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is VRBO what you are looking for?
yes vaccines hurt. and sometimes the area is swollen for a few days.
and if it really hurt for that long, you should have called the doctor and told him.
Based on this thread and another recent thread I would say lior is anti divorce.
@sam2, thanks. And I think I will ignore him/her. based on lior’s responses, i wonder if he knows anyone who went through a divorce. If you know someone who divorced, you don’t say those things.
health, yes and you are probably right…
Health, my (soon to be) ex believed that if I changed to be the way he wanted (including lowering my religious standards) then our marriage could be fixed, not if HE stopped his behaviors. According to the therapist we tried, he couldn’t see he was doing anything wrong so there is nothing to fix. So yes, my marriage was “untenable and irreparable”.
But I still don’t like what she wrote saying the first time because it sounded like something that my ex would say.
“Nevertheless, in the majority by far of situations a marriage on the brink is repairable with the efforts by both parties.”
BOTH PARTIES. you stated the most important part. If one party sees nothing to fix, or does not want to fix themselves, it will not work. THATS the important part of making a marriage work-BOTH sides have to work to make it last. If one side demands the other to change to the image in their head or to live them the way they are because they won’t change, is that really a marriage that should be fixed?
Syag, Thanks for your words. What I went through isn’t post-able but irreparable just the same.
When I was still thinking about what I should do, none of the people I spoke to said “give it your all, then come back to me”. When I spoke to my rav, he said try marriage therapy to see IF there is anything left THEN decide if you will give it your all. What Lior said about giving it everything you have is wrong because if there is nothing left, you are fighting a lost battle. THAT is what bothers me. In my case, yes I left before fighting because there was nothing left. Only a therapist or very competent rav can see if there is something or nothing left to fight for.
SO LIOR, I “gave up” without trying to save the marriage. Because I saw and my support saw and my RAV saw and the THERAPIST saw there was NOTHING left. So yes, I think what you wrote is wrong. If there is nothing left to fix, there is nothing to fix
mod29-thanks
Edit to my previous post “go for therapy” not marriage therapy as I wrote
Lior, your post really bothers me. I am at the end of getting divorced and what you wrote feels so wrong. there are times when a woman has to look at who (or what) she is married to and realize that there is nothing left but to walk away. just my 2cents
Ivory, I tried marriage therapy. Long story short after I told her my decision to divorce, she told me I made the right choice. Granted she didn’t tell me to divorce but there are times a therapist does agree it is the right thing.
And what health said-find a therapist for yourself even if you don’t go for marriage therapy.
1) meseches gittin exists for a reason
2) that’s the only reason? Is that the only reason your want to stay?
3) asking my soon to be ex for a divorce was the bet thing I did
4) talk to a rav and marriage therapist
Nope, I’m definitely not normal. And I prefer being me. And squeak, if you live here I’m sssssoooo curious to who you are
Tzfat I live here. Define normal
Health-lol. Forgot to check after the autocorrections.
Ha ha ha squeak
The clifton side of Passaic has expanded lots. Now there is more ppl on the other side of main by 21 and more people further down closer to 3. Commuting doesn’t have to be by car. Easy access to njt trains and buses. I used to commute to NYC for school and the trains are a nice change to sitting in traffic.
ALSO re nissuch sephard, rabbi berkovics has a Sephardic minyan. The tif and rabbi isaacson’s shul are sephard as well. Issacson and aerobics are more central, tif is not.
Squeak, you’re from passaic?
It’s for safety reasons
I get up here and still live in passaic for over 20 years. I also work at the only frum pediatric office in the community. I know lots about passaic.
Ask away if you have specific questions.
Try Friends With Diabetes, a frum organization for people with diabetes.
hirschman hatters in Passaic, Hatbox in monsey
they even have (gasp!) CY ice cream!
please be kind to divorcees, even if they don’t have children. And please don’t judge or ask for details when you hear of a divorce. You never know AND IT IS KNOWN OF YOUR BUSINESS.
hiccup rhymes with teacup
approx 4-6 rooms plus stairs at least once per week. depends on the week really. sometimes we use it once that week, sometimes its out 6 times. It also works on wood floors so we use it all over the house when its out of the closet.
oh and it def has the best wand and hose attachments
not cheap but worth it: Dyson. the one with the ball base is excellent. First one lasted 8 or so years. replaced it with a lighter model which is now 2 years old. newer models are so much easier to use than the old model. Definitely worth the 500$
@Torah613 a kitchenaid can’t make 5lb of challah. the bowl isn’t big enough and I don’t think the 6qt 600 hundred series can handle it. But the 4.5 qt can definitely handle 7 cups of flour so aprox 2.5 lbs?
We have a kitchenaid which is used often. I’m not a fan of our Bosch. The bowl has a post in the middle and very hard to clean. But we do use it occasionally.
And our Bosch is over 20 years old which is normal for a basch.
milchig meals are a must. Fish, cheeses, and spreads. A light easy meal. Even nicer if you serve on plastic dishes so less clean up. In my house the rule of thumb is one milchig meal for every fleishig meal. Yes, seriously.
also try to eat out for a meal. Bonus points if its a mile walk uphill both ways.
I find if I get out of the house for at least one afternoon it saves my sanity. Find a friend and share a couple (hundred) belly laughs. Its highly recommended.
if you are going to say ‘yene machle’ for cancer, say ‘yene machle’ for heart attacks, strokes, Alzheimer’s etc. JMHO….
Sorry to hear that 🙁 hope she can find something that works
I wear both. my rx is 700 in each eye and I see better with contacts. Oomis, I also have an astigmatism and I wear proclear toric lens from coopervision and they are really comfortable
4 inches is NOT halacha. its a SUGGESTED length to ensure the knees are covered at all times
hi eclipse. lovely post and very true. I was a bnos leader for 4 years and it was amazing.
writersoul, YKP only does that for kindergarten. by P1A, its not by age anymore.
wearing a white skirt reminds me of nursing school. and Pen stains.
Not a good combo.
I agree with Health. If you don’t like what the Dr said get a second opinion.
my sister has very bad allergies and we only found out when she went into anaphylaxis suddenly. after she was diagnosed she went to the allergist who did the skin prick test. probably 90% of what came back positive was accurate. now She carries an epipen wherever she goes.
lol. nerd…
I’ve been found out a few times. At first I was annoyed but now it doesnt bother me.
I remembered it as backwards alphabetical order. worked for me even if its backwards
Galaxy S3. Just upgraded from the LG cosmos touch. best phone ever.
nope. I fried it. harddrive survived but not the other hardware. plus was 2 years old so was going to have to upgrade eventually
THAT got an eyeroll 2scents.