Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
I’ve never quite been able to like Greek yogurt (I tried vanilla Chobani, as I don’t like fruit flavors, and it was just too sour for my taste) but of my friends who eat it cholov Yisroel they seem to favor Norman’s.
LAB: Ain’t necessarily so. I have a friend whose family is very into alternative medicine (chiropractics, acupuncture, herbal, the works) but if she has strep she takes penicillin. One does not necessarily have to be at the expense of the other- it’s very possible to be sensible about it and use both so that it really is “complementary” medicine.
rebdoniel: “akeret habayit” means “foundation of the home.” To the best of my knowledge, “foundation” does not mean floor-scrubber or laundry-washer. There is no reason why a wife should not do this, but it doesn’t HAVE TO BE her job. Each scenario is different, and a wife is not necessarily a deficient one if she doesn’t clean the toilets.
Without commenting on its kosher status or lack thereof…
…
…
…BEEFALO?
That is so strange. Why would someone pay a company when they can do it themselves for free? When I made a tisha b’av camp I just hung up the signs myself and it didn’t cost me a red cent.
If the payment is more like a courier service, so that someone else can do the legwork of putting it up for you, then theoretically it’s the same as though they hung it up themselves. They paid for the person to hang it up, not for the advertising space.
However, I have no idea why you’d want to take down someone else’s sign unless you’re the shul gabbai or something and you need the bulletin board for something else. If you have a problem, hashkafic or otherwise, with the content of the flyer then speak to the rav of the shul or the people who got the flyers put up.
I’ll give you three guesses.
l y: I think it’s irresponsible to say things you don’t exactly mean for emphasis. If he was only trying to strengthen his point, then unless he really thinks that emuna is instead of medication, he should probably not say it.
I’ve seen so many cases where people say outrageous things to back up their points and then say, “oh, it was just an example, and only to a certain extent!” Hyperbole is not honest.
I guess you just have to know your kid.
Ma Chovaso: I don’t know about this particular case, but otherwise what you say is a fantastic point. The fact that my parents trust me to make the right decisions absolutely contributes to my responsibility- they trust me to be an adult so I’d sure better start acting like one.
WIY: I believe Redleg’s point wasn’t whether today is ultra-amazing but whether the world is worse now than it was.
Which to be honest I don’t think is even shayach. We have to worry about ourselves now a lot more than we have to worry about what they did in Georgian England. This is one of those cases where I don’t think context matters and all that’s really important is our individual potential.
I always thought the eighth graders were so cool when I was in elem. Now I’m in twelfth grade and I was helping out at my school’s open house and looking at all those “seniors”- they’re TINY!
I also remember going to day camp and all of my counselors were so cool and old and sophisticated- you know how during arts and crafts if you couldn’t figure out how to do something you could ask your counselor and she could always do it perfectly? When I was twelve, I became a JC for the first time and the first time one of my campers asked “morah” to fix her project for her, I realized I had no idea what I was doing. I got home from camp that day, dug out one of my old day camp projects, and realized that all the perfect things my counselors had done were actually lopsided.
Actually, I’d call that my moment of disillusionment… waaah.
Then this year when I went to sleepaway camp and I realized that my friend was a bunk counselor. When I went to camp, bunk counselors were mature and grown up.
Sheeeeesh.
nsh: exactly.
VM: So someone who is tamei would be sneaky and lying and would pretend that they are not tamei. Someone who is not tamei would be truthful and say they are not tamei.
I choose to believe, rather, that I am in denial.
WIY: Oh, I know that. The point was that someone mentioned 4 inches like it was mideoraisa, which doesn’t make sense.
VM: Well I wouldn’t know what a tamei person would say, because I’m not tamei.
If I were tamei, then I’d know that that’s what tamei people would say and I’d make sure not to say it.
batseven: your implication (conscious or not) is that high school girls cannot use the internet responsibly. That is absolutely untrue. As a teenager online, I use the internet in what is in my opinion a responsible way. I know that most of my internet use is communicating with my friends and research for school- and recreational things I do are vetted by my parents. (However many posts I may write, YWN actually uses a very small percentage of my time…) I believe that children need to be told how to use the internet responsibly and to be given positive messages about healthy internet use EVEN IF they are not permitted to use the internet at that point.
Your evidence is circumstantial. I can just as easily (and truthfully) say that I’ve gone through high school aided by responsible internet use and that I was mature about it. Both of our statements have relatively equal weight- neither of us is proving anything. My only point is not to think that girls who DO use internet are not necessarily “frum” enough (a word I absolutely abhor but that’s a rant for a different day).
suprone: I think so. Nobody’s told me differently, and my mom’s pretty makpid.
“halacha says the entire knee must be covered in all posotions so the rabanim said only a skirt that is 4 inches below the knee can do that (which is true).”
How do you know? I have plenty of skirts which completely cover my knees without being four inches below my knee.
Was that a Freudian slip?
But it has nothing to do with insecurity. It has to do with non-acceptance. The only way you’d campaign to be accepted is if you’re pretty secure about your identity. Same with, as whats_in_a_name said, Israel parades. Though, warning, you addressed that to HaKatan which is probably not the greatest idea unless you want to divert from this rant to another one.
And HaKatan, there is NO SUCH THING as the ideal situation. You avoided my (repeated) question about which you’d consider preferable, abusive heterosexual parents or loving homosexual parents. All of your statements about what’s good and what’s “abusive” are entirely based on broad groups. The distinctions between individual families are much more complicated. You’re making very vague, unsupported statements based on a faulty premise- that anyone at ALL has an ideal life and that the only way a child can survive without severe scarring is in such a perfect life. That is self-evidently untrue.
We’re going in circles, so if it makes you happy you can get the last word in because I’m leaving the thread. I feel like I’ve been typing the same things over and over.
I’m a twelfth-grade girl who, quite evidently, has internet. If this is something that worries you, then probably the seminary I’m interested in isn’t for you anyway, but I can tell you that personally, in my unbiased opinion, I am not tamei. My friends who are applying to BJJ, Bnos Sara, Bnos Chava, Mesores Rochel, Machon Raaya, Meohr, or pick a sem of your choice who all have internet are not tamei either. Any sem you send your daughter to will have girls attending who have used the internet. Now that you’ve asked, at least, you can face the truth and not get a giga shock when your daughter gets back from sem…
The best bet for you is probably to make sure that the seminary she attends does not allow internet access in seminary. It’s at least a start, if that’s what you REALLY want to prioritize. But please, PLEASE focus on the quality of the girls in other areas, the quality of the hanhalah, and so many other factors before crossing off options for reasons like this.
Please tell me that we don’t have a test today…..
Torah: USNWR rankings (point out their failings all you want, they’re still the highest regarded college ranker) put YU at #47 in the country and Touro at about #120 in the northeast. Of course, both of those are the cumulative rankings of all of their schools which can skew it somewhat but Stern is still academically farther up.
FTR I’m seriously considering both. I’m actually leaning in favor of Stern just because of my career plans. I think each has its own place.
R’ Shalom Shachna (teacher of the Rema)
My school does the same. We have a lot of speeches, but there’s also a lot of fun. I think it’s fair to say that everyone loves shabbaton :). No matter how wild and crazy everyone is, everyone still gets a lot out of it. To be honest, the same people who are ruining shabbos for themselves are probably the ones who would be doing so anyway even if they were not at the shabbaton.
assurme: Sometimes, they just need the money even during the marriage. There is no guarantee that the wife will stop working when she has kids. Maybe, but no way to know if that’ll be possible. There are a lot of working moms.
HaKatan: Gay parents can’t be loving and supportive? Of course they can. Whether you’d consider them parents in the traditional sense of the word is up to you, but my question still stands- do you think it’s preferable to have a man and a woman raising a child in a loveless or abusive environment or two men or two women raising a child in a loving environment? (I’m obviously not saying these are the only two options- I’m just trying to make a point about priorities here.)
Notasheep: What Sam2 said.
interjection: it may have nothing to do with punishments- it may simply be that the boy may be waking up late because he’s not getting enough sleep coming home at 2 AM.
live right: of course, that goes without saying. I was just making the point that “show don’t tell” is not a hard and fast rule and that “write in whatever way shows off your talent and interest the reader, no matter how many rules it breaks” is probably a better one.
CV: never having read Sun Inside Rain I can’t recommend a book similar, but I happen to be an extreme skeptic on the topic of Jewish books. If you want an ArtScroll book then The Gordian Knot is probably the most original and readable as long as you completely skip the last section. (And I mean completely. The first two sections actually have a very interesting and compelling plot. If he’d stopped there… but no, he has to continue on to part three, where he jams in the mysterious will, the neo-Nazi, the OTD guy who becomes a baal teshuva, the terrorist cell, and the bacteriological bomb at risk of destroying every Jew in Israel- ALL IN THE LAST 150 PAGES.)
Otherwise I recommend Haim Sabato. I’m not sure if they sell his books in Jewish bookstores but they definitely do on Amazon and they’re great IMO. I’d start with The Dawning of the Day.
I think that leather details look fine if they’re tasteful. Same thing that I think about sequins, neon colors, etc. A leather band on my Shabbos skirt or fake-leather pockets on my sweater are not the end of the world. They’re not loud or flashy or attention-grabbing.
Leather doesn’t have to be masculine. My mom wears a leather jacket that’s very tasteful and feminine- nobody would ask her why she’s wearing a guy’s jacket. I also don’t think it has to be inappropriate, either- in general, as long as it’s in good taste… and that’s definitely possible with leather.
I also think that in general, as fashion moves, things become more or less acceptable. As styles change and people start wearing new things, they enter more and more into the realm of the mainstream. And personally, I think that’s okay. Obviously it’s within a person’s rights to dislike leather or puffy skirts or neon green, but if people wear it and it’s newly common, it can shed a lot of previous associations and become perfectly fine. To be honest, I don’t see my friend’s leather-panel sweater and think, oh, she looks like she’s wearing guy clothes. Styles do change and with them so do our mindsets.
My parents are fine with whatever time I get home (within reason- if I got home at three then it would be a problem) as long as I’m realistic and timely as far as when I get back (it’s worse if I say I’ll be back at nine and I’m back at ten thirty than if I say I’ll be back at twelve and I’m back at twelve fifteen) and I tell them beforehand where I plan on going.
I’m trying to figure out whether it’s nice that they trust me to have all this freedom or whether I’m insulted that it doesn’t seem to worry them what I’d potentially get up to… (I’m also the only one whose parents let her drive with my friend who just got her license.)
That’s not what people normally say…
And shut up. You were thinking. It’s annoying.
(It’s so cool to actually be able to say stuff like this. Like if I tell my friend to stop inflicting her opinions on the world. “But I was quoting!”
🙂
Really…
🙂 )
One out of four people are insane. Look at the three people nearest you- if it’s not them, it’s you…
I’ve only gotten one diploma so far, but first I left it in the car (after it showed up three months late) and I subsequently put it through the shredder.
I did not like my elementary school.
However, I still have my best davener award from day camp in sixth grade in a frame on my desk. Right next to my first place spelling bee certificate from fourth grade.
Okay, so maybe it is gaavahdik of me, but still…
NOT Harova. Nothing against it (I have relatives who have gone) and it would be the most awesome ever to go to sem in the Rova, but that’s not what the OP wants.
ETA: I have no idea whether or not that was tongue in cheek- I figured I’d mention it just in case so that OP doesn’t have to bother checking it out.
eclipse: for better or for worse, currently, in both the frum and secular worlds, a BA is the modern equivalent of a high school diploma. There are certainly jobs you can get without a college degree (just like there have been jobs you could get without a high school diploma) but there are fewer and fewer as time goes on and the market becomes saturated with people who have higher qualifications.
True, this is a self-imposed problem to an extent (if people just stopped getting college degrees it would probably vanish) but that’s not the point. This argument has has been made in favor of trade and technical schools- at this rate, if we need to keep on being competitive, then you’ll soon need a master’s degree to become a cashier at Burger King.
jfem: Definitely true, but there aren’t very many people from my school who actually want to go that we’re crowding them out… and trust me, if one of them did actually want to go everyone else would probably withdraw. We’re nice that way :).
People leave dirty tissues places?
Ewwwwww… that’s absolutely foul.
Baruch… sheasani kirtzono.
nem: that sounds a bit more like dina demalchusa dina…
Oh, yes… and then there was the time that a squirrel jumped through the window of my brother’s classroom as they were in the middle of a bechina by the principal.
You want chaos? Shove a freaked-out squirrel in the middle of thirty stressed, nervous, hyperactive ten-year-old boys.
Fine- so a) can someone give me a source for girls not being allowed to learn gemara and b) why wouldn’t he say that outright as opposed to going on a whole long diversion? Of course, this is something I should really bring up with him instead of random online people but the point still stands. I was talking about it to someone in my class and she said she thought he didn’t want to get us annoyed- but seriously, if you think something’s correct, then what other people think about it shouldn’t matter.
I’ll be really honest, setting aside whether it’s proper or not for Bais Yaakovs to be teaching whatever it is that they teach, I laugh inside when we learn all kinds of random things in-depth with sheets photocopied out of gemaras but that when it comes to bringing the sefer into the classroom- chas vechalilah.
Luckily I’ve never had mice in my house (though one memorable summer I was sprayed by a skunk in my backyard), but I will never forget going to a friend’s house and being a witness to her and her mother nonchalantly extricating a dead squirrel from my friend’s closet as I sat there and watched. They were both teasing me about how I’m from Monsey (they live in the city) so I should be used to animals- I retorted that I’m used to seeing them alive in the trees. (Or as roadkill, but that’s a discussion for a different day.)
In school, though, we had mice for quite a while when I was in ninth and tenth grades. There was a certain food policy in school that led to food being left around in a few places that turned out to be near existing mouse holes. Encouraged by the buffet, the mice emerged and caused quite a bit of chaos. The climax was one day when everyone was davening mincha and suddenly someone in the front began to shriek- a mouse had run over her feet as she was about to begin shmoneh esrei. The entire school pretty much jumped onto our chairs and waited (through mincha and half of the next class) for the mouse to vanish- it was not long after that that we had that particular food policy canceled.
147: If people are gay biologically, then the two participants in successful, happy marriages are just two more straight people getting married who would’ve gotten married anyway. (Okay, so it’s probably possible for a gay man to happily marry a woman, but as a countermeasure I wouldn’t count on it.)
Believe it or not, just because gay marriage is legal doesn’t mean that men aren’t marrying women anymore or that it’s uncool or whatever. That’s not the object. Men will keep on marrying women and women will keep on marrying men at the same rate before and after (assuming they marry at all, but that’s a completely separate issue).
T613T- Absolutely, and even if you don’t get in. My friend is applying and she says that while if she gets in it’ll be awesome, if she doesn’t, she’l just blame it on the 5.9% acceptance rate. If you don’t get into Harvard only an idiot would say it’s because you’re not smart. Plenty of 2400 SAT scorers (yes, old people, it’s got three parts now) and 4.0 GPAers who do every cool extracurricular on the planet get rejected every year.
If you can afford what it costs, applying to Harvard is practically a no-brainer, in a weird convoluted way.
“Show don’t tell” is not always a necessity in good writing- there are many classic works in which a character is described or his/her situation explained in a more show-oriented format. I’d say that the success of either method depends on the skill and technique of the writer. I’ve read terrible books using both methods.
After all, “she shook her bouncy brown curls in frustration and there was an angry look in her hazel eyes” isn’t necessarily good showing either.