YiddisheMamma

Lesschumras,

Nobody is imposing views on anyone, but one thing is very clear. Tznuis is not a CHUMRA, it’s halacha.

I never respond to coffee room discussions, but when I saw this topic, I felt a very strong need to say something. I completely agree 100% with bustercrown, choppy and all other similar postings. This issue of women dressing provocatively and inappropriately is a HUGE problem, if not the biggest problem of today!! It causes the Shechina to leave our midst and we desperately need HKBH’s Presence now and always! It disgusts Hashem when there is a lack of tznuis..The attitude that some people have saying; “The men shouldn’t look..it’s not the women’s fault and just mind your own business” is the complete antithesis to a Torah view on our lives. If a woman causes a man to sin through her dress, speech, mannerism etc., the man will suffer, but so will the woman, even more. And what could be more terrible than knowing that someone else is being punished because of you!! If a woman is dressed completely tzanua and nothing about her dress is inaapropriate, but a man has inappropriate thoughts, she will not be held responsible…BUT if she is NOT dressed as a Jewish woman should be then it is totally and completely her fault and she will be punished for it! I am a mid-twenty year old married woman and I can tell you honestly that when I get dressed to go out in the morning, I say a small tefillah to HKBH asking Him to help that no man sin at my fault. It could be that some of you are reading this and rolling your eyes, but it is a very serious issue!! It is possible for a woman to look pretty, put together, but in a tznuisdk way, where nobody stumbles through them. I know, because these women are my role models. I remember a teacher telling my class in school “When you look in the mirror when you get dressed, think to yourself, If Moshiach would come today, would I feel comfortable meeting the Avos and the Imahos?! And if you wouldn’t then you better change…” In a generation that is dropping at an alarming rate in immorality, let us try to rise above it. Hashem should grant all Jewish women the desire to dress in a way that will make Him proud and that will cause the Shechina to remain with us always!!