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If you’re boycotting Target because your consience wont allow it, I hear.
If you’re trying to hurt Target by suggesting that all frum Jews not shop there, believe me, the frum business is not even a drop in the bucket for them.
Hey OP,
What’s with the questions about the ban, are you looking for trouble or something?
Since you weren’t invited to the asifa, ask your Rov, as you proclaimed in some other topic.
Apparently many people were disappointed with the asifs. They felt that they came away with nothing new.
Question for those people; Please explain what you were expecting and in what way the asifa fell short. Thanks
I used to have dizzy spells all the time. A cousin told me that she read somewhere that Splenda creates a defficiency of Vitamin D in the body and can also give a person dizzy spells. At that time I was a religious Splenda user. I stopped cold turkey, & I haven’t had a dizzy spell since. (And coffee without sweetener is not that bad either.)
Women should attend.
The husbands are doing a terrible job educating their wives and daughters about tzniyus, what makes antbody think they’ll do a better job with this?
Also…
Satmar people don’t have computers? Dream on…
When Ami had an editorial opinion from Ben Brafman telling us how great the Shalit deal was, that was the end of the line for me. All the gedolei Poskim that I read about, said the deal was not al pi halochah and Ami prints the editorial of Brafman?
And then when they had the cover with nazi flags hanging from the White House? Also, over the line for me.
I’ll never read that rag again.
Just,
Why are you sending him?
yitay,
In Lakewood you’re not even allowed to say or spell the word stadium. That’s why all the events that are held there are listed as “taking place on the corner of New Hampshire and Cedar Bridge.
If you “havv a plan,” so what exactly is your question. It sounds like you actually don’t “havv a plan.”
The best thing would be to “think first,” & not say anything. As a mature adult, your BI probably can figure out the right way to deal with it.
Borrow money for the therapy. Pay a lot of money and get a GOOD therapist. I was in the same situation as you & therapy SAVED ME. I now have a beautiful & happy family thanks 100% to the therapy.
Just do it. You wont regret it.
“RFDOS.EXE”
Cloaked Malware
shadchan,
“Biz a hundred un tzvonsig!”
(But please try to write properly so that your words will taken be more seriously)
brooklyn shadchan,
1) How old are you?
2) How many shidduchim did you make?
It’s a question of Kovod Beis Hamedrash.
The Mizrachniks are scratching their heads now. Their whole shita is that the medina is “aschalta digeulah,” and now the medina is turning against them.
Oh well, they should have thought about that earlier.
What kind of excuse is it that maybe it’s a fraud? Out of let’s say 10 people collecting, how many do you think are fakes? 1 or 2? Stretch it a bit, maybe 3?
In business, would you not take a 20 or 30 percent risk on your investment?
Are you giving the guy $500.00 that you’re so worried about fraud?
What’s the big deal, that you ask about it. So they do it, what exactly do you want to hear by starting this thread.
Here’s another interesting thread: I heard that my neighbor, when making potato soup, puts the celery in BEFORE the potatoes. Does anyone know if there are actually other people or communities that practice something like this? I’m asking out of curiosity, no other reason.
OP,
If you write “duz” for “does,” that’s too girly.
The OP makes it sound as if the husband has nothing to do with his family. If that’s truly the case, then nothing will be gained by staying in the marriage, they have nothing to do with him anyhow. If the parents are openly unhappy with each other (which sounds like the case here), the kids will be better off when the parents are seperated. Better to be with one happy one than with two unhappy ones.
What this guy needs is a good therapist, one that will teach him to start acting like a leader, like a parent, like the head of a household.
Trust me, I was in the exact same situation & therapy taught me leadership skills and I took control of the situation and now it’s all behind us. In fact, now, my wife respects me even more than ever because I took control, I stood firm by my decisions, and I righted a sinking ship. (And my kids adore me.)
You just need perseverance and patience. Nothing happens overnight. Patience, patience, patience.
Oh, did I mention another important thing that you need? Patience. Patience, patience, and more patience. And then some.
Ski,
What I don’t understand is, why did your friend say it over to you? Why would she do that to you, isn’t she your friend?
OP,
Very shallow outlook on people if your individualism is determined by a raincoat.
Like Brainwashed said above, all these Gedolim were individuals, and they all wore black & white.
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cinderella,
Chas V’sholom. I’m not saying that tznius is the cause of all our problems. I just didn’t like clever’s atitude toward our tzoros. He seems to have a “natural” explanation for all these things, and that’s wrong.
WIY’s point is that, in a certain way, tznius protects girls from behaving a certain way. Once you break that barrier, the ride down is much easier. Much like a bochur in a hat & jacket, or even just yeshivisha dress would think twice about doing certain things or going in to certain places.
The point is, Tznius is a serious problem, and Zumba is just a step in the wrong direction, almost like a bridge between a tzniusdike girl and untzniusdik behavior.
WIY is right.
Clever, it sounds like you are what the Torah is refering to when it says that if you treat the Tzoros as “Happenstance” then all the klolos and the toichecha will come on us. You seem to have a perfect natural cause for all the tzoros we are having.
Aries2756,
I’m right there with you. Go, Go, GO!
I asked my doctor for help with it. The doctor gave me a prescription for Chantix. It’s a 12 week program but I only needed 1 month. I got down from a pack & a half to 2 or 3 a day. The Chantix made me very moody so I stopped it and bit my lip till I was able to stop the craving for those few. The Chantix really worked for me because it literally made me disgusted from pulling that smoke in to my body. It takes the whole “geshmak” out of the cigarette.
Here’s another thing: I had always known that smoking smells, but it was only after I stopped that I realized how really, really bad it is. I even apologized to my wife after I stopped, when I realized how bad it is. A few weeks ago I was in line at the bank. All of a sudden I get this whiff of something really nasty. I mean, please, this is a bank, not a shelter! I turn around and I see a friend of mine that just stepped into the bank, a smoker of course.
I’m not one of these guys who stops smoking and all of a sudden turns into a major anti-smoking nut. I know how geshmak it is to smoke, I know that if you need a cigarette and you don’t have one, you could jump through a plate glass window in desperation. But take a step back and smell yourself. Where ever you go, people say “There goes a smoker.” They smell it. Go to a shiva house where everybody is sitting in close quarters, you smell the place up. Go to a vort. As you approach the Ba’alei Simcha, people say, “There goes the smoker.” You come in to shul on Friday Night, YOU STILL SMELL!
Try, try hard to stop, you’ll feel so liberated, you’ll feel like a “man.” You’ll be able to start and complete a project at home or at work, in one sitting, without that cigarette break. You’ll be able to get into your car to drive to Lakewood, Monsey, Brooklyn, the Catskills, where ever, without that stop at the newsstand for smokes.
For me it’s been two years, and I can’t really see myself going back to it. I smoked for 25 years but I think I’m done, I just can’t picture myself in that whole smelly, disgusting picture.
rt,
Exactly what my Rosh HaYeshiva said. It puts the Torah in the same category as anything else you would listen to. The Torah is special, keep it away from the gym.
Do you drink coffee with Splenda? I was getting these dizzy spells and I heard that Splenda depletes your Vitamin B & causes dizziness. I quit the Splenda cold turkey and I haven’t had a dizzy spell since.
brisker,
If you take it to mean that, then maybe it does. If you are a real friend, and you’re truly happy for the baal simcha, you’ll go, invitation or not.
“Kimayim ponim el ponim, kayn lev ho’odom l’odom.”
If nobody is looking at a mirror, is it reflecting anything? Or is it blank until someone looks at it?
The stress that the girls are under is rediculous and totally unnecessary. If the schools would really give them a good time once in a while to reward them for all their hard work, I can maybe hear it.
Personally I think it’s this abnormal and extra unwarranted stress that’s pushing many (many, many) of our precious girls to the edge and OTD.
If our children are not happy, they’ll gravitate to something that makes them happy and makes them feel good. Like water, they’ll follow the path of least resistance.
Girls (even more so than boys) need to be constantly made feel good about themselves and about anything they do. If not, the trouble starts . . .
Embarrased? No need for that. The type of person that would do that for you is probably the type of person that actually wants to do it for you.
Probably someone from the midwest, that’s my guess.
From the question, it would seem like the OP is not married.
From a business standpoint, maybe the plan is good, but it just doesn’t smell right. Nish dos iz unzerer mehalech.
Also, why is not 1 single Rov listed on the Nasi ad. Even the “usual” ones like R’ Kamenetzky and/or Rav Solomon.
Something is strange here.
No need for introductions, just jump right in!
So if a girl is 22 and her parents shell out $5000 + $500 and she doesn’t get engaged that year, they have to add $1000.00 on her birthday, or once you’re in, you’re in?
Cantor Mosh Kossouvitzky was the Chazan there at one time. Now I think it’s Chazzan Miller, a Bobover Chasid. On Shabbos Mevorchim the place is packed with Chassidim to hear the chazzan bentch Rosh Chodesh.
In the 1980’s Temple Beth El and Young Israel of Borough Park merged and it became Young Israel Beth El. I’m not sure what the status is at this point.
The first time that I actually saw light from the moon was after I bought a house on a quiet block in Lakewood. On a clear night the moon light is actually quite strong. In NYC I have never seen that.
AYC:
Thanks for your concern, however, on the contrary, my story is a happy story, not a sad one. I have been able to raise my children to be happy great A1 children. They are all popular in school and through out the years we’ve heard many unsolicited comments on how nice are children are. So my story is actually a happy one.
That being the case, I’ve established that I can relate to her situation from a real, more than a speculative standpoint.
And yes, I have gone to therapy for many years. It has changed my life by teaching me leadership skills which I use and have used to guide my wonderful family.
It’s great that you have the CR to rant to but don’t take advice from anyone here. They all mean well but they don’t know you, your mother, and/or any background.
You need serious help. The mother you are describing is a very close facsimile to the type of mother that my wife is. B”H my kids (my oldest is a teenage girl) are typical & normal & happy, and they actually respect their mother. Without going in to details about my situation, serious therapy is in order and overcompensation from another source would be a tremendous help for you.
I don’t know how old you are, but the sooner you get started, the happier you’ll be.
I agree with Sam2 on this one. Let’s not turn CR into Craig’s list or some chat room where all the trouble that you read about in the papers starts.
Try the melatonin. My nine year old chews a 1/2 a pill every night. She goes to sleep on time & wakes up every morning refreshed & with a big smile in her face.
Don’t be afraid, give it to your child so you can have a somewhat normal night and morning, you deserve it!
(P.S. It was my pediatrician who recommended it.)
Out of town, especially the midwest, you get the feeling that people are actually genuinely interested in helping you. In NY many times you get the feeling that even though he’s helping you, you’re really taking him away from doing something else.
Being a Torah Temimah boy, I remember on Friday’s Taking the 18th Avenue bus to the old Mendelsohn’s pizza. For $1.00 we got a slice and a small soda. You could also hear Mr. Mendelsohn’s daughter call out from the back, on the top of her lungs, “TATTY, ICH MACH DE FALAFEL BALLS!”
Anybody remember the old Buick Wagons that the back door was in two parts? The window would slide upward into the roof & and the bottom half would slide downward into the bottom somewhere. That was in the good old days when bumpers were actually chrome.
Or what about the period in the early 80’s when theives would steal bumpers from all the GM cars?
Hey OP,
You asked and answered your own question without even realizing it.
The first two sentences of your post should read like this: “Why are most parents against texting?” Answer: “Its a quick and easy way to communicate with each other and thats why its addictive.”
Wow! A really good shayloh. I wonder what a rov would say? You really need to find the right Rov for such a shvera shayloh.
ronrsr,
How long did it take you to type that sentence, & the first word should be capitalized. (Shift = left pinky)
Sounds like they took something that wasn’t broken, and tried to fix it.