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bjjkid: I’d try to guess how you look but I don’t want to perpetuate a stereotype :).
I can’t describe you guys, because then I’ll be proven wrong, and that will take all the joy out of figuring out who you guys are, because one of my hobbies is bumping into random people on the street and giving them names and life stories. I like to imagine I’m right about all of you :).
popa: Occasionally, you remind me of my dad (which is scary), but then occasionally you remind me of someone diametrically opposite to my dad (which is even scarier). So I picture you as kinda like my dad, except quite a bit younger.
Please don’t try to describe me, because all of the info I’ve posted so far is not very complimentary of my appearance…
We should be proud of being called chassidim, and should strive to be one.
No, I am not Chassidic, but I try to be a chassid(ah?).
batseven: What’s so hilarious?
Am I missing something?
This may sound weird, but I think that if the girl/the girl’s father is going to be paying top dollar for these boys, they need to know if they’re getting their money’s worth. It’s mercenary, I know, but it’s also geneivas daas otherwise. I’ve known of people who are fully supported by their in-laws and then sit around their $1,000 a month dirot in Yerushalayim and watch Jets games from their season ticket package. (Yes, true story.) Of course, a boy can come late to shacharis sometimes, but don’t pass yourself off as something you’re not.
Of course, that only applies to those specific situations. We don’t need to know every single little incident that ever happened to you, as long as you’re honest about your real self. For instance, my dad waited until after marriage to tell my mom all of his (admittedly hilarious) stories of his yeshiva days. Now he regales us with them at the dinner table, and my mom kinda looks like she’s not sure whether to laugh or not, and exactly what kind of a guy did she marry? But yes, we know you’re human, boys.
Also, just for one, I have only one brother who will be entering mesivta when I’m twenty. So I don’t know much about mesivta and bais medrash boys, so if I go out with you in five years and you went late to Shacharis even once, I’m going to think you’re some kind of delinquent and will immediately reject you. Just be warned.
No, I don’t, but I think that as long as it’s done tastefully and the shirt itself (fit-wise) is tznius, there really shouldn’t be a problem.
Yeah, I’ve always wondered that myself. For instance, my family is lapsed Galicianer Belzer Chassidim. (We discontinued our affiliation about 90 years ago, so don’t say anything, please.) We live a pretty yeshivish life, and we’re always classified as Litvish for some reason I don’t understand, though none of my ancestors ever lived in Lithuania or had Lithuanian minhagim (my great-grandfather pretended he was Litvish, but that’s another story).
Just to add a bit more to the discussion, what in YOUR opinion is the definition of chareidi? It’s one of those things I’ve never understood.
Even if I listened to accapella music during sefira, I wouldn’t listen to this just because I don’t like YBC. It’s just not really quality music. It’s really making up a catchy tune that people think sounds ‘cool’ enough and putting some random passuk to it, it seems.
Nope, that’s actually from “The Three Garridebs” which is also an awesome story, but from somewhat later in Conan Doyle’s career.
Can you tell that I really like Sherlock Holmes?
Sorry about being “nitpicky”— I seem to annoy a lot of people that way.
Personally, I just find football, as a sport where people attempt to injure and tackle other people for no good reason, objectionable in and of itself, and I would not go to a game. Then again, I’m talking about football games. I have personally been to four Mets games, an Nationals game and three Nets games, and I had a blast. I think it’s more the experience, even though I don’t like sports. However, I believe that the people who are saying it is wrong probably should not take their kids if they object to the things they mention in their posts. My parents made their decision about letting us though, and they’re fine with it— you may not be okay with my family’s standards.
You’re really, really right. Yeshivos have always wanted the intelligent, personable boys, and when the plight of OTD or nearly-OTD boys came to light, a plethora of yeshivos opened up for them. Now, all those boys without a head exploding with brains and lots of spunk, but also without OTD tendencies, are left out in the cold.
My cousin had nearly the same problem, except that he actually was smart, but there were so many geniuses in his grade that compared to them, he looked average, leading many yeshivos in the area to think he wasn’t qualified. He ended up going out of town.
The problem is that yeshivos don’t want it to be known that they’re catering to “sug beit” boys. Of course, having a top-tier yeshiva is great, and having a yeshiva for OTD boys makes you feel good about yourself, but the boys in the middle? They’ll contaminate by sug alef yeshiva!
Girls are lucky (?) enough not to have the problem in the same way— for them, it’s more of a “how rich/frum is your father?” thing.
So then he should.
Whoops! I misread the question. The one I heard was between 20 and 50, making it practically impossible to guess much besides 37. And yes, I forgot 39. Chatati aviti pashati.
Basically, the way it works (at least my way) is that you automatically think 30 out of necessity, and then the human brain naturally thinks of a number above that. People believe that 35 is too obvious, so they pick the next one, which is 37.
That’s the way it was explained to me by a magician, so I’ll take his word for it.
I have no idea how it could work not a mod’s way. Too many variables.
1) Amish
4) Laurel wreath
5) Close shave
7) Red-headed League (I love that story!)
8) Hair shirt
9) Turtle was dropped on his head
11) Blackbeard
15) Hairnet
16) Gas mask
What is wrong with this statement?
I’ve just discovered a great one— acetyl salicylic acid (aspirin). It just sounds so cool.
I heard that one before.
Fact is, there are only three possible answers, making it a pretty good chance that they will pick 37.
Just BTW, I picked 31.
But if she’s supporting HIM, why does he have monetary control?
I don’t know, I remember reading in a halacha article that it belongs to the man because he is the traditional breadwinner.If there is a source to the contrary, by all means please post it. I’m curious.
If all of a couple’s belongings belong to the husband in halacha because he is the breadwinner, does that mean that if the wife is the breadwinner it all belongs to her?
Excuse Notes (Allegedly Original, including spelling)
My son is under a doctor’s care and should not take P.E. today. Please execute him.
Please excuse Lisa for being absent. She was sick and I had her shot.
Dear School: Please ekscuse John being absent on Jan. 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, and also 33.
Please excuse Roland from P.E. for a few days. Yesterday he fell out of a tree and misplaced his hip.
John has been absent because he had two teeth taken out of his face.
Megan could not come to school today because she has been bothered by very close veins.
Chris will not be in school cus he has an acre in his side.
I kept Billie home because she had to go Christmas shopping because I don’t know what size she wear.
Please excuse Jennifer for missing school yesterday. We forgot to get the Sunday paper off the porch, and when we found it Monday, we thought it was Sunday.
Sally won’t be in school a week from Friday. We have to attend her funeral.
We call out sandwich maker the “tzzzzz” because that’s what it sounds like.
It sounds very funny when we make other people sandwiches and we say, “Hey, just plug in the tzzzzz, okay?”
We ALSO say lupper. And brupper for when we have pancakes for supper or something.
Then there’s FFY for Fend For Yourself dinner night (but that’s not my family, that’s my cousins who I stay with in the summer).
The garage door opener is the clicker, the garage is either “the Pesach kitchen” or “the folding chair gemach” depending on our moods, a fudgsicle is a fudgie, and a pool float is a floatie or a floater.
Um…. Od Yishama?
I’ve never heard anything else.
As far as onomatopoeic words go (hey, that’s a great word itself, come to think of it), I like squelch. It sounds EXACTLY like what it means.
Interesting ones:
My cousin Rachel walked down to Mama Rochel at her wedding– it was GORGEOUS!
The funniest (and most awkward) one I ever saw was at my neighbor’s wedding, her twelve-year-old niece walked down to Hey Dum Diddly Dum. No joke.
My grandparents always walk down to Ilan Ilan (the old one, not the Shwekey one). I think it fits well.
OOM: I wish I could do that— but when you’re stuck in high school the whole day, it’s hard to escape, unfortunately.
Mishpacha all the way!!!
However, I do think that they should run TeenPages differently. It’s going in the wrong direction. (But I’m the only one who would care around here, and even I don’t so much.)
The article actually had three or four responses in the back refuting what the boy in the article said. It did not promote alcoholism in the least— in fact, my sense is that it made the interviewed boy seem somewhat ridiculous.
I think that Mishpacha had great articles at the beginning, but after a while you run out of people to interview.
kapusta: Awww, thanks! I really appreciate that :).
I’m always nervous about revealing my age on forums, because people tend to discount what teens say based on their age.
OOM: That’s why I stick with pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis. Just as impressive-sounding if said and much easier. (In fact, is it possible to SAY your word?)
It’s slow, and as mentioned it’s on the Ad Bli Dai album. It’s really gorgeous.
I loooove Mama Rochel, but I don’t consider it a Shwekey song. That’s a Journeys song.
I like Ilan Ilan, Mimkomcho, and Vehi Sheamda.
How should I know?
It’s funny how all of these candidates bash each other while they’re running, and then half the time the victor picks another candidate for VP or something. Just reinforces the fact that politics is a bunch of baloney.
Pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis. I love it because even though it’s long it’s easy to spell if you’re able to keep all the different parts in order, and it makes you sound smart :). (It’s a disease people get in mines, I believe.)
Did you know Disraeli was an antidisestablishmentarianist? I learned it in AP Euro.
Okay, peeps, 23,000 people DIED to help SAVE JEWISH PEOPLE. Where they live is NOT THE POINT. This is a day in GRATITUDE and in MEMORIAL. That. Is. All.
Shalom al Yisrael! (In all senses of the phrase!)
Why didn’t they record it ahead of time and do a video, like organizations such as CCHF do?
Well, I live in New York (State, not City) and I do not yet have my permit. Only six more months to go!!!!!
I don’t have favorite singers. I have favorite songs, which include half the songs from Journeys, One Day (Matisyahu), Vezakeini (Levine), Vehi Sheamda (Shwekey), Ilan Ilan (Shwekey), Seven Shepherds (Chaim Dovid), and most Carlebach. And Two Pockets 🙂 (hameivin[ah] [t]avin).
But— and this is the reason why I would NOT marry anyone who smokes— if my husband smokes, it will also put my health and that of our future kids at stake. Second-hand smoke KILLS. A close relative of mine died of emphysema from second-hand smoke.
Unishmartem me’od lenafshoseichem calls for not marrying a boy who smokes— and, of course, not starting to smoke in the first place.
sam responsible: If someone were to forward that comment to the liberal media, you’d be getting death threats.
I personally think you’re wrong for generalizing, and even if you were right, where would all the kollel couples get their money from if not the wife working? (And please, please don’t say from the inlaws.) YOU try to get a job without some sort of a degree.
Sam2:
A) I said “perhaps” for a reason, not exactly being a boki in the origins of cholent.
B) That said, I don’t believe that that is the only hypothesis about its creation. I’ve heard of a lot of them.
C) Even if it were in response to such sects, it could still be around in the time of Chazal, as the Karaites were basically ripoffs of the Sadduccees and the Boethusians (Tzedokim and Beitusim), who had similar laws.
D) Either way, I still believe that there was probably no cholent in the time of the gemara and mishna, making this argument a moot point and reinforcing my previous post.
Please excuse me for taking up your time with a useless argument. I’m in a debating mood tonight.
Snopes is a website which checks out urban myths.
Mine was going to at one point, I think.
Bowwow: Hey, that was my line! 🙂
Chazal can’t really have anything to say about what we consider “Jewish foods” because they didn’t exist in their time (except for cholent, perhaps). Forget about the fact that these are not JEWISH foods, per se, but rather ASHKENAZI foods. Sefardim seem to eat much more healthily than Ashkenazim.
There’s no one word solution. First, let your husband into the kitchen and tell him to add what HE wants on top of the regular stuff. Chances are he’s already got some pretty good ideas of his own.
Otherwise, my family puts in hot dogs, deli meat, ketchup and paprika. I know someone who puts in loads of garlic and it comes out fantastic. I know people who put in beer, bbq sauce, hot pepper flakes, Coke, and peas. (Not all at the same time, don’t worry.)
Just experiment, and eventually you’ll hit your zivug :).
Balabusta: You seem to be subscribing to the mentality that Jews in Europe were malachim and the alter heim was gan eden. Maybe the yiddishe grandmothers were like that, but what about the hundreds who never became yiddishe grandmothers because they went OTD?
I’ve never tried it, but I don’t see how it’s avoda zara— it’s just a tefilla which can help find lost objects along with tzedaka.
I know my aunt lost her diamond ring, and gave money to R’ Meir Baal Hanes and found it when someone was about to flush the toilet and saw it in the water. Not joking. To this day, nobody can figure out how it got there.
ultimateskier: It’s not just that. From the perspective of a Syrian, who would come from a close-knit community, it might be a totally different thing. A mentor from the Syrian community would be a better person to ask. However, as ultimateskier said, everyone else is not racist, and if you do marry out, you will be welcome!
I stand by my post in the other thread. I preface with the fact that yes, I read the article.
“Ugghhhh…. Ewwww…..
This is making me despair for the time when I will be in shidduchim;.
You see, I am not at all pretty. I am not thin, I have gross hair, I have a terrible nose, I have a really bad-looking face. I’m not just saying things out of insecurity; it’s true. And until I read this article I didn’t feel too bad about it.
Okay, so I try to look my prettiest when I need to go places. I don’t wear make-up or anything, but I wear nice clothes, and I never felt I needed much more than that. I never felt THAT gross. Thank you, Mrs. Halberstam, for making me feel like a future spinster mutant freak.
No, everyone, you don’t need to arrange for a psychiatrist. I’m okay. But this article is just disgusting. It should come with a tagline FWD TO ALL GIRLS WHO NEED A GOOD BOUT OF DEPRESSION.
Like my grandmother said, “There are seven people who will ALWAYS, no matter what, think you are a sheine meidel- your grandparents, your parents, and one day your husband.”
So yeah, Mrs. Halberstam, one day, most if not all of these girls will get married. Maybe they’ve just put on their mother-in-law-like-her repellent— no makeup. Smart of them. “
Honestly, I’m getting scared. Life stinks.
Mod: By “you” I meant the girl who would go out with a guy who smokes. Maskim(ah) with EVERYTHING you said. If it were between a boy who works and a boy who smokes for me, there wouldn’t even be the first semblance of a contest.
Huh?
My brother does have a friend who, by some interesting coincidence, only showed up to school when the other was absent. (They both “skipped” frequently.) So the class called them a combo of each others’ names (like, if my brother were Yosef and his friend were Aryeh, they were Arsef or Yoyeh).
OOM: LOL! You’re so right, though.