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NE: That’s the media. It’s turned increasingly partisan (not that it was ever really impartial) especially now in an era where so many people get their news on clickbait websites and blogs and twitter accounts where the emphasis can be on sensationalism and views, not clear journalism. But even so, everyone gets news from biased sources except for the people making it, and that isn’t even anything new. That’s why people pick their newspapers. Or go into international affairs for a career, I don’t know.
All one can do is try to think with a clear mind and read from all sides of the story- I definitely don’t get my news exclusively from the Yated.
Where are the unbiased places where people should be getting their news? I’ve found it hard to find them.
Mammele: I’ve actually thought for a long time that an anonymous username, controlled by the mods, would be a good feature so that (with the mods’ approval) people can post things that they wouldn’t want specifically associated with their username.
MA: SIDI was talking about having a mobile YWNCR site for smartphones- currently there’s a smartphone version of the news part of the site but not of the CR and it’s very inconvenient to use with such a small screen.
It would all start to look like the human interest section of The Onion.
See? it really is a great topic to get to know someone better, isn’t it?
No, but a good jacket is a nice idea. (Don’t bring one that’s too expensive- I lost mine on the 417. This generally applies to most stuff you bring to Israel, but especially outerwear as you tend to take it off and on on public transportation where it’s likely to get lost.)
Definitely bring rainboots, though, whatever else you bring.
Abba_S: My friend’s brother spent a date once (actually, a Shabbos table conversation at the home of the girl he was dating) arguing with everyone, including the girl he was dating, about whether or not it is halachically permitted to be a vampire. Then again, they were practically engaged at that point and I guess she’d already missed her chance to get creeped out.
(They’re now happily married and adorable.)
Then again, their second date was at Har Herzl, so they march to their own drummer.
(Actually, I’d totally go on a date to Har Herzl. So, whoever I marry, if you’re keeping track, you’ve learned two things for our dating process on these threads: no flowers when you propose and cool cemetery dates are okay.)
Hmmm, that’s a very difficult and thought-provoking question. I’ll get back to you on that- I’m really not sure.
/endsarcasm
For what it’s worth, I always brought my own school lunch.
midwesterner: I don’t think that’s the issue- I think it’s more that the fact that the lion was high-profile made the issue of the illegal hunting high-profile as well.
Not many schools have actual dorms. Many many schools help you arrange boarding.
There are smaller schools in places like Rochester NY, Richmond and Norfolk VA, etc which tend to take in girls who need a change of pace. I know people who went to all three (community residents, not boarders) and I believe that the girls board with families.
If you don’t mind Chabad, I’m pretty sure that a bunch of their schools welcome girls from out of area and I think that many have dorms (one of my sem teachers was once a dorm counselor at one of them).
BY Denver has a dorm. YGW takes people from out of the area but I don’t believe has dorms any longer.
Schools all over the tristate area will probably help you find boarding families, or you can look out on your own. But very few schools have their own dorms. I know several girls who took that route (attending a standard community school while boarding with a local family) and were very successful- this gives you the opportunity to look for schools solely as far as how they fit your needs without needing to worry about their dorming situation.
Um, feivel, yes it’s her speculation, and I’m equally entitled to make the point I made. I even get where she’s coming from, even if I don’t understand it.
The dividing lines you mention are a very different type, and give us clarity when deciding psak halacha. The only possible connection I can see is in levels and yeridas hadoros, but there is no way to know if that applies here.
No, I have no idea why R Kanievsky decided what he decided. It is a fact, however (and with no disrespect intended) that many do not hold as he holds. (I have several close relatives named Shira, for instance, including one whose name was basically picked out by the rebbe of her family’s chassidus.)
Some names also seem more modern but were in fact used long before the current era; I was very surprised to find out that my chassidishe great-great-great-grandfather named his daughter Tehilla back in Poland.
My friend did the OU coed tour. Frum, kosher (not necessarily mehadrim- I’m not sure, but she doesn’t only eat mehadrin anyway so she didn’t mention it), apparently amazing. I wouldn’t do it in a million years (I wasn’t old enough when she asked me and this year I no longer qualify) but for the right person it’s apparently unbelievable.
One thing that did seem amazing about that kind of a trip is that they specifically invite Israelis to go along with the trip and give participants a taste of Israel. One of the Israelis on my friend’s trip was actually a married guy with kids living on a hilltop in the shtachim and I actually went to his house with my friend for a Shabbos- a really good opportunity to experience a lifestyle I might not have otherwise.
Another friend’s brother and sister-in-law are actually going to be participating as the resident Israelis in a chareidi couples Birthright trip (yes, this is a thing).
LoIbud- the questions are
1) does rebyidd think Joseph is British?
2) did rebyidd mean to capitalize the L?
There’s a supermarket with kosher food and a deli section (as of the last time I was there, several years ago…) and a shul and Niagara Falls very close by- I believe that Cave of the Winds is on the US side if you can’t go to Canada.
For those who wish to learn long-term, bear in mind that you’ll have to find longer-term support if you want to get married earlier and also learn for as long as your friends are learning.
Also, you may be more likely to marry a younger girl who will not have started education for a degree yet, which will necessitate complete support.
In general, I don’t see why having at least a vision of a path toward self-sufficiency shouldn’t be a prerequisite to marriage, but if you have someone ready to shoulder the responsibility, gezunter heit.
You’re so right.
No reason why the men shouldn’t just go to the beaches already.
#KTCRRRIM
I recall reading/learning that they were the Zoroastrians.
Perhaps “coming from” somewhere means the infiltration of the religion.
What kind of an avodah can there be for bein adam lachaveiro?
When we think about yamim tovim, we think about specific actions that we do in order to celebrate or mourn or repent. They tend to have specific rules and strictures and tend to be regulated. They have their own liturgy.THey are about specific action, not about a “feel-good” attitude.
On Tisha Be’Av we have the chamisha inuyim and Megillas Eicha. On Sukkos we have the sukkah, arba minim, leining, etc. On Purim we have the mitzvos of the day, one of which is the closest I can think of to an avodah on a yom tov that is based on bein adam lachaveiro, mishloach manos.
What would the avodah for the day be, going around to x number of people like at Kiddush Levana and saying shalom aleichem with no prejudice in our hearts? Having an asifa in Citifield? Doing a chessed? Those aren’t specific avodahs- two of those are things that we should be doing anyway (veahavta lareiacha kamocha) and one of those was simply a good thing to do.
I do know that there is (obviously) a lot of buzz about ahavas chinam around this time of year, and I think that that’s the best kind of avodah you can have in bein adam lachaveiro for Tisha Be’av, as long as people follow through.
In the meantime though, the point really is the mourning for the loss.
(A tangential point- considering that the first beis hamikdash was destroyed because of the transgressions of the 3 mitzvos yehareig ve’al yaavor, maybe the avodah of the day should be that every person should focus on not killing his neighbor, or on not being Hindu for the day.)
c a: I do sort of see rebyidd’s point.
However, open and honest doesn’t have to be about controversial opinions that do nobody good in their airing. It would bee different if someone were to be straightforward and say their unpopular opinions on public policy (such as raising taxes) that they would intend to implement anyway but, like most politicians, would shut up about until after their election. While that would be commendable, in practice, it would be a stupid thing to do because they would be the only one doing it- not the only one secretly planning to raise taxes, but the only one politically unsavvy enough to reveal it and thereby torpedo their own campaign.
It would be nice if the country was prepared to support people who were honest about their intentions and did not merely pander, but in practice, democratic elections prefer those who pander.
As far as Reagan- I almost feel bad saying this. It’s the kind of thing that would make my dad cry. However, it has to be said.
I was born during the Clinton administration.
I learned about the Reagan years from a (not-well-equipped) history book.
I (and my younger sister) will both be old enough to vote in the coming presidential campaign.
I therefore hesitate to respond as far as the Reagan administration is concerned.
However, even so, I think that my first point in this post applies. Reagan may have been opinionated and outspoken in office, but he would NEVER been as much of an idiot and goofball as is Trump. (With apologies to the guy who wrote into the Yated about how we should respect Trump for his positive views on Israel. I call it as I see it.) Reagan would never have said all the things Trump has said over the course of his campaign. And imagine, if this is only Trump during the campaign, when the average candidate is on their best behavior…
And Reagan was pretty divisive.
Can someone explain to me why it’s a good thing to have a president who is open and honest?
Practically speaking, the only kind of government that can do well with people like that is a dictatorship.
Governments with democracy and divided powers need people who can hold it in and compromise and deal with people.
The problem is, sushibagel, that the question could also have been answered “yes.” And in that case, an argument would start anyway about why yes or why no.
Even more, people can say yes or no for different reasons. Even in Supreme Court decisions where it’s obvious who says yes and who says no, justices still might each file their own reason why they think so.
And of course, like you said, people like to shoot their mouths off. So there’s that.
My best tip I ever got (first as a substitute Bnos leader, then as a camp counselor for far too many years) is that, if you have elementary school aged kids, you should do an activity with them THAT THEY DO NOT YET KNOW. Teach them something new and cool. This will hold their attention.
Do they all have to be together? See if you can divide at all.
Maybe try a full-motion game like Coke and Pepsi (I did it with kids and we kept on making up new rules- it was a lot of fun and took up a lot of time 🙂 ). Remember, your object here is to take up time.
This seems like a Tisha B’av camp- if not (or if the kids are young enough and you don’t mind) food decorating can be great. If you have little kids, the weirdest tip I got was to make smoothies with them. And it worked- they loved watching the blender go and all loved drinking them after.
My one and only Tisha B’av camp, the kids decorated hats. And picture frames. And pictures for the frames. You can’t go wrong. Someone will always finish in five seconds, so you tell them that it looks gorgeous and make them feel like an artist and then shove another paper in their face and tell them to make another one to hang up on their wall.
If they’re young enough, they might like the Morah Music type tapes. You won’t, though. They get stuck in your head like you wouldn’t believe. I still know the Hokey Pokey in three languages.
For older kids, Freeze and Justify, Charades or some other kind of acting game can be fun.
Good luck!
golfer: While I see your point, I have some of the same arguments on it that I had when you made this same post about music a while back :).
Picking an arbitrary date after which it is wrong to make change doesn’t make sense to me.
I don’t even get that.
Where would it end?
I have no idea if R Moshe ever at cholov stam, but as others stated, his whole family did (my dad remembers sharing a Hershey bar with his grandson).
My cousin asked my grandfather, a talmid of R Moshe’s and a good friend of R Reuven’s, and he said that the story sounded like shtus to him.
Jewish Thinker, do you keep asking this in order to prove that there is no source, or because you believe that there is a source out there somewhere and you want to find it? It does seem like there is no readily available credible source, but you won’t be able to prove it. After all, in a world of white sheep, one cannot definitively prove that only white sheep exist, but the sight of only one black sheep can disprove that.
I like pictures of flowers and seeing flowers in the wild and in parks. I don’t like bouquets- they’re messy and make my nose itch and smell overpowering.
I think that fake flowers can be good for decorating.
I like a lot of things better than flowers. I look at all those engagement pictures with girls holding bouquets of roses and just imagine being forced to inhale all that pollen.
I live as far downstate as you can without being in New Jersey, so there.
At least New Jersey people recognize that Rockland is basically in NJ.
Chaim37, are you the guy who was interviewed a couple weeks ago in Mishpacha/Family First?
*I do. I fished it out of some rich lady’s dumpster and wear it with worn All-Stars and daisies in my hair*
*sorry, I’m an anarchist hippie college student*
Ah, the power of capitalism…
When you say normative hashkafos, do you mean a specific hashkafa or do you mean not Chaim Potok? (FTR, I quite like The Chosen.)
Because if you want to read amazing books (in Hebrew and/or English) by an Israeli Sefardi rosh yeshivat hesder, check out my thread (helpfully bumped by golfer) about Rav Haim Sabato. Very frum but not yeshivish and with Zionist themes- I don’t know if this bothers you.
Wolf- nice one. I actually had to google that, I was so confused :).
“2. A glimpse at the potential shvigger is a preview of what you may be married to thirty years hence!”
GAAAAAAHHHHHH!
(I love my mom, but I don’t think I’m going to be her in thirty years. The average paranoid yeshiva guy on a date should NOT be thinking about this- it will throw him off.)
Just to clarify what I said earlier, I don’t believe that there is any reason why a woman couldn’t theoretically be totally fit enough to be a firefighter or anything else involving physical strength- there are female weight trainers, for example, who can lift a lot. But standards shouldn’t be lowered so that those who really can’t do it are now allowed in. Let people work in the jobs that they are fit for, physically, emotionally and intellectually, without regard to gender.
newbee: What are those reasons why Berel shouldn’t be a nurse and Susan shouldn’t be a police officer? I’m not yet going to deny that such reasons could exist- I’d just like to hear what they are first. Like T613 said, nurses were historically male- in fact, nearly EVERYTHING was historically male as it’s only quite recently that women working in professions became common. At that point specific occupations became associated with women when they tended to work in them more.
However, I don’t believe in affirmative action for jobs like firefighter, in which towns have been sued for not giving women jobs even if this is as a result of not passing standardized physical tests. Hire whomever you’d like, but don’t lower your standards to do so, especially in such a precarious position. (I’m a woman, by the way.)
Joseph: How on earth do you know who we asked?
Joseph: The concept of DE means that whether the dairy in the equipment is CY or CS (or CSHK, because I agree with apy), the dairy is processed on the equipment and afterward completely pareve-ingredient food is made with that equipment. The question is whether the food is still pareve- it very possibly is, but we don’t necessarily hold that way lemaaseh.
I’m in an environment currently where I was told to attempt to avoid handshaking but that I may do it if necessary. Professionalism and good impressions are very important in this environment (first impressions are key, and I’m not given the opportunity to “make up” for my initial breach in protocol) and I was told that it is not preferred but acceptable. The well-known rosh yeshiva whom I consulted gave me the names of people who had received heterim from R Moshe for handshaking in similar situations.
I know it’s not something I should be doing, but I feel comfortable relying on the rav whom I asked.
You guys haven’t seen anything til you’ve been in a parasitology lab with someone really eager to gross you out…
rebyidd: I think that in Google asterisks become bold.
Wolf: In EY, it’s actually the other way around in many shuls. The kahal davens in the nusach of the baal tefillah. In fact, many shuls have little reversible signs (Ashkenaz/Sefard) so that the baal tefillah can indicate to the kahal which one he will be davening (it’s often worth it to bring two siddurim). In fact, I’ve been in shuls where on Shabbos they will daven Ashkenaz for Shacharis and Sefard for Mussaf…
mentsch1: People like Michael Vick, who made money off of the callous, intentionally cruel abuse of animals, causing pain to creatures for their own fun and pleasure, deserve their jail terms IMO. People who are carelessly, unintentionally cruel, without realizing what they are doing… I don’t know.
Female mosquitoes bite us because our blood contains an amino acid that helps them lay eggs to create a new generation of irritating, bloodsucking nuisances.
If you don’t contribute your blood, that’s one less chance they get.
Swat the mosquito, please.
sushibagel: Only when it is neither day nor night.
sushibagel: Only requirement is it must be delicious. 🙂
It’s a lot easier to twist the mashal to fit the nimshal than vice versa.
Like the man who draws the targets around the arrows… 🙂