Oh come on the 1 doesn’t count.

I’ll call Yishechenu Nachash.

The best are Bertie Bott’s Every Flavour Beans. You can actually buy them, and they are OU certified. “Mix Contains: Banana, Black Pepper, Blueberry, Booger, Candyfloss, Cherry, Cinnamon, Dirt, Earthworm, Earwax, Grass, Green Apple, Marshmallow, Rotten Egg, Sausage, Lemon, Soap, Tutti-Fruitti, Vomit, Watermelon.”

They usually let Hebrewbooks through.

Thanks DaasYochid.

OneOfMany – lol.

If the thing was blazing you wouldn’t need libun.

Ok, that was corny enough for me to go ahead and become a rosh yeshiva.

DaasYochid – You’re right.

From the begining of klal yisrael,the outer garment of a ben yisrael reached down past the knees.

Shabbos 12a is mefurash not like you. See Rashi s.v. Meida Yad’i.

Okay, so I’ll revise HaLeiVi’s question:

Let me see you get from New Jersey to Brooklyn without paying toll (or a fine) – and without paying six times the amount for gas!

apushatayid – rotfl!

Sam – You seemed a bit negative about life there, that’s all. Just saying it could be better, and don’t assume that just because you’ve felt a certain way for thirteen years that that’s the way it has to be, because that isn’t true. Many times we’re just going at it from the wrong angle.

Sam2 –

My advice to you would be to focus more on doing the best you can in every aspect of life, don’t hope for specific things but rather for general things (e.g. happiness rather than 250k a year), and take each day as it comes. Keep praying, but don’t depend on your prayers being answered. ???? ????? isn’t good (in this context). Instead just live your life and do the best you can and try to find meaning in what’s already there. Make plans, set goals – ones that are within your power; and stick to them. It’ll make things much easier. (Smoking also helps, but you didn’t hear me say that…)

sushe – you asked him?

Oh wait no it was the Matrix!

It was the name of a ship.

Once we’re getting into that; Nebuchadnezzar – pronounced Neh-buh-kud-NEZ-er (I know this from Star Wars).

hello99 –

I accept your words. I will make a new disclaimer in my next post.

dash –

I stand corrected. I thought paramour meant something else, but you are right.

Thank you.

always runs with scissors fast –

I’m just a young single guy, but I will candidly tell you that I am not at all ignorant in these matters. Here is my advice:

1) No matter what you decide your course of action will be, do not let it go, thinking “it’s my fault in a big way, I just have to change, and it will all get better.” Of course you are correct that your PPD probably has something to do with it, but you know in your heart that he has a problem. And I tell you that problem will not go away if the status quo remains.

2) Does he have a rav who is trustworthy that he would listen to without question? If yes, call him right away. Tell him everything and do not be afraid to divulge anything. Anything at all that could possibly be relevant, even though it puts your husband in a bad light. Don’t talk with your head, talk with your heart. Tell him you need him to demand that your husband seek professional help immediately. And say that of course, you are willing to seek help for yourself too. But tell him that this is necessary or else you are out.

3) If your husband does not have someone like this, then tell him yourself. If you feel a confrontation is too risky (he may lose his temper, you may say the wrong thing etc.) then write a note. Tell him that you need him, for the sake of the family, to seek professional help. Tell him you will make the appointment and everything, and be amicable, supportive, and empathetic, but be firm. I am sure you can find the right words.

4) If all this fails, I would consider finding some sort of shelter and leaving. I know that this is a last resort for you, and perhaps to an extent unthinkable, which is why I left it for last.

One thing. I will just reiterate what I wrote in the beginning. You cannot let this go. Baruch Hashem you are still young and have a whole life ahead of you, and the same goes for your kids. If you try to just continue to live in the environment you speak of and not take significant action I can tell you with almost certainty that you will have great regrets down the road. This way, as tough and terribly difficult as it may be, you will always know that you did all you could, and chances are your life in general will improve as well.

Hatzlacha.

mikehall and cinderella –

I suspect you are talking about two completely different genres of music.

ill_be_strong –

http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=15142&pgnum=1

(Hebrewbooks is an invaluable resource whenever you need a sefer online.)

BTGuy –

My “gotcha” spin on it was meant to be a joke. I apologize if it didn’t come off that way. The OP said it was a rant.

Itche –

Yeah, but I’m from the yeshivishe velt where we say oy and never oh, so there isn’t much of a difference for us. But I don’t mean to monopolize (especially when we are incorrect, lol).

blockhead –

I’ll have to get back to you on that, but I’m almost sure you are incorrect.

I had this idea for a while and recently read it on a blog b’sheim Shadal.

chocandpatience –

Obviously, according to the view I am purporting, one must know what each ingredient is. This might seem difficult, but it is not very hard once one gets used to it.