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So…I happen to work in the Supermarket industry and I can tell you that all the suggestions, while theoretically good, would not work for the location in question. As a couple people pointed out, locking the wheels at the corner would prevent people from being able to take their purchases to the car – which may be parked a block away. It works well “out of town” because there is lots of room for a parking lot but not in an urban area. Besides, the cost of implementing that type of system would be immense. The way they work is with a strong magnet that has to be placed at the borders that activates the wheel lock, meaning that the sidewalk would need to be ripped out and the magnets installed all around the store. Furthermore, those types of wagons are significantly more expensive and the store would need to replace all the wagons they currently have, which would be very expensive.
The other idea of using the quarter method….again, the cost of replacing all the wagons would be expensive, but more importantly, the backlash from the customers would be overwhelming. People feel entitled to convenience. Either they would not bother for the quarter or they would complain how the store “DARES” to charge for a necessity. I have had customers in my store request to take the wagon home with them, promising to return it. When I asked that they leave their credit card or driver’s licence as a security deposit so that I can be assured they would return the wagon I received a horrified look. “Why should I leave my card? Don’t you trust me?” The simple answer is no. Hundreds, if not thousands of wagons are lost by grocery stores in Brooklyn each year (not an exaggeration) and what is the harm in leaving a card if you plan to return? I believe that the coin operated carts would work the same way – except they cost a lot more to replace when lost.
Yes, the store has employees that go around to collect the wagons but many are left more than a block away. These unattended wagons also get taken by random people and are never recovered. I have heard of good Samaritans calling in about a wagon they found….a couple of miles away from the store, or used by a building Super to cart his tools around, or by a construction crew using them to move their trash…etc. Many are never recovered or are found broken beyond repair.
Finally, while I appreciate the brainstorming about how the store can spend more money (without increasing the price chas veshalom), I wonder what happened to the concept of personal responsibility? When did people decide that something they borrowed from another Jew (that is what wagons are) does not have to be returned to its owner? When did they decide that their own convenience is more important? I guarantee you that if there is a price mistake for $.10, they come running back for their money, why then do they not care about someone else’s property?
It is a very sad state of affairs that adullts, Frum Jews, do not have this basic concept.I am told that the Flatbush Eruv as well as the Sephardic Eruv overlap the Marine Park Eruv and extend down past Gerritsen and North past Ave R. As I said earlier, if you PM me I would be glad to provide my Rabbi’s number and he has far more detailed information about this topic.
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The eruv goes from ave U at Flatbush ave to Flatbush and ave R, down ave R to gerritsen and back down Gerritsen to ave U
First of all, you have no right calling people mechalel shabbos when you have no idea what you are talking about.
Not only is the eruv kosher but it is inspected every week. If you would like more information I would be happy to provide the contact information for my Rabbi who deals with the eruv every week.
Lets stop this “holier than thou” attitude – you aren’t. If you don’t hold by the eruv – then don’t, but stop condemning others who have valid sources on which to rely.
Have you heard of or considered Marine Park in Brooklyn? The Marine Park Jewish Center, in spite of it name which some associate with reform, has a large cross section of the orthodox spectrum ranging from really modern to a few yeshivish visitors. There is a new BT couple that recently moved in and they told me that they feel very welcome in the community. The Rabbi is very involved, the shul holds by the eruv (not up for discussion right now, so lets not comment on it) and there are playgroups for children every week. There are about 120 member families, so it is not just a small group and they can arrange for you to come for a shabbos to “check out” the community.
The beauty of the location is that it has somewhat of an out-of-town feel but all of the convenience of living in Brooklyn.
Anyway, just something to consider
DaMoshe – Well said
notsuchalamdan16 – As much as I agree with you about the leadership having a hand in this, there also has to be some sense of personal responsibility. As a parent, I can’t imagine disowning one of my children. Certainly not just because my rabbi tells me to do it.
Hakatan – how do you know how much ahavas haTorah I have??? Who are you to judge me or anyone else? Additionally, did I say anything about Zionism that prompted your attack? NO, I simply said that if you do not like the rules of a country, you are free to leave and go to a place that you like better. That place may not exist but you can certainly leave this “oppressive” Medina.
Derech – your comment is exactly my point. “A lot of your folks already left…” Who exactly are my “folks”? You don’t know me and yet you have no trouble separating me into a category of your people. WE ARE ALL THE SAME PEOPLE! As much as I may disagree with your perspective, I would not consider you a separate entity. I highly doubt that at har Sinai they said “OK, all those not on our level, step to the outside of the camp and patrol the perimiter. The rest of us “real Jews” will continue to sit in our tents.”
You know, I have said to NYPD officers “thank you for your service”, because I know that they too risk their lives every day to make sure that it is safe for us to do what we want to do, whenever we want to do it, and they deserve to be shown a measure of appreciation. What I am suggesting is that you have that small measure of appreciation for the young JEWISH soldiers. Or, at the very least, not kick them out of your shuls or beat them up for walking in the street with their uniform on. Is that too much to ask? IS IT?
I cannot fully express how disgusted I get when reading these “chareidi” statements. If you all feel so terribly oppressed, why don’t you just LEAVE? Nobody is holding you down. Go to other countries – as rabbiofberlin said, I’m sure all of Israel’s neighbors would welcome you and provide the same financial support and military security you receive now. Better yet, how about you retrace your steps and go back to Poland and see how you do there. Wait a second, they banned shechita there… OK, how about Hungary, oh, wait, they may blow you up as you leave the airport. How about France? Sure, you may worry about someone walking up to a child and shooting them in the head, but at least you won’t have to join their army. FYI, the other European countries are not much better, we just haven’t seen their full potential yet.
The point is, if your head is stuck so deep in the sand, then you are correct – who needs to have hakaras hatov to the soldiers? According to you they aren’t even considered Jews, right? So what they risk their life for YOU, they owe it to you. After all, you learn in their zechus, you are the one to keep them safe. Is that right?
Let me explain it to you this way; you have it all backwards. The teenage soldiers that get attacked by so-called “charedim” did not put in place the policies of the draft. They are under it’s obligation to serve but they are not the ones trying to compel others to join. However, when they see this baseless hatred and vicious attacks, you better believe that they will support any legislation that will, in turn, make life more difficult for you. This is how hatred grows – through retaliation.
The Torah is supposed to teach us to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. To be an example to the “umos haolam”. I find it ironic that the people who claim to learn all day missed such an important lesson
If you share the driveway then you have the right of easement. What that means is that you are entitled to have access to your back yard by driving there and neither party can block this access. If he tries, you can certainly stop him from doing so, or even get an order for him to dismantle his structure if he puts it up before you can fully act. Speak to a lawyer, and fast. You may have a problem if you don’t do anything until after he builds (I don’t know for a fact but it sounds like a very plausible thing to happen)
If you share the driveway then you have the right of easement. What that means is that you are entitled to have access to your back yard by driving there and neither party can block this access. If he tries, you can certainly stop him from doing so, or even get an order for him to dismantle his structure if he puts it up before you can fully act. Speak to a lawyer, and fast. You may have a problem if you don’t do anything until after he builds (I don’t know for a fact but it sounds like a very plausible thing to happen)
It sounds like you were using a sauce of some kind that has sugar or honey in it. The sugars in the marinade solidified and burnt, creating the “slices” on the meat. Turning it sooner would help to prevent that
torah613613torah – Where does one even begin with this?
1 – “He has never openly supported non-family values.” Umm…He is pro gay marriage and transgender rights, how is that for family values?
2 – “he strongly affirmed his support of Israel during the debates” Right, DURING the debates of the last election he did the same thing, and we all know how warm the relationship is between Israel and the US in the last 4 years
3 – “he has put himself above suspicion by having Jews..working for him. He can’t be too much of an anti-semite”
Yes, that certainly makes it clear, after all, its not like racists hire minorities, ever. Especially not for tasks they are “well suited” for and especially not to “put himself above suspicion”, that would just be misleading, wouldn’t it?
4 – “Sometimes a president who doesn’t seem to openly love Israel, can do a lot more behind the scenes without being criticized by the media.”
That statement does not actually say anything. However, there are two things to consider; 1 – he has NEVER been criticized by the media for ANYHING and 2 – He can do a lot of damage behind the scenes that we would never be aware of (ie – his remarks to Putin when he thought the mikes were off).
Bottom line is, this guy is a disaster in the making and the country just enabled him to continue for another 4 years.
Oh yeah, CHERRYBIM, it is nice to see that you are so proud of all of the illegal things you can continue to do with him in office. Do you not realize that these benefits you are talking about are actually stealing? There is no other way to categorize it. Honest, hard working people are paying more and more in taxes so that freeloaders can work “off the books” and collect benefits on top of it all. Or, as you put it, the ILLEGALS that “need” the benefits. In my opinion, these people are no better than the “brothas” out there. We, as a poeple, are supposed to be better than that
Health – FYI, calling MO “apikorsus” is not speaking any sort of truth.
The sad truth here is that people vote selfishly, without a global perspective. If the vote was about getting the person best suited to get this country back on the right track, to improve the job situation and the economy as a whole, to reduce the insurmountable debt we carry (and the inevitable consequences), to regain our position as a global superpower, to once again demonstrate that we are clearly against terrorism (and not apologize for it), then there would be no question of Romney winning.
Unfortunately, about half of the country only cares about getting more for themselves. More handouts, more services, more “free stuff”. These people don’t seem to understand that these funds have to come from somewhere (i.e. taxpayers) and with the way things are going, the number of people contributing to the pool is shrinking. A case in point, there was a woman on the radio last week who got a free cellphone and was saying “Obama gave me a free phone!!! I love Obama”. The problem is that Obama didn’t give her anything, I (and other taxpayers) GAVE IT to her – Obama TOOK IT FROM ME, and he intends on taking more and more until once of two things happens – I move away or I stop working and start taking. Anyone who manages a household knows it is impossible to keep up.
I don’t think that it is even worth mentioning his foreign policy, which not only makes America look weak and impotent but is detrimental to the existence of Israel and the millions of Jews living there. I don’t care if you believe in the state, you can at least agree that millions of Jewish people will lose their lives if Iran gets its way. Surely that still means something.
I just hope that enough people gain the clarity necessary to make the right choice in november
lesschumras – +1, but you forgot foodstamps.
GeshmakMan – I like to BBQ as often as possible, so it really has nothing to do with the day, other than what Sam2 said – the timing works well.
HOWEVER, knowing the posters on here, I am sure you will get many differing opinions on the topic and I am sure that some will find a way to make it assur to BBQ for reasons you would never have thought of. “maybe it could lead to socializing…” “maybe you will use the internet to find a recipe…” etc. Clearly these things are assur so obviously you shouldn’t BBQ
I am both enraged and saddened by some of the posts on this topic. To think that some people who call themselves “frum” can go on and bash other jews and their level of observance and religious orientation is appalling. I guess they don’t teach the story of Rabbi Akiva in those “yeshivos”. I bet they wouldn’t even allow him to attend their yeshiva since he was a BT – after all, how much can he really know? This is the epitome of sinas chinam. This is the reason his talmidim died during this time. They were too busy burying their head in seforim to acknowledge their fellow jews with respect.
Why is it so difficult for you “frum” posters to exhibit some humility and respect the fact that there are people who lost fathers, brothers, sons etc.. and they choose to remember them on this day? Some of you say that there is no tehillim said today – HOW DO YOU KNOW? My shul had a very moving maariv yesterday with several kepittel tehillim lezecher nishatam. Even if you disagree with the “medina”, as you are all fond of pointing out, why can’t you recognize that for many, this is a day to commemorate the people who gave their lives to save others. These are JEWS who died to protect other JEWS! They did not ask what kind of Jew you are. They did not care what kind of kippa you wear, what shul you daven at or if you eat gebrokts. They just went out and put themselves in harms way so that others can live safely.
You may be better versed than me on many topics but it seems that there is one crucial subject that yeshivas seem to be leaving out of their curriculum – Derech Eretz.
Not only is this notion ridiculous but so are the people who think this is a good idea. Is there not enough hatred of the jews already? Do you really think that trying to bring this plan to fruition would help anything? If your area is so frum, then you shouldn’t have a problem with people driving down your block. The fact that they do only goes to prove that your theory is wrong. In fact, one can argue that it would be discrimination against the non-jews who live in that area. Besides, what do you really hope to accomplish? Do you want to be able to walk down the middle of the street on shabbos instead of on the sidewalk? Do you simply not want to see cars pass down the street because it diminishes your “Kedushas Shabbos”? You have a very simple choice – Move to a place that already has this rule in effect.
I am so tired of people EXPECTING others to accommodate them. WAKE UP – you live in America, and as such you need to follow their rules, not try to force your rules on them
(end of rant)
I think that in order to come up with a good name you need to first determine where your store will be located and who your target audience is. For example, Kosher Byte would not get you as much traffic in the Bronx as it would in Flatbush.
So, if you answer the two questions above it would be easier to come up with something (IMO).
I had this exact issue a couple of years ago. I was making too much to be on healthy NY but not enough to be able to afford a decent plan. I was lucky to find a person that brokers different plans and he was able to offer several options that do not have an income requirement. The plan that works best for me is a high deductible one from Oxford. It is a family plan and it costs about $11,000 plus a $2400 deductible (between all members combined), after which it is the regular $20 copay per visit. It doesn’t sound so much cheaper than the one you have now but they have an excellent network and I have not had any problems so far. I believe he also deals with Dental plans. If you want the contact information, please ask the mods to allow you to email me and I will be happy to forward the information
I have seen a restaurant called Suun Fat – not for dieters.
How about these:
Be quiet – Wai Yu Toh-King
Oh my – Ho Lee Kow
I was in an accident – Ding Mai Ka
yitayningwut -I think the problem is that there is WAAAYYY too much emphasis these days about everyone being happy. Don’t get me wrong, I think everyone should be happy. I just think that realistically, we can’t all be happy all of the time. The issue is that kids are never going to be happy when they are told to do something. It doesn’t matter if the school day was only 3 hours, they would be unhappy about that too. The constant desire to do things just to make kids happy is actually causing more harm than good. They never appreciate things anymore. I bet when you had a day off from school it was like going on vacation – what to do with all this free time? Do today’s kids appreciate a day off? No. They want to know why they didn’t get two days off, because that would really make them “happy”.
I think we would all be better off if we thought about what the kids need instead of what would make them happy
shmoigeboige – If that was the case, why implement the policy?
I don’t get it. If the “community” is pro white shirts then they should dress their children in white shirts. It would seem obvious to me that if they are dressing their children in colored shirts, then that is what they want. Maybe the parents are sending their children there specifically because they CAN wear whatever shirt they want? Aren’t there plenty of other (right-wing) Yeshivas that have this policy? If the parents really want such a school why don’t they just send to those schools and leave other people alone?
As some other people pointed out, it really depends on your personality and what you want to do in life. If you want to be a professional then you will need a degree just to be competitive with others in the job seeker pool. However, if you are good with people and are a good persuader, maybe you should look into sales, where a degree does not mean as much.
I will give you a good example of two people I know: One has a masters in the “therapy” area. She currently has over $40,000 in student loans but cannot get a full time placement for work. As a result, she nets under $2000/month.
The other person was a housewife for the past 15 years. She did not want to be a secretary, to work for $10/hr, so she decided to take a shaitel macher course. Now, she charges about $35 per shaitel and more for extra things like haircuts, colors, etc. If she only gets 25 shaitels per week, that comes to about $3500/month. That is clearly more than the first example and she doesn’t have a huge debt looming over her. The best part is that its all in cash, which is not reported (not that I condone it but that is what she does).
At the end of the day, who do you think is better off?
Again, I am not saying that it is for everyone, but in some cases it makes more sense to forego the degree. You just need to figure out what you want/need to do
Skiaddict – I would suggest that if you do not know the facts, you should not comment because others may use your incorrect information as fact. I have heard just the opposite. That the problem is if you have a capital case and the defendant is Jewish, and he is convicted, it is a problem because we cannot condemn another Jew outside of bais din. I do not know which it is for sure but I would not make a definitive statement about it.
Secondly, Grand Jury is entirely different from regular jury. Excuses like “I hate blacks, muslims, police etc…” do not work because you are not deciding on guilt or innocence, only whether the case should go to trial. I know this because I just served recently. I had the two week service, which is every day as opposed to the longer duration which meets only twice a week. The first thing they said is that they do not care if you are biased so don’t even bother with that excuse. I tried to explain that I am a small business owner and the only person in the company and could not just close for two weeks. You know what I was told? “You will just need to make other arrangements”. The bottom line is, unless you cannot speak/understand English or you are a primary caregiver (that you have small kids at home), you will probably not be able to get out of it. I’m not sure if they care that you will miss school. The only positive I can mention is that there is a lot of free time when you serve. You may only hear an hour of actual testimony all day because it depends on when they can bring in the witnesses.
Anyhow, the best of luck, I hope you can work around it
I use it all the time. Aside from pretty decent international rates, it is also great if you don’t want to give out your real number. You can route the calls to any phone and you can even change it as often as you want – so if your’e leaving the house you can send the calls to your cell, etc. Additionally, when I get a voicemail I get an email with a transcription of the message and the number that called. It isn’t always perfect but it is a great tool.
Keep in mind that if you are calling internationally, the rates are going to be much more expensive to a cell phone vs landline (like 15 vs 2 cents/min).
Good luck
I think it comes down to one question: are you there for the chassan or the shul? Based on your answer you should be able to figure out where to dance
They are braided because they look pretty and are more appetizing that way. Personally, when I bake challahs I make it like a breakaway which is so much faster and still looks pretty. Tell your wife to try it next time
I would guess that the father was named in the suit since the crime took place in his home and perhaps he can be held responsible
Aries – Both of your points are excellent. I still recall how my wife (we were just dating then) would tell me about so and so and how they were engaged and what kind of ring/stone they got and how so many of her friends were getting engaged. There is certainly something of a herd mentality involved. People approach marriage as something “everyone else is doing”, even if they don’t admit it. It looked to me (I know I may be wrong) that people get excited with the idea of having an engagement party and then an ofruf and a wedding and sheva brachos and to see all of their friends show up and be happy for THEM, not to mention the presents – who doesn’t like presents. The problem is that once the lights go out at the last sheva brachos, and sometimes even before that, the excitement wears off and you now have to deal with reality. Suddenly you have to start doing your own dishes and laundry and you have all kinds of bills, and maybe you don’t have all that much money to spare… That is when the bond of marriage is forged. It is a time when couples need to learn to lean on each other for support and get through it together. The problem is that many times each person turns to their mommy or daddy instead. Unfortunately, the parents often do more harm than good. Instead of encouraging the couple to work through the problem, many lay blame on the son/daughter in law and plant seeds of discontent in the mind of their child.
The other problem I see is that there is too much pressure on young people to get married. These days I hear all the time something like “…and she is already almost 20 and not even engaged yet…” This constant pressure by the community to hurry up and marry is simply ridiculous. As if a girl is worthless/hopeless or worse, something is wrong with her, if she is not engaged right out of HS or Sem. How often have I heard “Nu, they went out on 3 dates already, what is taking so long? They need to decide yes or no”. Well, maybe 3 dates is no longer enough to decide. Maybe people need to back off and allow the couple more more time to see if they’re compatible. We live in complicated times. We have a role reversal in the home that is changing the dynamics of marriage – but we are not changing with it nor educating people how to deal with it.
I believe that the divorce crisis is in large part due to a combination of these factors. Coupled with the “disposable” mentality we now live with, it is easy to see why people are so quick to let go when the going gets tough.
I simply do not understand how anyone can support, publicly, the position that these people preach. Do they not realize that their public displays serve to legitimize the actions of anti-semites to harm ALL Jews? It is the most vile display of sonas yisrael when these people are seen shaking hands and even embracing the very person who has openly supported known terrorist organizations and has pledged to wipe Israel off the face of the map. Make no mistake about it – his goal is to be rid of the Jewish People as a whole, not just the state. Anyone who is unable to see that is either delusional or in serious denial!
Yes, its true. However, if you didn’t shave on Fri you cannot shave motzei shabbos, only on Sunday
Thanks Aries, my point exactly
HaLeiVi
Actually, it is the story.
From the original post:”The Yeshiva questioned the boy who did not deny the fact that he had an innocent conversation…”
Assuming that the story is true, I still think it is incumbent on the school to find out what the circumstances are before expelling a student a few weeks before graduation. What if the boy was simply asked to borrow something from this neighbor and it happened to be that the girl was the one in the house to give it to him? Should he completely ignore her until someone else from the house is available to give him something? I understand the idea/hashkafa of boys not interacting with girls. However, there are times when things are not what they appear. A nosy, self righteous neighbor can ruin a boys life over something that was innocent in the first place and, as someone else pointed out, lead him OTD.
Very sad
How about a nice watch? There are so many beautiful models out there now that you can get in that price range. Trust me, I’m in the business and even I get amazed with the value you can get sometimes
What happened to becoming an OT?
I would love to see what you would come up with for me
My mother in law – perfect 10
gregaaron – I agree that chemistry may not be useful to you specifically but in general it is difficult to say that it will be useful to one person and not to another. A curriculum is designed to provide a broad range of topics that are useful in some way. It is no feasible to customize classes for each student based on what they will need later in life. Particularly for high school students who can change their mind about their future on any given day
What I think is interesting is how you addressed this forum to seek opinions and then get upset with the opinions provided.
Secondly, there are at least a couple dozen people that seem to disagree with you. You wrote to WOLF that he is commenting based on a singular experience but the others are coming from a variety of experiences and they are saying the same thing. Doesn’t that make you stop and think for a second that there is something to it? Then again, what can we possibly know that you don’t?
HIE
Perhaps you can put aside your youthful arrogance and listen to the many (more experienced) people that have responded to your post. The fact that you can type 60 wpm means nothing if they are spelled wrong or placed in the wrong context.
You boast that compared to other schools you have a much better secular education. If that is the case, it is frightening to think how bad the other educations are and where that will lead them in life. Just remember that being the best of the worst is not necessarily a good thing.
Overall, I see your attitude as a reflection of two things:
1 – Todays society’s “on demand” attitude, or “I want to do what I want when I want”
2 – The attitudes adopted by yeshivos to belittle a proper secular education. This is especially damaging because the children’s negative view of secular studies (as evidenced by HIE) comes as a direct result of those attitudes. Why should students conduct themselves properly or value the education if they are told by the school that it is not important???
I personally feel that it is extremely important to have a proper education. How else can todays young people get a job or career in an increasingly competitive job market? Certainly not if you don’t know the difference between their and they’re. You may not think much about it now but when you I’YH get married and have children you will be thinking about these things. Like how to pay for yeshiva and bills and groceries etc. If our community produces only learners the entire system will fail because nobody would be able to pay for the school’s existence.
So, before you type another 60 hurried words as a response, maybe take that minute to absorb what has been said in this post and try to see that perspective. You may thank us in the long run