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if the guy thinks it might be shayach and the girl agrees to have an open mind to the idea even though she thinks its not so shayach its not a waste of time. She might change her mind when she meets the guy or not but even if not she still gains because shes on the radar of the shadchanim and the guy didn’t waste his time because he thought it might be shayach in the first place.
If you say yes to potential shidduchim even if they don’t sound shayach at least you remain on the radar for the shadchanim who are suggesting to you. If you say no they will stop thinking abot you and might suggest guys you would be interested in to other girls and not you since they will think of you as picky and not bother suggesting others to you thinking you will reject them as well. So even if you have to go out with a few not shayach guys it might be worth it for this reason. Also, who knows maybe one of the not shayach shidduchim might be shayach. People are not always like what they appear on paper and if you don’t think its shayach just don’t go out again simple as that. Hatzlacha.
My rebbe said that the gematria of yom haatzmaut is the same as bitul hatorah.
Yom haatzmaut is no excuse to leave the beis midrash and engage in frivolous activities. Neither is July 4 or Memorial day or any other secular holiday.
Skver, I’m also a big fan of all the good stuff Lubavitch does for other Jews but the Skverer rebbe gave me an amazing bracha that changed my life forever.
you missed the point its not numbers its that girls and boys are both too picky if parents said this is who you are going to marry and thats it instead of people setting up shidduchim themselves or whatever it would make everything better.
Don’t have one. Its bad for you and for your future kids I”YH. Tell your future kids playdates parents that your kids can’t watch tv in their house or better yet make sure your kids’ friends don’t have tvs. Aries a computer that doesn’t filter video is as bad as a tv as all tv shows stream on line nowadays. What did the Bubbe and the Zaide do? They grew up without TV or computer or any of this garbage! When your husband is bored he should go learn. When you are bored go read tehillim or do chesed. TV will just cause trouble.
In general parents do know whats good for their children. Sometimes children are pickier than their parents. As my parents told me children know what they want but parents know what they need and for most people in our community I would say this holds true. If we let our parents choose our shidduch I don’t think there would be a shidduch crisis, there isn’t one by chassidim.
I think its ridiculous to suggest a shidduch for yourself. Why don’t you go to a shadchan or have your mother go to a shadchan and approach them with the idea and ask them to suggest it? That would make more sense.
who cares? the royal family are the biggest bozos in the world. They don’t do anything (all the real power in England from what I understand comes from their prime minister and parliament) and they live off the taxpayers who pay them to sit around in palaces and have parties. Maybe the british taxpayers who stand for this garbage are the only ones in the world who are stupider than the royal family. Better they should get rid of the royal family and give their money to struggling yungerleit in England and America.
maybe he was just nervous and tired not disinterested. After all you are meeting someone who you are going to potentially marry and talking to girls is not something yeshiva guys do (or should do) all that often. Nobody is disinterested and wants to go out again. On my first shidduch I seemed disinterested but actually was interested but couldn’t think of anything to say because I was too tired from being nervous and not sleeping the night before so it was awkward and boring even though I’m not like that. I say you should go out again- your potential gain outweighs your potential loss.
seltzer
Theres the duck boat, its an amphicar that goes on a city tour of Miami Beach and then goes in the water. Its a lot of fun and kosher fun too.
Courtyard Marriott 100 Chestnut Ridge Road in Montvale, NJ. They have a nice lounge that’s good for a first meeting. Its about 10-15 minute drive from Monsey.
My bubby A”H always used to say that hashem taught the torah to moshe rabbeinu in yiddish on har sinai and then when he came down he taught the torah in yiddish to the klal. some people didn’t want to learn the new language so Moshe rabbeinu finally gave up and split the klal into ashkenazim (those who learned yiddish) and sefardim (those who didn’t).
don’t know if its gambling but it sure is silly. The odds of winning are worse than 1 in 100 million. Better take that money and give it to tzedaka or spend it on another mitzvah so you are guaranteed to get back more.
if you want to see her and they claim the issue is that b/c of a baby they can’t get away, then why don’t you arrange to go visit them where they are?
I’d take any scotch over any bourbon any day.
Why shouldn’t you? A girl should appreciate when their date is trying to save money as it shows he is careful with money. Also, it never hurts to ask for discounts. One time I went out with a girl to a hotel lobby and we both had visible physical handicaps and she suggested when I go to get the drinks to ask if they had a discount on drinks for handicapped people. They did :), I never would’ve guessed, I wished I would have thought of that could have saved me money on previous dates.
A23:
Utah! Now we just have to move all of Brooklyn + Lakewood to Salt Lake City
How is muttar to talk to a single girl/guy of the opposite gender not in the context of shidduchim, if you are not yet married? Sound untznius to me. If you are married and the other person is not yet, then it might be awkward so just walk away and pretend you didn’t see them. Married Guys/Girls shouldn’t really talk to single people of the opposite gender in the first few years of marriage anyways.
I figured it out!! If we rescind the takana of rabbeinu gershom (which expired anyway), we can solve both the shidduch crisis and the support crisis. Every good learning guy will marry 2 girls, that way each girl will get a good learning guy, guys will be less reluctant to marry older girls if they can marry younger ones too and also, each kollel guy will have two incomes from the jobs of both wives, so his shver will not have to work until 120 to support him. But then, we would have a working boys and bad learners shidduch crisis, which I guess serves them right for not learning full time.
Have to disagree here. I never saw my parents go out on a date or heard from them that they were going out, I assume they did, but I don’t see why the kids have anything to do with it. If I ever saw my parents acting affectionate with each other around us kids it made me feel uncomfortable, thats a private thing between a husband and wife, it doesn’t have to do with the kids. For your kids you are a mother or father!
It was too short. Also Baruch Levine didn’t sing enough or any of his hits at all. Is it me or is Shwekey becoming more sfardi, even singing his Ashkenazi hits with a sfardi accent. Also, is Baruch Levine really considered like a #2 to shwekey, I always thought they were on the same footing? Overall, I did enjoy though.