Thank you for all your “suggestions” but it seems that the some missed the point.

We thank Hashem each and every for our amazing daughter. She is full of great midos and a hard working student. She is taking her Bas Mitzvah transition very seriously. We as her parents want to take this opportunity to show hakarat hatov to both Hashem and our close relatives who have been there and helped us through some difficult times. This was a perfect convergence of occasions.

As her “mitzvah” our daughter has chosen on her own to keep working on her kibud av v’aim. She want her chance to publicly thank Hashem for bringing her to this point and is looking forward to engaging the guests in a chesed project that would benefit sick children.

So, that being said, we are looking for advice on how to make this special occasion ON A BUDGET and share it with close family if possible. So please, don’t judge us, this is not the time to show disdain for our decision. I agree that over the top weddings and such are wasteful but we don’t stop having weddings – we just try to be smart about it. And that’s what we are doing here.