If she really knows better then treat her the way you’d treat her if she’d done anything she wasn’t supposed to do. But does she really know better?

You’re a safta and you don’t know the answer to that question yet? Yoish.

Oh cool. I was choshesh that that was your pshat.

Nice! That’s hilarious. 😀 But how did you gain with Samuel being three syllables, you still only have five on the whole line? Maybe you want to pronounce Samuel with two syllables and stick in Taylor? Or keep this pronunciation and stick in “T”? Or keep it how it is and have five for some reason? Also I’m no expert but I think the water line in fine the way it is. Good stuff. ^_^

RABBAIM – As I wrote, “I am well aware that I am oversimplifying very, very much.” I don’t have the time right now to get into a discussion about specifics, and if you wish to disagree with me you have every right. But from my point of view suffice it to say that after everything you wrote, I’m still perfectly fine with going into any McDonalds and buying a coffee there l’chatchila.

lbmzr –

The Rashi is a good tzu shtel. And you’re right that Csar seems to be right. Why would work be a good thing?

There’s plenty to think about, but here’s what comes to mind. Work refines a person. It makes a person responsible, an invaluable trait. It forces a person to look beyond his own daled amos and see the world and empathize with other beings; to put himself in their place. Work makes one realize that he has to do in order to get – which taken from the right perspective can be the most humbling experience and a huge step in breaking one’s bad midos, and recognizing that Hashem is in charge. Sitting and learning even on the greatest levels does not always afford a person these things, and even if it does, it’s different. I am not chas veshalom putting down learning. I currently learn full-time myself. But I think that ideally one should aspire to at the same time learn as much as the day as possible for him and also be “oseik b’yishuvo shel olam,” i.e. work hard to make an honest living. There are so many other advantages too. The kids see the parent working hard and not complaining, they learn to work hard without complaining – and this carries over to their ruchniyus as well. L’mayseh if one has the opportunity to learn full-time in their younger years I certainly still say it’s a wonderful thing (unless one isn’t cut out for it), because even with all the benefits of work, you don’t want that your learning should be at a lower level your whole life than it could be, and by spending your younger years involved only in learning you can maximize your potential and thus make your learning experience throughout your entire life a thousand times more enriching. So for now I’m still a full-time learner. But iy”h I will join the work force one day, not because it is b’dieved or a necessary evil, but because it is one of the things we were created for and ought to embrace.

(b)

lost two of your heads?

i know, mamish gevaldig

There’s no problem. Enjoy.

mommamia –

Everyone knows you’re going into McDonalds to buy a drink or to use the bathroom etc., so there’s no mar’is ayin. The other concerns you mentioned are not issues for various technical halachic reasons. Just a very basic explanation* to make it understandable – kosher and not kosher is dependent on whether or not you can taste it. That means that your McDonalds coffee can only become not kosher if there’s a good, noticeable not kosher meat flavor in it, which will obviously never happen. Without flavor, additives can’t normally make something not kosher, even if they do not have a kosher source.

*I am well aware that I am oversimplifying very, very much, and no halachos should be applied from this statement alone to other questions.

kol hakavod

Abe Cohen – That is what I’ve heard said beshem R’ Moshe. Though don’t be misleading – a non ben-Noach goy, on these terms, is a bad goy. I’m saying is that I’ve heard that one is worse off as a bad goy than a bad Jew. (IOW I assume when you say “discards his Judaism” you don’t mean that he becomes an immoral person, but that he becomes a normal secular person, and to that I am comparing a normal secular goy. I’m not implying that a Jewish murderer is better than an upstanding non-Jew who happens not to believe that Hashem gave the Torah to the Jewish people.)

mommamia –

Yes, you are correct. The reason we don’t use the 18 minutes is because one opinion in the rishonim is that there is an understanding that by lighting the candles* you accepted Shabbos upon yourself, and therefore you aren’t allowed to do melacha. There are rishonim who disagree with this and the truth is that the letter-of-the-law follows the lenient rishonim, but there is a well-established custom to be concerned for the other opinion, which is why, as you correctly noted, we will only rely on it in extenuating circumstances.

*I am simply going with the assumption that you light at 18 minutes. If you haven’t lit yet you can do melacha until shkia; I’m not sure why R.T implied otherwise.

Itche – Oh. I didn’t say he said it in the Yad.

yitzyshalom – I know the Rambam. I was trying to condense it (as it wasn’t my main point) and not be a troll (i.e. be tactful) at the same time. But kudos to you for elaborating. 🙂

ItcheSrulik – He does, in two places:

Teshuva 3:8

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Mamrim 3:1

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I’ve blogged about this, if you want to utilize your googling powers.

A rainbow?

…the more right wing someone is, the more emphasis is put on bain adam l’Makom and less emphasis on bain adam L’chaveiro…

…and black people steal and women are stupid, right?

and fat people are ugly, right?

He didn’t say he thinks women are shallow. He said that despite that a certain act appears shallow to him, he recognizes that for a woman to act that way does not render her shallow. If there’s one thing you want in a relationship it’s the understanding that we do not expect each other to be the same; that we respect the fact that we are different. That’s what’s going on here. To guys, being that concerned about looks is shallow. But we understand that it’s not that way for women, and we respect that. What Popa is doing, besides for saying that, is turning it around on you – that you should recognize that the same concept exists when a guy wants a pretty girl.

If I remember correctly there’s a Hilton on Reisterstown Road just down the street from Mount Wilson Lane where Ner Yisroel is located. As for near the general Jewish community, I’m not sure.

You’re weird.

OneOfMany –

^_^ +1 to your long post.

I did say should not. Heh heh. QED.

Is the fact that the Jewish People, as a whole, are on average significantly more intelligent than gentiles similarly irrelevant?

Yup. But even if it were (true and) relevant, it would be for reasons which don’t apply to this argument.

I don’t even get the point. So let’s say it’s true. Now what? So if someone is choosing whom to affiliate with they know which one to pick? Or does it somehow make you better as a man because you are part of a group with more smart people? What about you Csar? What’s your own IQ? Because the fact is if it’s lower than, for example, OneOfMany’s (which is likely), then you aren’t as smart as her no matter how many Nobel Laureates you have on your team. And the only one that defines you is you; if you don’t think so you have other issues.

Do you have studies to support this? I’m skeptical. Besides, IQ is only one of a number of factors in what we generally call intelligence. (Though if both of your premises are correct then your second question answers your first…)