became acquainted with. This is clearly spelled out; no idea how you missed it. But there’s “one case” for your education. This is mentioned in the Mishna in Nedarim 90b, if I recall the maare makom, as well as in Shulchan Aruch.
JosephParticipantReuven, our fathers agreed to our marriage when we were toddlers.
JosephParticipantPossible lack of tznius is no biggie, BG?
JosephParticipantMy question, as I think is self-evident from the description and subsequent conversation, is whether the commonly used system itself – as it is practiced by many – is tznius. For the reasons cited.
JosephParticipantThe solo car ride between boy and girl is only one issue. Going to a lobby, okay. But an amusement park, bowling, ice skating, restaurant, sightseeing, etc.? I dunno. The yeshivish oilem doesn’t seem to do that in Eretz Yisroel.
JosephParticipantI said comparably. The Obama Administration supported and encouraged a coup d’etat in Ukraine against the sovereign democratically elected government that precipitated their civil war. As far as Crimea, it had been part of Russia for hundreds of years until a Soviet dictator decided to unilaterally give it to Ukraine as part of a “birthday gift” to himself. It is very clear, even if you don’t accept the referendum, that the vast majority of Crimeans want to be part of Russia, as they have been for hundreds of years. It was never part of Ukraine prior to that “birthday gift”.
As far as Syria, the Obama administration allowed the civil war there to fester for years and years with hundreds of thousands of deaths, mostly civilians, without helping the rebels overthrow Assad when they had the chance and the US could and should have assisted them. This was even after Assad used chemical weapons and Obama then backed down from his “red line” to bomb Assad, making a mockery of America and letting the civil war to kill hundreds of thousands more. Russian intervention appears now to bringing an end to the civil war and probably the further killing of hundreds of thousands of civilians if the war simply continued on for years and years more.
JosephParticipantI don’t think career politicians necessarily make better cabinet members than businessmen. The reverse is likely closer to the truth.
As far as the Russia issue, it is a contrived issue by the President-elect’s political opponents. It has no merit. As an aside, Russia behaved better, and acted in a more morally justified position, in both Ukraine and Syria compared to the Obama Administration’s activities and policies regarding the affairs in those two countries. (Again, in *comparison*.)
JosephParticipantIf the American yeshivish oilem changed their dating system to the way the Eretz Yisroel yeshivish oilem dates (as I understand it from lilmod’s description), a lot of the tznius problems inherent in the American system would be resolved.
(Not to say that the Chasidish system wouldn’t be even better, from a tznius perspective. It would be.)
JosephParticipantlilmod, what are your feelings about the problematic shidduch dating system in the US and other places outside Eretz Yisroel that I described in my immediately preceding comment? (What you’re describing as the dating system in EY seems to be closer to the Chasidish beshow system than to the American shidduch dating system.)
JosephParticipantlilmod, what LF described is quite different than shidduch dating. Dating might include going to restaurants, parks, bowling, sightseeing, lobbies, drives in car rides with only the unrelated boy and girl together with no one else, etc. What LF described includes none of that.
JosephParticipantLF: +1
JosephParticipantWhat gives you the idea that Pru U’rvu is of a lower level or has more heteirim than Kibud Av Veim?
JosephParticipantThey’re both commanded to us in the same Torah.
JosephParticipantI would stick to Encyclopedia Britannica if wiki cost money.
JosephParticipantWhy, thank you!
(May I suggest you practice your hand at wells?)
JosephParticipantI hadn’t intended to give mussar. I intended to discuss various points of this topic in a general discussion.
JosephParticipantThere’s a chiyuv for a man to be married by 20. Any later requires a heter. And the heter is only till his 24th birthday. Beis Din is supposed to force him to marry if he isn’t by 20 (or 24 with a heter for Limud Torah), per S”A.
JosephParticipantThere are also circumstances where there are heteirim to stop honoring one’s parent.
JosephParticipantLike how Yitzchok met Rivka.
JosephParticipantIt is muttar when married, whereas it isn’t beforehand. You can get married while avoiding engaging in non-permitted activities beforehand to reach marital status.
JosephParticipantbenig: Is a Kohen on a higher spiritual level, by default, than a Yisroel? Why, by default, do we save the life of a Kohen before a Yisroel and a man before a woman?
JosephParticipantIt looks like John Bolton will be appointed to the Number 2 spot in the State Department. An excellent choice indeed. The head of Exxon Mobil is likely the next Secretary of State.
Pres. elect Trump has been making excellent cabinet appointments overall. Far better than anticipated.
JosephParticipantComlink, after honoring your parents can you stop honoring them since you were “yotzei” the mitzvah of Kibud Av Veim?
JosephParticipantYou can’t stop people from eating treif either. But if someone suggests the possibility of eating a Big Mac you ought to object. Same idea about suggesting the possibility of interfering with Pru U’rvu.
JosephParticipantWhat’s this business of deciding how many kids to have. That is Hashem’s business, not yours.
JosephParticipantOther authorities that either explicitly or implicitly contradict the notion of generally higher spirituality in women include Rambam, Mishnah Horarios 3:7; Tur, Orach Chaim 46; Akeidas Yitzchak, Bereishis 6; Bartenura, Mishnah Horarios 3:7; Taz, Orach Chaim 46; Zies Ra’anan (Magen Avraham), Yalkut Shemoni, Shmuel 1:1; Vilna Gaon, Even Shelaima 1:8; Baal Shevet Musar, Midrash Talpiyos, Ohs Aleph, Anaf Isha; Rav Tzadock Rabinowitz, Dover Tzedeck, p. 119; R’ Avraham Yitzchak Kook, Olas Re’iah, Birchos Hashachar; R’ Moshe Feinstein, Igoros Moshe, Orach Chaim IV, 49; R’ Joseph B. Soloveitchik, Man of Faith in the Modern World, (Hoboken, NJ: Ktav, 1989), p. 84; Lubavitcher Rebbe, Sichos in English, Iyar-Tammuz 5744, Vol. 21, pp. 69-72; R’ Avigdor Miller, Rabbi Avigdor Miller Speaks, (Brooklyn, NY: Mesorah), pp. 245-246.
JosephParticipantThe Maharal in Tiferes Yisroel 4 and 28 states that men have chochma yesayrah. He also says men are more ruchniyus in general.
JosephParticipantAmong gedolim who lost their rebbetzin when they were at an older age, many have remarried to a second, younger, rebbetzin capable of child bearing. Not too long ago it wasn’t even too uncommon for older men among the hamon hoam who lost their wife to do the same, to fulfill the mitzvah of Pru U’rvu. I know many folks whose zeida (or elter-zeida) lost their wife in their 60s or so and remarried to their bubbe when she was in her 20s or 30s and had more children.
JosephParticipantEat another food with the same bracha beforehand and you’ll avoid the shaila.
JosephParticipantMany gedolim and rabbonim, even having already reached older years when they lost their rebbetzin, remarried to a younger woman capable of child bearing in order so they could fulfill the mitzvah of Pru U’rvu.
JosephParticipantBaruch Hashem. It’s a waste of yiddishe gelt to give them even a penny.
JosephParticipantTo change your YWN/Coffee Room password to whatever you like (instead of using the long randomly generated password issued at the time you established your account):
On top of the Coffee Room page:
At “Welcome, MyScreenName” – click on your screen name
click “Edit”
enter the new password you would like
click “Update Profile”
You can use the above instructions to change the e-mail address (which can be used for password recovery) your account is registered with as well.
JosephParticipantI think you’re making a mistake. Which beis din is used is far more important than you imagine. The second rov I mentioned above, aside from being a shalom bayis expert advice giver, is also an expert on butei dinim that will be more invaluable to you than you imagine. At least call him.
JosephParticipantWas Rebbetzin Kanievsky doing the shopping in the first place?
December 7, 2016 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm in reply to: Who was the worst President of your lifetime? #1197250JosephParticipantWinnie, Trump sometimes speaks in the third-person. PEOTUS is rubbing off a bit on huju. Leaders tend to do that.
JosephParticipantWhen someone saves your life, or your Jewish brethrens lives, they’re your heroes.
If you give me dates other countries saved Yidden or gave their lives protecting Yidden, I’d certainly commemorate them. I commemorate those in Europe who protected/saved Yidden during the Holocaust.
JosephParticipantI would certainly refer to anyone, from anywhere, who saved (or even protects) millions or hundreds of thousands of Yidden as heroes. I think British Yidden also credit the American armed forces of the WWII era as heroes.
JosephParticipantWhy do you assume I’m not referring to them as our heroes for saving millions of European Yidden? Your kasha, perhaps, should be why don’t British Yidden also refer to them as heroes (assuming they don’t.)
They also protect millions of Yidden in America.
JosephParticipantAs far as the flag, if Ponovezh puts up the Zionist flag on Zionist independence day, lhavdil there’s certainly no reason to object flying the American flag on July 4th.
JosephParticipantIf an English Jew was saved by British soldiers, I think he’d correctly refer to them as his heroes.
JosephParticipantJust found an old thread:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/pearl-harbor-day
JosephParticipantlilmod, was Rav Avigdor Miller zt’l less Jewish than you? This is what he had to say on a related note:
QUESTION:
Displaying the American flag, is that considered a gentile ideal?
ANSWER:
We hang out the flag from this Shul on the Fourth of July.
JosephParticipantHashem made American soldiers His agents to protect Jews. Hakaros Hatov is a Jewish attribute.
JosephParticipantPetraeus is military/war hero.
December 7, 2016 4:51 am at 4:51 am in reply to: Who was the worst President of your lifetime? #1197242JosephParticipantYY, the North Vietnamese didn’t win the war until after the US pulled out. Nixon effectively ended American military involvement in fighting the war. Until America pulled out the war was stalemated. The South lost only after they didn’t have America fighting for them anymore.
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