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Your feelings for your significant other won’t be consistent. Are you always obsessed with your friends or siblings? I think it’s unrealistic to expect to always be in that infatuation phase. You can’t make this decision entirely based off of feelings because they come and go, they’re fickle. So I would say make sure that you don’t have unrealistic expectations – marriage won’t make you happy or solve your problems, that all starts with YOU. if you’re unhappy on your own and think that this girl is gonna be the answer to that, you’re mistaken. The relationship is the icing on the cake, not the cake itself. Be concrete about what you’re looking for, don’t use your feelings entirely as a GPS. Mistaken belief is that when you find the one, that it always feels good.
I think a lot of people conflate the feeling of “finding the one” with minimal effort. Every relationship requires one to exert effort, even the one that’s “right.”