Lol, nice try, but no. Kishkas are literally guts or intestines which are the ?????. It’s the same as saying “I have a gut feeling.”

pcoz –

Chazal are full of statements which say that the kidneys in particular are a source of chochma. In fact, the Gemara in Chullin (11a) seems to understand the biblical word ??? (atzeh) as referring to the kidneys, because the kidneys give “eitza.” The Midrash you cite is understandable in that context. It is hard to believe that the term “boich svara” or ???? ???? has anything to do with that, first because the stomach is not the kidneys, and second because this term has always been used as a put-down.

Evanal.

That is amazing, recipes.

The funniest (and most awkward) one I ever saw was at my neighbor’s wedding, her twelve-year-old niece walked down to Hey Dum Diddly Dum. No joke.

It’s fairly common. I’ve never seen it for a twelve-year-old though. For young children however, like four or five year olds, sometimes the family wants a cute tune for them to walk down the aisle to (and they’ll drop rose petals out of a basket as their walking or something). It’s a matter of personal taste.

Lol thanks kapusta!

There’s actually a very interesting Chasam Sofer where he says that the whole twenty-years-old-chayav-in-dinei-shamayim thing isn’t really true. According to him, the only difference is that when in certain times in history there was a gezeira for people to be wiped out – such as the dor hamidbar – it only applied to those over the age of twenty, but this rule has no application to us.

In other news, today is the fourth anniversary of my twentieth birthday. I’m getting old.

Please. Don’t tell me they hold it’s assur. I am not saying it’s a good thing, and yes, people shouldn’t do it, but not everything is called assur or mutar. I’m not into the whole banning thing. There is a sign up in BMG saying that you may not smoke indoors, and that if smoking bothers someone the smoker is obligated to move. There’s another sign saying bachurim may not have texting or internet on their phones. There’s no sign saying not to smoke. You want to say it’s assur, fine with me. But don’t put it into the mouths of these roshei yeshiva.

Yeh yeh I chap the matziv.

People from Lakewood don’t go to stadiums anyway.

Why don’t you people just shop online?

rabbiofberlin – yes

To bad it doesn’t happen to our noses. :p

Maybe they feel that people will get more into it this way and become more inspired and therefore be more likely to follow whatever guidance will be given to them there.

I just don’t get where the child gets this supposed “right” from. Just because you really, really, really want something, doesn’t make it your right. It seems to me that the idea of rights has deteriorated from something that actually means something to a useful word we stick into our argument when we can’t prove our point rationally.

Sam2 – I am aware of that halacha (ironically, Rabbi Abadi alludes to this point in the first teshuva of his sefer). He was not a katan though. I believe he was in his late teens when he developed a relationship with the Chazon Ish, who eventually sent him to Lakewood to learn by R’ Aharon Kotler.

Testimony of a witness is valid after any amount of time, and besides, he wasn’t “awfully” young. I resent your tone.

I am starting a company where you come to me with your invention and I come up with the relevant halachic material stating why people are obligated to buy your product. Obviously, we will charge less for a chumra then for an out and out issur, and less for a plain issur then for, say, a chiyuv kareis. I think I’ll make a lot of money. Sam, interested in a job?

awarenessvaad –

Love does not (primarily) mean a commitment to give. Love is a feeling. As I linked to yungerman on the other thread (maybe no one clicks on links), even the word ahava means this. I don’t believe the Torah’s usage of ahava refers to some altruistic notion, because then it would be absurd to say that Shechem had ahava toward Dinah or Amnon to Tamar. Ahava is Shir HaShirim. It is what we call love, in it’s purest and most basic sense, the thing with all the songs and cliches about it.

Love is a feeling which – like all feelings – can be misused. One can lose their senses when they are angry and say or do the wrong things. Love is the same way. Instead of saying that people shouldn’t fall in love, you should say that people should learn to keep their heads on straight and remain balanced even when they are in love. That, to me, is a lot closer to what the Torah is interested in.

Looking back it seems that you might agree with all this and just have an issue with the phrase “falling in love.” That’s really splitting hairs though. Why not just make your point without going all out against a particular way of speaking? (OneOfMany may have been saying this.) It would be more effective that way.

Even if a person should only consider someone with decent qualifications, you don’t marry just anyone you consider. You marry someone you connect to. Yes, I believe being “in love” is a concept that the Torah quite clearly recognizes. Marriage doesn’t necessarily need the highest level of it, but it’s important that it be there on some level. Marriage is not a business arrangement.

Where do we see the Torah recognizes it? For one, in every single mashal in which the mashal is of a man and a woman. It is so obvious that the ideal marriage in the Torah’s train of thought is one where the couple is “in love.”

Year six-thousand is when the world supposedly will come to an end. But it isn’t reliable.

I just got such a craving.

avhaben – meheicha teisi

oomis –

Of course there are different levels in what is wrong. However, when it comes to arayos, normative halacha rules that even the slightest infraction is so dangerous that one should rather give up their life then risk going there. Even though going there would not be a capital offense. This is simply because of the recognition of the severity of what these things lead to.

At the same time, no human can judge someone who did not follow what Chazal said to do in such a case, because obviously no one can possibly know how they would react under such circumstances. In fact, even if someone succumbed and actually had relations with a married woman because there was a gun to their head, l’halacha we would consider the person a fine, upstanding Jew. Because the Torah says that a forced action doesn’t count. The rule of yehareg v’al ya’avor is only l’chatchila, not after the fact.

All this being said, as I wrote above, I do not believe there would ever practically be a halacha of yehareg v’al ya’avor with regard to anything but the actual act of giluy arayos, because everything else is subject to the feelings one has (i.e. derech chibah), and obviously when someone says hug me or I will shoot you there is no chibah on the part of the person with the gun to their head.

The one comment of yours I have an issue with is this:

would you feel the same way if it were your daughter?

You seem to imply that this halacha somehow affects women more than it does men. But it’s the same halacha for me as it is for you. If someone points a gun at me and says i must be with someone I am an ervah to, I am also required by halacha to give up my life. So I don’t know why you didn’t just write, “would you feel the same way if it were you?”

Everything in moderation.