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Any shadchan from Lakewood can provide you with a list…
I help set up singles who are 25 years and older. I have a list of a few older chassidish boys. One is a learner, and a few work. They are all good-looking, talented, and nice boys. I know a few older girls who are 30+, despite these boys checking their list of what they’re looking for, they are not interested because of the boys different background.. I believe this is wrong, and there would be no shidduch crisis if everyone was open-minded and focused on the person, not the background or difference in minhagim.
Bringing this up because I know quite a few nice older boys who are willing to date litvish girls, A shtreimel and bakitsah are very nice. There’s no reason why a girl shouldn’t give dating outside the box a try. There’s nothing to lose, just give it a shot.
I did found this article from 2015 still relevant
https:// mishpacha. com/mix-match/sorry no outside links
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I know a few older boys in the chasidish community that I’m trying to help. None of them are “full-time learners.” They all work, some of them are very successful, others have their own business etc.
In the chasidish world, there are very few older girls that are willing to settle for an average boy that is serious about Yiddishkeit, learns, davens 3 times a day, etc. Either they stay with unrelastic expectations or they become too oifgeklert and don’t want to marry someone within their community, etc.
Most of these boys are flexible and willing to consider frum girls that are not chasidish.
So I’m wondering will a Litvish girl ever consider marrying someone with a shtreimel? Has anyone tested the concept? Are there shadcunim trying to match chasidish boys with litvish girls?
In my view, better become a Chosid than staying single. There are more Chasidim than Litvaks, so even if the Chasidish surplus of boys is proportionally smaller than the Litvish surplus of girls, the twain shall meet and make a large dent in both problems towards a greater solution.
I know a few older boys in the chasidish community that I’m trying to help. None of them are “full-time learners.” They all work, some of them are very successful, others have their own business etc.
In the chasidish world, there are very few older girls that are willing to settle for an average boy that is serious about Yiddishkeit, learns, davens 3 times a day, etc. Either they stay with unrelastic expectations or they become too oifgeklert and don’t want to marry someone within their community, etc.
Most of these boys are flexible and willing to consider frum girls that are not chasidish.
So I’m wondering will a Litvish girl consider marrying someone with a shtreimel? Has anyone tested the concept? Are there shadcunim trying to match chasidish boys with litvish girls?
In my view, better become a Chosid than staying single. There are more Chasidim than Litvaks, so even if the Chasidish surplus of boys is proportionally smaller than the Litvish surplus of girls, the twain shall meet and make a large dent in both problems towards a greater solution.