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When I tell my little child to thank Hashem for being healthy and having two feet, he looks at me like I just fell off the moon and he laughs. How should I deal with that?A:
It’s not only your child. When you tell it to your sixty year old brother, he’ll also laugh. I’m afraid to say that even some people with long coats and long beards will laugh as well. He might be polite enough not to laugh, but in his heart he’s laughing. In his heart, he’s not thinking about thanking Hashem. Nobody thinks about thanking Hashem! Do you know why? I’ll tell you a secret. They don’t believe in Hashem. Even for the frum Jew, it’s only a word in the siddur. It’s not a reality. If he would have as much emunah in Hashem as he has in his brother in Queens or in Boro Park, believe me, he would be the biggest tzadik in the world.Our first job – and it’s a big job – is to actually believe in Hashem, to gain an awareness that He’s right here. And then we can think about thanking Him for our health.
So don’t be surprised at your little child. However don’t give up hope. You keep on talking to your little child and don’t think that he’s not listening. The child might laugh at you, but the words go into his heart. And those seeds of emunah are going to remain there. And someday they might bear beautiful fruit.
TAPE # 628July 21, 2017 2:54 pm at 2:54 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1322600JosephParticipantAPY kvetched that Yeshivos don’t allow talk radio during down time. If he’s kvetching about it presumably he has a reason to kvetch.
July 21, 2017 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322597JosephParticipantMama1, because it is the fathers responsibility to discipline their sons. And the father of who was hurt should address it to the fathers of those who did it.
July 21, 2017 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322592JosephParticipantMama1, what sort of “halachic recourse” did you intend to seek? Who advised you that availing yourself to halachic recourse will result in expulsion?
July 21, 2017 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322581JosephParticipant“Young people”? 10 year olds in fifth grade are children.
July 21, 2017 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1322570JosephParticipantOkay, let your bochorim listen to Michael Savage and Ann Coulter. But don’t be surprised when they mimick those talkheads filthy language. And certainly don’t come here, as you did earlier in this thread, and complain about yeshivos that don’t permit bochorim to listen to talk radio like you did during your recess.
July 21, 2017 1:36 pm at 1:36 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322557JosephParticipantIf we treat those five fifth graders as you just suggested we treat them, it’ll be no wonder those five become OTD as a result of treating them as you suggest.
July 21, 2017 12:58 pm at 12:58 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322527JosephParticipantSo if five fifth graders are bullying another kid, should 911 or CPS be called and those five kids placed in handcuffs and put in foster care?
July 21, 2017 12:47 pm at 12:47 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322514JosephParticipantDaMoshe, bla, bla, bla. Go off rattling whatever you falsely spew again. This thread isn’t the school officials deliberating on how to respond to this accusation from some anonymous parent in an anonymous school. Discussing the statues and laws and whatever else is part of a general discussion, which is all this thread is. So take your liberal religion of encouraging mixed parties and hedonism elsewhere.
July 21, 2017 12:29 pm at 12:29 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322477JosephParticipantA school child bullying or hitting another school child (absent severe physical violence or injury) does not fit the legal description of abuse, regarding mandated reporting, in the NY or NJ statues. If a first grader hits the kid next to him, or a fifth grader, you don’t call 911 or CPS.
July 21, 2017 11:14 am at 11:14 am in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322434JosephParticipantCTL, the last thread reprinting a letter about schooling from the Voice of Lakewood we learnt today in that thread that the school in question wasn’t even in Lakewood.
Furthermore, what I stated above for NY schools is also true about NJ private schools.
July 21, 2017 10:52 am at 10:52 am in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322388JosephParticipantPrivate school personnel in NY are not mandated to report anytime when one child bullies or hits another child.
JosephParticipantHealth!
JosephParticipant“Some people” is referring to the broader reasons why adults get dogs. It wasn’t directly addressing, at that point in the reply, why the child requested it.
July 21, 2017 9:52 am at 9:52 am in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322326JosephParticipantNo. The father of the hurt child should have addressed the issue to the fathers of the other children.
JosephParticipantRav Avigdor Miller on The Goldfish and the Dog
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What should a parent say when his child wants a pet like a dog or a goldfish?A:
If he wants a goldfish, that’s just like getting him a toy. Nothing wrong with buying him a toy. But a dog; he doesn’t need for that. A dog is a symbol that he identifies with the goyim of the neighborhood. I’m not saying that every child wants it for that reason, but that’s what a dog means.What is a dog for? Some people say that a dog is for the purpose of protecting them, but actually, it’s not so. Some people have these little dogs – tiny fragile things – and the dogs themselves need protection. For these tiny, little dogs – anyone can give it a good kick and kill it. What a dog really means in most cases is, “I’m a goy like all the goyim.” That’s what it really means in most cases.
Some people, unfortunately, pick up their dog in their arms and kiss it like a child. They use it instead of a child. Instead of having any children, they have two dogs in the house. I once saw a family saying farewell to their married son and daughter. They bent over and first they said goodbye to their son and daughter. Then they bent over and kissed their daughter’s dog goodbye, like a member of the family.
So when people sink so low that they accept animals on the level of human beings, then you have to know that they’re sinning against the Torah, sinning against Hashem and sinning against common sense.
And therefore, I’m very much against having dogs. But goldfish are no harm. It’s a hobby, a toy, for a child, so let him have a goldfish if he wants.
TAPE # E-37July 21, 2017 8:42 am at 8:42 am in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322304JosephParticipantThis should have been addressed to the father rather than the mother.
July 21, 2017 8:42 am at 8:42 am in reply to: What happened with the strange Brazilian Dybbuk story of 2010? #1322306JosephParticipantAnd they lived happily ever after.
JosephParticipantWho’d you almost meet, lu?
July 20, 2017 11:53 pm at 11:53 pm in reply to: do you support repeal & replace obamacare? ๐ซ๐๐คต๐ฟ๐โ #1322206JosephParticipantI don’t know the intricacies, but federal law governing Medicaid and/or Medicare place severe restrictions on Medicaid or Medicare (it’s one or the other) accepting facilities from discounting the list rate for the uninsured.
July 20, 2017 10:51 pm at 10:51 pm in reply to: Should the Township of Lakewood be renamed the Shtetl of Lakewood? #1322178JosephParticipantAnd you’re counting those who claim to speak Spanish but donโt speak authentic Spanish.
July 20, 2017 8:55 pm at 8:55 pm in reply to: Differences between kashrus agencies ยฎ๐โข #1322158JosephParticipantThe Rebbe’s shitta on non-Cholov Yisroel (i.e. what is called Cholov Stam) was that it was non-kosher; not that Cholov Yisroel is a “chumra”.
July 20, 2017 8:54 pm at 8:54 pm in reply to: Should the Township of Lakewood be renamed the Shtetl of Lakewood? #1322157JosephParticipantThere are more Yiddish speaking Jews in the world than Spanish speaking Jews.
July 20, 2017 8:13 pm at 8:13 pm in reply to: do you support repeal & replace obamacare? ๐ซ๐๐คต๐ฟ๐โ #1322149JosephParticipantHealth care providers have no choice but to demand full payment of their inflated list prices from the uninsured due to the federal law governing Medicaid. They couldn’t legally bill the uninsured less even if they wanted to.
July 20, 2017 6:48 pm at 6:48 pm in reply to: Should the Township of Lakewood be renamed the Shtetl of Lakewood? #1322093JosephParticipantYiddish was created by frum Jews. Only much later did non-frum Jews adopt it for their purposes.
On the other hand, Ivrit was created by the anti-frum anti-Torah Mr. Ben Yehuda and his ilk.
July 20, 2017 5:59 pm at 5:59 pm in reply to: Should the Township of Lakewood be renamed the Shtetl of Lakewood? #1322089JosephParticipantThere are hundreds of thousands of Jews who speak Yiddish, including a huge portion thereof who Yiddish is their first language. There are not hundreds of thousands of Jewish Spanish speakers.
July 20, 2017 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm in reply to: do you support repeal & replace obamacare? ๐ซ๐๐คต๐ฟ๐โ #1322082JosephParticipantFolks, why don’t we make this very simple. Repeal the ACA and reinstate the laws and healthcare system that were in effect until the ACA came into law.
JosephParticipantEducating impressionable young minds is something I intend to continue doing every day.
JosephParticipantI teach history in the NYC Pubic School system.
July 19, 2017 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321660JosephParticipantWhy are you presenting a strawman? Do you also say trespassing isn’t bad because at least it isn’t shoplifting?
And your children’s rebbeim clearly, in their wisdom, don’t permit the bochorim to tune into talk radio during recess. Which is exactly what you attacked today’s hanhala in yeshivos for not accommodating when you kvetched that bochorim today can’t steam off with Bob Grant (or his contemporary successors.)
And that slams the lid on things for today…
July 19, 2017 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper โก๐ฐ #1321659JosephParticipantTLIK, children with televisions in their home affects the child and carries a very strong possibility of that child negatively affecting classmates. No question about it. And there are other influences that a child can have that will negatively affect his or her classmates that must be accounted for. Sometimes the damage that can be done to multiple classmates is more than the damage of requiring that one child to change yeshivas.
You cannot state there are no situations where a child must be required to switch to another yeshiva. And with the extremely limited information presented and potentially biased author, no one can state whether the case in the OP or other cited cases in this thread were indeed justified or not. (It certainly can also have been unjustified.)
JosephParticipantRebYidd, it’s unfortunate that Franklin Roosevelt (may he continue his stay in gehenom for permitting the murder of European Jewry) didn’t honor George Washington’s legacy regarding the transfer of power you mention.
July 19, 2017 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321603JosephParticipantBetter to be a top yeshiva bochor who drinks a can of beer than a mediocre yeshiva bochor who doesn’t touch beer.
JosephParticipantIt’s unfortunate W. couldn’t be President for a third term.
July 19, 2017 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321570JosephParticipantAPY, just because you as a yeshiva bochor were permitted to regularly listen to sports and talk radio does it mean that is a good idea or that it should be encouraged or permitted for most yeshiva bochorim today or, for that matter, yesteryear. It is certainly better for Yeshiva bochorim to avoid pastimes such as talk radio.
July 19, 2017 4:32 pm at 4:32 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321271JosephParticipantHow much more than 20?
July 19, 2017 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321130JosephParticipantAmi magazine (and Mishpacha, etc.) are like the Coffee Room and this thread: they’re designed to rile folks up to sell more papers (or clicks.)
July 19, 2017 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321125JosephParticipant*drinking beer (not “driving beer” [spell check typo])
July 19, 2017 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm in reply to: Differences between kashrus agencies ยฎ๐โข #1321101JosephParticipantJust make it simple and tell us which kashrus agency follows all stringencies and is kosher mehadrin l’chol hadeios.
July 19, 2017 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321103JosephParticipantLook at the bright side: at least it is the boys driving beer and not the girls drinking beer.
July 19, 2017 12:48 pm at 12:48 pm in reply to: Should the Township of Lakewood be renamed the Shtetl of Lakewood? #1320986JosephParticipantSolaro, true. Modern Hebrew is not different than Turkish or Farsi โ it is the language of a secular culture complete with all those things that we want to stay away from. The fact that some of those who speak Modern Hebrew are religious Jews is not different than the language of any country Jews are in where they speak the language of the land.
The Chasam Sofer writes that the reason Jews do not speak Loshon Hakodesh as a speaking language is because it is inappropriate to use a holy language while enveloped in Tumah, which is our current status. So to cause Loshon HaKodesh to be used as a street language, complete with all the disgusting ways it is used today in Israel, is just more of a reason why we should make sure it never gets into the streets.
The Kuzari writes that Avrohom Avinu, therefore, spoke 2 different languages. One for holy speech โ that was Loshon HaKodesh, and the other for mundane speech โ that, the Kuzari says was some non-Jewish language that Avrohom Avinu took and changed around a little on his own. And thats the idea behind Yiddish. It is a non-Jewish language that we took and twisted a bit in order to make it exclusive among us.
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July 19, 2017 12:39 pm at 12:39 pm in reply to: Out of the box ideas to solve the shidduch crisis ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐คต #1320949JosephParticipantAbolish hooking up in the pizza shop, where you can get infatuated with a marriage-incompatible or wrong person, and allow everyone to have a pre-researched shidduch.
July 19, 2017 11:14 am at 11:14 am in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1320839JosephParticipantbk613, can you please describe for us here the difference between a โkosher chillโ and a โnon-kosher chill”?
Thanks
JosephParticipantThere’s also a lot of people who murder.
Like they might leave Brooklyn , go to a mafia meeting, take an order to hit someone, and then goes and takes that person out.
JosephParticipant“Of course, there will be some times that you wonโt be able to give him anything that he wants.”
JosephParticipantQ:
How do I best deal with a child who wants to go to places that the Rav doesn’t approve of, like the circus or baseball games?A:
You give him substitutes. One that is a little more kosher than the other. So let’s say he wants to go to a circus. So, if there is no other way, then take him to a baseball game. If he wants to go to a baseball game, them take him to the park. If he wants to go to the park, then try to bring him to a farbrengen at a Rebbe instead. Always try to find something a little better than the thing he wants.Of course, there will be some times that you won’t be able to give him anything that he wants. But in general, look for substitutes. Many times a dollar, or a bigger bill, will serve as a happy substitute. There are ways and means of making children happy with kosher toys and kosher pastimes. Of course, it’s not always easy and it will take some planning and ability, but that’s the job of a parent.
TAPE # 319July 19, 2017 10:16 am at 10:16 am in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1320743JosephParticipantIf he reached majority age (13 – Bar Mitzvah), he should be making his own decisions.
JosephParticipantLess than 1% of kids are OTD.
July 19, 2017 1:06 am at 1:06 am in reply to: Out of the box ideas to solve the shidduch crisis ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐คต #1320643JosephParticipantAn out of the box idea for shidduchim is for the Litvish world to adopt the Chasidish shidduch model. Beshows, shidduchim setup by the parents, extensive pre-shidduch research, young marriages, etc.
It works very well for them. Better, I might add, than our own system works for us. And it has yet to be demonstrated, as some posters here are bound to allege, that us adopting the Chasidish shidduch system won’t work out as well for us as it does for them. Despite the naysayers proffering a host of imaginative reasons why it can’t work as well for us as it does for them.
JosephParticipantThe Republicans also have one.
The Democrats have many dozens.
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